dlnoir

Good point, somebody broke the ice at one point or another and got the wheels in motion. Because someone took the first step others with the same feelings and desires felt free to talk about it as well. Your comment threw me back a couple of years, when certain members of our community started to openly talk about catheter and stent use to cause incontinence. Because of that some other members started to talk about the risks and potential dangers involved. To my opinion both are right. It is better to not stick anything inside your body that doesn’t belong there but we fulfil a need or desire, driven by whatever reason to just place a catheter or stent to become incontinent so some of us do. We can be very thankful for the opportunity given by the moderators of DD to guide and moderate these discussions in the right direction and by doing so maintain a platform in which everybody felt safe to speak their minds. By sharing experiences and learn from mistakes made by others we could very well have prevented some serious incidents by fellow members, whom shared the same desire but didn’t know how to proceed. Since there has been a lot of discussion about catheter or stent use, regardless on which side of the spectrum you are, people know we are there and thanks to a healthy platform it has become a healthy and open topic as well. I think that is what this is all about, connecting. I know a lot of members including me felt a burden lifted off of their shoulders the moment they discovered they were not the only one with a desire to wear and use diapers as an adult. Same thing applied when I learned that I wasn’t the only one with the desire to become incontinent So maybe now we will find a group within our community whom share the same BIID / BID feelings and start talking about it. I have no idea how it will evolve but I am most definitely thankful that DD gives the opportunity to talk about it, cause sharing feelings and not being dissed about it is worth a million. Here we do not have to prevent members to make mistakes here we just have to listen, be kind and open. We are here, we are part of the community and it is a safe place people see that, so if they share the same feelings they are most likely to join the discussion.

Just thoughts I don’t have no answers that is for sure. People judge for the most part in just a few milliseconds. A little fact check: In 2006, a team of psychologists from Princeton University (USA) determined that we have a tenth of a second to make a first impression. People judge our charm, kindness, reliability, ability and aggressiveness by looking at our face for just 100 milliseconds. This study also shows that a longer observation of the same faces only strengthens the first impression. The importance of the first impression is evolutionarily determined. In order to survive, it was necessary for humans to be able to make a quick assessment of possible risks and threats. Even today, the ability to make a quick estimate is functional to a certain extent. So you look very masculine, there is not a whole lot you can do about it, you are dealt these genes and it is how people see you when they get to see you the first time, but don’t let the way they see you become your burden. The way I see it. Life is like a card game, you get dealt your initial hand and you will have to play the game of life. During the game of life you will be dealt some new cards maybe even get the chance to put some cards aside or change hands but the initial hand will always be there, the very foundation in the game the very foundation of what you are made off. For sure our desire to wear diapers and the desire to become incontinent might look and probably looks odd but we do nothing wrong. Keeping our desire a secret most certainly is a load to carry from time to time. If it is given to us by the creator of man this is something he said: No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. My take on this, it doesn’t mean it is easy to endure and that is my experience. This is my defense to those who sit in judgment on me, don't we have the right to life our lives as we see fit and feel comfortable with? Should we lie constantly or be living in fear? I doubt we will ever overcome our rather strange desires for it is such a fundamental part of our being, nothing we asked for but it is part of the initial hand we are dealt. There is one thing I know for sure for the time being. Although the world screams acceptance and inclusiveness they are not ready for adult man wearing diapers for fun and make themselves incontinent by whatever means. The best thing we can do is accept ourselves for what we are. We are beautiful and we have our value even if others do or will not see it. We can help in our own little community and find our worth right there. And maybe one day the world would be ready too. Meanwhile I’ll share my thought here and if there are fellow members whom find support in them it is a good thing too. And yes I am weird.

Yes more than once i got over it now i no longer care.

I do not drink very often but that doesn’t mean there isn’t something I really like. I like whiskey especially the heavier Scottish single malts and I like France cognac. But there is nothing wrong with a good bottle of wine.

