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We, in our community, are most hard upon OURSELVES. It's only diapers. They are a legal and legitimate product for a legitimate need, or they wouldn't be so readily available, affordable, and have such a huge market. Those of us who CHOOSE to make use of this ABSORBENT UNDERWEAR have a plethora of issues we deal with, but the fact remains, it's just diapers, and it's OUR choice. Nobody ELSE has to endure OUR choice of underwear, and whether we use it or not. It's great that you have a weight off your shoulders. So many ABs and DLs "just want to tell somebody" about their "thing". If it's not presented properly, or with plenty of thought, and at a good time - especially when talking about a partner - the revelation often goes badly. Good luck in your relationship. Good luck in your diaper side/life/world. For me, I find being a DL who is frequently diapered, with a wife that knew long before we were married about this side of me, and it would BE a part of me, and was NOT going away, to be very content and fulfilled. Having a fetish or kink or quirk is all what you make it. Make the best of YOUR thing!

Somehow, I would bet that if wetting had the odor and clean-up facet to it, there'd be a lot less ABs and DLs into actually using their diapers! For me, once I consciously wet my make-shift diapers - too big for baby diapers, so I had to sew several together to be able to pin them on - I was hooked with that - at age 12 - and then, the only other thing to try was messing. I always just liked the idea. Once I got the chance - I'll spare the details - I was hooked with that, too. Being able to enjoy a nice full load all Saturday morning, even into the afternoon, wearing it out into public if not too "odiferous"(as to risk offending anyone else around me), is a special joy and pleasure. Yes, I feel "naughty", I feel "dirty", but I also feel SO decadent - living life against "the norm". I, too, have stopped the self-loathing and feeling guilty for liking what I like, and enjoying what I enjoy. It is fulfilling for me and always has been. At one time I may have vowed to quit my "thing". Not any more. My DL side/life/world makes me what I am, and I'm pretty darned fabulous, in many ways. Most erotic thing I've been able to indulge myself in is sex with messy diapers on. Even my wife can get around the "aroma" when she ends up as satisfied as I am! Try THAT one on! LOL Oh, and I should mention, for me, if I'm going to mess, the cleanup is a lot like getting off on mud wrestling or oil wrestling or jello wrestling. There's going to be a cleanup, regardless of the thrill you get to enjoy. For me, there are ways to adjust and modify the odor - based upon what the intake has been, and red meat will produce the strongest smell - and it's only undigested food! I mean, poop is poop. It's not like if you touch it you will melt into oblivion. It's all a part of what you do - the cleanup - if you choose to enjoy filling your diapers...

Actually, the more those of us with a diaper "lifestyle" of any kind react to people "outraged" by their discovery of OUR "thing", the worse it can be. Actually, it's OUR choice to pursue fulfillment of AB or DL urges. As I always say, for cripe's sake, IT'S ONLY DIAPERS. And, if it's a choice - AB or DL - it's still ONLY DIAPERS. They are legal legitimate product produced for a specific need, even if it IS by CHOICE! If someone discovers us and our "thing", unlike your mother, what are they going to say? And, exactly WHO has to know and for WHAT reason? WHY is it so important to so many that our deep dark secret be revealed? Does it make US feel better to have our sick depraved secret out in the open? Here's a situation where the revelation IS out, regardless of how it happened, and look how it was taken? OMG! Talk about off the wall and over the edge reaction! Are you kidding me? And, as an adult, you let your mother buffalo you? Geez, what if she had found you wear men's boxer shorts or crotchless women's panties? That would be okay? I'm not so sure with the reaction she gave over DIAPERS. Yeah, it's HER house. It's YOUR thing. You can let her dominate you and make you miserable, or you can decide to do you own thing, and ignore her. And, when she tries to humilate you, ignore THAT and laugh it off. How WE react to other's reactions to US and what WE do contributes to HOW they react to us. With the cat out of the bag, we can't change what people think of us or about us, so what does it matter. Your affectation with diapers isn't affecting your ability to live life within society or earn a living. So, you wear diapers, by choice. What difference does it make and what difference SHOULD it make - especially to other people? You're not forcing diapers onto THEM, and YOU are the one wearing them. They should be happy you aren't forcing them all to be diapered and being made fun of! Gee, maybe you should! LOL Your mother overreacted, and may be in real need of medication. Hang in there. Just try and figure out how to fulfill and satisfy your needs and urges and do it behind her back or without her knowing. Don't give her a reason to be snoopy, and if she does snoop, ignore it. I'm sure you're looking to be out on your own when you can be. THEN, let her wonder all about your diaper life, especially when she sees you happy, moreso than with her downer presence around you. Good luck. Diapers rock, and can be incorporated into virtually any lifestyle, and there ARE potential partners out there that not only can accept an AB or DL in their life, but can embrace it, encourage it and maybe even participate in it. And, a lot of it depends upon your presentation of it in the beginning!

