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  1. Hi everyone! For nearly a year or so, I’ve been unable to login to my DD or Hotmail account. I had changed my passwords and recorded them wrong. I had to wait until my Hotmail account recycled and create it again. I did that about a month ago and forgot the “easy” password. I thought I would have to wait all over again but yesterday I was in a Starsmucks on my other laptop and it had the new password remembered. I was able to get the Hotmail account changed and afterwards change the DD password. And this time I recorded them immediately and correctly. Well, this last year has been a good year. Of course I’m still 24/7, wetting only. On the job front, I switched companies with a boost in pay and position. I still travel a bit but it is well scheduled. I’m wearing disposable more often now. With the higher salary, I can afford to do so. A couple of months ago, I switched from Abena to Wellness Brief brand diapers. I read about them here so I gave them a try. They are hands-down, much better than Abena. They fit better and the plastic doesn’t bother my skin at all. They also have a larger fit to them that makes them much easier to put on and they are thinner. They also seem to hold more than an Abena diaper. Hard to believe but that’s what I’ve discovered. Physically, I’m doing great. Feeling good and I’m happy. There are people at the new firm that know I wear diapers but it isn’t an issue. I’m convinced that social attitudes have changed or at my age people just assume prostate or other issues and don’t go beyond that. When changing at the gym, I treat my diaper wear as normal and don’t overtly hide or unhide it. When in the restroom, I am just matter of fact about things and you can’t really hide the fact that when you do enter the restroom, you use a stall, have a carry bag, make un-taping or tearing noises and don’t seem to pee in the toilet. But it is also about attitude. I’m happy all the time and I think I just project a feeling of it all being normal and ok. So those around me just assume the same. I do poke my head into DD as guest from time to time. (Never at work.) I find all the serious talk about becoming incontinent funny. I found it easy to do but that may have been me. I’ve always wetted myself so it may not have been much of a stretch for me to just stop holding it. Maybe others have it harder. Well the wife and mother-in-law are doing find and say “Hi!” –they just got in from shopping so I’m going to go. I’ll poke my head in more often and throw my 2 cents in more often. (Or cup of gas to the fire as it is!)
  2. I'm not a distance runner but I do jog and have a very active work life. I mow my lawn, do yard work and physical labor wearing diapers. I also jog about 2 miles every day wearing a diaper and plastic pants. I also wear lycra shorts over the diaper and plastic pants under my jogging suit. This keeps everything in place. Even if I didn't wet, the diaper gets absolutly soaked with sweat. But disposable are even worse, they absorbent materials breaks up and clumps up. And get very leaky. It takes practice to do it right to avoif chaffing, leaks, sagging, and looking like you are wearing a diaper.
  3. For me, this is not a hobby or a weekend activity. It is the way I live my life. As I’ve said before I wasn’t physically incontinent before but I was “emotionally” incontinent. I needed to do this as deeply as any other thing in my life. I needed to do this and live this way to be whole. So my wife and I look at this as a necessary expense and part of our budget. I’ve budgeted our my diaper and other supplies to allow me to live this way. In short, it means I needed to use cloth mostly and stay away from disposables except when absolutely necessary. A while ago I worked out the minimum amount of diapers needed for one day with laundry every day. The cost was about $300. I started with that and then added more sets of diapers to have about 4 days of diapers and plastic pants on hand. Haven’t bought a cloth diaper in about 2 years. Plastic pants don’t last as long. The initial cost of cloth diapers is high but disposables are very expensive if you wear 24/7. If all the money spent on all my cloth diapers was spent on disposables, they would only last bit over 6 months. One set of cloth diapers will last many years whereas the same money spent on disposables will only last about 6-8 weeks. You can easily spend around $6/day on disposables but I’m down to around $1 per day with cloth. The cost is not the only issue. The lifestyle change is the real issue. Changing multiple times every day, the “diaper pail”, and laundry, laundry, laundry. Keeping things clean and fresh takes real commitment. So, how committed are you to diapers 24/7? It isn’t just the cost, it’s a whole life change. I do enjoy being able to wet myself all the time and as my wife has said, it is a lot cheaper than therapy or happy pills.
