depends4me

Haven't been on the board much lately, but count me in! I'm roughly an hour and a half west of Philly. (I don't think anybody's enthusiasm has waned, but with Christmas nearly upon us, this may have to wait until January...)

I get frustrated sometimes at the lack of people who classify themselves as both gay and DL...but I suppose there's really no correlation between the two. It's likely the same as the gay percentage of the non AB/DL population. (Sorry, too lazy right now to look up the number.) Diaper fetishes tend to form during childhood or puberty, while truly understanding one's sexual identity might take another 5-10 years.

My opinion: If you want to be able to wet frequently, in small amounts 1) Drink lots of water 2) At the first sign that you need to pee, use the toilet (or your diaper) IMMEDIATELY 3) Start again at 1) Do this as regularly as possible (evenings and weekends when you expect to be home), and you will eventually make your bladder more sensitive. You won't have accidents, but you will sometimes find yourself needing to pee once an hour. As for wetting a diaper in bed, it takes time to un-train yourself. It probably helps to use good diapers, plastic pants, and some bed protection, so you aren't subconsciously worrying about ruining the mattress. Certainly drink at least one glass of water before bed. It may help to get out of bed, start the urine flow, then get back in bed to finish. When the flow stops, try to maintain and learn that relaxed state. When I find that my bladder is too tense, it helps me to take a deep breath and relax my groin area while exhaling. Both of these may take a few months to achieve, so don't give up! Good luck!

I haven't visited this board regularly in months, but came back today briefly to skim the forms, and realized I'd posted a comment here nearly a year ago. Aaron, as you said yourself, what you're doing is totally harmless. Be yourself and enjoy your diapers! The last time I checked, there's no law against being happy!

That my idealism is unfounded and we're all doomed?

Yup, similar for me. I nearly always gotta go when I'm filling the car with gas in the winter. It's the combination of being in the cold, maybe with my hand on a cold metal gas handle, and being forced to stand in one place.

Your first problem is that you think too much. No, I'm serious. I've had some down periods in my life where I lacked direction, work, money, friends, and maybe more. Perhaps there was some depression involved, too, although I've never been diagnosed or treated. But I had bills to pay and eventually rolled up my sleeves and did the hard work that needed done. I'm mostly fine now. Your second problem is that you have a very cozy support system, which doesn't give you any incentive to act. If you were suddenly (for example) homeless or without some of these systems, you would stop analyzing your every move, pick yourself up, and take those first steps. Regardless of how you feel, you are an adult. Unless your residence is more a prison than a home, they can't dictate your comings and goings. (Well, I suppose they might not let you back in, but again, I think it's this kind of environment that's keeping you from getting on with your life.) Start taking charge, and start using your gift for argument. But in the end, make sure it results in actions and not just words. My suggestion: right after Christmas (or sooner if you like), get a job. It doesn't have to be anything professional or long term. If it ends up being a string of short-term jobs, that's fine, too. Just get something. I know you used to work retail, so maybe a job in a small store? It will get you out of the house and interacting with other people, and I think it will do your self confidence a world of good. It will also give you an income, which will help your independence. When you're feeling better about your situation, then maybe that's the time to start shopping your resume around again. When you go to an interview, the human resources person will take note of your confidence, instead of your self doubt. Please say you'll do it. Your situation is only going to change when you wake up one day and say to yourself that you've had enough. (BTW, I was going to say this in private chat instead of publicly, but I see you're offline. From reading your posts and your blog entries, you strike me as one of the most open and honest people I've ever met....so I hope my own bluntness isn't out of line.) Good luck and take care! And perhaps we'll chat again sometime soon?

Hey, thanks for the links! I never had much use for WiFi until recently, and so never had any incentive to dig into issues like this. Looks like fun!

Yup, I always wear a brief over my diaper, except for limited periods at home. I don't like the sweat that builds up between my legs, and wearing underwear over it keeps the diaper from sagging, wicks up little leaks, and adds both noise and sight protection. Seems win-win to me. I've settled on Jockey Pouch briefs, because even though they're somewhat expensive, they are full cut and cover the majority of the diaper, and they contain some spandex. Even when I wear plastic pants (at night...and on days like today when I'm diapered at work! ), I wear a cheapo brief (regular FOTL or Haines) for extra absorbency. I don't think I'd enjoy going "commando".