I thought I had to do things "baby" to legitimize my desire for diapers and using them. As time went on, I found I did not enjoy things baby but loved the diapers. So, I went to the diapers alone, and have never looked back. Forced diapering has always been stimulating, especially the idea of it, and then forced to endure some humiliation, but since I enjoy being diapered and using the diapers, how much is it really punishment for me, and how tough would it be to endure some seeming humilation since I could pretty much ignore it as I do my own thing? Diaper Lover first, mostly and always.

To me, wearing diapers without plastic pants is like potatoes without gravy! Well, as far as I'm concerned, it's asking for leaking troubles, no matter what kind of diaper you're wearing. Okay, I was raised in cloth diapers and plastic pants, and for me, the "package" simply is not complete without plastic pants. So, for me, they bring as much pleasure and stimulation to me as the diapers themselves do. But, I'm from the cloth diaper/plastic pants generation, and that's just me. To each, their own...

Ah, the conflict, the guilt, the angst, the self-loathing, the comfort, the "perverse" pleasure(s), the disgust, the warm fuzzy feeling(s), the cravings, um, what Goden said. For me, I just got to a point of refusing to make excuses any more, trying to understand and dissect what it's all about and why I am like I am, and decided to accept me as I am, enjoy what I enjoy, make no apologies for it, and just ENJOY what I enjoy and "being different". As long as I don't impose MY "thing" on anyone else, it stays MY "thing" and is for me alone to deal with. I like me. I like the way I am. I don't care what other people think especially since I can't change what they think, and think about ME. I'm discreet, so I do my thing pretty privately, but enjoy every padded minute, even when it's uncomfortable, or I unexpectedly or embarassingly leak, or even when I'd rather simply not have gotten diapered again - I'm a DL and not an incon, so it's diapers by choice. I know I'm going to do it again, so I'm over being disgusted and purging my supplies. We are hardest on ourselves, accepting ourselves, especially. Once we get over that - given we are normally of higher intelligence and more well-adjusted, on the whole, than the rest of "normal society" - we're good to go. I LIKE being me, and being different. So, I do my thing and don't give it a second thought. And, actually, as time has gone on, wearing diapers out and about has come in pretty handy! In those cases, talk about NOT having guilt, just appreciation..... : )

As usual, for anyone who mentions cloth diapers, I'm sure there will be a plethora of response over the need for care and washing of cloth soakers. That said, at $1 per diaper, and since I can handle both the need to wash and care involved, cloth baby diapers as soakers ROCK. Even the thinnest adult diaper can be used up completely thanks to the wicking action of cloth. And, add it to a diaper like a Molicare, you can go - and I have - (and go, and go, LOL) 24 hours with a single diaper! You can double them up, folded, end to end and open them up toward the top of the back and front. You avoid bulk but increase absorption capacity tremendously. Of course, you have to be ready to experience the cloth/disposable "package" and "feel" of same. You really can figure when you will leak if you're going to. Too, the use of plastic pants - the antithesis of diaper wear for the younger set, sadly - is advised, but whatever. My two cents...

