Incontinence And Sex.

[babytommy1981]

I have what the doctors called, reflex incontinence. witch if you dont know is an inability to control the release of urine. Reflex incontinence occurs when a person's bladder contracts without the person being able to stop it, causing leakage of urine. ok with that said. now on to what im asking SEX. Before i ask my doctors. i like to know if this happens to other men as well. ok right to the point. here. when im going to have sex i must fisrt remove my diaper and wipe my self down in order not to cause any UTI with my wife. as a dirty member going in side is not a good thing. any way. I find that even though I want to have sex, and i feel the exitment inside. i find that i must play with my penis in order to get it semi hard. what im asking since i lost control of being able to hold urine, I'm starting to think I have an Erectile dysfunction. but like stated if i play with it alittle its gets semi at witch my wife helps me enter her. and after a little bit it gets full hard. what im asking is this something normal, I do know that sometimes i have dribbled urin during sex. before i go see my doctor i just wanted to know if any other men have this problem and what is it the causes this. am i developing ED.

[Guitarzan]

I have what the doctors called, reflex incontinence. witch if you dont know is an inability to control the release of urine. Reflex incontinence occurs when a person's bladder contracts without the person being able to stop it, causing leakage of urine. ok with that said. now on to what im asking SEX. Before i ask my doctors. i like to know if this happens to other men as well. ok right to the point. here. when im going to have sex i must fisrt remove my diaper and wipe my self down in order not to cause any UTI with my wife. as a dirty member going in side is not a good thing. any way. I find that even though I want to have sex, and i feel the exitment inside. i find that i must play with my penis in order to get it semi hard. what im asking since i lost control of being able to hold urine, I'm starting to think I have an Erectile dysfunction. but like stated if i play with it alittle its gets semi at witch my wife helps me enter her. and after a little bit it gets full hard. what im asking is this something normal, I do know that sometimes i have dribbled urin during sex. before i go see my doctor i just wanted to know if any other men have this problem and what is it the causes this. am i developing ED.

You might be. It may also be "mind over matter" that you're worried about leaking during sex, or simply worried about your performance. There's many causes for ED, and you REALLY need to talk to your doctor about it. Some of them are more serious than others, so you need to find out why.

A little viagra goes a long way to making your feel like you're 18 again!

[Cruiser 03]

Just remember when the beds a rockin if you do a little leaking of Urine its ok because urine is sterile when it comes out of your penis so there is no worries there, and i have Incon as well as ED and use a VED and i was sceptical when i got it (insurance companies and medicare do not cover any of the Erectile stim Meds as of January 2008 because medicaly castrated sickos would use the drugs for perverse things so nobody gets them covered by insurance you can get a script and pay out of pocket or can get a free to you VED and despite my sceptical mind that damn thing really works its wild . Whatever the problem i wish you the best and a quick resolution and Great sex in the new year, by the way i lost a really nice expensive pair of shoes over in the poco's if you happen to find them tell them i'm in Erie now will yah. LOL

Peace

[Johnstone]

BabyTommy, please allow me to ask the obvious,....why are you incontinent? I'm not a doc, and there are many here that know more about the medical issues than I, but I have to think that your incontinence is most likely the cause of your Erectile Dysfuction (ED). If your incon because of any type of nerve injury, then I'm 99.9% certain your ED is the cause. The good news is there are several types of meds that can help, if not improve things. LOL Ask your doc about.....I'm sure they get these questions more than you think from people than don't have any nerve damage causing the problem so don't feel as if your the only person that has this issuse. I just hope you don't have a female doc like I do. LOL LOL If so, I think I would write a letter and hand the letter to the lady doc and say "please advise" and let her do the reading. Anyway, hope this helps. Your problem is very common with men with a spinal cord injury. We just don't talk about it much. Make sure you call your doc if you use any of these meds and have an erection that lasts longer than 8 hours. LOL Good luck. I would say keep us posted but I understand if you don't.

[babykeiff]

The inability to become errect at will is NOT classed as erectile disfunction. As with all species, and the core reason for foreplay, one needs to be aroused to perform sexually. The 'want to have sex' is usually not enough. It may have been when you were around 16 years of age, but that was more to do with raging hormones rather than any specific control. As a result, I would not suggest that you use drugs (viagra etc). For one, you may be aroused, but your partner may not be. The sexual forplay does as much to arouse you as it does to arouse your significant other.

Re the incontinence etc, yes it is difficult for some people to indulge in a healty sexual while being dependent on diapers, but as I have stated in previous post, this takes responsibility, planning and control. You stated that you have 'reflex' incontinence, which in medical terms means that once your bladder is full and/or you get a empty bladder trigger, your bladder will empty. The common trigger to cause one to empty the bladder is the sound of running water, and I suggest that, before you plan on arousing your SO, you ensure that your bladder is empty - run the water to trigger your bladder to empty. Therefore, you will not be in a situation, which in my opinion is the reason that is making you tense, and also the reason that is causing you not to be able to perform to your own standards, to leak urine over your partner etc.

