Dlbychoice

When I'm wearing my Nappy all I feel is that I'm wetting. There is no sign that it's about to happen. No sign of my bladder filling up. I don't even feel it running down the urethra. I just feel it exiting. But when I'm not wearing everything is fine. Only time I have to be conscious is when I have been wearing 24/7 and have to be out of my nappies for whatever reason for the first day or so. Then everything is fine. I'm always amazed no matter how long I am out of my nappies and put one on. It just happens.

I am a married man with two kids. It's was 2015 when I told my wife. My kids are now 19 and 16. You can work out their age in 2015. I have been wearing nappies around the house since then. I often go 24/7. It's not impossible to do. The big thing for me was thst my wife was okay with it. My kids as far as I know don't know anything about me wearing nappies out of choice. I won't say need because it not a medical need. You just have to take precautions. Make sure your nappies are to noisy. Wear cloths that conceal more. Don't act any different when wear to what you would when not wearing. Be observant of your cloths. For instance, I wear all my shirts untucked. Now if had to start using a onesie as my shirt. It's now my shirt tucked in. That raises questions. I don't own onesies for that very reason. I could wear one under my normal shirt. But the climate I live in is extremely hot. So having what would effectively be two shirts on is a no, no. Basically, don't flaunt it. Make sure your partner is happy. Make sure you address any of their concerns. Be considerate and responsible and you will be fine.

So I have started the transition from disposable nappies to cloth pocket nappies. There are a few reasons for this. One cost. Two in South Africa getting abdl nappies is seriously expensive. More on the import duties. Often duties cost more than the purchase. Three I have found I can get printed cloth nappies on Temu. The prints aren't as cute as abdl nappies but they are so much better than the plain medical nappies we get here. I tell you I am loving cloth nappies. The last a long time. With the correct setup that is. I use two bamboo 4 layer inserts. They never feel wet. They are soon comfy. It does take a while and I'm still learning when I need to change. I put one on this morning because I didn't have any clean undies. I'm still in the same one. I have been constantly wetting it. My vody has learned over the years to let's say dribble often. I never flood unless I have been holding it and then putting a nappy on and then letting go. I haven't slept in one yet. But I'm working up to it. I'm still testing the capacity. But as I have said already. Cloth pocket nappies are amazing.

No my wife doesn't have a kink part of her. However I do support her in many other ways. As far as I know, she doesn't realize that it's due to me wearing nappies. If that makes sense. But, outside of my nappies, I'll do pretty much anything for her out of how much I love her. We have been married nearly 25 years now.

It is something I have spoken to her about for a very long time and in several. So she knows it's something I want one day. If I remember correctly I told my wife about me wearing nappies about 10 years ago. It's been a long very bumpy and rough road. But the one thing that has never wavered is our love for each other. I have posted about it on here and people have scolded me about it. But i think a majority of us who have SO's have wanted them to change our nappies and be very involved. But we cannot force them to do it. As much as we want them to. So it's come from absolutely not wanting anything to do with it and at some points despising me over it. To allowing me wear around the house completely covered of course. To e wearing and letting her know I'm wearing and her being happy I told her. To openly wearing in front of her in the bedroom. To her saying it's fine for me to put on or change my nappy in front of her. To what's happened now. In one of our last conversations we had she said she is trying. She has done her own research etc. Sadly the research she came across majority was negative stuff as it would be if you didn't k ow exactly what to look for. The point is that she has been actively trying to understand the situation. At.least one positive thing that has come out of her research is that she understands that wearing is part of what makes me. That was in no way influenced by me. And one doesn't just come to that conclusion without researching and reading up about it. My wife putting me in and or changing my nappies will come. But it will come in time. I do suspect sooner rather than later as her comments and tolerance has sped up a bit.

