Christian UK DL

I usually wear two pairs of plastic pants and wouldn't dream of wearing a diaper without them. For me, being diapered is about feeling secure and I like a diaper that's tight and leakproof (as far as it can be). I'd feel very insecure and anxious without plastic/rubber pants and often wear the knee length plastic bloomer type pants. These don't prevent diaper leaks but if it does leak you'll feel it running down your leg rather than having wet patches on your clothes.

I wanted to be incontinent but didn't have the patience or commitment when younger to really stick with it. However, that gradually changed and I've been incontinent now for several years. There have been moments when I've regretted that, but they're only moments, fleeting and inconsequential. I feel very balanced and centred and content. It was the right decision for me - although I don't see it so much as a decision and more as a development.

It's an interesting topic and one that started to fascinate me about 10 years ago when I began to dislike having erections and preferred to remain soft, small and impotent. To achieve that, a chastity cage worked very well for me. Erections became painful to experience - at first it felt like my cock was on fire and was going to pull my balls off, but you have to get through that. Erections started becoming weaker and less frequent and nowadays I have perhaps one or two erections a month and use a microcage which is very comfortable for me.

get a chastity cage. there are plenty out there that will make an unwanted erection feel painful. After a while, particularly if it's what you want anyway, you'll find you rarely achieve a good erection.

So objective harm could be done to a person due to what they're wearing so they shouldn't wear it? Women shouldn't wear short skirts in case they get raped? Men shouldn't wear traditional female clothing because the might get beaten up? Men shouldn't hold hands in public in case someone get offended and hits them. It's just victim blaming. None of these victims have harmed anyone else by what they're wearing. The public uptights have been offended by women campaigning for the right to vote and by ethic minorities demanding equality. The people who want to maintain the status quo are those who do well under it. For the disadvantaged and oppressed, victimised and marginalised, passively challenging the status quo as people may do with their appearance, is sometimes the only way to effect social change.

How can displaying underwear be co-opting a public space? I'm not particularly keen to see the underwear of others or display my own but if others want to sag their jeans, what possible rational difference can it make to me and my life? Fulfilling the predictions of the uptights is hardly an embarrassment. They are the ones who ought to feel embarrassed about prejudiced attempts to limit the freedom of others to dress as they wish. It's absurd that in this day and age, making assumptions about people based on what they look like is still be being used as a way to limit their freedom. Someone wearing a diaper isn't a sex offender, someone in a gimp suit isn't a sex offender. They're not doing anything to anyone and forcing them to hide away isn't combating that sort of prejudice. It wasn't that long ago that being gay was seen as a massive problem and socially corrupting. Now we know it's quite possible to be gay, lead a country, be a nurse, be a parent, be your neighbour and friend. Why should it be any different for fetishists?

A good therapist can certainly help if you have issues of guilt/confusion about your needs.

What a person wears isn't imposing anything on others at all. This is just an extension of Victorian prudery and religions that force people to cover themselves up, prevented 'decent' women from wearing trousers and punks from piercing their ears with safety pins. If I see someone wearing a diaper or wandering about in a rubber bondage suit, what difference does that make to me? None. Hopefully at some point, thought sadly not in my life time I think, we'll live in a world where people will be able to wear exactly what they want without fear of being judged or assaulted.

It was a small business with dodgy dealings, and I needed the money. So no HR, no real internal process or governance so really quite difficult to deal with that sort of situation. In summary, my boss found out I was incontinent, thought I might piss all over one of his office chairs, so replaced it with a hard plastic one. When I complained, I got the old one back and the seat had a plastic cover taped over it. I had to put up with alot of 'banter' and pranks and in a way, was sort of complicit in that, by laughing along with it. However, my current situation is different and I don't see that sort of thing happening again fortunately.

Thanks for taking time time to write such a detailed response Rusty Pins. Some people who know me know that I'm diapered. After an initial surge of interest on finding this out, it's not an ongoing conversation. I had a pretty bad experience at work in a previous job when my boss found out I was incontinent and want to avoid that happening again of course, but at that time I was using disposables anyway so I guess that, even if you're trying to keep it hidden, some people will try and make something of it if they find out. Having been through that experience I'm rather more resilient now so coworkers knowing wouldn't be such a big deal as it was. You raise significant issues regarding the practicalities and I think that may well prove to be the biggest stumbling block and the environmental impact of using cloth may, as you point out, not be as significant as I'd hope. I tend to use one diaper a day at work but use disposable pads which I change a couple of times a day and have spare diapers in case I need them. It's a good plan to try and work out how thick the cloth diaper would need to be to match the disposable although, in typing this, I think that perhaps the way forward is for a cloth diaper with cloth pads, but as you point out, that means more bulk. There's not an easy answer! Thanks again. Christian

LOL. Maybe I need a new job! Yes, that's a concern. I man i chatted to the chat room who wears cloth most of the time said he dealt with this by using an additional pair of very large plastic pants that seemed to reduce the problem. Of course then you have extra bulk, though marginal, so I guess, as with all things, there's a positive and negative. Thanks for taking the time to reply oznl. That's useful info. Christian That's like me. Generally cloth and night, disposable in the day. But I sometimes wonder if, when you're incontinent, you're much more aware of the smell, in the same way your much more aware of the bulk, and nobody else actually notices.

Do any of you wear cloth diapers to work? I'm increasingly concerned about the environmental impact of disposables and, although I sometimes wear a cloth diaper and waterproof pants to bed or just at the weekends, I wear disposables for work or going out somewhere for the evening. I've never really worn cloth to work - partly because of the practicalities and partly because of the much increased bulk and the increased risk of leaking. If you wear cloth diapers for work, how do you deal with these issues? Thanks Christian

Do any of you wear cloth diapers to work? I'm increasingly concerned about the environmental impact of disposables and, although I sometimes wear a cloth diaper and waterproof pants to bed or just at the weekends, I wear disposables for work or going out somewhere for the evening. I've never really worn cloth to work - partly because of the practicalities and partly because of the much increased bulk and the increased risk of leaking. If you wear cloth diapers for work, how do you deal with these issues? Thanks Christian

You're unlikely to be asked why, even by people who notice. If you are, you could reply, 'It's none of your business,' because it's not anyone's business but yours. But if you're too nice to be that blunt you could just say you have health issues which is an all encompassing vague phrase. If you want to wear 24/7, go for it. Don't be put off by what other people might think or ask because 99% of them won't think or ask anything.

I have a constant dribble so never have a full bladder and wet without realizing all the time. It's like Babyboi91 says, forget about it. When I'm at work and concentrating on other stuff my diaper just fills up and I don't notice it happening.