It's funny. When I admitted to my fetishism to the shrink that did my psych profile for the last divorce, since my ex chose to play the "diapers" card with her attorney. MY attorney said that I was not the first to have a diaper thing brought up in a divorce. That kind of got my attention. However, I let my ex have her way and "win", lest I lose custody of my kids because of my kink. The shrink assured me that MY kink was pretty common, though not much admitted or talked about, and harmless on the whole. He also said that while diaper fetishism, like any addiction, can be treated and an attempt can be made to eradicate it, however, like with virtually any OTHER addiction, the "cure" is pretty much trading ONE addiction for another one - like chewing gum instead of smoking. He said it COULD be done, but it would be terribly expensive, as it is for any addiction eradication. I can only agree that diaper addiction is pretty harmless, and the worst thing we have to worry about is more the embarassment of being discovered, and what others will say when it IS "out". Thing is that we can't change what people think, anyway, so how we present it or react to discovery goes a long way with how the discovery affects us. My diapers? My choice. Use my diapers? My choice. That what I do doesn't fit into someone else's thought patterns or idea of acceptability? Too bad. MY choice. The less seriously we take how our choice might affect us when discovered, the easier it is to laugh it off if it is discovered. IMHO, I think we take our fetishism and choices way too seriously.

Once again, it boils down to WHY would someone that is NOT an incon, want to do diapers 24/7? I'm also amazed that instead of quietly and thoroughly thinking through the decision, a person wants to blindly forge ahead armed only with the ideas and input of others... Diapers are a legal, legitimate product for a legitimate need. That a person chooses to wear them and use them IS a personal choice. And, if you're prepared for the reaction to any discovery of your having made such a choice - which, unless you prefer to be a "flaming" diaper fetishist reaction is going to be less and less negative than anticipated - the doing your thing is going to be no big deal. It's diapers! WE, in our community, make it more of a deal than it really is, IMHO. Whatever you choose, it's your choice. Just do NOT foist YOUR choice upon others unless they ask you to!

Whitehall, but I am very discreet, and would not arbitrarily meet unless some sort of friendship/relationship had been established beforehand. Just so you know, as I really do not have a problem with face-to-face meetings. You might want to check into Fetlife and look for the events being scheduled in Grand Rapids from time to time...

I won't say I'm a diaper hoarder, but my wife might argue that point with me, AND if you saw my "diaper room", you might say I have way more than I need or would normally use, since I'm a DL only, but wear A LOT. I just LOVE to buy diapers and plastic pants, and were my supply run out, I have enough CLOTH diapers to keep my butt padded as much as I'd want to be! LOL Hoarder? Not sure, but there are those that would say that I am! And, no big deal to me. There are worse things that I could be into!

Please accept my sincere condolences.

And, it's our fear of others knowing we're into diapers - choice, need, AB or DL or even incon - that holds us back. So, you could have gotten the diapers FREE. I even buy by the case at Sam's Club. No, not the finest or premium diapers, but a really good price, and I really don't CARE what anybody thinks about those diapers in my cart or WHO they are for. WHY I buy them is MY business. It's too bad more of the members of our community can't just relax and do their thing without worrying about what OTHER people think. It'd be a heck of a lot easier for the "community" to do it's thing more freely..

South and west, WAY south and west, near Muskegon, but I'm a DL, too.

Looks like a doctor's office, and looks pretty staged - maybe the "nurse" works there, has a key to the office, and it was done after hours...

Okay, you screwed up - ROYALLY. You stepped over the line. You did something simply unforgiveable. Your only option to save your marriage/relationship is to "man/woman up" and take the punishment. The punishment IS: Diapers, 24/7, for the rest of your life. That said, this is NOT by choice. This is NO joke. This is NOT for fun. This is NOT an enjoyable fantasy "scene". This is serious. This is NOT going to BE enjoyable. This is REAL. You screwed up. You either go along with this or you will be publicly outed, degraded, humiliated and bad-mouthed - as the AB or DL that you already are - and if it means a divorce, you will be taken to the cleaners. In a non-marital relationship, you stand to be vilified and chased from any social circle you could hope to be a part of. What would you do? You're NOT an incon. You could end up becoming one! Do you go along with what you deserve? Are you going to go into this thinking you're going to enjoy this - finally, full-time diapers! - and find yourself sadly disappointed by REALITY? Do you opt out and take your chances with the repercussions of your screw-up? Me? I take my chances on the "open market". If I pissed her off THAT much, she's gonna' take me to the cleaners in a divorce anyway, and if I have to live with a woman THAT pissed off, a DL or not, and liking the 24/7 thing or not, it's not going to be any kind of walk in the park to just accept the diapers. But, that's me... Oh, this is not about ME. It's a hypothetical, but very plausible situation. Could happen. DIDN'T happen to me... What would YOU do?