I had posted on this forum the other day of my titled frustrations. I'm not going to go into it now. But as the posts of support came through, one poster asked me if I have ever thanked my Wife. That got me thinking for as far back as I could to try and remember if I had in fact ever thanked my wife. I came up blank. So I sat for a bit and thought of how to word it. Because this subject can be a bit of a problem to talk about. Put it this way. I would say 70% of the time we talk it gets heated. So I decided to message her. This has worked better in the past. The message went something like this and the message from my wife followed. ME "Love. It occurred to me the other day and I have not found the right time or place to say this to you. I'd rather tell you this in this format rather than face to face because I'll probably screw it up.😜 I want to thank you and tell you how much I appreciate you for tolerating me in nappies. It means the world to me. Thank you my Love." WIFE I love you too. And I know it is part of who you are. I am trying to work on my part of it but not there yet... One day.. ME Thank you for working on your part. I look forward to it one day. Just know that they make me content and comfort. That's where it ended. I wasn't going to say anything more. For a change it was nice and simple. There was no need to complicate it. This morning I was changing out of my night time nappy and into a fresh nappy. My wife calls out from the bathroom and says. Please be careful with the heat of today. It can cause you to have a nappy rash. She has never said anything of the sort. Things are changing. Slow that it may be. But they are changing.

Thank you for your response. Makes sense.

Thank you for your response. I think that is my problem with the word fetish and the relation to DL and ABDL. That it's always related or assumed that it's sexual in nature. Hence me not wanting to associate what gives me relief and whatever else it does to a fetish. I don't think it's bothersome to me. I think I just get into a stupid head space and want to know why. Maybe it has something to do with me being ADD amd always wantingnto know more. I derstand more. There is also the faxt that Im married and my wife knows about it. She isn't involved in it but I can go about wearing a nappy around her. Obviously covered completely when we are in the rest of the house. I can change in front of her, which I feel embarrassed about. But that type of thing. But she won't allow anything else such as giving my butt a pat. Etc. So there is some sort of acceptance there. But I also think, part of the difficulty that I have already spoken about is that, as much as my wife says she accepts me as I am. Or as she puts it. I must do what I must do. I don't feel on an emotional level that she has accepted me for who I am or have become. But before anyone jumps on the band wagen, I have not forced anything onto my wife. No matter how much I want her to be more involved. We have however spoken about it on many occasions with no change. This is helping me a lot guys. Thank you. I haven't been able to talk to anyone about this and not be judged or get an honest answer. Keep it coming.

I actually and honestly I dont like calling it a fetish. For me it's just something I do and find great comfort in. But I don't know how to name it if it's not a fetish to me. Well at least in my mind. That feeling I get putting a nappy on for the first time in a long time. It's undiscribable. Feelling the nappy on me and as it gradually gets wet. It's the nicest sensation. But I can't quick figure out the exact feelings I get. I think this is what I'm battling with. I can't name it. It just so nice and works for me. But when I come back to it. Be it a year, a month, a week, I fully submerge myself into it. What I mean is that I'm constantly on different sites and forums. Constantly researching. I then get information exhausted and stop if I haven't masturbated and start feeling guilty.

So I have been a DL for a long time now. With all the literature out there about this subject, I would estimate about 90% say that a DL wears nappies for serial pleasure. I have to disagree with this but at the same time agree. This is my frustration. I personally can go months if not a year without wanting a nappy on. Then I get this deep desire that comes from deep inside me that I need my nappies again. Then in some instances I can't go a week with out needing my nappies. I then start wearing in the afternoons. Then it progresses to afternoon and evening then the need increases. But most of the time it's not for sexual pleasure. Then other times it is. Put it this way. When my need comes up for my nappies, it's not driven by the sexual side of it. But at times I end up masturbating in them. Then i have the good old guilt and not wanting to wear. But at the same time I want to carry on wearing. See my frustration. HELP....