Basically, what Tenderheart said. The logging capabilities of a consumer WiFi router are minuscule, and this feature may not even be enabled by default. I don't even think a program like Wireshark would do much good, because the WiFi router would connect directly to the owner's DSL modem, cable modem, etc. and not to any actual computer. I suppose there are ways around this, but the average user isn't going to be interested. Logging may vary a bit among devices, but I would think every time you click a link or visit a new web site, that URL stands a chance of being logged. This likely would not apply to the URL's of objects on that page (pictures, script files, CSS files, multimedia, etc.), nor to the actual pictures (etc.) themselves. If you use webmail of practically any sort, or can configure your email client to make a secure connection, there's really no reason to not use the WiFi for email, too. Check with your ISP if you're not sure. Just like with pictures, the router would never log actual email content, but I suppose it could record sender, recipient, date, subject, length, or stuff like that. A secure connection would prevent logging everything but the actual server, ie. pop.foo.com. Assuming you're using a recent version of Windows, it will always default to the faster connection when more than one is available. It would depend on the client whether you could steer it to use a specific connection. Years ago I used to know a half dozen different email clients, but I'm gotten out of touch. I'm betting against this, but you never know. If you can't do a secure email connection or steer it to dialup, just disable the WiFi when you check your mail. Hope that helps!

I'm on Yahoo (same username) some evenings and late nights. If you see me, feel free to say "hi".

point 1: What age did you last wear diapers as a child Diapers? I'm not sure. I have a picture of me wearing some kind of all-in-one training pants at 4. But I also have memories of using the toilet at my family's apartment, which we'd vacated later that year...although I don't recall what I was wearing. Being the oldest child, I probably thought the training pants were perfectly normal. I was in regular underwear well before turning 5. Point 2: What Kind of Diapers did you wear then Generally cloth and plastic pants, and later those training pants. Point 3: What Kind Of Diaper Cover did you wear over your diaper if you wore one over it See above.

Not at all, not at all! I just found it amusing that, as you say, your approach is so different than so many other people here who stay in the shadows. All the more power to you, dude!! Especially (IMHO) because at 18, a lot people are still extremely self-conscious. If you looked at my DiaperMates profile, compared to most others on the site, I like to think I'm doing the same thing in just a slightly different way. Hopefully we'll bump into each other in chat sometime. Peace!

You know, you have a very direct approach to making friends. Maybe that's a southern trait? I'm not a gamer and not on Facebook, but have a look at my profile if you like (there's a link to my Diapermates profile, too, which people keep telling me is too long), and see what we have in common. If you ever want to talk about anything, message me on DD or look for me (just occasionally) on Yahoo chat.

I bought a case of Abena Supers recently, and it's a nice diaper. They're basically everything there is to like about the X-Plus, but with the padding not so thick. (For starters, you won't feel like there's a board strapped between your legs.) They're definitely more discrete, and but I've noticed (and didn't realize this at first due to it being summer) they are still a little bulky under jeans, at least for me. It's not a big problem, because you wouldn't want to go too much thinner. They're way beyond Depends and similar cheap diapers. At the same time, I have noticed two things. Being less generous in the front, they don't take a flood when sitting as well as the X-Plus, and sitting on a hard surface for a length of time causes them to leak unless I use an extra soaker, which is also not true for the X-Plus. (Molicare Super Plus also leaks for me, just for comparison. ) But (as others have said), unless you're willing to wear sweat pants everywhere, X-Plus diapers just aren't reasonable attire in many situations. Give the Supers a try. I think you'll like them.

I am not incontinent either, but have occasionally been out while diapered and found some pants or shorts that I wanted to try on. I just do it like I would on any other occasion. It's nobody's business what kind of underwear I'm using, but if I was ever leaking slightly, would be polite to the store and take care of that first. Never been in any other public diapered situations, but am also curious how I'd go about it or how others would react. I was doing some touristy things in Philadelphia two years ago, and at some of the metal detectors/security checkpoints, recall being asked to raise my untucked t-shirt to show I wasn't concealing anything. I wasn't wearing protection at the time, but as I don't wear a onesie, that could have been very interesting.

