What Do Girls Like About Abdl?

[Diaper Lightning]

Hi all. I am working through ALOT with my wife right now, as some of you know. I won't post long today because I havent been around much cause I been working hard at work and our relationship. But on with the question, the answer hopefully can help me relate better with my wife-

As a male, alot of the DL side is SENSORY and SENSUAL on why I like wearing diapers. There is a little emotional attachments and enjoyment on how I feel while I wear them, but alot of it is related to the "feel." I assume that because I am a male, we like most sensations down in that area and its near surroundings. My question is what do you females typically LIKE about either 1) being an ABDL or 2) participating in a Significant others ABDL world?

Like does it feel "good" when you wear? How so? Is it just emotional/feelings that you like about it??? Be very explanative if you would be so kind.

Angela, Sarah AB, Adrian and Luvs girl - would really like a post from you gals.

[Junibug 4 Lucy]

well, i like the way it feels too! yes we feel!...its just sooo soft, i like the way lucy fusses over me as an ab...i just like the hole experience!....i could write about it a lot but i feel your looking for something a lil more specific...

i love lucy in one too....the way she looks..the expression on her face...shes just so content....she is just soo cute...and cuddely....i love mummying her and fussing and feeding.....

if you want to ask me anything feel free....and if you'd like to chat im here....been with lucy a while now so of i can help.....

not that you have to take my advice...you may think it sucks!!

xxx

juniper

[DLinTampa]

D Lighting,

I know you are fishing for responses from the biological girls and I'm not one. Hold one. My wife is one and I think (hope) I can help you Bro. You understand the guy perspective with 20/20 vision. Don't think for one moment that girls see it that way. For my wife, it is primarily emotional and diapers do not equal sex in one bit. Not even a little, not at all, no way. Diapers, bottles, bibs, stuffed toys, blankies, and (OMG) clothes fit into the picture along with the diapers. For her (read "most of them") it is about feeling little.

Where is your wife in all this? Probably not an AB/LG like mine or what I think is most of the girls who understand us. That means she is either in the intolerant or trying to understand group. If she's in the former, I pity you. If she is trying to understand it all, I think you should definately pitch this towards the emotional side of being cared for, protected and accepted despite doing things like wetting yourself.

What puts us guys at odds with women who didn't find some sort of enjoyment in diapers before meeting us is that women, for the most part, prefer to be the ones that are cared for, protected and accepted. Yeah, I might be dead wrong, but look at all the guys here that are either hiding it from their GF/wife or are divorced.

I found a woman in whom I can live a life with give and take. She gets to play her character of a 2 year old little girl (LG) and I get "mommy time" plus the encouragement to stay in diapers 24/7. It's give and take buddy. What can you give her in exchange for your bottom line on diapers?

Here's a theory to ponder: Men are intellectual creatures with emotions and women are emotional creatures with intellect. Yes, S*X is #1 with us guys, but it's only like #6 with the girls. For them, #1 is having an emotional connection. Work on that and you might get somewhere.

Good Luck with Aloha,

Honu

[momma.bear]

Here's a theory to ponder: Men are intellectual creatures with emotions and women are emotional creatures with intellect. Yes, S*X is #1 with us guys, but it's only like #6 with the girls.

personally, i don't necessarily agree with the above. it's very different for me, but then again, every single woman is going to be different. you really can't generalize about something like this. women can be just as intellectual as men, & men can be just as emotional as women. & trust me, sex is important for women, too! i have a MUCH higher sex drive than my boyfriend, & i know lots of women who experience the same thing.

for me, i don't get any emotional satisfaction from wearing at all. i just think diapers feel good. if i wear, it's almost certainly sexual. firstly, it turns me on to know that seeing me in a diaper turns my boyfriend on. secondly, my first experience wearing, he made sure to make it a good experience - i.e. sticking a nice little vibe in the diaper & sensually touching/humping me. because of that, from that moment on, diapers have had a positive sexual connotation for me. plus, if the diaper fits certain ways or is patted certain ways, it rubs against the clit. hello, happy woman!

as for his diaper wearing, it turns me on because i know that it gives him pleasure. but his diaper wearing is where i get some emotional satisfaction. being his mommy is a chance for me to dote on him & show him how much i care about him, & show him affection, etc. because i can see how much it makes him relax & how much he enjoys it, i enjoy it too. plus, he's just cute!

[Junibug 4 Lucy]

you know i kinda agree and disagree, i get a lil annoyed when people say girls don't understand....but unfortunately it can be true

lucy and i are married, and been together a long time,

you are right, girls like to be cared for.....a lot, but doesn't everyone!

i care for lucy....(i suggest you look at her profile at this point)....and lucy cares for me

and we play together too.....its a lot emotional for us we love eacothr and show it, we have things we love,blankies, teddys, pacis

but also for us it's sexual too....nappies don't always mean sex, i can put lucy to bed in one and just let her sleep,...........but nappies = sex a lot too.....

im not intolerant, and i hope im not trying to understand...i understand....i mean i'm never fully gonna understand lucy, and she's never gonna fully understand me.....but we do understand much as we can.

i know that there are lots of women out there who do have a hard time with it so i do agree that usually it's hard, but the telling is the hard bit, and the rest can be worked on....oh! and i do think women love being told there loved...a lot....

what DLinTampa said is mostly true....but not always...keep at it and you'll get there.....

juniper

xxx

[Junibug 4 Lucy]

as for his diaper wearing, it turns me on because i know that it gives him pleasure. but his diaper wearing is where i get some emotional satisfaction. being his mommy is a chance for me to dote on him & show him how much i care about him, & show him affection, etc. because i can see how much it makes him relax & how much he enjoys it, i enjoy it too. plus, he's just cute!

i have to say i agree with momma bear (took so long pottering round that it took me ages to post my last one)

and the patting bit is the same for me too....very happy juni....

the bit above....this is dot on....

xxx

[lilannie]

Well I'm not going to explicitly describe to you how I feel when I wear a diaper. Really that's none of your business and a little pornographic anwyays.

