Dill_Pickle

Umm, the problem with UPS delivering to P.O. boxes (not the same as a rented Private mailbox, which is *not* at the post office) is that the US Postal service is protecting it's monopoly. UPS stores accept packages from all carriers --- UPS, FedEx, USPS, you name it.... Also, the better suppliers *prefer* to use their favorite shipper...but can generally also use the USPS, if you ask ahead of time and are willing to pay a bit extra for the trouble. Dill Pickle

OK, time to stop whining and put my money where my mouth is: FAQ: So You WANT to Become Incontinent Dill Pickle, editor Note: In the interest of fairness, your editor admits to being a heterosexual male in an intimate relationship that does not involve diapers. He is purely DL, admits that AB'ness for myself is too scary, and hates to clean up poop sufficiently that he hardly ever does that anyplace besides a porcelain fixture. He is motivated perhaps a little too much by being helpful. I'm not going to get into DL's and such showing up on "real" incontinence support boards, and posting HNG-like comments such as "god I love this idea" to an audience that sounds, in general, angry and crazy. This behavior is just as unacceptable as coming to this board and calling us all perverts...or going on chat and asking A/S/L as the first question. An all-too-common request from youthful newbies is to become truly, medically, incontinent. I think the motivation is acceptance, both from themselves and others, of their diapered condition, since now they have a medical excuse. Wise people who wear diapers 24/7 for months and act incontinent but aren't "really" incontinent report feeling dishonest about their diapering. Interestingly, what happens when incontinence, by causes voluntary or involuntary, happens to ABDLs, is they lose their attraction to the trappings of incontinence. This has been discussed by several posters, for example the http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=2982> "New Temp Incontinence" thread for the voluntary case, and a recent post[todo:link], for the involuntary case. http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=3697>The Incontinence Wannabees thread is a discussion and analysis. http://www.dailydiapers.com/board/index.php?showtopic=3198>Ice_Fisherman's thread "Make Me Incontinent" is a case where I think a good doctor might have induced incontinence, simply to relieve pain, probably with a foley catheter. more later... (last edit 12/15/06) Dill Pickle

TY, Cwick.... I repeat my suggestion: Can we write a (required reading) Wiki on the topic, so the stories (like the New Temp Incontinence thread) don't get lost? That's half the problem -- with almost *ANY* topic. Dill Pickle

pctrasher, I think patience is advised here....if your GF is going to like them on their own, you need to just keep making her enjoy what happens when she puts them on....or puts them on you... Eventually, she may transfer the positive associations.... Dill Pickle.

How about that secure feeling you get, that private little boost to the mood when you are wearing diapers all day, since you feel a little safer?

Rosie: I would take the road that there is nothing that SHOULD be done....not that has been suggested here... On the other hand, a little timer since a person last spoke might be nice...or maybe a "seems AFK" after an hour or two...nothing to change the operation of the chat, but something to give a bit of information. My $.02! Dill Pickle

HNGs on incon boards ARE a problem...but many of us have come here because we enjoy the boundaries that DailyD keeps that helps keep down the HNGs doing crap like that. We don't like it here, either, and the adult requirement tends to keep those types of people out of here. It's not germane here, we are here PRECISELY because we are aware that the incons largely want to be left to themselves. Eventually some incons come over here. I'm sorry the incon boards don't keep better boundaries, but I am not willing to be held responsible for people that I suspect DailyD would eject within short order if they ever got here. I was suggesting that DailyD keep some kind of a permanent record of these discussions such as a WIKI, because they come up again and again, and, frankly, bringing the noobs up to speed on it again and again is BORING, a waste of my time even to read when someone else is doing it. I'm much more interested in intelligent, well-informed questions. (Nope, there isn't any excuse, and I doubt it would be tolerated here....I may like my padding, but above all I am a human being...not a perverted sex machine -- and hope that the incon boards make some real consequences flow, like visits from the police, in real life, to the hooligans writing that.) PS: HNG = "Horny Net Geek" a pejorative for a teenager who opens the conversation with "wanna fuck" or some such other direct comment, in an attempt to perform a drive-by titillation/masturbation. a/s/l is a sure sign of one.

