DiaperedAllTheTime

My wife also changed her grandparents diapers...both her grandfather and grandmother. I actually have always felt that made her a literal expert on adult diaper changing. If you look at the pictures I have posted of her changing my diaper you can see how she uses her forearm to perfection. I have been diapered by two other women and she by far is the best hands down. When we first got together messy diaper changes were okay but she will never change a messy diaper now that she is older. She asked me to not unpotty train myself to become dual incontinent and I have respected her wishes. As my muscles become weaker and weaker from untraining my bladder so do my bowels. I have openly discussed with her that I honestly feel I will eventually lose complete control of my bowels as an indirect result of unpotty training my bladder. I have already experienced several accidents where I could simply not hold my mess anymore. Often times my diaper has bowel leakage in it when she changes me. Sometimes she reacts to it and sometimes she does not. She will not wipe my bottom crack ever. It is so amazing how things can change over time. I am not sure what will happen if I do become fully incontinent. We will have cross that padded bridge when if we get there. I am different than you in that my need to be in diapers stems from an neverending desire to be humiliated. Interestingly enough halving bad bowel control as a child indirectly led to these desires. I would say I am a diaper lover more so than an adult baby but I most definitely desire to be a little girl at times. I still have a reoccurring dream that I would like my bedroom to be a nursery. With my wife being an expert diaper changer and someone who is primarily sexually pleasured by having her nipples sucked on you would think she was a Mommy meant to be. She has certainly been that at times. Are biggest hurdle is I am sexual all the time and she is sexual every blue moon so our schedules most definitely conflict if that makes any since. Please keep sharing your feelings with us here as we are here to support you.

I completely agree. When I would go through binge and purge cycles it was actually detrimental to my marriage. It confused everyone. One minute I am trying to be a man and the next minute I am back in pink diapers and wearing a dress. My wife did not know if she was getring her husband or a sissy baby. Once I committed to diapers full time there was no longer any confusion and it most definitely simplified things. Most importantly I was happy.

I can really relate to your situation. There is such a difference between acceptance and participation when it comes to a significant other and diapers. There is also a differenece between acceptance and toleration. As @rusty pins preaches it is so much easier if you can find a healthy balance between diapers and real life. Unfortunately for some people that simply is not possible. I speak from experience as I personally was unable to maintain a healthy balance until I actually started wearing diapers permanently. Everyone is different and so is everyone's relationship with their partner. I can talk very openly with my wife about diapers. This was only possible once I truthfully admitted to myself that diapers where here to stay and I needed to wear them. Before I would fight my desire to wear diapers. It caused a lot of confusion and hurt feelings for both my wife and I. It simply was an uphill battle that I could not win. Just as I chose I needed to wear diapers permanently my wife chose to accept that. Acceptance has many forms however. My wife understands and accepts that I need to wear diapers permanently. It does not mean she has to like the fact. My wife has told me many times that when you love someone you deal with who they are. My wife smokes which I personally do not like. However, I accept that smoking is something she needs to do. I think the biggest issue for a male that is an ABDL is that almost all of us desire for our partner to be a Mommy/Daddy or caregiver. Babies need to be cared for and punished when they are bad. We need our diaper changed and a nipple popped into our mouth. It is not as real when you are forced to regress alone. My wife is what I would call an off and on Mommy. Sometimes I am breastfeeding and having my diaper changed daily and other times she does not participate for months. This is very confusing and hurtful to me. That is because I am being selfish. My wife does not want to be my Mommy she wants to be my partner. I should be extremely thankful when she elects to entertain my fetish and not upset at her when she does not. I know this but still desire for her to be Mommy all the time. It is a hard thing to live with. What I have learned over years of diapers in our marriage is you really need to take what you can get. Be thankful if your partner participates and try, try, try your hardest to not be upset when they do not. That is what this forum is to me. When I am feeling lack of attention from my Mommy I often share my feelings here or PM long time members for their wisdom and advice. I know some dream about having a wife as accepting and understanding as the one I am married to. However, I know and understand she will never be the Mommy I want her to be. The normal woman is just simply not biologically programmed to have a baby as a mate. It goes against what evolution has genetically programmed into her being. Loving someone can and often times counteracts this. In some rare cases you get a Mommy like @mamabug who actually wants to be a full time Mommy and is turned on by the fact her partner wants to be a baby. Women like her are few and far in between. You as the one who wears diapers needs to try your best to understand this and be patient with your partner when she is not all about your diaper fetish. In your situation I would keep being honest and forthright with your feelings while doing your best to respect your wife's feelings. Take what she offers you and use this forum to cry to when you feel lonely.