[redneck diaper boy]

It is hard for most men to pass urine with an errection. See your doctor. Ask your partner to play with your penis. That is much more fun!

God kind of shuts the flow off to keep you from pissing in your partner's twot.

Ask your doctor for a prescription for Viagra. I can tell you from personal experience it works as advertised.

I have what the doctors called, reflex incontinence. witch if you dont know is an inability to control the release of urine. Reflex incontinence occurs when a person's bladder contracts without the person being able to stop it, causing leakage of urine. ok with that said. now on to what im asking SEX. Before i ask my doctors. i like to know if this happens to other men as well. ok right to the point. here. when im going to have sex i must fisrt remove my diaper and wipe my self down in order not to cause any UTI with my wife. as a dirty member going in side is not a good thing. any way. I find that even though I want to have sex, and i feel the exitment inside. i find that i must play with my penis in order to get it semi hard. what im asking since i lost control of being able to hold urine, I'm starting to think I have an Erectile dysfunction. but like stated if i play with it alittle its gets semi at witch my wife helps me enter her. and after a little bit it gets full hard. what im asking is this something normal, I do know that sometimes i have dribbled urin during sex. before i go see my doctor i just wanted to know if any other men have this problem and what is it the causes this. am i developing ED.

[babytommy1981]

ok i just set up a doctor visit today at 2pm. as even wife sat with me here reading some of the replys and we both agree. its time to see the doc again and find out what to do.

O johnstone. I became full incon. after my 2001 motorcycle wreck. witch really almost killed me, to go into full detail isnt going to happen as i was really banged up bad. my family doc and my uroligist say my incon problem is mostly do to nerve damage and i went to a neurologist 1 yr after the accident and its comfirmed that i did suffer some brain damage from the impact. if i didnt wear my helment i would have smashed my skull. im told that really they dont know why. but they are going to say its reflex. since i go when ever my body wants too. and i cant stop it. and i dont even know im about to go. so they rule it as reflex. I'm hoping its mind of matter or maybe its something minor. as like i told my wife i can get it hard but it dont stay hard for to long. I do know i have nerve damage as well as i cant feel in my right leg. witch is why if i get any dark bruises i go to the doctor to make sure i didnt break anything. as i cant feel pain, hot, or cold in my right leg. so yes i have nerve damage in my lower parts of my body. let me say im glad to be alive after that day. and before i found this web form a couple yrs ago. i thought i was the only one with my problems. and wheni found out theres alot of poeple in this world that suffer the same it started to make me feel better. and then i started to inbrase life rather then let it go by with shame.

Ill post up later on what the doc says.

[babytommy1981]

well got back from the doctor, took some blood work, and did a check up, did some talking, thinks my sexual problem can becasue from stress and could also befrom my incon. but most likely from stree. and witch we talked on how im affraid that i might pee during sex. So she did give my a scrip for some 25mg dose witch she said is the lowest doze of viagra. she said to try it and if it helps then we will look into working on my stress about peeing during sex. witch she said im not the first person that has this fear that she has talked too. she did say not to worry as im still young and mostly healthy.

[d_drew12]

Not to dig to much into your personal life but I'm just surprised that after nearly 10 years of dealing with your incontinence issues this hasn't come up in the past??? Is this a new symptom or something you just haven't had to look into? Not to get into your sex life either but how did you cope with this in the past? Were you already married at the time of the accident or did you find your wife later and how did she deal with your incontinence? Just curious as I know it can be very difficult to come to terms with incontinence especially at a young age and on top of that open that door to the person your dating without adverse consequences. Dating sucks and dating dealing while diapered in your twenties sucks worse, I know.

[babytommy1981]

its been an on going thing, but lately it was getting to the point that my wife and I were having problems. also for a couple of yrs after my wreck, and till i got married i didnt have sex. didnt have a thought of sex. and yes i didnt even play with it much. lol. my doctor also kinda yelled at me as she knew i would have problems with sex as last yr even when i was having a hard time keeping it hard, we were trying to have a child, and she also said somethings like why didnt I bring this up then. I said it wasnt something that bothered me. until now, and my wife kinda forced me to go as i know my wife is getting stressed out more now. living in my shoes is though. and even before my wreck, my sex life sucked, lets just say every time i had sex in the past i couldnt go more then a couple mins before climax, witch turned girls off from dating me. when i met my wife i was wearing diapers and coping with life, and she under stood and at first sex didnt work out, as i was scared. then it got to the point that we would go at it then, wait then go at it and then wait, then by the third time it would turn out kinda good, and thats all with in a 2hr time frame. also I remember as a teen i couldnt masterbate much as it would go limp. but i never thought anything much of it. I just talked to my mother about what the doc said and she said to follow up as in the past my father sufferd from ED, and also my uncle does to maybe it could be a family deffect. I dont know. it never bothered me till now so im going to fix it and readjust to enjoy life more with my loving wife. im still young and still have alot to learn about my life and how to live it. soon will be 30.

