Kaliborio

My move into diapers 24/7 was originally prompted by not feeling able to deal well with my continence issues if I wasn't diapered full-time. (Being AB/DL absolutely helped, but I suspect I probably would have made the call either way.) I tend to think that yes, it absolutely is permissible; it's always permissible to do whatever increases comfort.

It's always difficult to know how to answer this one. I remember being in diapers as a kid, including as a baby, but about 9 of my first 18 years were spent in diapers (not all consecutive) so that doesn't say much. I do dimly remember being in diapers as a baby, but when I wasn't a baby any more I was still in diapers, so there wasn't really a meaningful change.

I'm a woman. The fact that I'm trans doesn't particularly inform the way that I'm a woman. I prefer men slightly but I generally have a fairly low libido and am perfectly happy having no one.

This is a tough one to answer because most people's first stay in diapers lasts from birth until about 2 years 6 months old, and mine lasted until about 7 years old, so I wore a lot of diapers in that time period. Having said that, I'm fairly sure the diapers I was in when I was younger than about 4 were a mix of Huggies and Snugglers. After that, it was a mix of cloth and disposables that I didn't know the brand of. My training pants were cloth and I don't know what brand they were.

I am a communist. Specifically, I am an orthodox Marxist, i.e., the variety of Marxist that Lenin was before he and Stalin developed their own theoretical tendency (which was Marxism-Leninism, the governing ideology of the Soviet Union and the People's Republic of China). I believe the theory of political economy expressed in Marx's Capital is more accurate and has better predictive and explanatory power than the modern economic theory I was taught. I believe a people's-democratic socialist government is absolutely necessary. Having said that, I believe Marxism-Leninism as a way of implementing Marxism is dead. I believe we should learn what we can from the Soviet Union, and from socialism with Chinese characteristics, and start blazing our own path. I also believe that the Red/Black split needs to heal. I believe existing anarchists and MLs are too rah-rah campist to learn from each other, which they desperately need to do. MLs have a great political-economic analysis but no materially functional strategy or tactics. Anarchists are brilliant on the ground but have a tendency to go "we'll deal with that later" about stuff you really need to deal with now.

Under no pretext should arms and ammunition be surrendered; any attempt to disarm the workers must be frustrated, by force if necessary. —Karl Marx, Address of the Central Committee to the Communist League, London, March 1860

Nope. I went no contact with my dad a year after moving out. My mum has been severely mentally ill my whole life; she doesn't have the capacity to have a relationship with me, good or not.

I'm IC, so like... not deliberately, but yeah.

I do wear all the time. When I started, I was wearing mid-range disposables, but as I started developing pretty much complete urinary incontinence, I switched to cloth diapers. After I started developing FI as well, I switched back to a mix of cloth and high-performance disposables. My actual diapering setup tends to consist of a high-performance disposable diaper under a pull-on cloth diaper under plastic pants. The disposable is usually whichever high-absorbency disposable I can buy in bulk for cheapest, although I have a personal fondness for ABU Space platform diapers and if I can get those I always will. If I need discretion I ditch the cloth diaper and swap out unlined plastic pants for a pair with absorbent lining. If I need performance I ditch the disposable diaper and add extra layers of cloth. The trade-off of this whole setup is that pretty much all of my diaper setups simply would not work for most people; my "discreet" setup is what most people would consider heavy, my "ordinary" setup is what most people would consider super-heavy, and my "heavy" setup is what most people would consider ridiculous. However, my entire wardrobe is functionally adapted to it, so it's not a discretion problem; my clothes are just shapeless in a way that blurs it. The reason my diapering setup is so absurdly heavy is that, IMO, there are virtually no single options which are appropriate for me as a completely incontinent person with limited opportunities to change, no mobility issues, and heavy commuting and work commitments. I got started with this because I didn't want to worry about leaking on my clothes in the event of having to sit down in an unplanned messy diaper, and it's just generally worked out much less irritating than its predecessors. I'm never caught in a life-destroyingly awkward situation.