Welcome Jamie. You most certainly have decided to come to the right place. A lot of us here face challenges when it pertains to wearing diapers and significant others. The most positive thing in your situation is that your wife allows for you to wear diapers in private. Many people are not so lucky and having a diaper fetish is a deal breaker. As with every relationship the key is open and honest communication. Understand that honest communication can and does hurt feelings sometimes. Woman are simply not program to mate with a man who wants to wear diapers and for someone that is vanilla in the bedroom diapers can be a real challenge on one's mind. In my experience there are ups and downs when it comes to diapers and a partner. In my marriage diapers where most definitely accepted as time past and our love for another grew. You may find this true overtime in your relationship. I hope you enjoy your time here and please do not hesitate to reach out if you should need someone to talk to.

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I really thought cuckolding for us was the answer. It honestly takes a very secure, honest, and strong relationship for a marriage to thrive with another man in the picture. Physically it was most definitely what my wife needed but mentally it was just something that went against her morals and love for me. The sexual excitement during that time was amazing however and I miss that so much. Truthfully I know I am married to a great woman. She has a hall pass to do whatever she likes whenever she wants but chooses to not only stay faithful but sexually miserable. I really think she has become completely asexual now because she is completely not sexually attracted to an incontinent sissy anymore and represses her sexual desires because she knows it is impossible for me to fulfill them. This has been a fight for me internally. The answer seems so simple...just stop wearing diapers and maybe she will sexually come back. Unfortunately I feel I have passed the threshold of wearing diapers permanently for so long where that can occur. Mentally I believe I would be completely miserable and it would actually make our relationship worse. I was much more distant from her then and not as honest. I got want I wanted and now I have to live with that. Clearly I am very thankful that my wife loves me so very much to stay by my side through all this despite her husband putting his needs over hers. Someone here said she is a Saint and I think that about sums it up.

1.) Comfortability-When you wear diapers permanently and travel as much as I do being comfortable is a necessity. Fit in my opinion falls under comfort. 2.) Capacity-Must have a thirsty diaper that quickly absorbs my pee pee to help prevent chafing. 3.) Look-I love anything sissy and anything pink.

I honestly could not control this fetish until I gave in and started wearing diapers permanently. Before this choice all I could think about was diapers when not in them. It consumed me mentally and effected my relationship with both my wife and children. Now I am diapered all the time and my mind can focus on the important things in my life.

Very sound advice. Unfortunately often times feelings change for both the diaper wearer and their partner. My wife actually had major issues accepting my diapers early on in our relationship. I have always been open and honest with her about diapers. When we first meet it was a once in awhile thing and years later my need to be in diapers evolved into wearing them permanently. If I had chosen this when my wife and I first met she would have undoubtedly left me. I do not want anyone to be confused by my post. My wife and I are happily married and I believe whole heartedly we will stay that way. We have been there and done all of it. I just wanted people to know that chosing to wear diapers permanently can have consequences especially in the bedroom.

Many, many, times. She has never been overly fond of making love that way although there have been times she has loved it. Right now she simply wants absolutely nothing to do sexually period.

