Acceptable Public Exposure?

[pampers212]

You might just have to set up a scenario with actors. Obviously if they agree, they won't be offended. If you're girlfriend doesn't know that, then she'll get her humiliation.

Probably the best idea yet. If she doesn't know they are actors, she should get her thrills.

Lots of mention about people wearing diapers in public for good reasons, and nobody really cares. So what makes this different? There is a sexual/sensual/erotic/fetish type of energy behind the act. People will pick up on that, even if they can't put it into words. They might feel uncomfortable but not be able to explain exactly why. Body language says a lot.

Here is an example:

A woman is sucking on a lollipop. She is simply enjoying a candy, and her thoughts are on the events of the day, the movie she saw last night, or her great grandmothers 105th birthday. Looking at her you would not see anything out of the ordinary, and wouldn't give it a second thought.

Or, a woman is sucking on a lollipop and is fantasizing about sucking on her boyfriends wood. Her eyes are dialated, her lips swollen and red, cheeks flushed, and she is looking around to see who is watching. She is doing this because she feels naughty doing it in public for others to see, and she relishes the feeling of being caught in a

"sexual act" in public. This woman is bound to bring some attention to herself.

I am concerned that what you are planning to do could fall into the same catagory as the second woman. Although you might be in the bounds of what is legal, people will leave with an uneasy feeling about adults who indulge in age play/diaper fetishism, which contributes to a lack of understanding and respect for our community. I would consider what you are planning a form of Exhibitionism. Perhaps you should find a community of exhibitionists that have reasonable and sound guidelines and can help you explore yourselves without having a negative impact on the public or the AB/DL community.

[sarah_ab]

so basically she is an exhibitionist she gets off on exposing something sexual about herself... lots of exhibitionists are after the humiliating feeling when they are caught .... in general exhibitionism is frowned upon in our society, however the idea of hiring actors was good meet... some kink people online who are into seeing others humiliated, dont tell her that they are into this, then all meet up somewhere private and expose her diaper.... she doesnt know they are in on it so she will get all the embarassment she wants....

you can create this scenario for her without involving the general public ....

fantasies dont always and cant always become realitites

[drynot]

That's a lot different than a 110lb women that looks like she belongs on a swimsuit calendar wearing a diaper at the beach. lol

Ok...THAT I would love to see.....

[diaperbrownie]

Just go in the place 5 minutes before she does and tell everyone someone is coming in for a college prank and you need them all to laugh or at least stare at her.

Maybe that will get her wet.

[freddie84]

first and 4 most do what u please to do as long as it is not done in front of children, or in a church or any place like that. the other fact of the matter is it is not illegal in any way shape or form as long as your ass crack, balls, dick, and or pussy is completly covered. that is the bottom line.....like it or not (fact).

this does not reflect anything thing bad on us. because most people dont even no that there is a diaper fetish. and what bad attention we do get is because most of us had like little pussys and lets people that know nothing about this bring it out on tv makeing us look bad. it is a fact that when people are not aware of something they are freaked out buy it. heres a point gays,and bi-sexaual people 20 to 25 years ago would stir a pot of shit that would cause all kinds of trouble....now look at it to day perfectly normal. another point...interracial dateing like a white person with a black person can not go 20mins in the usa with out seeing...it try that 40 years ago. and i could keep on going with facts...the people that try to keep us from going public are the ones that make this fetish look bad...and that a fact

[Diapers4Me]

Fetish an BDSM meetings would be the best.

[puffybedwetter]

why not try diaper acknowledgment? you could try telling her that wearing tight low rise pants, sweats will be just as daunting as going out bare diapered.

[rusty pins]

Have you searched the site to see if anyone within practical driving distance is hosting an AB/DL party in the near future? It's not like being out in public with people all around you, but it is a situation where she can sit around and be looked at by others when wearing just diapers.

Personally, a little underwear accidently showing out the top of jeans in the back when someone bends over isn't a terrible thing. It happens with a lot of people when they bend over and most of the time it's a butt crack that shows. Diapers are underwear for a lot of people with special needs and who's to say that if a little pokes out the back of your jeans that you are not incontinent. Going out in public in just a diaper in order to get a reaction from people just isn't a good thing to do. The AB/DL community isn't understood by regular people as it is, most people thinking we are pedofiles and wierdos. There has been enough negative publicity in the news the past few years from goof balls that go too far with this fetish. That's what is really bothering most people here. It's the negative publicity this lifestyle will get from someone going out in public in just diapers to get a reaction. The thing is, if the GF is so bound and determined to do it, I don't think anyone will be able to stop her. Maybe she will have to learn a lesson if she does it and get a lot of publicity or worse, kicked out of a store or the police called. And before some of you say it's not illeagle as many often say when this subject has come up before, there may be no actual law against wearing a diaper in public as far as indecency, etc., but there are laws against creating a disturbance and the definition of a disturbance can be broad in it's inturpritation.

