Question Regarding Everyones Age.

[wayney]

I turn 40 this year and I've been wondering about age (actual ) vs the diaper fetish. I don't see many, if any, models over 40 wearing diapers nor do I hear or see much on the forums from us normal folk. Does it get odd ( more than normal ) after 40?

I am finding myself following the trend I've read about for 20 years. I started by putting a diaper on to get off, then I got rid of it feeling guilty. As the years passed, I would get off but continue to wear it but not use it. In my early 30's I noticed that I was able to put one on without getting an erection and I slowly began to wear them when I would go out and used them ( pee only ). Now I find myself searching out age play stuff more and more often and think I would enjoy it but never would've considered it in my 20,s. just looking to gather some thoughts and opinions.

[Forced2wet]

I think female models over 40 avoid posing in them cos a few years down the line they'll have to wear Tena Lady anyway lol.

Although I've always had thing I never acting on it for many years from my teens to my late 30s. I started again after seeing things on the internet which, coupled with the lack of intimacy of a failing marriage, reignited my feelings.

A number of years later (yes, I'm ancient lol) I have the most wonderful partner who allows and helps me enjoy this lifestyle (when we get the opportunity) and I could nt be happier. Perhaps given time we'll explore this a bit more in the years ahead as I get even older. But if not, I'll see be very content

[Michael R]

I'm not sure I'm quite the person to reply to this, since I think I've had a different experience from most people on here. But I'll throw in my two cents anyway.

I've been in diapers my whole life for incontinence. I'm not sure whether I'm a DL because it's not sexual for me, but I've come to accept myself and enjoy the feeling of wearing a diaper a lot more in the past few years. So, this is still sort of new for me, and I wonder if I'll get into ageplay or feel more sexual about diapers in the future. Is it possible that I'm developing a diaper fetish / infantilism at a later age than most people? I'm not sure.

[drynot]

I turn 40 early next year too Wayney and I can't see ever giving up my diapers. If anything I'm getting closer and closer to needing them daily

As a fetish its alot of fun. Many of the inhibitions I had when I was younger just aren't there anymore. If someone happens to find out then its not the end of the world. People expect a problem or two as we age and this is just another one in the pile I find I can converse more openly about diapers with others too as I age. I am currently talking with a girl I've known for quite a while and while she isn't into diapers she doesn't have any issues with me in them as well. She feels free to discuss her medical problems with me as we are 'birds of a feather' if you catch my drift....

[rusty pins]

I think what you have described is perfectly normal for many people. I was a bedwetter until I was 6 year old, always diapered for bed. When I was in my teens I got into diapers again, making my own from paper towels and trash bags until I was old enough to drive and go buy my own actual diapers. When younger, through my 20's and 30's I would wear diapers a lot, just about every day after work. They were and are sexual in nature for me. I had a good ballence between diapers and other activities and hobbies, but the desires were strong!

As time goes on, my desires are there but not as strong as they were. I go a week or more without wearing a diaper, but when some oppertunities arise, such as going out of town to run errands, I look forwards to that as a time to wear my diapers all day long. think of how many people are. In their 20's and even 30's, there is a lot of running around, hitting the bars, getting together with friends for sports, rock concerts and staying up late. I believe that as people get older, they start to slow down. They don't spend the night out with the guys, go to the bar every night and do all the things they did when they were younger. Part of it is responsibilities, perhaps marrage and kids, raising a family, better jobs and advancement at work, but part of it is just slowing down. In my 50's, I still go to a rock concert now and then, don't do the bar scene anymore or go bowling or partying with friends like I used to. I'm more content now days to stay at home and watch TV or read a book or even work on some hobbies. Basically, I've done all that when I was younger, now I'm ready to just step back and relax.

So, does it get odd or more normal after 40? Odd and Normal are relative terms. In my case, I'd kind of sum it up just like other things in life. When you are younger, you often go out looking to meet women, weather at parties or at the bar or other social events. It's your hormones taking over and wanting sex. That may be why you were not able to put on a diaper without getting an erection when you were younger. Later as we age, we may lose some of our sex drive, also with marrage or many different girlfriends over the years, we may become more comfortable with having sex abd relationships. Kind of like a learning process. When we are young, we may want to try many different things that excite us and may even be new to us. As we get older, chances are we have tried it or have done it enough so it's not as stimulating anymore, like it was when we first started doing it. For me, I still enjoy my diapers, but it's not the new and exciting thing that it was when I first started wearing them! Instead of the super excited sexual cravings I used to get when putting on a diaper, it's more of a "I'm going to just sit back, relax and enjoy some time in my diaper just for some fun" without the super strong sexual drive there was when I was in my 20's. Just like many things people do when younger because they had to, and now they take it slower and do it just for fun.