  4. Well March has come and gone and that means I’ve been diapered 24/7 for over 3 years now. I don’t post regularly because there isn’t much to say about wearing diapers and wetting myself. To me it is just normal. My wife still doesn’t seem to mind and my mother-in-law is as supportive as always. The people at work know I wear but they don’t know why. They assume it must be a medical issue and I’m not going to correct them. My diaper use is just a part of everyday life. I usually wear cloth and plastic pants because of the expense of disposables. I do wear disposables every now and then when I just can’t take the plastic pants anymore. Oh, that happens less these days because I’ve found out why. It was a laundry issue. The cloth around the elastic wasn’t getting clean enough. I also needed to shower at least twice a day to make sure my skin stays clean and sweat doesn’t cause problems. When I wear disposable they are usually Tranquility Premium OverNight briefs. When worn right they take a lot without leaking. But don’t usually last the night. Things have shifted in our social circle. Most people know I wear diaper and wet myself but they don’t believe that I’m doing it on purpose. I’m not sure how that idea changed but there have been rumors of prostate trouble and other things. My diaper usage isn’t discussed anymore and hasn’t come up socially in over a year. I no longer do the thing where I wet the bed at night. I just became disinterested in it. I haven’t seen the shrink in ages. I’m not sure when I stopped. She wasn’t really interested in my case and we saw no reason to continue with the treatments and payments. Simply put, it is all just routine. I am more happy than before I wore diapers. It still feels completely normal and right for me to wet myself all the time. My wife doesn’t really understand but she likes me being happy and after we sorted out the issues of money, laundry, smells, and leaks, we were ok. My relationship with my mother-in-law has certainly changed. She always looked at me as a bit of an uptight conservative but not anymore. She is much more friendly to me and thinks it is great that I’m doing my own thing. She is re-living her wild commune/hippy youth in a way. She is in her 60’s and won’t wear any clothes in her apartment or our house. Not a stitch. She will wear her beaded necklaces and things on her wrists, waist and ankles but no clothes. She says that if I can wear a diaper around then she can go around as nude as nature intended. Last summer she went on a nude hippy retreat. I’m sure there was plenty of herbal sampling going on. (For those that don’t know. My wife’s mother joined a commune in the 60’s and my wife spent her early years in a commune where many of the people were naked most of the time. It was the late 60’s and early 70’s and they really believed all that stuff. My wife grew up but her mother is still a real, genuine hippy. ) Well that’s my yearly wrap up. I still wet all the time including at night while sleeping. It is just want I wanted. No “excitement” from it, it just feels “right” and the way I should live my life.
  5. This is normal even for high quality Abena diapers. Its a matter of surface area exposed. If your diaper is on snugly or depending on your physical posistion, your pee may sit on the front of the diaper and take up less space. You need your pee to reach as much area of the diaper as possible. When this happend again, walk around or re-adjust your diaper to allow your pee to flow donward for a bit. If you may flood, you need to make sure that your diaper is snug around the legs or it will leak. It is also common to leak out the top if your pee has nowhere to go. I always recommend wearing larger underwear around your disposable diaper to help catch any of these minor leaks.
  6. I have traveled cross country recently from Dulles and National. I wear Tranquility brief through the scanners and then put on an Abena diaper in the restroom near the gate. This way I don't have any bulk in my waist but will be ok when we sit on the tarmac for hours.
  7. Yes you can do it like this. It took me about 10 months before I started to wet the bed most nights without knowing it. It took about 12 months wet at all times involuntarily. I've been wearing diaper and wetting for nearly 3 years now. It does take time and you can "untrain" your body. It really is amazing to find yourself peeing without you realizing you are or have been. Sometimes it feels like I'm always peeing but I'm not. Just as sometimes I don't feel like I have to pee yet I am. It is also neat to just dribble and drip with no feeling of control. It isn't easy and you have to be commited to being 24/7. You can't have "time off" or work around your job or social life. You must set in to be 24/7 and really live it. But it is fun! It can be very annoying and painful at times but I still get a thrill out of it!
  8. I suggest a modified approach. But this will only work if your parents or family members have NO clue about your diaper desires. First, get your job and start making money. Then at some point start deliberately wetting the bed but go SLOW. Just a very little bit every few days. If you sleep in your underwear, keep them on. What you want to do it just stain your sheets and underwear just a little. So little that “you hardly even notice it.” Let this go for a bit then just wet the bed one day. Make it a weekday or otherwise inconvenient. Take steps to hide it, very good steps. You DO NOT want anyone to find out. Let the minor night wetting happen more. Make sure you leak a little in your underwear during the day so that they stain. At some point you can buy some cheap Depends or other store brand to wear a night. Of course they will leak. After a while of this you can begin to buy whatever you like. If someone finds your diapers or mentions anything, you have your excuse already prepared. The main thing is you do NOT have someone else buy or diapers or tell anyone about this. Adult men don’t tell anyone they have a bedwetting problem. So you don’t either. They can find out in other ways but you don’t tell anyone. It would also be good to buy a new mattress at some point. Make up a good story if you need to but don’t let on that you wet the bed. Chances are, you mother would notice things early on so if things are ever discovered, you already have someone who knows what is going on. Yes, it is devious. But this is also very deviant!