Hey! I was referred here by an ask that was sent to my blog. I'm a bedwetter of this kind. Granted, I think I'm not necessarily a "pure" example because I had chronic issues with continence prior, but I developed from "basically no accidents" to "bedwetting full-time" from about mid-2012 through the end of 2013, and I believe that it was due to 24/7 wear and to some extent consciously pursuing untraining. My experience, both personally and with other people who have untrained, is that once you become a bedwetter as a result of untraining, it is — as far as I have been able to reasonably determine — permanent. I agree with Little Sherri's conclusion: it's not as if you can catch yourself bedwetting and stop it. Even if you decide that bedwetting is the negative outcome, there's no 'positive' stimulus to do conditioning with, no bell for Pavlov's dog to salivate at. There's just the negative stimulus (wetting the bed) and the lack of it, which could be a good thing or could be complete chance, and is in any case impossible to "reward" yourself for. Anecdotally, I have also observed (across a very limited sample size) that developing bedwetting seems to make it harder to regain or retain daytime continence. I think it might be because even when you're wetting in your sleep, your mind is internalising that it's okay to wet your diapers. If the thing you're trying to do is not wet your diapers, that's pretty much fatal.

Hey. I've got complex PTSD, and I absolutely agree with the idea that AB/DL is partly a coping mechanism for that. BitterGrey of understanding.infantilism.org co-authored a peer-reviewed article in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy last year noting a high rate of adverse childhood experiences among young AB/DL males.

Hey! So, I've been 24/7 for seven years. I've had major continence issues pretty much my entire life and realised I was an AB/DL in early adolescence. Here's how I've incorporated AB/DL into more smoothly handling my life. I use a changing pad, gloves, baby powder, Sudocrem, and wipes, after every change, because it's just a good idea. I have seat protectors, plus a spare changing mat, spare pack of diapers and change of clothes in my car. My closet is pretty much full of diapers. There's a PVC bottom sheet on my bed (for half the year, in winter, there's only a PVC bottom sheet on my bed; I'm usually wearing a sleeper and therefore don't have to worry about sticking to the PVC with sweat, so there's no use having a cloth bottom sheet as well that I might leak onto). I have a diaper bin next to my bed. I have tie-on chair pads on my furniture. In terms of wardrobe, I don't dress in an overtly babyish fashion, but entirely due to selection pressures, my wardrobe tends to look pretty toddler-y. I obviously have AB/DL-exclusive clothes in there, like bodysuits, diaper covers, rompers, and sleepers, but my daily outerwear is also stuff that usually has a babywear equivalent: overalls, shortalls, dresses that flare just below the bust, knit cardigans, loose shorts, pinafore dresses, riptape sneakers, tights, track pants. It also tends to exclude stuff like bikinis, blazers, booty shorts, crop tops, lace-up shoes, miniskirts, jeans, sheath dresses, and two-piece pyjamas. One of my anxiety/autism-related tics is grinding my teeth and constantly biting my fingers, so I use my pacifiers to deal with this when I'm working at home.

I was probably about 12. It was more complicated for me than I think it is for a lot of people because I have had chronic continence problems for all of my life. Many AB/DLs, when saying they feel safer in diapers, mean that in a purely emotional sense. This is also true for me. However, I also feel safer in diapers in the literal sense that they keep my clothes clean. I was told for a long time that I must be lying about one side (usually an AB/DL lying about being incontinent), because obviously someone who had been in diapers their whole life would never want to go back to them. My general thinking is that my AB/DL status is likely trauma-based, like any other AB/DL, and separate from my incontinence.

Sure have. I am incontinent and relatively low-income, so it was always going to happen.

None. I've been in diapers continuously since the beginning of 2013. There have been short periods in my life where I generally wore plain briefs. I began a gender transition in July of 2020 and occasionally wish I had been able to keep any continence; panties look nice but I am not going to buy them just to ruin them.

IC people: Did you think you were more continent than you were? Background: I'm a completely IC 24/7 wearer who can't leave diapers, but even before I went into diapers full-time as an adult I had spent a lot of time in them. For clarity, when I went into diapers voluntarily I was 18ish (went into them part-time before 18, full-time after). Before that I'd spent about 9 years in what we would conventionally consider diapers. If you count pullups and other forms of less than maximum protection, 11 to 12. I was pretty much constantly dry at night between 8yo and 11yo, but after about 14yo I woke up wet an average of once a month. I would usually have daytime wetting accidents once or twice a year. I also messed my pants maybe 2 or 3 times between 14yo and 18yo. The year I was 16/17yo it was bad enough that I went to my high school graduation in pull-ups. In mid-2012 I decided to go into diapers part time. I definitely had an AB motivation for wanting to do it because I am AB. However, I also had a material motivation/pretext for wanting to do it: I was worried that I'd wet myself in an exam because of not getting time to go to the toilet beforehand. If you'd asked me though, and if I had answered with my honest opinion, I would have said that my continence was pretty much 100%. I literally thought that semi-regular bedwetting and intermittent day wetting and occasional messing were 100% continence. I only really learned that that almost never happened to actual fully continent people after I was in diapers full-time, and my mind was kind of blown. Did this happen to anyone else?