Hello my like minded People. A good long while ago I decided that I couldnt wear nappies as my wife wasn't supportive. Well when I say not supportive. She knew about it but refused to have anything to do with it. It eventually got to a point that I had to make a choice. Marriage or nappies. I chose my marriage. A lot of people here will be totally against this decision for many reasons which I get. But at the time I had to do what I had to do. Fast forward a bit and the urges come back. I tell my wife what was happening with me and that I need to be padded again for a while. If I remember correctly she didn't really say anything. So I went out and got what I needed and proceeded. This went on for a while and the need went away. This then lasted fora good probably 6 months. Then the urge came back same thing. But this time I got an okay. But this time i wrote a letter to my wife. With something that I hoped would help. In the letter I gave her three stages of involvement. Stage one was checking to see if I was in a nappy by doing a bum pat. If I wasnt in one she needed to tell me to go out one on. Stage two was a little more involved. It was stage one but this time taking a nappy out for me and telling me to put it on or leave it in the bed when I went for a shower. Ot also included putting me in a clean nappy. Stage three was all of the above but changing my nappies every now and then. Basically I was giving her the control of when and where I could wear a nappy. But this got no reaction. In fact all the times I spoke to her by a message because I cannot speak tocher face to face as we have had massive fights over this in the past. She has just ignored my messages. I would say about 2 months ago. I thought I was finally over being a DL with slight AB tendencies. I threw everything out. But just recently my life has become extremely stressful. So the need for nappies came back with a bang. I messaged her and explained to her that I need nappies again and the reasons for it. This time o got a message back saying I need to do what I need to do to help me get through what I am going through. So I have been wearing my nappies on and off. On front of her and on bed on the odd occasion. It's helped me a lot. But, I have never been able to get over that I have never been able to accept myself fully because my wife hasn't accepted me fully. Or even where I stand with my wife. I don't know how to take things from here. Any suggestions.

Hello my like minded People. A good long while ago I decided that I couldnt wear nappies as my wife wasn't supportive. Well when I say not supportive. She knew about it but refused to have anything to do with it. It eventually got to a point that I had to make a choice. Marriage or nappies. I chose my marriage. A lot of people here will be totally against this decision for many reasons which I get. But at the time I had to do what I had to do. Fast forward a bit and the urges come back. I tell my wife what was happening with me and that I need to be padded again for a while. If I remember correctly she didn't really say anything. So I went out and got what I needed and proceeded. This went on for a while and the need went away. This then lasted fora good probably 6 months. Then the urge came back same thing. But this time I got an okay. But this time i wrote a letter to my wife. With something that I hoped would help. In the letter I gave her three stages of involvement. Stage one was checking to see if I was in a nappy by doing a bum pat. If I wasnt in one she needed to tell me to go out one on. Stage two was a little more involved. It was stage one but this time taking a nappy out for me and telling me to put it on or leave it in the bed when I went for a shower. Ot also included putting me in a clean nappy. Stage three was all of the above but changing my nappies every now and then. Basically I was giving her the control of when and where I could wear a nappy. But this got no reaction. In fact all the times I spoke to her by a message because I cannot speak tocher face to face as we have had massive fights over this in the past. She has just ignored my messages. I would say about 2 months ago. I thought I was finally over being a DL with slight AB tendencies. I threw everything out. But just recently my life has become extremely stressful. So the need for nappies came back with a bang. I messaged her and explained to her that I need nappies again and the reasons for it. This time o got a message back saying I need to do what I need to do to help me get through what I am going through. So I have been wearing my nappies on and off. On front of her and on bed on the odd occasion. It's helped me a lot. But, I have never been able to get over that I have never been able to accept myself fully because my wife hasn't accepted me fully. Or even where I stand with my wife. I don't know how to take things from here. Any suggestions.

Thanks all for your replies. I will work on something to lessen the noise. My wife who knows I wear, can hear my nappies even the quite ones. She is aways concerned about our kids hearing them. So she is very sensitive to it. I have worn Clemens nappies which have a cloth lined plastic backing. They crinkle a little. My wife picked it up. I think I need to talk to her to get some me time sometime soon. I think that's the best thing for now.

Hi. All I need some advise. I got myself for the first time ever some LFB nappies. But the problem i discovered is that they are seriously noisy. Which means I can't wear them around my family like I can with the boring medical nappies I can get where I live. For those who where noisy nappies be it the AB type or medical type and have constant family or friends around and I mean all the time besides working during the day. How do you wear them with out your nappy making noise and that no one finds out. I am very good at hiding my cloth backed nappies. Because they are clotch backed and thin. But I have no idea how to hide my new AB Nappies. I really,, really want to wear them.

I have had baby formula in the past and liked it as well. I haven't had it for years now. But my thoughts would be. Have baby formula but have it as a supplement to your normal food. Otherwise, the other thing I have is warm milk with some honey in it. Absolutely delish.