  9. I’ve succeeded making myself completely urinary incontinent it about a year just by living that way. It has been well over 2.5 years since I’ve started and it just takes a real commitment. Those who think they need to cath or use hypno are not really into being incontinent. They are just playing around. Let’s look at it. If you want to be urinary incontinent, then you would have to wear diapers all the time. So why not just start doing it? If you want to be incontinent, then do it. All you have to do it pee. You don’t need an excuse or some fake reason where it “isn’t your fault.” Just pee. If you are reading this. Just pee right now. Don’t wait for the “right time” or when you are alone or not out. Just pee. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you are wearing or sitting on. Just pee. Sounds extreme? No, because that is what it is like to be incontinent. Being incontinent means you are not in control. You don’t have any say as to where or when. You just pee. This IS the way I did it. I am now completely urinary incontinent. All the time. No drugs, no caths, no hypnosis. Just peeing the moment I felt like it and by NOT putting any special attention on it. Not making my self go. Nor holding back for any reason. It took just a few months before I would immediately wet without conscious though when awake. It took nearly a year before I would wet asleep. But it did finally happen. I leak and pee every 10-20 minutes now. Every morning I’m completely soaked. Many of the people who need a “plan” are also looking for an excuse about NOT being incontinent. They can and do blame the plan. Some people may take longer than others. Some won’t be honest about it and will not just relax and allow their bodies to unlearn their potty training. But it is very, very possible and VERY EASY! The key is to be honest about your desire. You absolutely must put your desire to be incontinent above all others. You MUST just LET GO the instant you feel like you have to pee. You absolutely can’t hold it and you must immediately let yourself RELAX. Don’t force it, just RELAX. You may not pee right away but you need to let the body know that the I-NEED-TO-PEE feeling means I-NEED-TO-RELAX-AND-LET-GO. Seriously, you have to just let go.
  10. There could be a thousand reasons why you have the desire. I was 40 before I finally made the jump to wearing daipers 24/7 and wetting in them. It was the best decision I ever made. Even my wife agrees that I'm happier and more fun to be around. In my case it was just some sort of compulsion or desire to wet myself and I was not happy unless I did. That's all it was. It wasn't a fetish and it wasn't sexual. I don't know why you or even I want to wear a diaper but I do know that I'm only really happy when I can just wet myself and wearing a diaper allows me to do that. I'm no longer worried who may find out. -But I don't broadcast it either. I just consider myself incontenent since I can't really help myself. I look at as any other incontenent person would. I just have to use a diaper. Only in my case it isn't physical but personal. (Though it may very well be physical by now.) The "obession" feeling may end once you decide you can wear all the time. Once you take the problem out of something, the obsession part of it disapears. In other words, you may not be obsessed once you can have it at any time. It doesn't mean you may not want to wear a diaper, just that the frantic feeling may go away. I would just wear what you want. It isn't normal to discuss your underwear and bathroom habits with your mother or family so don't. IF they find out you can always say its a personal issue and that having to wear a diaper is embarassing enough without haveing to talk about it. Most people will just assume there is a physical reason you have to wear and leave it at that. As for cost, you will have to solve this the best you can. Yes, disposable diapers do cost money. For daily wear you need to consider some form of cloth and plastic pants. That is the only cost effective solution available. Wearing cloth has its own challanges but it is cheaper in the long run. But for now, decided if you really want to wear daily or not. Make no mistake, wearing diapers 24/7 is a major lifestyle choice. It isn't easy. This proven by the very few who actually do wear 24/7 by choice. (Not everyone here who says they do really do. It isn't hard to spot the posers. ) I would suggest that you try the lifestyle before you make a decision. Perhaps the IDEA if diaper wearing is all that is happening. Have you tried: Wearing for 24 hours in private? Wearig for a litte in public? Wearing and using for multiple days in private to get used to wearing and changing a diaper? Have you learned how long you can wear your diaper before it will leak? Have you learned how to wear in public and change in a public restroom? Have you tried wearing for a full weekend in private. Have you tried wearing for a full weekend in private and also running a few public erands? Are you comfortable wearing in any situation? And finally have you tired the complete diaper lifestyle for 1 week or longer? If you can do these and feel that wearing a diaper is for you, then you should just make diapers par of your life.