On the topic of models wearing diapers, yeah, I can understand why you don't see many actual models over 40. Same situation as I was talking about. When you are younger in your 20's and 30's, that is probably when your sexual drive is the greatest. People who hire diaper models for web sites are targeting the younger people. Look at porn magazines! How often do you see someone in their 50's naked and showing off their stuff? I don't think people want to see a naked 50 year old in a porn magazine over a 20 something model! Same could be said of a model wearing diapers. Sure, I'm in my lower 50's but I would much rather see a 20 year old diaper girl's picture than a 40 or 50 year old diaper girl!

[diapered1964]

When I was in my teens all I had to do was think about a diaper and I got an erection.

When I went trough my 20's I got an erection every time I put on a diaper and wet in it.

By the time my 30's rolled around I found I no longer got the sexual erections from just wearing and wetting a diaper.

Now in my late 40's I seldom get an erection while diapered.

Diapers started out as non sexual for me as I started wearing diapers again around the age of 6, by the time I turned 16 diapers where very much a sexual thing for me. During my 20's I seldom had sex without having a diaper on.

I have spent all of my adult life wearing diapers, started wearing diapers 24-7 at 19 befor I met my current wife of 28 years.

Now 48 and still diapered 24-7 out of need as I trained myself to be incontinent ( yes this can be done) I would not change anything about my life as diapers have been a part of my life for most of my life.

[Nat]

My diaper wearing has changed over the years. I went from feeling ashamed and disgusted to liking it. I would only wear in private and then I stared to wear out in public with pull ups. Pretty soon it was with real diapers and I figured out how to hide the sound. Then I started to change myself standing because I did want to wear out in public more often and I would have to change in the stall so I practiced it at home standing against the wall. It became a habit of doing it standing so I have been doing it ever since. I also used to get a thrill of wetting myself in public because no one knew I was going to the bathroom. I also got my first pacifier at age 17 and then at age 18 I finally got a baby bottle.

It also took me a while to start wearing them and it took me two days to finally pee in a diaper after I got my first pack. Then three months later I finally pooped in one. I also went from wearing sometimes and having diaper weekends sometimes. Whenever we get a two and half days of school week, I would spend my time wearing diapers all that time and then it would kill my desires to wear and end up not wearing for several months. Then eventually I went onto wearing more often like few times a week or every other day when I started working more hours. Then it was 24/7 and then I would quit. My AB/DL thing has always came and went.

When I was 18, I started to feel this tingly feeling in my stomach when i look up adult diapers online and think about peeing in them. I also liked reading stories about anyone wearing diapers from young children to teens and I even wrote a couple stories about under age teens wearing them. Now I prefer adults in them and I find it all sexual. I will still read about minors wearing them but it doesn't turn me on.

I no longer get the thrill of wetting myself in public and it has just gotten old. I also now wear my diapers like underwear and I don't put them on and look foward to peeing in them. When I feel the need to go, I go. I go without even thinking about it and then I forget I have even went. I still know most of the time when I have gone potty in them but because it has became a habit for me and my body has gotten so used to it, I don't really think about it anymore and then I wonder if I have ever wet my diaper or not. Sometimes I will be at work and then I feel the warmth in my crotch and I then know I have gone. I don't remember stopping to release it. I think having a baby has made a difference in my bladder because I could easily wet myself when I have to go that bad without thinking about it. I stand up and bam I relax my bladder and it comes out while I am doing something. I have done my morning pees in my diapers while I was changing my son because it felt like I had to go that bad and my bladder was about to burst. I also leak urine too sometimes and well that gives me a thrill. I bet soon or later that will get old and it won't give me the same pleasure anymore like it used to.

I used to hate cloth and only prefer disposables. I didn't like it when characters would use cloth diapers instead of disposables. I also didn't like it if they wore plastic pants over disposables. Well when I started wearing, I also started to wear plastic pants over my disposables to hold in leaks. One day at the AB/DL gathering I went to, someone gave me a cloth diaper and my husband would put it on me over my disposable. My diaper would leak on it and we always washed it. Then in 2009, someone brought a box of stuff he was getting rid of and it had a small adult sized cloth diaper in there. I took it and it barely fit me. I decided to wear the other cloth diaper over it and then a pair of plastic pants. I peed in them and actually like it and found it very comfortable and they absorbed. I did it again the next day after washing them. I got on ebay and bought more cloth diapers. I then decided I would only wear them at home to save money on diapers. Then I would go back to wearing disposables again when I wore sometimes because no point in wearing cloth if I am not wearing all the time. Plus I would wear to work when I was in job training and they were disposables I wore. Then when I was pregnant, I wore them sometimes and them I was wearing them every night and they were disposables because I had so many of them so I didn't need to use cloth. Plus with my bladder being messed up from wearing diapers, I felt I had to go more often so whenever I leave our home, I would put a diaper on if I knew there be no access to bathrooms and I didn't want to deal with the urge to pee. Then when I was pregnant, it was worse so I wore them when my husband and I went to the video game expo thing. I didn't want to run to the restrooms every few minutes where there are lot of people and the restrooms were a walking distance from the conference rooms. So diapers gave me the freedom to enjoy my time without dealing with the urge to go all the time and I would always go when I felt the urge.