I have shared on this message board my journey to becoming diaper dependant. Through this journey I have been completely honest here, sharing all the good, bad, and indifferent. My wife was essentially forced to take this journey with me and although she accepts and understands that I need to be diapered, our relationship will never be the same most specifically in the bedroom. This is a tale of be careful what you wish for and is something I think anyone who is with a partner needs to understand before deciding if wearing diapers for the rest of your life is something you truthfully want for both you and your partner. When I first put a diaper on permanently two years ago my wife and I were at a crossroads in our relationship sexually. Years of wearing diapers more and more, premature ejaculating, and erectile dysfunction had left my wife completely and utterly sexually frustrated. This failure in the bedroom led to a lifestyle change as I started to become a fulltime sissy due to my inability to perform as a man. Diapers became almost the sole source of sexual relief for me as the wet padding between my legs did not care how hard I was or how fast I made my mess. My wife also relied on inanimate objects for sexual relief as I would watch a large piece of silicone touch her in places that was simply impossible for me to reach. I have shared this all here, including the day I became my wife's cuckold. That period of our life was so full of excitement and happiness for both of us. She was sexually fulfilled and I made her my everything. As I look back now I realize I became so devoted to her because I knew she now had a real man in her life and realized that one day she may get tired of all of her husband's dirty diapers. This period also allowed for my wife to take on more of the Mommy role. She babied me and cahnged my diapers frequently. The stale pee pee smell of my diapers was no longer a reminder of her sexual depravity and she knew she was one phone call away from being taken by a real man. It was great and we were both very happy. This unique dynamic we shared actually strengthened our marriage and eventually my wife decided that she loved me so much that cuckolding me was something she no longer was comfortable doing. Her lover is now gone and she is back to a sissy who has been in diapers permanently for two years. Knowing that I will not be able to remove my diapers probably for the rest of my life as now I am both physically and mentally dependant on them she basically has became asexual. She no longer has any sexual desire which in the past is what fueled our ABDL relationship. There is no breastfeeding. There is no teasing. There is most definitely no sexual intercourse. About the only way she participates with my sissy side is by changing my used diapers. This is what I caused by choosing diapers over her. This is something I must now live with. I recently asked her why we can not just have normal sexual intercourse now and she basically told me see does not want me peeing on her. She reminded me that the last time I was permitted to have intercourse with her months ago that her lady parts....even the inside of her smelled of pee pee for days afterwards. Now that I leak uncontrollably she belives I will leak inside of her. Oral sex definitely will never happen again as she is not into consuming my waste. So this is us now. Other than the bedroom we are completely fine, soulmates, raising our children an living life. I share this as a cautionary tale for those that want to become diaper dependant who are with a partner. Unless you have a partner who is sexually aroused by you being a little life in the bedroom will change dramatically. Think about this and discuss this reality with your partner before you decide diapers all the time are best for you.

Wearing these diapers...

First and foremost this forum is most definitely not ADISC. You are posting on Daily Diapers. There are many answers to your questions throughout this message board particularly in the incontinence desires forum. Wearing diapers for an eight hour flight is not so bad assuming you are wearing a premium diaper. You can also always change in the aircraft restroom like I do as well. Diapers can be squished into an aircraft trash can. I would not recommend an intentional public accident without any protection. That would be seriously exposing your fetish to innocent bystanders.

I honestly rarely shave my nasty boy hair because my Mommy hates when I shave. Since she accepts that I need to wear diapers permanently I try and respect her wishes that I do not shave my hair. In this picture I was most definitely shaved though, giggles.

"Did my little girl go potty in her diaper?" This is the phrase my wife has seldomly used to drive me crazy. Just as other members have stated the word "diaper" most certainly instantly sends me to my little place full of princesses and ponies. With that said certain words can also be a turn off. For me it is when my wife says the word "piss". Little girls go pee pee not piss. Often times my wife will try and use the word piss to be derogatory while humiliating me and I wince everytime she says it. "Nappy" is another word that makes me cringe for whatever reason.

Nope. That ship sailed, for now at least.

