Is this wrong?

[Lumia_black]

[DailyDi]

If its your thing you can't really deny it. Just don't comment on the vids, or share them since it's not fair to the subject; or do anything else that would be mean to the disabled person.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

Since you have misgivings, and since DailyDi also has some, that sends up a "yellow flag". if I were you I would seek couselling. That includes a psychological interview. If you decide for some KNOWABLE (clear and understandable) reason that it is wrong, it will most likely be treated as a bad habit. Then some form of Behavior Therapy would be in order, since habits and phobias respond best to behavior therapy, which will relieve the problem and most importantly put something better in its place. There are two that come to mind. Cognitive and Rational-Emotive. A therapist who is on the up and up explains the principles of behavior, then of behavir therapy (there are two ideas you want to hear mentioned "small steps" and "successive approximations" under the category "shaping". To illustrat that. I ordered a large pizza for myself. When it came I remarked "Gee I have to EAT all of that". Which I did: One bite at a time). Then, unlike the horror sci-fi stories, armed with the knowledge and having made your decision, you and the therapist work out the details (definitions and procedures)

[Fontaine]

It does ring with the air of exploitive doesn't it? Despite that, I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it unless you are hurting others.

Besides, if it exists, there is porn of it.

You aught to be able to pursue this without hurting others

[rusty pins]

I'm always interested in those who are actually incontinent and have no choice but to wear diapers.

[Pangaea]

Since you have misgivings, and since DailyDi also has some, that sends up a "yellow flag". if I were you I would seek couselling. That includes a psychological interview. If you decide for some KNOWABLE (clear and understandable) reason that it is wrong, it will most likely be treated as a bad habit. Then some form of Behavior Therapy would be in order, since habits and phobias respond best to behavior therapy, which will relieve the problem and most importantly put something better in its place. There are two that come to mind. Cognitive and Rational-Emotive. A therapist who is on the up and up explains the principles of behavior, then of behavir therapy (there are two ideas you want to hear mentioned "small steps" and "successive approximations" under the category "shaping". To illustrat that. I ordered a large pizza for myself. When it came I remarked "Gee I have to EAT all of that". Which I did: One bite at a time). Then, unlike the horror sci-fi stories, armed with the knowledge and having made your decision, you and the therapist work out the details (definitions and procedures)

[DiapermanAl]

I feel the same rather see real folks than a model or actor in diapers.

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

I can't believe you. I don't know if you're being serious, but if you are, you are an immense hypocrite. Many people would say the same thing about wearing diapers. I'd simply expect people who know what it's like to have a fetish to be able to accept others, as long as they don't hurt anything with it. If you're serious, you're the one who needs help, though I don't have a therapy that comes in mind for being a hypocrite.

[Lumia_black]

Nah I do not post on those videos.

[whisko]

i agree with pangaea.

[Pangaea]

if you are going to make judgements, do so accurately

1. What you do on your own time with other, willing persons is your own private matter, when it involves using others without their knowledge or consent that is a different matter

2. The matter was already subject to misgivings on the parts of the OP and subject to restriction here. I said that raises a yellow flag and the person should come to a decision, beased on clear, knowable facts and ideas, on whether it is right or wrong. I have no misgivings about what I am doing since it does not involve the unwilling so I cannot be a hypocrite. Therefore you are wrong

3. If the person, after getting wise counsel, since he is asking the question, decides that it is wrong. Then the question of disengaging from the practice comes up. I provided insight into the best way to do that including the principles involved

At no time did I make a moral or psychological evaluation, I could not do so without more knowledge of the sort that would involve a psychological interview, for which I have not the proper tools or experience. I directed the person to seek clarity

[Little BabyDoll Christine]

I did not say he needed therapy, only to get clarity. That means he needs, and wants, to figure things out. I've had psychological interview as part of evaluation of my fitness as a student for an agnency that would be providing financial support. That evaluation also included an IQ test and a personality inventory as well as the interview. I was so impressed with the competnece of the person conducting the whole business that I made it a point to do my graduate work at the school he was affiliated with just to study under him. I was NOT disappointed

Psychological interviews are don for many reasons, including as part of any competent counselling. the OP asked "is this wrong?" so the misgivings are already there. Now, I have no idea what is in his head. From the question I take it that there is confusion. I am not a mind reader. I am also atheist so I am not going to say "see your priest, rabbi, minister, imam or..." He is better served if he can clear up any confusion, figure it out, then decide for himself what to do. The best I can do is point him in the best direction to get that done rather than do it for him

Now, therapy is an option but that's his call: If, and only if, he decides that A. This is wrong, B. It could have bad consequences, and C. it is becoming a habit that I want or need to shake. If that is so then I laid out what would be, to the best of my knowledge the best way to go. My pirpose there was to de-mystify the process by giving a bit of insight into the what and how so it is not such a scary prospect

[Bettypooh]

Nothing is wrong with anything so long as you keep other people out of the actual involvement. Who doesn't fantasize about someone else, or some kind of scenario which seems that you'd like it? What I'd suggest is that you see what exact aspects of this excite you- is it the need for diapers, people in rehab therapy situations, unintended diaper exposure or what? By exploring this you might discover even more stuff which doesn't leave you feeling guilty And as to guilt feelings, why should you feel like that when you've done nothing wrong and don't intend to? Western society has pushed 'guilt complexes" onto many things sexual Having sex and even masturbating are perfectly normal for every other animal so why should it be different for humans? So long as the actual act (if it happens) is consensual and between adults then I see nothing wrong with any of it Now if you're fixated on it so much that it really interferes with your life, then you might want to back off (or expand your horizons like I mentioned above). In that case the fixation would be the problem- not the target of it Newfound fantasies start off strong but generally fade in time- you either realise they won't actually happen or you get bored of them so that's something else to consider. And if after all that you still feel guilt and can't control this urge, consider spoeaking with a Therapist about it- you may find what drives the act and you'll certainly find ways to better handle it with them Your scenario does nothing for me- mine however is a totally different story and I think everyone could honestly say that too. So fantasize away if you want to- everybody else does!

[BriGuy]

There are plenty of folks out there like you. They have a term for it. "Devotees". The videos are out there because there are those who get charged from them.

In turn, there are plenty of disabled folks who love devotees. I'm sure like anything it feels good to be loved for what you are. Even if its slightly broken or "different" from the social norms.

Check out Fetlife for disabled folks looking for people with your fetish. Than yall can beat off together till your heads spin.

[BriGuy]

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attraction_to_disability

http://www.disabledpassions.com/groups/Devotee.html

Instead of fighting amongst each other because one of our members has a different interest than the rest, how about we lift them and show them compassion.

To hell with the haters man, get your kink on.

[Nat]

Curious, if someone is attracted to childish people and people who are childlike or seem like a child, does it still make them a devotee if they are attracted to someone who acts that way that is caused by their disability?

[BriGuy]

Curious, if someone is attracted to childish people and people who are childlike or seem like a child, does it still make them a devotee if they are attracted to someone who acts that way that is caused by their disability?

Could be.

[Lumia_black]

Thanks for the words about this.