Jenniebear: By and large, I'll agree that some are afraid, and lurk...and others get lost in PM'ing. I think the real issue of why is because there is a fear that the lurker isn't "just lurking", but is in fact spying on us. We all need to remember that this board is basically public, here for anyone to see....and behave accordingly. Any cops will get bored to tears, as we drive out the a/s/l'ing underage HNGs. I am in favor, however, of requiring some kind of a "Yes, I'm really here" every 8 hours or so on the chat. This would just be a little box that pops up, and must be clicked "OK" on before the chat data refreshes. This accomplishes removing non-live person entities from the chat. Dill Pickle.

I've gone through a couple of scrapes with a car...and consistently have no memory of how these scrapes unfolded past a certain point, until the scrape is over. Once, a little kid ran out of a group of people on the sidewalk and into the path of my car. The next think I remember, the motor is coughing because I have stopped and completely forgotten to put the clutch in, and the child's father is thanking me. More recently, I slid off a road and the truck landed backwards on it's side in a ditch. I have memory of the wheels starting to slip, apologizing to my GF who was with me, then hanging upside down in my seatbelt. So this sort of memory loss is normal. As for what you did wrong? It's likely that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time, which is to say nothing at all...a stroke of bad luck, a dis-aster, meaning bad stars, literally. You may need some time to mourn Becky...I mourned my ex, who I had simply left behind, for about a year...the internal healing has taken me more than a decade...

I got another idea: Can we have DailyDi let us do the "wannabe" topic as a wiki? (And agree that the standard response to a wannabe post is to point to the wiki?) That should allow for a much more interesting, if much slower, conversation. Dill Pickle.

------------------------------------------------------------ I didn't mark his crotch area with a red pen, this is how it appears. At first I thought it could be excessive stage perspiration, but his upper body seems to be surprisingly dry for such a 'lively performer' Then I thought it might be just the heavy dye patches you often get on denims. But I'm still not sure it's what they've heavily hinted at in the caption. What do you think? D lly In my estimate, he's wearing some padding in front, but it's gotten a little too much pee in it...

I'll go back to the fundamentals here: WHY do people want to become incontinent? I think there's a bunch of different reasons: 1) To get a rise out of the rest of us....look at the responses to icefisherman to see how little effort it is to stir up a tempest in a teapot... 2) For self-acceptance...turtlepins has a point...the lie is hard on some folks.. 3) 17 year old wannabees, that really haven't thought it through...see "New Temporary incontinence" thread... (or maybe some of us are a bit older, but haven't figured it out) 4) Occasionally, because the current continence situation is completely miserable, as icefisherman said his situation was....I support him, and would hope his doctor would support him, if only to relieve the pain. 5) For external acceptance...if I HAVE to wear, my friends won't think I'm so wierd...I mean I'd expect to get fired if they knew the sorts of feelings I have when I'm wearing diapers...if they ever find out, I'll say it's because I *HAVE* to... 5b) For the external attention available if you "have to" wear diapers...I mean I think many AB's are in it because of the attention they get...and if you are too rigid to play at it that way, maybe you think you will get it if you "have to" wear diapers... And yeah, I'm bored by the wannabee whines myself..."new temp incontinence" and icefisherman's thread are required reading before someone can ask an interesting question. Dill Pickle.

OK, here's mine: At a rummage sale, buying a half-pack of diapers... "Could you put that in a bag for me?" "Oh, of course!" "thanks" turns out the diapers were a bit too small, used them for stuffers...I didn't pay for it, so I didn't get it, no problem....

You are probably wrong only about the trains you were allowed on...you didn't see the ones the poor used....

That's working too hard: Puppy: Made by two dogs stuck together!