[Frink]

Do you like almonds? They contain an antioxidant called Arginine which apparently has ed-treatment uses. Another thing you might do is spend some time sitting on the toilet with your diaper off, like an hour or so each day, so that your penis and testicles can cool off. Diapers get pretty warm and this can have some effects on potency.

[babykeiff]

Do you like almonds? They contain an antioxidant called Arginine which apparently has ed-treatment uses. Another thing you might do is spend some time sitting on the toilet with your diaper off, like an hour or so each day, so that your penis and testicles can cool off. Diapers get pretty warm and this can have some effects on potency.

Frink is correct in what he states. Diapers, or the warmth they create around the male testes causes reduced production. The testes are designed to hang outside the body so that they can work, which fails at normal body temperature. (Kudos to naturalists) Leaving diapers off for an hour or two per 24 hours will have little effect if you are eliminating the production over the other 22 hours. The best alternative to this is to take zinc tablets, which will solve this problem. Almonds also enrich this.

[Daddy Fred]

Many prescribed drugs can cause poor erections; so if you're taking any drugs regularly, look it up on Google etc. A favorite (should I say un-favorite) is any diuretic prescribed for elevated blood pressure, e.g. bendroflumethiozide, a very cheap one prescribed to millions in Britain.

And sorry to spoil anyone's fun, but many recreational drugs including alcohol are real erection-killers. The worst is prob. heroin.

A low testosterone level will give poor erections, so check it out with doctor. This one is common with men over sixty or so. If a problem with you, have you tried such as Chialis?

Daddy Fred.

[ThomasInWVa]

Your prostate should prevent the flow of urine for the most part. Depending on the nature of your condition, you can still leak past the prostate especially if your bladder spasms. If you don't have a UTI now, urine itself will not cause one. As mentioned, it is sterile and will not cause problems if washed off. Depending on the PH level and the amount of urine expelled, your seamen should be ok. But urine can cause your seminal fluid to lose its "stickiness" which will cause your ejaculate to run out of the vagina much easier. Prolonged exposure to urine will kill seamen.

I have this problem even when taking ED meds. It doesn't happen all the time but it happens often enough to be very annoying. When things are acting up the most, my bladder will spasm before, during and after I ejaculate. Since my wife is trying to get pregnant we have had to confront this issue. The primary reason I take ED meds is to make sure I maintain an erection as long as possible, well after I ejaculate. (I tend to orgasm/ejaculate multiple times.) Usually I will last about an hour. It may seem counter productive but my wife lays on top of me and my erect penis stays in her vagina after I ejaculate for as long as possible- even after the erection subsides, I can usually stay in the vagina for a few hours. (My wife falls asleep on me.) According to our reproductive specialists, this allows the seminal fluid to cling to the walls of the vagina and cervix while the thinner urine seeps down past my penis. Any spontaneous ejaculations that occur after my erection subsides will then be in her vagina.

There is much more to how we prepare and handle the whole thing but my wife wanst to try to conceive naturally before she tries other methods.

[Guest lilme]

I've always wondered how sex worked for incon people... if at all

[Cruiser 03]

Well the way it works for me as far as sex and "Incon" i use a 14 french catheter threaded up my urethra( you can use a larger cath but the quicker the urine comes out is kinda related to how bad the bladder is gonna spasm on you, and lets face it we want to be comfortable before we make love, not have to say "ah Honey give me about an hour for the bladder spasms to stop") and i massage my bladder to try and get every last drop out, and then remove the cath and head for the bedroom. anybody who caths and uses an 18 or one of those jumbo frenchs if you leave me your name and address in my pm i will send you a 14 french to try and i am sure you will like it better before sex than a 16 or 18 french.

Peace

[square_duck]

I've always wondered how sex worked for incon people... if at all

I'm not incontinent, but I figure that if you care about someone and you want to please them, you make things work and figure it out. It's all part of the relationship thing, and where there is a will there is a way

[babytommy1981]

yeah i like almonds, Zinc tables, ill have to look into that, I have been away from the computer for some time, and today i been reading all the good replys, that im going to look into. got some good news, last weekend me and the wife had a good night, IF you know what I mean. I was shocked i never lasted that long before and when i did releave it was powerful. im sure some more good nights like that and we can be making a baby in no time, as long as my swimmers are up to the task. lol. since its been colder out side, i should start wearing my plastic pants again, as the cold really makes my penis and my testes very cold, and when that happens i tend to wet more, and when that happens i feel the warm flow, then it gets very cold again and i cant bare it and have to change, when there is hardley any wettness in my diaper. this time of the yr sucks major. the plastic pants i found out from some one last yr helps hold in body heat.

I like to thank everyone for the replys.