Lilbigbaby

Oh my that sounds a little too overt my liking! Maybe something a little more subtle on a mask than a paci print would be nice... I’m sure someone on Etsy is probably already on the case. The main attraction for me is being able to discretely use a pacifier in public, I’m going to give it a try this weekend for the “big shop”.

So who’s wearing a pacifier under their face mask in public? While it’s unfortunate we have to wear face masks now, it seems like the ideal opportunity to be a bit more risqué in public, could be exiting? Part of the thrill could be you can’t talk like an adult even if you wanted to, well maybe just about, might risk your paci falling out though.

Hey zedbaby, welcome to the community, hopefully no need to feel isolated anymore :). I’m happy to chat and/or meet-up, maybe we can arrange a small group meet-up or something. I’ll PM/kik you.

Hi all, I’ve been thinking about this for a while but now decided I’d like to meet another ABDL boy or girl. Maybe just to chat or hang out at first, but I’m really hoping to find someone to change each other’s nappies and other fun things. I’m in west Wiltshire/Bath/Bristol area. Please message me if you’re in the area and interested in meeting up

That’s a really valuable insight, thank you Snugglebear_69. I wonder if I can find a dynamic relationship like that eventually, in any case definitely reassuring that it can work. It’s interesting you say it enhances the bond between you and your Daddy and wife, I think that is what I hoped for the most when I explained the most intimate part of my personality to my partner.

Ok so i’m referring to long term as in 10 years plus, short term is 2-5 years. It’s not that I’m desperate for sex, far from it, it’s more the prospect of never having sex again. Now this applies to us both, ultimately this has come about form my mistakes and she deserves a happy and fulfilling sex life. We have had frank discussions and we’re in counselling and it is working for us, we are in an ok place for now. While I accept I could give up sex for love, is that a fair compromise for her? I actually think it would be destructive long term with both of us growing more and more resentful of each other. Love is great and all, but it needs nourishment and doesn’t exist on its own. Presently i’m happy to make whatever compromises I can to stay together short term. I’m probably getting a bit ahead of myself in anticipating where we will be in 10 or so years down the line.

Thank you for calling me out on that one, yes I left too late, and yes I made some big mistakes. Right now I know it is about damage control and we’re working through it. I’ve never seen her in a mommy role and it’s never been my intention to push her in that direction. The issue isn’t that I want her to be involved, although it would be amazing if she did, but that is very much on her own terms. In terms of our relationship before the big reveal (or more accurately big discovery, again, a mistake) it was on good ground. I was always attentive to her needs before she found out, and I would continue on this basis if she were to see me as a sexual partner again, I just don’t know if this will ever happen.

Ok so I’m looking for a bit advice, ever since I revealed my ABDL side to my partner it has destroyed any kind of sexual attraction from her. From what I’ve read this seems fairly common, has anyone overcome this? I’m particularly keen to hear from partners whom are not AB or DL but accept that their partner is, are you able to compartmentalise in order to have a conventional sexual relationship with your partner when they are not in their little space? If so how? Or do you always see them as a baby and hence someone you cannot desire sexually. This question comes from my current predicament in my relationship. Essentially we’ve decided to stay together (for the kids mostly) in a sex-less relationship in the hope that sex might be attractive again, someday. Now this is fine for the short term, but obviously I’m not going to accept never having sex again. I’ve thought about raising the option for us to allow each other to see other sexual partners. I’ve read about couples who do this and they seem reasonably happy, not sure how my partner would react though. The other option is that we eventually separate, but that has me wondering if I will ever find a woman who wants to continue sex once I reveal my little side.

Thank you both for making me feel welcome. I really am going through a difficult time at the moment so means a lot to have support and reassurance from others who are or have been through similar experiences.

Like many others I’ve been lurking for a while but finally signed up. I’m a DL turned AB as I found out more about the scene and discovered more about myself. Over the past few years I’ve been facing a lot of stress and anxiety at work and turned to my ABDL side to help me manage. It worked really well until my partner found out... made some big mistakes there... anyhow that’s a story for another time. Great to finally sign up and looking forward to getting support from the community and discussing things with like minded people.

Only my partner knows about my ABDL and I have to keep the garments hidden from my kids, so that presents some challenges for me. In the winter it’s easier as I can hang items on radiators when everyone is out (I’m in the UK and work from home most days). In the summer I use a 30min tumble dry cycle, not too long to risk shrinking but just enough to evaporate most of the moisture, then hang on clothes horse inside. One thing I’m really anxious of is forgetting to collect them before the kids get home, or for someone to arrive unexpectedly. I can be fairly confident about where my house occupants are or when guests might be arriving so far thankfully there is a low risk of this happening. Your circumstances may be different but seems like you at least have discreet access to the washing machine.