[diaperbrownie]

I think OP is talking about genuine diaper humiliation. This means he deosn't want ABDL parties or aynthing. GENUINE real diaper humiliation. The only place to acheive such a thing is the real public. If it's something he wants to do for her that bad, take her to a busy mall or a public park or the library.

I'm not againt this thing if it's for one time only. If it's for one cheap thrill alone and never again, let her go all out. We only have one life if she wants to have a wet diaper in public and be exposed let her, I say.

[BriGuy]

Bdsm is NOT widely accepted and engagement CAN land you in jail. Showing some diaper WILL not. Get off your damned high horse and talk a out something that you actually have knowledge.

Take her out in a skirt and grab her ass, whisper in her ear it seems as though she may need a change, that'll get her juices flowing. Its how the situation is presented, just don't walk up to a clerk and say "ta-da! She's wearing a diaper" spend some time and get in her head, I can cause humiliation with my sub just by whispering in her ear. Mind fuck Is more powerful Than any public display.

[Toddler Pampers]

Even the ABDL community has it's conservatives. I have no problems with taking her to the store with a diaper under her jeans, so when she bends the right way it pokes out the top. It's embarassing for her and nobody is going to be offended because it's no worse than seeing underwear poking out.

However, she wants to be exposed fully. Like wearing a short skirt and having the skirt lifted to expose her diapers while I check to see if she is wet. She likes the sensation that she is being exposed by me and not just exposing herself.

Another idea is one of those clothing stores with personal shoppers. They see all kinds of crazy things and pretty sure they wouldn't have any issues with it. I had a friend years ago that was a personal shopper and she told me stories about guys coming in to buy clothes for crossdressing or looking for clothes that could hide chastity devices or other bondage apparel. Might be fun to take her to buy some new pants and specifically ask the personal shopper to find her pants that would fit over thick diapers. lol

For those that don't know what a personal shopper is(I didn't until my friend told me what she did for a living), they basically fetch the clothes you are interested in while you wait in a private dressing area. They help you get dressed, offer advice on sizes and colors, etc. =)

The personal shopper idea is a non-starter. Yes, they would have a problem with being used for something other than help with shopping.

I think you should make her go through the drive-thru. They can see right down into the car, see that she's wearing a Bambino, just like a real baby.

[LuvsGurl]

I think you should make her go through the drive-thru.

The driving idea does have merit. I have spent more than a few hours in the car pantsless, diaper clearly on display. Depending on the type of vehicle you have and how darkly tinted your windows are some people will be able to see in and some won't, some people won't pay any attention and you may get some dropped jaws.

Just make sure she has a dark blanket handy to cover up with in case you wind up with a cop beside you. Again, you aren't breaking any laws but there is no need to push the limits.

[SoCalAB]

The humiliation factor does not have to be so in the face of the public and you can still do something in public without bringing shame to the ABDL lifestyle.

You wife can be diapered appropriately for the outing and dressed in jeans or shorts with a top that exposes the waist. You can allow a portion of the diaper to peek out over the waistline of the trousers and every time she reaches up for something it would expose her diapers.

I was at the post office once and saw a guy dressed in jeans and a tee shirt and when he reached up to scratch his head he exposed his diaper. I almost told him that I wear them too.

Stay Pampered

SoCalAB

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So here's the deal. My girl has this fantasy of being publically exposed in diapers. There are a couple of options that I intend to follow through with for her. One being a local porn shop that often has fetish dressed people. The other being Kinkfest next month in Portland, OR.

My question is, are there any other acceptable places where exposing her diapers would not be frowned upon? I'm drawing a blank.

Thanks in advance. =)

[beachxbunni123]

No. just no. Diapers should only be something to do in private with someone else. Not exposing that to the rest of society. Gross. Sorry. Do you and your partner engage in sex in the middle of a mall with kids around..? No. Same with diapers: Leave it at home or get a room! (Sorry if that sounds harsh but it's true)

[LuvsGurl]

No. just no. Diapers should only be something to do in private with someone else. Not exposing that to the rest of society. Gross. Sorry. Do you and your partner engage in sex in the middle of a mall with kids around..? No. Same with diapers: Leave it at home or get a room!