  11. You keep saying "diaper fetish". Not all diaper wearing or use is a a fetish. I think you are too hung up on the fetish idea. The idea that a desire can "take over someone's life" is somehow destructive is silly. What about a desire to run in a marathon where person changes their life to train. Or someone's desire to have a baby? What you are confusing is a lifestyle choice and a fetish. Not all diaper use is sexual. It may be for you but not for many others. It is a lifestyle choice. I've seen people so hooked on coffee that they change their schedule and spend more per day on coffee than I do on diapers. Should they seek psychological help becasue they enjoy coffee? What about those who spend thousands of dollars and arrange their lives around NFL? To some of us, diaper us is just a hobby, not a defect of character. It is obvious that you really want to wear or use diaper and that you are not happy with you current non-diaper lifestyle. You are taking it out on other by saying that anyone who give in to our desires are somehow mentally damaged and need help. It is you who is struggling and just projecting that anger onto the rest of us. You need to make peace with yourself and figure out what makes you happy. For me, wearing diaper has never been about sex. Its about what makes me, me. That is all it is. My wife supports me even though she thinks it is wierd. Not everyone would be that way so I'm lucky. But the thing is, this is ME. Just as some guys have to have their football or golf, I have my diaper wetting. Even my therapist agrees with me!
  12. I needed to take a break from cloth and plastic pants and I ended up trying out the male style of the new depends briefs. It has been ages since I tried Depend and if I wasn't so desperate to get out of plastic pants I wouldn
  13. It is easy to get snap-on plastic pants. The do help cut down the heat a little but I still sweat heavily in them. I can't wear them to work or in public becasue they will tend to weep onto my tucked-in shirts. And there are odor issues.
  14. Wrong. So very, very wrong. Wearing cloth and plastic pants in the heat is pure hell. Yea they sure do "absorb" sweat. The plastic pants create an oven which traps heat. Very quickly, within 15-30 minutes you can dampen a think heavy diaper completely with just sweat. The entire diaper will be and feel wet. Condensation actually forms on the inside of your plastic pants. Your whole diaper area will feel "itchy wet." You will never feel dry or comfortable. Chaffing is a big issue so are fungal infections, also known as jock itch - the same thing as athletes foot. Odor can be a big problem. If you mess a diaper, this won't work. But if you just wet them, here is what helps. Get some lycra shorts, very short even brief size if you can. These are synthetic and will wick moisture away from your body. Wear these shorts next to your skin with the cloth diaper over them. This will really help in the comfort department and help from feeling "itchy wet" all the time. It also helps with chaffing. One area that I have not found a solution for which is a real problem is the irritation of the elastic gathers on the legs. Since the inside of the plastic pant is always very wet, the area around the legs gets very irritated. I've litterally had to peel the plastic pants from my legs at times. You can try changing a lot but it won't make much difference. The lycra shorts do help. I've also used longer shorts with bloomer style plastic pants so that the leg elastic doesn't move. To do this you wear 2 lycra shorts. A brief style next to your body, your diper and then the larger shorts over the diaper. This also helps keep it in place. If you can afford it, using a disposable covered by lycra shorts is workable. Change often becasue you will sweat into your diaper and your skin may get irritated if any of the disposable diaper plastic touches your skin. Disposables sometimes feel better because they don't trap the heat as much as plastic pants but they do get hot and they WILL absorb sweat quickly causing the absorbent material to clump up and break apart. This will reduce how much the diaper will absorb. Leaks have happen much easier. When I wear disposables in the summer, I also wear lycra shorts over them. Small leaks are wicked away better and tend not to show through your clothes. Powders do nothing in the summer heat. I wear diapers ALL THE TIME. Even when doing physical labor in 90+ degree heat. And it ain't no picnic. There is no good solution.
  15. You've hit the one area I have no tolerance for. You are NOT under stress, you are just a lazy, clueless, immature, kid who just doesn't want to deal with any responsibility. You tried gamming and taking a bath. Wow. How about JUST MOVING YOUR LAZY ASS!!!! The reason you are stressed is simple. You are behind the eight-ball and and don't have a clue what to do. Your "solution" to your problems is to goof-off to relieve "stress." The only way to really relieve your stress is to solve your problems. Start taking responsibility for your situationa and do something constructive. If you want a car but don't have one, get a job to save money to get one. Gee, you may have to take public transportation like those, gasp, "low income people." Sure you may have to take a sucky job earning minimum wage. That's life but so do lots of other people who have REAL problems and families to support. Sell the game console and start being productive. You will be amazed how working even a lame job can help. Other than that, take calcium and magnesium. It will help take any edge off. Don't take any stimulants. (coffee, tea, cola)
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