DLinTampa

Agree. Sex is a balance of mental, physical and emotional. With 3 variables, it is different with every partner. No, I can't imagine good sex while really wearing a diaper, but having a nice cloth diaper under you such that you can feel it is pretty good and gets into your head just enough. So, for me the diapers are foreplay, not really a part of intercourse. I know, this is probably too direct, too blunt and too male, but that's me.

Mahalo beachxbunni123 for starting a thread that has brought in such a diverse cross section of this community. All I can contribute is my thoughts on why I am very discrete and why I think the "main stream" is disguisted by just the idea of an adult enjoying diapers. Listen to the parents of 2 to 3 year olds and you will hear how anxious they all are to get their children potty trained. When you hear their "words of encouragement" you will know that yet another generation has been set-up to be negative about diapers. Does this bring back fond memories for ya'll yet? Innocently enough, most of us were taught as children to be ashamed to caught in diapers and to be critical of those that are in them, unless they are really young infants. Kudos to those that rose above this and have compassion for incontinent people and especially to those that accept that we are okay. Aloha ya'll!

Diaper_Me, A lot of people have offered you advice even though some of it has been been from their fantasies. While honesty in a relationship with a woman is the best policy, it's a bit late now. Pretending this doesn't exist won't really work either. Let her interpret your sleep talking however she wants and while you are awake, do little things that let her know you are thinking of her. Take time to talk with her and take her out on a date. Why is this my advice to you on sleep talking about diapers? Because, unless she is totally grossed out about adults in diapers, she might accept your diaper desires because she really loves you or not. You both have a child and protecting it is the top priority. If she deciphers your sleep talking or otherwise brings it up, try to be the first to show that your thoughts have nothing to do with children in general or your child specifically. I wish you luck and hope you will keep us all informed. Aloha, Honu

NappyCouple, Welcome! My wife (BabyMaggie) and I are both here as well. From some of my other posts, your wife must be a type 2 in my book - accepting. My wife is type 3, a woman who understands because she chooses to wear diapers as well. You are blessed that she is not type 1 - the people who are unaccepting of us. I hope you both find what you are both looking for and that it helps your relationship. Aloha, Honu

D Lighting, I know you are fishing for responses from the biological girls and I'm not one. Hold one. My wife is one and I think (hope) I can help you Bro. You understand the guy perspective with 20/20 vision. Don't think for one moment that girls see it that way. For my wife, it is primarily emotional and diapers do not equal sex in one bit. Not even a little, not at all, no way. Diapers, bottles, bibs, stuffed toys, blankies, and (OMG) clothes fit into the picture along with the diapers. For her (read "most of them") it is about feeling little. Where is your wife in all this? Probably not an AB/LG like mine or what I think is most of the girls who understand us. That means she is either in the intolerant or trying to understand group. If she's in the former, I pity you. If she is trying to understand it all, I think you should definately pitch this towards the emotional side of being cared for, protected and accepted despite doing things like wetting yourself. What puts us guys at odds with women who didn't find some sort of enjoyment in diapers before meeting us is that women, for the most part, prefer to be the ones that are cared for, protected and accepted. Yeah, I might be dead wrong, but look at all the guys here that are either hiding it from their GF/wife or are divorced. I found a woman in whom I can live a life with give and take. She gets to play her character of a 2 year old little girl (LG) and I get "mommy time" plus the encouragement to stay in diapers 24/7. It's give and take buddy. What can you give her in exchange for your bottom line on diapers? Here's a theory to ponder: Men are intellectual creatures with emotions and women are emotional creatures with intellect. Yes, S*X is #1 with us guys, but it's only like #6 with the girls. For them, #1 is having an emotional connection. Work on that and you might get somewhere. Good Luck with Aloha, Honu

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Hey there young'in! I'm a distance runner and 24/7 so I think I'm qualified to answer you. Yes, I run in a diaper It's not an adult diaper, it's a Pampers size 6. Right now you are wondering how an adult guy like me can wear a Pampers size 6. Good question. While this answer may belong in another folder, it also applies here. Using a sewing machine with zig-zag, I created a "strap" that extends the fastners for Pampers. The center is a row of about 8 of the hook part of several Pampers all stitched to a fabric strip. Next, I stitched a piece of elastic, the same width, to each side and cut it to the right length. To each end I put a combination of the rug side of some sew-on velcro and the sinny stuff that the adhesive part comes stuck to when the diapers are still in the bag. Okay, that's the extenstion strap and it does hold a size 6 or size 7 Pampers up on my 160 pound, 32 inch waist frame. Your results may not be the same. The effect of aerobic activity in 90+ degree heat and similar humidity is that most of your body fluid leaves you as sweat. About 30 minutes into a run, I usually feel the need and pee my diaper. The result is usually a very small wetting with concentrated urine. I'm up to 10 mile runs on Saturday now and will have to start carrying water. If I get to the point of leaking, I'll look for this thread and tell you about it. What I can also assure you is that during my run yesterday, I was so soaked with sweat that you wouldn't be able to tell sweat from pee. Really! So, it all comes down to how much you sweat. Of course, cycling is different than running and I'd look for a diaper that I could be comfortable in and well as discrete. It is for the sake of discretion that I wear a baby diaper while running. Even under split running shorts, no one can see it! Aloha, Honu