Your feelings are justified and quite intelligent. It's only diapers. I mean, c'mon, it's DIAPERS. They are a legitimate product for a legitimate need. The are not illegal, immoral nor fattening (LOL), and the market is huge, made up of those who need the product and those who just choose to purchase and make use of the product. As evidenced by the Civil Rights movement, and the Gay Pride movement, our society will accept only so much, no matter how far it is portrayed that there is acceptance. I mean, even IF it was accepted to run around out in public, as an adult, wearing only diapers and a t-shirt, the majority of those witnessing the display are going to shake their heads and consider the person they see to be a lttle less than 100%. And, even IF those who wanted to do so, could do so, I would be very surprised if very many would actually do it. And, those that did, would probably be shadowed by store security, and the police mght still be called to "observe a questionable person". You're right. Why DO we bother? Those that portray "mainstream" AB/DL'ers in a bad light are going to be fringe and a sad commentary on the majority of the rest of us. Obviously, we can't ignore them, but we certainly don't have to react to them or toward what they've done. And, while they will never have any remorse or be ravaged by guilt, we certainly don't have to feel anything - guilt by association, as it were - and don't have to react with it. If we feel good about US, and being in our own skin, that's the most of the battle we face for ourselves...

I had a psych eval to be proactive for a divorce, since ex-wifey played the diaper card with her lawyer. Psych eval found I was damned sane, well adjusted, and pretty normal in the scope of what is considered "normal". I was told that I could try to eradicate my diaper fetishism, but it might or might not work, be really expensive to go through that therapy, and would, for the most part, only trade one "leaning" for something else. Most of us simply have some sort of addictive, obsessive, compulsive personality, and it's just WHAT it is - in our case, diapers - that is different among people. A psychiatrist is supposed to take a neutral position on your fetishism, will try to determine how it might have been triggered, and if it leans toward involving children - in which case your leanings NEED to be eradicated at all costs - and if it is debilitating in terms of your ability to lead a "normal" life in "regular" society. If it's just a little aggravation and doesn't hurt anybody else - though it seems to bother your wife with the degree you indulge yourself - it should be no big thing. If you don't impose it on anyone else, what's the worst that can happen? Diaper rash? Seems to me the only one THAT would hurt would be YOU! LOL Oh, in case you wonder, the diaper card never got played in court - didn't get that far - and the lawyer wouldn't let me see the psych eval so that what I read wouldn't skew my testimony if I got called to the stand. Should probably try to see what got said since it never got used and was expensive enough to have done!

They make "doublers" that look like Kotex pads, and you can even use "Poise" pads as a "doubler". I use a razor blade to slit backing. Bonifide "doublers" - Select makes them, Dignity makes them, and many others do, too - have NO backing. If you use two diapers, make sure the inner diaper is a baby diapers with the backing slit, or the diaper you use is smaller than the outer diaper. I use cloth baby diapers as soakers, but I don't mind the additional work of taking care of the cloth diapers after use, and can, in my own home with my own washer and dryer. I seldom have had problems with a smaller adult diaper - like an Attends 10, size Small - with backing slit and "wings" removed, inside of a Large or Extra Large, say Molicare or even an Attends 10 or Tena or Dry Comfort or Prevail, etc. Good luck. Half the fun is the journey and experimentation to find what works best for you in the way you like to use your diapers!