Today is my two year anniversary wearing diapers fulltime. Happy unpotty training day to me. It has been a journey of many twists and turns with a lot of diaper leaks. So where am I at today since I started going potty in my pants again? I would say I am most definitely diaper dependant at this point from a mental standpoint. I feel completely naked without a diaper on and feel even uncomfortable when bathing. Feeling padding between my legs has become a necessity for my psyche. Despite my mental need to be continuously diapered I do have regrets sometimes mainly in regards to my marriage. I recently shared this with a prominent member on this board who offered great and very sound advice. It is most definitely hard for a female partner to accept this about her husband and I honestly at times felt my wife did not deserve such a burden. After a lot of thought the reality is I know in my mind, heart, and soul I could never be happy without wearing diapers. My relationship with my wife in a non sexual sense and my marriage is better than it has ever been. Before making this choice it was so hard to be open and honest with my wife about wearing diapers. Now it is a normal part of life and we can communicate about diapers completely. The bedroom is a different story. My wife has turned mostly asexual due to my decision which has been very challenging. Physically it is hard to tell what my bladder is doing. Sometimes I feel as if I was not wearing a diaper my panties would be wet. Other times I feel like my baldder can hold my pee pee just fine. Sometimes I continuously pee pee in my diaper and other times I completely flood my diaper. I am not sure why my bladder control seem so erratic. Often times I leak pee pee involuntarily particularly after a bowel movent or diaper change. Drips are often wiped off the toilet seat and my protective panties. At the same time I cannot tell if I am leaking pee pee into my diaper. As far as I know I have not wet involuntarily at night either. You most definitely cannot snap your fingers and lose control of your bladder. I have settled on a regular diaper, ABU Simples. Recently I have made the switch to ABU Simple Ultras as my diaper leaks a lot less wearing these. I still will get the uncontrollable need at times to wear pink diapers and have to wear a Rearz Princess or DC Amor diaper. Luckily I do not feel the need to wear pink diapers all the time now which makes wearing diapers so much easier particularly when changing in public. There are plenty more details I will not bore you guys with.

To be honest you just need to wear diapers more to bed. Eventually your body and mind adapt to the feeling of the extra padding between your legs and within no time it will be as if you have nothing on at all. I used to have this same problem before wearing diapers permanently but now I am fine.

I think to same thing. Luckily my bowels give me enough fits to keep me regularly visiting the potty. My biggest challenge is on long road trips with coworkers. On more than one occasion has have pretended to pee pee like a big boy.

I have worn diapers in our household and around my three children for over ten years now. The last two years I have worn them permanently and officially as far as I know, none of my children are aware that their father wears diapers. Their ages are eight, seventeen, and nineteen. My daughter did sign for a package of my diapers one time which typically would not be such a big deal. However, in this case the corner of the box was busted out during shipping. The damage allowed for a clear look inside the box and the Rearz diaper packages I had bought were completely visible. My wife was not home at the time and I found the box sitting on the kitchen floor when I got home from work. Other than the fact that the hole in the box made it almost impossible for me not to notice I suspect she saw what was in the box because she had taken my younger son and had him in her room. That is something that never happens and my guess would be she saw what was in the box and provided diaper interference from her brother. I waited for hours for my wife to pull me aside and be upset because our daughter had found out. That never happened so apparently if my teenage daughter did find out she kept it to herself. It certainly helps when you have a partner as they can play diaper interference to help keep your diapers hidden from your children. There have been times especially when tired in the wee hours of the morning one of my used diapers have been left in the cupboard in our bathroom or a bag at the front door. My wife generally scolds me when I unintentionally have these oops. I do believe that having a parent in diapers could be confusing for a child even if you are simply incontinent. Having a father that enjoys wearing pink diapers with princesses on them really makes things awkward should the children find out. My wife honestly worries that are children would think differently of me of they ever found out. If the day comes I am prepared for the talk. Since a child I always had bowel control issues and an overactive bladder. This led to extreme humiliation from my stepmother and diapers became normal to me. Basically, the honest truth now is that I am incontinent and need to wear diapers. The details of how, or why, or that I am an ABDL sissy are irrelevant.

