spoonchicken Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 Several days ago on the "Todays Birthdays" listing, the name of a deceased member (who commited suicide about two years ago) came up on the list. So, before I offer advice to DailyDi, I'm undecided.....Should we remove those names to avoid hurt feelings of those Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted November 30, 2013 Share Posted November 30, 2013 Really interesting question. I'm definitely in the "keep them" camp. Despite that they are no longer with us, they have touched people's lives for better or for worse. And, regardless of whether they touched your life in a good or bad way, it is necessary to celebrate the fact that they existed - because either way grew as a person for having interacted with them. 1 Link to comment
BabyGizmo Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 This came up alot on facebook, as when people die their accounts are not closed (it is imposable to permanently close a facebook account anyway) and on their birthdays, all their friends receive a "Wish XXXX a happy birthday" anyway. Link to comment
notababy Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 It is not impossible to remove a Facebook account. I speak from experience. Link to comment
Hookedondiapers Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 I say keep them. Link to comment
astrodiaper Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 I don't know anyone that formally here, but I've had family and some acquaitences (?) commit suicide. Usually, about the time a birthday comes around, someone will post something on FB, whether it be a song or a pic. Here, that's a tough call. If someone here were to find out that I indeed died, I would want my name removed. It is in my final wishes that I don't anything named for me snd to be forgotten. Link to comment
Dirty Diaper/Maxipad Lover Posted December 1, 2013 Share Posted December 1, 2013 Really interesting question. I'm definitely in the "keep them" camp. Despite that they are no longer with us, they have touched people's lives for better or for worse. And, regardless of whether they touched your life in a good or bad way, it is necessary to celebrate the fact that they existed - because either way grew as a person for having interacted with them. Link to comment
thickdiaperedbaby Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 I vote for leaving them intact. I say if you have other wishes, that perhaps a pm to dailydi with your wishes, should, God forbid, that happen. My brother passed away at a young age from cancer, and his Facebook page is an everlasting memorial to the good times he had while with us. Since this is typically a "happy" place for most of us, I'd vote to keep, and not remove, deceased members profiles. Link to comment
Zander Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 I feel very strongly we should have a "psudo-deletion" or "account-retirement" process here. I wish people would stop thinking that "active" (here) and "deleted" (gone) are the only options, as there are other ways we can sensibly protect users and remove unused accounts and other such crap from the site. I made a post in back in August 2011 (in the 'Can You Please Delete My Account' topic) which I think helps explain my thinking here: Link to comment
repetitivediaperwetter88 Posted December 2, 2013 Share Posted December 2, 2013 Death is a tough subject for a lot of people but When I hear the song "Don't Fear the Reaper" I think that if something were to happen to me, just keep my name on here. Link to comment
repetitivediaperwetter88 Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 PS, If something were to happen to me I wish to be buried in a diaper and dressed AB in my Closed Coffin. Thank you. Link to comment
BabyTara Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 I would like my name to stay if I were to pass. Link to comment
spoonchicken Posted December 5, 2013 Author Share Posted December 5, 2013 Well so far the wind is blowing towards leaving the names in place..... Link to comment
froggy Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 i think the names of our departed friends should remain but with the addition of a notation that they have died somehow connected with the name on the profile and the birthday list. Link to comment
astrodiaper Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 Call me crazy, but wasn't there someone suggesting a PM to an admin, stating one's wishes? Anyhoo, I see very strong arguments for leaving the profile. I'm still of mind to seek removal of my name. While others may disagree, I don't find myself particularly memorable. To me, it seems the harm I've caused, great or small will live on more than the good I've done. But I will admit to being a pessimist with a fatalistic view. But it's like my father says, "Today's today, tomorrow's tommorrow. Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 Or, as Brutus would say "The evil men do lives after them, and the good is oft interred with their bones" 1 Link to comment
SoCalAB Posted December 5, 2013 Share Posted December 5, 2013 We remember the birthdays of those passed on and recall their contributions to the world. Link to comment
spoonchicken Posted December 29, 2013 Author Share Posted December 29, 2013 It has been suggested recently that it might be a good idea to add some sort of an "R.I.P." tag or badge to a deceased members profile page. Not my idea, but I think it's a very good suggestion. And so does DailyDi himself. Pending further discussion, I for one would like to see this happen.. Your thoughts, everyone? 1 Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 I think this has already been touched on, but since we're an internet community: what is the real difference between a user actually dying and a user who just decides that they wanna stop hanging out on the site? Link to comment
spoonchicken Posted December 29, 2013 Author Share Posted December 29, 2013 Yes it does, and the R.I.P badge should be reserved only for those we know to be deceased, and no one else. 1 Link to comment
spoonchicken Posted January 5, 2014 Author Share Posted January 5, 2014 My latest idea is that every deceased member deserves their own thread in the Memorial Forum. To that end, I have started some new threads to accomplish this purpose. Please feel free to post your thoughts / feelings / memories of these folks...they deserve it Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 is the memorial thread new? I noticed that you posted a lot of topics there and thought it might be. Link to comment
spoonchicken Posted January 6, 2014 Author Share Posted January 6, 2014 yes it's brand-new Link to comment
WakkoWannaBe Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 ^ That's a bit much for me. I wouldn't want that to happen to me (well...on second though...maybe?), but I can definitely sympathize. Link to comment
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