It's closed minded viewpoints like this that I can't stand.

Diapers and intercourse are two totally separate things.

Do you go out in a tight top, short skirt, thong or bikini? Do those things make you feel sexy? Do they turn you on?

How about high heels or sandals? Some people have a foot fetish, does that mean they should not ever wear shoes in public?

Hell, there is a whole national restaurant chain based off of women dressing sexy.

Maybe everyone should just wear a burqua instead. Wouldn't want anyone in public being stimulated or exposed to something they might find unattractive.

Get over yourself. ABDL is not just a behind closed doors thing.

[beachxbunni123]

It's closed minded viewpoints like this that I can't stand.

Diapers and intercourse are two totally separate things.

Do you go out in a tight top, short skirt, thong or bikini? Do those things make you feel sexy? Do they turn you on?

How about high heels or sandals? Some people have a foot fetish, does that mean they should not ever wear shoes in public?

Hell, there is a whole national restaurant chain based off of women dressing sexy.

Maybe everyone should just wear a burqua instead. Wouldn't want anyone in public being stimulated or exposed to something they might find unattractive.

Get over yourself. ABDL is not just a behind closed doors thing.

Dressing in that attire is extremely improper to do in front of other kids in a nonsexual environment unless it is at a beach or pool. And those restaurant chains are meant for ADULTS to look at, they are not family friendly and out in the public-- but in PRIVATE restaurants! Now back to the topic of DIAPERS IN PUBLIC-- No. It is wrong and impulsive to force your diaper desires onto the public. Would you go strip naked and run throughout the streets? No.. and if you did, you'd sure get arrested for indecent exposure and causing a disturbance to the public-- same with diapers. Again, save it for the bedroom please. (Sorry I know that's harsh again but it's completely true!) If ABDL wants to be accepted, then people need to stop going out in the public and acting nuts. That is why most portray the ABDL community as impulsive and rude.

EDIT: Also the 'foot fetish' exanple that you stated, "How about high heels or sandals? Some people have a foot fetish, does that mean they should not ever wear shoes in public?" (LuvsGirl) is FALSE. First, feet are a part of our bodies and everyone was born with them, therefore it is not a disturbance to the public to wear flip flops and heels. On the other hand, diapers are NOT a part of our bodies-- we were NOT born with them! Thus, it IS a disturbance to the public to see a grown adult wearing them. Sorrrrrry.

[gweg]

I actually saw an older woman at a local beach wearing a diaper under her granny swimsuit. For her it was obviously medical, so nobody said a word or even really took a second look. That's a lot different than a 110lb women that looks like she belongs on a swimsuit calendar wearing a diaper at the beach. lol

Heck back in 98 we went to Boston for a 10 day trip... On a outing to Revere Beach I have pictures of a lady about 30 in just a diaper and clear plastic pants with a swim top on...

I thought that was pretty cool. She wasn't bothered in the least and was playing and having a gay ole time with some others there.

[Baby Brian]

Wow, I can't believe nobody has considered the beach! Diapers and an tee are less exposing than a bikini (or speedo for men). If someone can nearly expose themselves there there's no reason we can't show off our diapers? Since diapers are a necessity for me and it's not against the law to lay out under the sun I've done it many times. A beach cop snickered once and asked if I was enjoying the day but that was the worse I've ever gotten (aside from a parking ticket because I forgot to put up my handicapped placard once).

Another thing I've never understood, If it's socially acceptable to have a toddler running around a store or mall in nothing but a diaper or tee then why can we? That's just age discrimination!

[bignappybo]

I would say the porn shop,i think there would be a load more people who would be more than happy to see her in her diaper,and you might enjoy them looking at her as well,but have you told her about what you have in mind.

It would be great if she was up for it as well,you two might even have to rush home for a nice bit diaper fun together,boy i wish i could be there to see that.

[DprDJeff]

As much as she craves the humiliation of public exposure, neither of us is willing to expose our fetish to people that would be genuinely upset by it. That being said, anything blatant anywhere but a porn shop or kink party won't happen. However, I think some diaper sticking up past the jeans in a grocery store is fine. Or a short skirt where you can see the diaper when she bends over.