My wife and I have shared your desire in the past. We did buy a breast pump and she did pump every four hours. After days of commitment with no milk produced we gave up. Now that I have a job where I am gone seventy percent of the year it would be almost impossible. As far as hurting you, your breasts will most definitely be sensitive and sore at times. Your nipples will also become chaffed. There are herbal supplements that can be taken that promote lactation. My wife never took them so I am not sure how effective these supplements are. In order to induce lactation it will take serious commitment from you both. Enjoy the extra intimate time as for my wife and I, breastfeeding even without producing milk is are favorite thing to do in the bedroom. Best of luck.

It all depends on how comfortable Mommy is. My Mommy is fine changing me in the backseat of our car if we can find a secluded spot that does not draw too much attention to us. Typically and most definitely if our children are with us, my wife will play interference with the kids while I sneak off and change my diaper by myself.

My wife swears by them. I will say she ALWAYS knows when she is changing my diaper if I have been taking my Nullo pills or not. When I am actively taking Nullo pills I take them twice a day. The results are not instant, it generally takes about a week of taking the pills regularly for your bodily smell to be reduced.

My wife and have definitely experienced the same scenario in our relationship. Our situation is even more complicated because I am a sissy and desire to be HER baby girl. While she understands and accepts my lifestyle change is does not typically make her panties wet. I know in my situation I was unable to comprise. My wife essentially lost to my need to both become diaper dependant and a babygirl. Although she made the choice to stay with me despite this it most definitely lowered her self esteem as she felt diapers had replaced her in the bedroom. It made her feel unattractive and unwanted. I think anytime a woman feels this way it is a completely normal reaction is to become disconnected sexually. You must remember woman are programmed biologically to mate with stronger partners to insure healthy offspring. Usually, in a normal female mind a partner who wears diapers does not meet those requirements. Woman are also mothers. Motherly instinct although awesome when used right in an ABDL relationship can also be your enemy. I know my wife was very unkeen about having both her husband and our child in diapers at the same time. These are a few things that you sometimes need to overcome. Have you communicated with your partner about your feelings? Have you listened to your wife's feelings? Sometimes it is great for both partners to just be completely honest so both know where you stand. Hiding your diaper desires can further complicate things as most woman feel almost cheated on in this situation. My wife's biggest problem with being sexually attracted to me wearing diapers is the smell. She has super sensitive senses and it is hard to want your husband's wee wee when it always smells like a used diaper. Through communicating I learned this from her so I took some steps to take internal deodorizers to try and mitigate some of my diaper smell. I learned this by talking to her. In our relationship my wife did cuckold me. She did not do so because she was sexually deprived or frustrated even though she most definitely was. She did it because I wanted her to do so. I have no desire to be a man in the bedroom. It is all about diapers and pink dresses. My wife did not need to suffer through my desires for the rest of her life. She needed a man to take care of her normal sexual needs that I was not able to provide. Living a cuckold lifestyle can and often times is challenging. When two people love each other more than anything and another sexual partner is brought into the mix it can easily lead to hurt feelings. Luckily for me her being with a real man so to speak sexually excited me so the dynamic worked for us. After the first time my wife had sexual intercourse with her lover she was like a completely new person. Sexually she had her batteries recharged and loved the image looking back at her in the mirror. Her husband's diapers were no longer a reminder of her sexual frustrations so she became so much more attentive to my sissy baby side. Over night she went from rarely ever changing my diapers to changing them all the time. She teased me and was playful. As with all sexual relationships the beginning is always the best and things have calmed way down on the sexual front in our relationship and with her lover. My wife can cuckold me at anytime but does not do so mainly because emotionally she loves me so much. I believe in your situation it is possible that seeking different sexual partners could have a negative impact on your relationship. What happens if you find the Mommy of your dreams? If your wife is insecure about you wearing diapers I imagine it would only be worse if you were with another woman. You and your wife seem to both have some tough choices to make and I wish you two the best of luck.

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