I know that saying this, is bolting the stable door when the horse has bolted.
When I used to go on a date in my 20's/30's, I always wore a nappy and plastic pants.
If "play" got serious, they would be found, questions asked and I would explain that they were a precaution, that I liked to wear them because I felt safe and then admitted to being a bedwetter.
Only a few, 10%, left and I saw about 75% again, but the way girls tell each other everything, there were probably others who heard and always chose someone else.
"LOVE" is put there to blind you to each other's faults, long enough to knock the rough edges off each other, but sometimes there are just too many too rough edges.