It wouldn't take much to find my diapers but they aren't out in the open either. I live on my own get only very little visitors so no need to overdue hiding them.

To poo or not to poo that is the question.

Well I am no specialist as it comes to things like this, never the less I share a small fragment of my thoughts. The Taliban had a couple of things the USA and their allies didn’t have or had a shortage off, being time and will, both cost nothing but patience. They had the time to wait it all out and they had the will to do so. If you were to look back in history only a view countries whom conquered by another held on to it indefinitely. Maintaining a status like that takes billions and billions in cash and resources and numerous lives unfortunately. Given the fact that the Taliban took over control after the US and their allies retreated, is proof they still had some sort of control in every layer of the society and army.

I am a DL and have been as long as I can remember my memories go back to the age of two and a half / three years old. I only discovered much, much later in life that I was not the only one with these strange feelings and desires. By now I know it is just a part of who I am. For the most part I am here to learn from others and being here it makes me feel I am not alone or some weird freak. Being here make me feel I am amongst kindred minds. All this being said I am very selective in what I read I only read those topics I feel related to.

I dress normal when I have to take care of my daily business. Things change as soon as I get home. As soon as I get home I’ll take off my disposable diaper and change into cloth. I keep my pants close by just in case, but at home I wear nothing but a T-shirt my cloth diaper and some plastic pants and that is it.

Not disruptive at all as I already wear 24/7 by choice.

Currently wearing a dry cloth diaper and plastic pants.

I love to wear my wet diaper but like already said by one of the previous posters once it is taken off, I will not reuse it, it stays off. I stay dry for only a limited time as I use stents to wet my diaper. During my holiday break this summer I have been wearing nothing but cloth diapers for a little over three and a half weeks. Wearing cloth diapers makes you feel really wet and I like that. Especially the mornings are sheer heaven. Usually I put on a clean dry diaper before I turn in and when I wake up the next day and find my cloth diaper completely soaked front to back I feel like I am in heaven for that it how it is supposed to be.

Yes the world is still out there and from where I am standing it is not getting better.

I've been wearing diapers to work for some 24 years now as I wear 24/7. I do not wear ABDL diapers but Attends these are not too thick and hold a decent amount. Over the disposable diaper I wear a thin single layer cloth diaper and a plastic pants. As far as I know nobody knows and if they do they never said a word. I truly belief as it comes to wearing diapers out and about most of the worries live inside our own head. During my working hours I usually change my diaper once. The thin cloth diaper and plastic pants are there for extra protection if the disposable diaper starts to leak and I like the authentic look.

I have two closets in my bedroom one packed with disposable diapers and the second one for the most part with cloth diapers and plastic pants. Surplus disposable diapers are stored on the attic as they will last me a couple of years I suppose, I prefer cloth diapers in the first place. So they are not really hidden but not in plain sight either. Sometimes friends from my kids come over to play and I’d rather not have them see it.

Sorry no longer the only one i prefer A too.

I'll change whenever it is needed and no sooner.

To out someone is very disrespectful to say the least. They have no right to so and it is one of the biggest invasion of your privacy. If you flaunt your diaper and provoke them it is a different story but other than that it is your own business.

Nothing changed over the last days, been wearing cloth non stop for a little over last two weeks now still love my cloth diapers and plastic pants.☺️

I prefer to wear cloth and I would do so to work as well if it wasn't so incovenient if you have to change it.

Been wearing cloth non stop for the last two weeklove cloth diapers and plastic pants.

Hell no, especially the ones worn by others no way.

This exactly, for me nothing beats cloth.

Awesome milestone. ?

I wouldn't worry about it. Nobody really pays attention to what you are wearing as long as you do not over do it. I am currently on my summer break / holidays for a period of three weeks and I have been wearing cloth constantly, goo out for errands you name it. People care about their own business and have little or no attention to what other people are wearing. I would say if you want to wear cloth wear it, I know I do.