Fetlife has its issues, but it is an outstanding way to find abdls and to meet up. The ABDL group I have been apart of for 10 years is there and we always seem to see new faces at our bi-monthly events because people have found us on fetlife... I like to think of it as facebook for fetishists... but just like facebook you get out of it what you put into it and you are also undoubtably going to see stuff that is either not appealing or meet people that you would wish to go away.
My advice... Invest your time in creating a real profile, bio, interests, pictures and get verified. I personally ignore any accounts that reach out to me that are a blank profile pic or look like they were set up in five minutes... You're are gonna get weird and downright thirsty people who don't seem to understand that an unsolicited Dick pic or starting a conversation with "Will you be my daddy or mommy and change my dirty diapers" isn't going to win over hearts and minds. Having a built and verified account has advantages... Capcon reviews Fetlife profiles as part of their verification process of attendees. I'm sure there are other ways to get approved but having a fetlife profile isn't a waste of time just for that. If you want to look at a filled out profile you can look me up. I'm Diaper-professor on fetlife. There are other sites like Diaper-bois as well that offers a forums and chat room.
Hope this helps. - Jp
I am sitting here this morning in my very wet and messy Bellisimo diaper. I sit down within five minutes after going potty in my diaper. Morning hot coffee and a warm, wet, squishy poopie diapee is a great way to start the day.