Elenwen

Since I'm primarily incontinent and only after that a DL, there was time, when my mum used to change me. I don't remember exactly what she said, when I was little, but she always avoided the word "diaper". And she always changed me according to a certain timetable. As far as I remember, we either talked about something unconnected to what was happening, or just kept silent. Later, when I became more independent and mum noticed I didn't change when time came, she'd ask something like "Don't you need to change?" or "Isn't it time for you to change?", using a word "change", that means "change clothes in general". She did sometimes do it herself, but it mostly to show affection or something, as she only did it in good mood and mostly in the morning if I didn't want to get up. I usually used that extra time to dose off again. As of late we only talk about this part of my life if some other, connected topic arises. Visit to the doctor or the fact I still don't have a boyfriend, for example. It would seem, though, mum still pays attention to my diapers, as last year, she changed me, when I fell asleep forgetting to do so myself and she couldn't wake me.

Oh, I see... It's just that I prefer staying inside to going out, even if I'm bored. There are always books and films and other things to do. Or one can simply sleep. =) Ah, well... That's understandable. Only, I personally, find this sort of thing pointless in my kind of situation. Not that I walk around the house with a diaper for everyone to see, but I don't exactly hide it, either.

I don't know how it is in your family, but in mine, when you are staying with relatives, especially someone close, it's as if you are at home. So you're expected (not required, of course, but "expected") to dress more or less like you would at home. Same goes for them if they're staying with you. So, unless even at home you're wearing clothes concealing your diaper, you would have to change your routine, at least a bit. You do that? Wow... No, really, that's impressive. Leaving the fact that I can't drive aside, I'd be simply to lazy to go out just to change...

First, I must point out, that I agree with what others have said. There is no real need to hide this. It'll be easier for everyone involved if you just told them about your situation. That being said, however, I understand you, I myself kept my incontinence secret from my niece and her family for years, while often staying with them for up to a week. It's just that it's not really big deal if your relatives learn about that. In my case they did and it didn't affect my relationship with them (only with the person, who told them). So don't let this secret trouble you too much. Just enjoy your time. So, the main problem is to hide the supplies, which, depending on the severity of your condition and length of stay may amount to a rather huge pile. First, I'd advise, if possible, to only take with you as many, as you need for 24 hours and get everything else locally. If, however, you aren't able to do this, for any reason, you'd better have either a car or a large suitcase (maybe several), where you could store your supplies, until needed. Another problem is changing. You might want to have a small handbag, that's enough for one or two dry diapers and wipes, lotion, etc. Remember, that you'll have to dispose of used diapers as well, so that handbag must be large enough for that also. And mustn't look suspicious. It's probably a good idea to have some special container for used diapers in the car, too. Then, there is the trouble of concealing diapers while wearing them around. It's the least to worry about, though. But you may have to temporarily change your clothing preferences. Baggy trousers or a knee-high skirt + some long hoody or sweater, that reaches past your bottom or something similar should do just fine. It'd also be nice if you could wear a tight-fitting diaper cover or maybe some simple, plain colored onesie. As an alternative, you can use a bodysuit, contour-shaping panties with high waist or even a pair of underwear, that fits tightly (but comfortably) over your diaper. All these methods will prevent or reduce sagging and may even prevent leaks. Another thing is sleeping in diaper. You'd want to bring a long nightgown made of thick, non see-through material or pajama set, also non see-through. And I think that's all. Just don't overdo it. And don't worry.

Can't answer the last two questions, but with the first one it's because you aren't used to wearing a diaper to bed. It was about the same with ke, when I tried switching to cloth diapers. I wasn't used to their thickness, so I couldn't fall asleep, but as soon as I changed into a disposable, I'd be asleep in a moment. You probably will be able to get used to it, but in my case, I decided to keep using disposables instead of switching to cloth.

You know, even having an official reason to be wearing diapers, I still don't like my family members knowing. So much so, that my niece (and her parents), with whom I stayed many times for sleepovers, only learned about it very recently and not from me. I guess, you expect close people to start asking questions if they accidentally find out or something, and you can't just dismiss those questions, you actually have to answer them. Maybe it's also because they will worry much more, than friends or total strangers. I don't know...

Well, yes, I myself know pretty well, that lotions and barrier creams can do wonders. Although I still like powder better, even if I hardly use it now. But still... I, personally, prefer to clean up any kind of mess (I'm not talking about that as I don't do it) as soon as possible and then rest easy, you know...

You know, you really should change, after going No2 or leaking. You might get rash in the first case and it's simply not very nice waking up later in a wet bed...

It doesn't happen often nowadays, but sometimes I wake up just as my bladder starts emptying itself after retaining liquid for an extended period of time. I guess it's because it spasms then, although I don't really feel anything, but the flow itself.

I don't get it, how it's possible to like this... vilest substance... My grandma loved this thing at some point, though. Loved to use it on me, that is. Every time I was even a bit sick, like some wonder medicine. I hated the smell, the taste, even the look of the bottle itself. And it was like a nightmare, because I knew I had this bomb slowly ticking inside of me and I had no way of knowing when it'll go off. No cramps, like with the normal laxatives, no time to prepare — when the time came it simply was there before I knew it. I don't know how you'd have felt about it back when you were about 8 or 10 years old, but it was a living horror for me.

They aren't really "hiding places", because it's not like I'm hiding anything, but I don't keep my supplies where everyone can see them, so... I have a large upper shelf in the wardrobe, where I store unopened packs. Then there are two more smaller shelves in the other compartment of the wardrobe for daily usage, so to speak. And a small stash in the bedside table for emergencies like when I'm too lazy to get off the bed to change. And we also keep a spare pack in my mum's car.

Indeed, you won't pay for luggage, consisting of medical supplies, even if it exceeds the amount you are allowed to take with you.

They sure do... That's why I usually take only a few, that would last me until I get some on the spot. Even if it means using inferior ones...

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We don't have this rule here, so I don't have any problems with carrying a backpack to a toilet.