Despite some of the very conservative views given, I think MOST of the population wouldn't have a problem with an exposed diaper as long as it wasn't obvious it was for sexual pleasure. 'Accidental' exposure would mostly be ignored by anyone but her. Even a fully exposed diaper on the beach might get some stares, but doubt anyone would have an issue. That is, unless we did anything to specifically draw attention to it.

Thanks for all the insights. It really did help. =)

[Diapers4Me]

I'd take her to the beach in a one piece thin white swim suit with a thick diaper on underneath that peaks out around the legs. Find a more secluded spot away from families. I see no issue with this. I've been to the beach in diapers before....always miles down where no one is. When someone walks down that far, I ensure my diaper is fully covered....but if they look closely, they'll not be able to miss the bulge.

[pampers212]

Again it comes down to not WHAT you see, but WHY you are seeing it. If you are going about your business and happen to be in a diaper and it happens to become visible, most people will not notice anything more than that. But if you are prancing around, or even trying to not be seen so that if you are seen you are "caught" and you get your kicks, there is an uncomfortable vibe that people will notice about the situation, and they will find it strange and wierd. And it is when the public is uncomfortable with something that it finds strange and wierd that there is a potential for the ABDL community to get a bad rap.

[DprDJeff]

Again it comes down to not WHAT you see, but WHY you are seeing it. If you are going about your business and happen to be in a diaper and it happens to become visible, most people will not notice anything more than that. But if you are prancing around, or even trying to not be seen so that if you are seen you are "caught" and you get your kicks, there is an uncomfortable vibe that people will notice about the situation, and they will find it strange and wierd. And it is when the public is uncomfortable with something that it finds strange and wierd that there is a potential for the ABDL community to get a bad rap.

I couldn't have said it better myself. I'm thinking I can put her in a diaper(not super thick or anything) with loose fitting, but low waisted jeans. Then a shirt/blouse that is just long enough to cover the part of the diaper that peaks out over the waistband of her jeans, but not long enough to cover if she reaches up for something.. That way there is no exposure, but when the opportunity presents itself(no kids around) I can tell her to get me something from a high shelf. Or tell her to retrieve something from a bottom shelf where she has to bend over and expose just the very top of her diaper. I would wait until nobody was around, but the thrill that someone 'might' see would give her what she wants.

[tcc]

Jeff -

Having been accused of being one of those "conservatives", I think you're on the right track. If she can be satisfied with the minimal exposure you're talking about, I don't think that would be much of a problem, even with her in a smallish skirt, so when she bent over, there'd be little doubt as to what her underwear was, again, if it appears more "accidental" exposure.

Those that have expressed conservative views, I don't think, have been condemning. I think we've been more concerned about having any more damage done to our community than has already been done by the HNGs and peeps that just don't think about what they're doing, and in being selfish, while they are getting their kicks, perceived as okay by them, how it affects others.

Like others, I feel an "inadvertant" exposure, and even the beach situation, is not so traumatic, and, in fact, help desensatize some to the fact that there are adults who do wear diapers, and while it's not widespread (or so most think, until you bundle ABs and DLs with true incons), it happens and is a fact. And, in most cases, as has been said, if it doesn't appear the exposure is for kicks, there will be empathy and disregard. That helps make what we do and how we do it more acceptable, on the whole. It may not be understood and/or embraced, but then, it's our thing, as other things are to other people.

Thanks for listening to what others have had to say and recommended. I'd love to hear how the scenario plays out, and how she feels/felt with what happened.

[anned]

I have done it in porn shops.

I wore attends with about 3 inches of them sticking out and a t-shirt so when i wanted them to show they would.

I have also wore them at nude beaches.

Most larger nude beaches have a normal nude area and and gay and fetish areas.

At blacks beach in San Diego Calif the gay area in at the north end near the state park boundary

The fetish area is between the gay area and the normal nudist area.

many nude beaches are like this.

There are some clothing optional hot springs that you just have to watch what others are doing to tell if its ok.

If the gays are showing off or other kinky people are having fun diapers are ok.

Then there are places like burning man, bay to breakers.

http://sfist.com/2010/05/13/bay_to_breakers_costume_idea.php?gallery0Pic=2

In washington state you have Critical Massive, a regional burner-style event, held in the Pacific Northwest, draws participants from Seattle, Portland and Vancouver. Based on the ethos of Burning Man, Critical Massive has become quite the shindig.

http://wikibin.org/articles/critical-massive.html

Critical Massive sounds like a good place to wear.