See what happens when you say "hello"? You're the guy who received a "diaper" birthday cake from your relatives this past year, right? Sometimes I think I'm crazy, considering moving from fetish to lifestyle, and then I think of guys like you who make it look easy. I realize it's probably gotten somewhat routine by now, but have you ever considered keeping an blog? Please don't be a stranger, and check in occasionally to let us know how things are going!

I'm not incontinent, but on my very first trip out of town in diapers, I'm really wet, I'm at a mall, I have my changing kit, I enter the mens room...and there are no doors on the toilet stalls. I think about it for a moment (why does this happen to me?)...and then decide to wait a little longer and find a better spot. Thankfully the diaper (probably an Attends) did hold up.

Contrary to my screen name, I haven't used Depends in years. Maybe they've gotten better, but they're both still marginal as these things go. My suggestion is to buy whichever brand is cheaper, and if that's Assurance, consider putting the difference towards a pack of Depends Boosts...which are of pretty good quality.

I'm a little outside your age range and from Lancaster county, but we're probably no more than 2 1/2 hours apart. I'm bi, not terribly kinky, but always looking to make some new diapered friends. PM me if you want to talk about it.

Well, "daily business" is gonna depend on the individual. I don't wear to work (I tried wearing pull-ups once for 3-4 months, and may try again), but do wear at night, and 24/7 from Friday night through Monday morning. This hasn't been a problem, as I live alone and am not generally around other people long enough for me to need a change. It hasn't happened in a while, but I have no problem stopping at a gas station, at the mens room at the mall, etc., for a change. I've been wearing and using adult diapers for ~10 years, and my bladder capacity has dropped somewhat as a result. So instead of diapers being a distraction, when I'm in a store without a public bathroom and need to go, they're actually a welcome addition.

You could contact them and ask, but the web site is designed for US and Canada shipping only.

The post title pretty much says it all. Submitting a review with quotes in the text creates an error inserting the data into MySQL. I can go ahead and submit my review without quotes, but wanted to make sure this little bug was on the record.

Aaron, my first question is how often do you wear? If you wear diapers regularly when you're out with friends, and need to make excuses for carrying a backpack or slipping away to change yourself, that's a good argument for telling some people. Personally I'm a workaholic and most of my friends are married and have lives of their own, so I don't get out too much...at least not for more than 4-5 hours at a time, the life of a good quality diaper. But I am wearing more often lately, and try to go 24/7 on weekends no matter where I am. I recently visited my sister in Philadelphia over a weekend. On several previous trips we'd been walking around downtown and I was positively bursting and needing a public bathroom badly. This time I didn't fight it and wore a pull-up, and came clean about it on the walk back. She was fine with it, and it was totally liberating. I've been considering going 24/7 for years, and am already mentally prepared for the whole office knowing. There are lots of questions on this board about telling your parents, and from people who wear casually, or may not even live at home. You've probably read some of those. I think your situation is different, because it speaks to your social life. If this has become a lifestyle for you, then I think you should tell some people discretely, when there is a need to know. Most people don't go around telling others about their illnesses or fetishes, so I hope you're not randomly telling people out of some sense of duty or guilt. And you don't have to tell everyone the WHOLE TRUTH. If you tell a coworker or casual acquaintance that you have a medical problem and need to slip away, that should be enough, provided you're not acting weird about it. Just like a lot a lot of people who are gay/bi/etc., though, understand ahead of time that coming totally clean with people may lose you some friends. Of course you can always make new friends, but is it that important to tell people? You'll have to figure that out yourself. Good luck, and I hope that helped!

Not necessarily a tingle, but my ears certainly perk up. Once in high school, I was talking to an acquaintance in a study hall, and he told me that during lunch, a guy was pansted (de-bagged for you Brits) in the high school lobby and wearing "underwear like babies wear". I was just starting my journey into diapers, and did all I could to hide my excitement and not blush. I changed the subject pretty quickly, and to this day still wonder what he meant. Underoos? Tranining pants? Some kind of diaper? The mind boggles.