I am an AB as well, but from a strictly DL point...

I don't think it's that much different from guys. Diapers are sexual for me. They turn me on. I enjoy the sensation of what they feel like on me, and the aesthetic (hope that's the right word, lol) appeal. Just because we have a vagina doesn't mean we don't feel anything at all down there, ya know. It's definitely about the way they feel and look.

[Guest NaughtyAshes]

I think I agree with lilannie. So for me, what she said + an emotional attachment of safety and lack of responsibility.

[curiositykilledthecat]

I applaud this thread, very interesting.

[DprDJeff]

Gotta put in my two cents here...

First of all, too many people believe what they see on television. The idea that men are more interested in sex than women are is ridiculous. It makes for funny jokes on tv, so the stereotype has carried on. In my experience(and is backed up by scientific studies), women are MORE interested in sex in general than men are. Men are just more open and animated about it. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, but for most people this holds true.

Second of all, it isn't always about being 'little' for women. They are just as varied in this fetish as the men are. I have been Daddy, Babysitter, Diapered Friend and Punisher to dozens of ABDL women. For some it is all about giving up the cares of the world and being a little girl again. Nothing sexual involved at all. For others it's all about the humiliation of being diapered and they get a definite sexual thrill from that. Others consider diapers a sex toy, pure and simple. Putting on a diaper is as sexy to them as putting on expensive lingerie for other women.

As for the feel of the diaper, men have the advantage of a penis. Simply moving around causes our sex organ to come into contact with the diaper and increases whatever feelings we get from that contact. Every ABDL woman I've ever known has had her own way of pressing the diaper into her groin to enjoy the same sensation. Their methods are as varied as the reasons for enjoying diapers.

This concludes my $.02 worth...

[paradox]

I for one agree with Jeff. Media portrays us wrong. I for one have had a lower sex drive then any girl I have ever dated (until now) and it constantly bothered them (though I did not think they were pretty ha!). For me it is one the feeling two the emotional bond with the partner really seals the deal and three the loss of control. From my girlfriend's perspective she feels it is an emotional connection that only we share and for her it turns her on greatly seeing how much it turns me on. She also likes being in control (power issues =P) and making me do stuff.

[sarah_ab]

well as most people know, diapers are a prop for me in sexual roleplay, and as such i dont necessarily enjoy the physical sensation of a diaper just for wearing's sake. It doesn't rub against any sensitive sex organs.

The physical enjoyment of wearing a diaper is a direct response to the emotional reaction i have to wearing a diaper.

when i am in a diaper it means i am in baby mode, it means daddy has put me in one, it means i am now submissive and a baby and will do what he tells me to do (and if i dont i get a punishment which is also erotic for me).

Wearing a diaper is symbolic of whats to come, and that in turn creates physical arousal in me. When i use the diaper for its intended purpose this is just one more step in my being a baby, being submissive, so again it is a emotional response which causes the physical response.

I think this could be the same for a woman who puts a man in a diaper, the emotions she feels will then create the physical response. If the woman is the dominant, putting someone in a diaper is an act of dominance, and the emotions of being in control can elicit the physical response.

Also, seeing how much my boyfriend/daddy is enjoying me in a diaper, how aroused he is, becomes another turn on for me.

I can be an ab without diapers, and i can still become sexually aroused.. when my boyfriend reaches over and puts a paci in my mouth, it can have the same effect, or when he calls me his little girl, or reminds me i'm 'just a lil baby' etc....

so just being in a diaper alone does nothing for me, what it represents, what it entails, what it implies it what turns me on so much.

[hidden]

you know i kinda agree and disagree, i get a lil annoyed when people say girls don't understand....but unfortunately it can be true

well, you know what they say, females are like the woods. mysterious and full of wolves. (quote from a tv show). sorry but i had to say that after reading this.

some of us that haven't been in too much contact with the opposite gender, so we have no experience on how things are on that side of the wall. as for me, i have had no relationships with anyone so about everything is a mystery to me in this area.

[Junibug 4 Lucy]

i think the thing is that some women act how they think they 'should' and forget that its ok to break the mould!

i think some people just need to see what's out there and that its actually ok to be as free as you want to!

xxx

[Aleia]

First, I like the thick, bulky feeling down there. It's like perpetual no-hands masturbation.

I also like to fantasize about being cared for and completely dependent on a mother figure, all the while experiencing the sexually arousing feeling of a diaper.

[I need a mom pls]

I'm just starting to want to tell people about my fetish for diapers so I can find a soulmate and it so hard just even get close to the topic

[waynecook52]

SARAH,whernt you on dpf?

[square_duck]

Yes she was!!!

[Cute_Kitten]

On 8/16/2009 at 6:53 PM, Diaper Lightning said:

My question is what do you females typically LIKE about either 1) being an ABDL or 2) participating in a Significant others ABDL world?

 

Like does it feel "good" when you wear? How so? Is it just emotional/feelings that you like about it??? Be very explanative if you would be so kind.

I'm going to start off by saying it will vary with each individual female. For some it is sexual, and for some it is not.  Some might wear as part of their regression/ age play as an AB and some might be DLs who wear because they like they way it feels in a non-sexual way or they get emotional comfort/ security from it. 

For me, it's the latter.  I'm an asexual, and I don't have  a significant other, so 2 does not apply to me.