Yes, you WERE given a gift. You were given a gift of trust. The person trusting you knew of your compassion, but also KNEW that you did not have the ability, the moral responsibility or the legal backing to bring everything to a quick end for that person. You faced the "Kevorkian Dilemma". And, Dr. Jack Kevorkian went to prison because his compassion led him to overstep THE LAW. You mention euthanization of a pet. Even holding a pet while it is euthanized, while tough, shows compassion, and as humans, we understand that it is noble to not allow "dumb animals" to suffer more than is necessary. The Hippocratic Oath that those in the medical field adhere to is simply not reasonable, compassionate(in these situations) or sensible. However, if you don't stay to that extreme - to help the ill and prolong life in any way possible to the last natural breath(and placing a person on "machines" they don't want to be connected to is compassionate?) - you can have the other extreme, ala Hitler's "Final Solution". WHOM ultimately decides who is worthy of life or not? Any number of dictators have chosen to decide who is worthy of life and who is not! Perhaps you cannot legally assist in hastening the end to this person, and perhaps you cannot hasten the last natural breath, but you CAN assist in making this person - and you should be able to, as a caregiver - comfortable, to the point of reporting a need for additional pain medication, until that last breath comes. Instead of being frustrated over what you CAN'T do, and how you CAN'T do certain things, you can, at your young and tender age, BE THERE. THAT means a lot - holding a hand, wiping a brow with a damp washcloth, stroking hair, singing softly, making sure there is as much comfort as there can be, for as long as it is recognized. And, when more and more blessed drug-induced sleep leads to this person to the arms of their Maker, you can rest easily - not in frustration over what you COULDN'T do, or understand - at what you DID do, and COULD do - BE THERE. What do I know? I'm not a doctor. I'm not a lawyer. I'm not a caregiver of your sort. I'm as caregiver after the fact. I'm a mortician. I see and I've seen both sides of the coin, and I've talked to people and listened to their stories and heard them. I've seen the pain and I've seen the pride. I've heard them come to the realization that the gift of being able to see someone die with dignity IS a gift, and assuring a person that it is okay to close their eyes and let go of life here as we know it - we'll be okay without them; we'll hurt; we'll never forget but we'll move on with them firmly entrenched in our hearts forever - is our gift to them in return. And, especially if you believe that they can look down and see the afterward, make sure that the memorialization of their life, the tribute to the life they lived and what they gave to the world while they WERE here, is more than just a simple "15 minutes of fame". It should be a proper, tasteful tribute that people will be able to go away from and feel that they know that person better, and that their life truly WAS worthwhile and they DID make a difference during the time they were given. It's good you hurt. It's good you're angry. It means you care. It means you value life, and the sanctity of life, and life means something to you.That's a good thing. It's a great thing. And, this situation will help form you into something and someone even better the next time - and there will be a next time, even though you're frustrated now - and you will be a better person, a wiser person, and even more helpful, feeling less helpLESS, to others. That is a good thing. Embrace it. Thus, you HAVE been given a gift. How you choose to use that gift is up to you. And, what you're feeling now is called grief. You are grieving. You are actually mourning prior to the actual death. It means you're human. And, since you are, it means there is hope for our society, with you as a caregiver. Thank you for venting and sharing your frustration and anger.

Being diapered by someone else is very intimate and erotic interaction. I would let my wife diaper me - I already pretend it's her demand that I'm diapered for her satisfaction that it will keep me from ever "straying" - ANY time she wanted, and virtually anywhere, even though I'm a very discreet DL. Diapering HER, when she's in the mood for it, ROX MY SOX! : )

Adult diapers pretty much have NO disposable diaper scent. They are designed NOT to. They are not BABY diapers, and they are not for BABIES. And, with the way the medical field looks at incontinence and diapers for its control, you ain't gonna find a US made adult disposable diaper that is going to look, smell or work like a diaper produced for infants. Sad, perhaps, but the way it is.

He'll be back! LMFAO! Put 'em away, don't dump 'em. You'll be glad you did. You're hooked. And, what an addiction to have! Simple and harmless. We are our own worst enemies when it comes to guilt, shame and self-loathing. When we get over that, we can chill out and enjoy our AB/DL side/life/world. But, ya' gotta' get there...

Why NOT? Diapers are a legitimate product for a legitimate need. Diapers are not illegal or immoral, and are easy to buy and can be inexpensive to make use of. And, if I get a kick out of wearing and using diapers, it's MY choice. That's the bottom line. I can't change what anyone else thinks about me or what I do, so I don't really care what they think. It's MY choice, and if I don't impose MY thing on someone else, it's MY thing. Simple. Bottom line.

Hmmm. Let's see. Married? And don't know what each other wants or likes? Has anyone heard about LISTENING and communication? And, putting a value on gifts given or received, not the sentiment? OMG. Talk about self-centered. Whatever. Great marriage...