So, I'm totally incontinent at this point. I started wearing voluntarily part-time in mid-2012 because I had a history of shaky continence for most of my life up to then and was worried if I had an accident it would interfere with my uni classes. (For context, my country's academic year is the calendar year.) I think the first time I can remember not noticing peeing as an adult was during one of my exams at the end of 2012. I went in dry and came out wet and didn't remember it. As for bedwetting, I was pretty much always dry before I was 12, but since about 14, I've generally woken up wet 10 to 12 times a year. It definitely got worse through 2013, though. It sort of worsened abruptly around the end of March and then slacked off after that but only to the point of being once every one or two weeks, so about double the frequency it was before. I remember noticing that and thinking it was odd. I voluntarily messed from about mid 2013 onward but the first time I couldn't hold it was in early 2014. I knew I needed to go badly but I just assumed that I would make it, but I didn't. I think something about that psychologically lessened my confidence in my own control because I started having accidents (that I was actively trying to prevent) much more frequently after that.

Depends where you draw the line between 'bedwetter' and 'untrainee'. I took until about 8 to toilet train but I was completely dry at night once I managed it. However, I had to go back into diapers at about 11 and stayed in them for a couple of years. When I got out of them again, my night-time control was never quite the same. Since I was 14 I'd say I've probably woken up wet maybe a dozen times a year average. I went back into diapers part-time voluntarily in 2012 and full-time at the beginning of 2013. My bedwetting definitely worsened through 2013; it was about once a week by mid-2013. It is now constant; I almost never wake up dry, and if I do it's entirely by chance.

I'm an ex-Catholic Quaker. I do use electronic Bibles; I used to use the New International Version, but I'm not a big fan these days. I usually switch between the New American Standard Bible if I want to know what it actually says, and the original King James Version if I want to read something that sounds cool.

Sure do. I had underlying continence issues for a big portion of my life before I went into diapers, but I had been out of diapers for several years before I went into them. After about a year of wearing them I started messing them voluntarily. After about 9 months of that I tried to not mess my diapers and failed. I still had partial control then but it's declined since and I would say I've had pretty much zero messing control since about the beginning of 2017.

Depends whose standards you're judging by - my life, which was bizarre and weird, or others'. My ageplay age is about 5. My toy choices are pretty age appropriate. Most people are well out of diapers by 5, or would be wearing training pants instead, etc. I'm completely incontinent, though, so my diaper choices are the kind of cloth and disposable diapers that most other people would consider 'overnight' grade. From a strictly objective point of view, that's inauthentic. However, I was also completely incontinent at 5. My clothing choices are the other way around. They're basically informed by whatever was being worn in Huggies ads in my childhood, LOL - polo shirts, khaki shorts, riptape sneakers, etc. Technically the kids wearing those are probably about 2-4 so it's a little younger than my age. However, at 5, because I was still in diapers I was pretty much stuck in clothes that prioritised 'fitting comfortably over diapers' and 'ease of access to diapers', which had the effect of making me look like I was about 1.

It depends (ha ha) on how you define it. If you define it based on when I should have been out of diapers but wasn't, I started wearing diapers when I was about 3 years and 6 months old. If you define it based on when I started wearing diapers after infancy, that would have been when I was about 11 or 12 and had to go back into them for incon. If you define it based on when I started wearing diapers without being completely incontinent, that would have been when I was 14 and was back to being mostly continent again; I still wore diapers for safety's sake on some occasions, and had accidents here and there. If you define it based on when I started wearing diapers completely voluntarily without a pressing material need, that would have been just a hair before I turned 18.

In a stack of modular drawer units in my room.

At the time, yes, but mostly because I failed it. I was 7 before I got into Pull-Ups.

Yeah, I have to. It wouldn't be ethical not to.