Well, my pair of Depends crinkled once, and I got asked about the noise. I didn't answer, but after that I stuck a plastic grocery bag in my pocket for a few weeks. It crinkles too! Dill Pickle

I don't thnk most of us passionate types ever made a conscious decision that we liked diapers. My best theory is that when we were weaned from diapers, we also missed the physical attention that we had before being weaned. This would explain the often-observed tendency of some people to want to be diapered exactly the way they were as a child, with either cloth or disposables, and that some of us need more than just the diapers, and adopt the label Adult Baby. Liking diapers is also becoming rampant among Japanese youth....who face an unhealthy amount of adult pressure to perform well on critical exams that control future opportunities at early ages...they remember the time before the pressure, and the diapers remind them of it. Belle, you, however, don't seem to have those early imprinted associations....so if you want to learn to like diapers, find ways to form positive associations with the diapers...that is learn to like them....for example when you are wearing, have your guy pay special attention to you....or see if wearing diapers makes your monthly feminine needs any easier to deal with....or pay special attention to yourself and pleasure yourself frequently while wearing diapers. It also helps to INTEND to enjoy the diapers... I'd also say don't wear diapers too often...because wearing diapers will become automatic and normal, kind of like putting on your walking shoes before going to work in the morning. Finally, it is perfectly fine with us if you are wearing your diapers for your guy, and reading about it and trying to understand about it and asking questions here on DailyDiapers...there's even a support forum for precisely that topic, though it's not much used. And most of us thought we were freaks before we found out about the on-line communities and how many DL's and ABs there are in the world. Good luck... Dill Pickle

nullo is chlorophyll and iron... What is devron?

I've had good experience with: XP medical ABAIP diapersuperstore and with a private mailbox ($10 per month) in what is now a "UPS Store"... but these are all US distributors sending to my US address..

Checked Prostate? Umm, if your Dr didn't check it, it's time for a new Dr.....you can't afford that level of ignorance...on either end of the Dr-Patient relationship....

Umm...poise is the cheap, cruddy brand....doesn't hold much, not well....The Tena/Serenity is significantly superior. Want complete protection for a whole pee? I use a tena ultimate pad and a Depends protective underwear, maximum absorbency.... others may tell you it's not the greatest, but it can't be beat for availability and should be sufficient for her purposes. If she's willing, have her test her protection at home, where it's safe to have leakage problems, and find out you don't have one. As for the increased stress, well, I'd argue that wearing a diaper and so not being quite as wound up is worth wearing a diaper if she wants to. But I'd also argue that if this much stress continues indefinitely, it will probably hurt her sooner or later, so that part needs to be dealt with...hopefully by graduating, but possibly also in little ways like the occasional weekend vacation with lots of attention for her...maybe a "day spa" experience....if you are in my neck of the woods, go to "Warm Springs VA" and give her a soak in the "Jefferson pools" for an hour....it's on "The Homestead" website, as they run it now. Some nice Bed & Breakfast type material almost across the street, too... My Dr sent me off to a "mindfulness-based stress reduction" course...itself fairly stressful, as it requires a 3 hour class weekly for 8 weeks, a one-day retreat, and 45 minutes of daily homework practicing meditation. Good luck, sounds like you are trying to take good care of her. Dill Pickle

One night I'm in the ER for something else, probably asthma...and there's this woman beside me who has had a stroke. It becomes clear from the discussion that she has to pee....and the attending nurse gets a pad under her and tell her to go ahead and relax and let it go.... This gal was in dire straights, couldn't move much due to the stroke, and is holding her pee! You betcha the inhibition is strong in the AVERAGE American... And the woman's complaint is really about loss of control, not being asked, important stuff like the call button not working saying they really didn't care if this woman died....same kinds of problems I have with my boss.

Bumper Sticker: Don't Take Your Organs with you to Heaven....God Knows we need them here! Happens with eyes, hearts all the time....guess the wife must have felt like it was a third person in bed, or maybe the nerves didn't connect properly so it didn't work for that purpose.....

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Well, there needs to be more than just sex to hold a relationship together.... But as for myspace: Shall I copy your page so you think I look like you to make my point? If I do, don't report me for plagiarism....