My fantasies and my plan about wearing diapers have also change. When I was in high school, I had the idea that I would start wearing diapers and then quit when I meet someone. Then it was I would quit when I get into a relationship. Then it was the person has to accept my diapers or he isn't for me. Then it was the person has to accept my diapers and I will quit wearing them when I have a baby. Then it was I will keep wearing them until the child reaches a certain age and then quit. Now it's I don't want to quit ever. I also had the fantasy of being babied 24/7 and I am the little girl and my husband is my daddy and we do it for a few years and then I quit when we have kids. I even wanted a nursery too. Now I don't want to quit being a baby. I also had the fantasy since high school that I hope to meet a guy who will make me wear diapers and I am not allowed to quit. I still have that forced diapering fantasy and my husband does it to me. He was also the kind of guy who was a daddy and wanted a woman he could baby but he didn't think it would happen so he didn't look for it. We both got lucky because we had found each other.

So now I am wearing 24/7 again and my diapers have become my underwear and I still like peeing in them. I wear cloth at home and disposables in public. I will wear pull ups sometimes. I decided I am a three year old girl who isn't potty trained yet and she keeps failing potty training when she tries. So I am back in diapers again because I don't want to quit. I have also started to like sippy cups instead of bottles only so I use those and prefer them more. I also do not feel as embarrassed like I used to be about wearing them. I also don't care if people find out or not. They don't say anything about it so that helps. I don't get nervous much anymore when I buy in stores. I have also decided wearing diapers is part of my lifestyle and feel they are part of me. I used to not have a role playing age and then I did and decided I was two year old, now I have decided I am three. A three year old who still uses sippy cups and pacifiers and bottles occasionally and isn't potty trained. Pooping in them has never been a high poirity (sp) for me like peeing is. So it wouldn't bother me if I wasn't allowed to poop in my diapers or if I don't ever get to do it. It won't take the fun out of wearing them. But I still enjoy it whenever I do it because I feel helpless about it.

I used to make my own diapers when I was 10-12. It started with me putting a towel around my bottom and wearing underwear over it just so I enjoy the padded feeling. Then i started peeing in them and then would take it off when it would start to itch. I quit doing it at age 12 because I wanted real diapers and using towels was not the same thing. I would occasionally take a Pamper from my neighbor's and wear it. I did the same with pull ups too they had one time. I no longer take diapers from people. I buy my own.

My diaper changing and fantasies have sure changed over the years. Especially the diapers getting sexual for me too. Now we use them for sex because that is the only way I can enjoy it. I also don't mind anymore getting my diaper changed for sex. In the past I only wanted my diaper changed, no sex because babies don't have sex during their diaper changes. So I went years without having my husband change me because he would then want sex so I avoided anything that turned him on. Now I don't care anymore when he wants sex and I let him have it whenever he wants unless we don't have the time for it. That is the only way I can get my diaper changed and I regret now not doing it a lot sooner because now my husband is unable to change me often now because of his feet.

[nappylover78]

I think the dominance of younger AB/DLs online is just the same as in any other online community, i.e. the younger people are, the more likely they are to be involved in online social media etc.

There's lots of older ABDL's around, just perhaps less visibly in some cases, and a fair number of "more mature" women who do pictures as amateurs.

[iluvmydiapers]

48 years old here, still love wearing diapers after all these years.

No plans on stopping any time soon, I plan on wearing diapers for the rest of my life.

[Three Rivers]

I started in my 30's and after many years it has just become part of my normal life, my wife of 33 yrs supports my choice and to me that's all that matters. I don't see myself ever giving up diapers.

I have gone through phases like wanting to wear 24/7, and then not wearing for weeks or even months at a time. But eventualy I always come back. It's just a part of who I am, and I enjoy every aspect of my diapers and the activities that go with it.

[Baby Brian]

When's the last time you saw any model over 40? You don't really find 40+ models in diapers for the same reason.