Reina, E como mai - welcome! As Duck^2 observed, you are quite rare and it is a pleasure to meet you. There is a very large part of the community on this site and it and some of the people are quite remarkable in real life. We all share a very closely guarded secret that draws us together because society is so unaccepting of what we enjoy. Don't worry. What we enjoy is commericially available, can be made at home legally, does not involve minors or otherwise break a law. I hope you enjoy your time on this site and don't mind the attention that being rare can bring. Aloha, HonuDL, husband and daddy to BabbyMaggie

Aloha, I'm glad you are finally legal and doing the adult thing of introducing yourself. Please do contribute to the discussions and enjoy yourself. You now have the right to make choices for yourself. Aloha, Honu

Yes, the Makers Mark plus a Boost or Tranquility peach top liner boost pad are great. With the SAP based boost pad, these are really good diapers. What diapers are you having sewn up? Aloha, HonuDL

New2Inc, You have had lots of answers, except for the sewing one. I've tried my hand at sewing both some birdseye prefolds (easy!) and new style pocket diapers (not quite so easy). If you in this for the long haul, pocket style cloth diapers have an inner layer that is 100% polyester which helps you feel dry. Sewing the containment layer, which is usually PUL, is the tricky part. A "walking foot" is the only way I can do it. I bought an adult size pattern on-line and it is a scaled up baby pattern. I have wicking of wetness at the leg opening to the fabric side of the PUL. I'm working on my own design to solve this, but don't hold your breath. You can purchase pocket diapers sewn by seamstresses, but they are not cheap! Making prefolds is much cheaper than buying them and is something anyone can do because I can do it! Plus, you go really green by choosing bamboo fabric, take the common road with gauze, go ultra cheep with flannel or old school with birdseye. It's all your choice and gives you another skill you can develop. At least, I look at it that way.

Wow, that is like combination of flash back and a wake-up call to how disappointing stick and brick stores are now. I'm sorry that you have to hide this side of yourself from your wife. It sounds like she is part of the group that never will accept this side of you and I'm really sorry about that. Yes, I guess you will have to check out specialty medical supply stores that stock Tranquility diapers. They are decent enough, but the problem those stores have is the high cost of storing them on the shelves. Look at this from a busines perspective and you'll see that you can make much more money by selling adult diapers by mail or with "just in time" delivery. I know that doesn't help you, but it does help you foresee how things are going to be. Now, I'll try to be helpful. Since the thing the stores don't want to pay for is storage, maybe you can rent a small storage area. Otherwise, you will have to have an area in your house that your wife NEVER looks in. That, my friend, is risky. Next, you will need a P.O. Box. The UPS store offers those and there are others. It needs to be close enough to your commuting route that you can check it for your orders and still make it home without arousing your wife's suspictions. You might as well also have a secret credit card that only knows your billing address as the P.O. Box. Okay, this has gotten very "James Bond", and even worse, it suggests have a marital relationship and keeping secrets from your partner. Bad, very bad. Of course, it all could be for surpise XMas presents

Greetings Everyone! I'm such a newbie that I've only just gotten around to introducing myself. I'm mostly DL with just enough AB to enjoy the personal touch that ocmes with being cared for. As a result of dating and marrying an AB/LG, I've developed into a Daddy on the side. Yeah, I've been around the block a bit and can offer you young guys a little unsolicited advice. First, it doesn't matter how many times you try to quit wanting to wear diapers, you're still going to come back to them. Second, the other gender either is totally put off by this, willing to accomodate it because they love you (don't bet on it lasting) or are already into this like you are. The third group is quite a bit more difficult to find, but hang in there! With the loving support of my AB wife, we are both in diapers at all times. In addition to diapers, I'm a guitar player and a distance runner. Yes I do run in a diaper and find that I need to use it after about a half hour of running. Stay warm if you can't stay dry Honu DL

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Welcome! It was very open minded of you to research this community and to show so much support to your GF. The world needs more people who are understanding of us and less of the sort that your GF first shared her secrets with. Now, if we can only convince the rest of the world that we are productive citizens and not harmful to chronological children...

Hi Mary-Ann and welcome! I'm new here too but already think it's one of the better boards.