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@DL-Boy hehehehe Yeah, I saw that, and his wife was laughing because of that ? Brian

@BlakeJordan I have also learned that you should "FLUFF UP" a diaper before putting it on: You open the diaper all the way, open the wings, then fold it down the MIDDLE, lining up the ends: then it will fold down the middle: After you do that, your leak guards are UP, and you can see the "Hourglass shape" and then when it is alll set, give a PULL on the front and back of the diaper, and VIOLA, all set: You should FLUFF a Diaper because a diaper machine compacts the diaper down, and you have to fluff them to wake them UP to be used K. Huck's Youtube channel has an awesome video about how this is done: It is helpful for ANY diaper that is compressed in a package: Diaper Fluffing for Efficiancy (They are a Hell of a lot more comfortable too, because they are STIFF when they are first come out of the package) Good Luck! Brian

@Ames No, they did not make it easy, and I remember having to make phone calls to the doctor every day for WEEKS - What happened with me was that they could only provide certain diapers to me, but they ONLY USED 2 suppliers. When I realized what they were doing to me, I called my Case Manager, and asked her what they do for people in Care Facilities that need them - She said that all they do is throw a pad under the person, and they use Prevail Air, or similar diapers, because they said that "plastic backed diapers caused patients to have adverse reactions, caused skin breakdowns, and other issues." I told her that a Plastic Backed Diaper is BETTER than anything that they were providing me, and that I found that the REASON they were providing me garbage products were because they were reimbursed $13 USD per Bag of Diapers, when the Plastic ones were $24/bag - so my state was NOT EVEN reimbursing a fair rate, and I YELLED at medicaid, saying that they were CRAZY - and I KNEW the reason that I was unable to get better products was due to the reimbursement rates. So, I asked the State to INCREASE this rate for me and my situation: Then they said that there was a supplier in New Hampsire that could provide me the Magamaxes: Doctor asked me for 5 brands that I liked, then they REJECTED them all: Basically because they were all expensive and plastic backed My Criteria: Plastic Backed, and able to last the day, PERIOD!! So, I began using Megamaxes, and Prevail Underpads, although I can get over 200 of the prevails, and I think I'm gonna get rid of them in favor of the Megamaxes. I like this way, because my supplier orders them from Amazon, and ships them on a "Call when needed Basis!" Now that I have something that works for me, I have them on my chart. DON'T Use the Non-plastic backed ones - They don't work well if you have a full bladder Crazy, Huh?? And they Think a Prevail Diaper will handle it hehehehhe, Yeah, RIGHT!!! Brian

@Ames You are SO Welcome - These Megamax Diapers are SO AWESOME, compared to the ones that my State Medicaid Agency Authorized for me: They have this rule apparently that says that they think that "tabbed briefs" should be non plastic backed diapers, and the "Prevail Air" Diapers can't even hold ONE wetting of mine, and so I basically complained to the company and to Medicaid that they have NO IDEA what a "diaper" was. I grew up in the time where a DIAPER was a WHITE PLASTIC BACKED, TAPED, PURFUMED garment that could deal with most things, but now, they want to say that a "tabbed brief" is a piece of white or blue cotton, and that you cant even GET anything plastic backed, even though the supposed diaper (The Prevails) are what are allowed, and thats ALL they allow: I had to wait 3 MONTHS for a decision, and then had to DENY the companies that they were shipping samples from in order to show the Doctor what they were sending me - He got a LAUGH, then told me that the MEGAMAXES are ON my Medical Records, and THAT is what I get from NOW ON! The GaryWear Vinyl Pants are pretty cool too - I have 2 pair, and use them Daily - Best investment I made - I will have to get some more as well Take Care, and Keep in Touch Brian

@Newbaby2013 How do you find that? ANSWER: Very CAREFULLY and SLOWLY! I have a Disability myself, and have Homemaker Services in Once a Month, and additional Services in Weekly to help me with organizational tasks at home, so I also have experiences with the Medicaid and State Systems. This does NOT surprise me at all: I have found that a lot of people who are incontinent for whatever reason and use diapers embrace their disability, because it is normal for them. Some people already use diapers, so they may add aspects of the AB/DL lifestyle depending on how they feel about the situation. I have heard that people accept their situation (using diapers for example) so they add facets of the lifestyle to make themselves feel happy and let's be real - if it makes you HAPPY to be an AB or DL, then AWESOME - However, you have to be CAREFUL here: Most people who have a Disability that use services such as Nurses, PCA's LNA's, etc, use these services because they cannot perform Activities of Daily Living (ADL's) without assistance from a caregiver. These are PROFESSIONALS, and they deal with all aspects of care: this can be Feeding, Toileting, Showering, Dressing, Meal Prep, Shopping, Medication Setup and dispensing, and other important daily life activities. People who care for you, Change your diapers, help you shower, etc, are doing this as PROFESSIONALS, and do it without batting an eyelash, and they keep these actions confidential, meaning that people who do NOT need to know what is going on outside of your care team, won't know unless you tell them, or unless they are mandated reporters under your state/county laws - Remember that a mandated reporter can report, and is REQUIRED to report situations that they think put you or a member of your team at risk, this is why a professional relationship needs to be a professional relationship - BELIEVE ME when I tell You, the WRONG actions CAN cause YOU a myrad of TROUBLE, so professional relationships NEED to remain that way for your SANITY as well as for your safety - One WRONG or MISCONSTRUED ACTION and it could Backfire on you, with disasterous results! In a PROFESSIONAL Relationship, you have a higher standard because the pros are taking care of you, and there is a lot of oversight. In a PERSONAL Relationship, there is no such protections, and you are on your own. It is NOT UNCOMMON for someone helping you to have some sort of relationship, but it is PROFESSIONAL, and should stay that way. Communication is KEY: However, just because you have a disability, that should NOT be a TURN OFF to the "right" individual. Being Diapered is NOT a big deal, as for you, it is a normal thing, and your disability makes you a special and unique individual. However, your APPROACH should be truthful and straight forward. You don't want to "spill the beans to" the first lady that you meet, but you don't want to LIE either - If you want a relationship, start SLOW, and don't expect that you will be able to get your "parental relationship" right away - It takes time, and the right individual that feels the same way, and with any relationship, it takes time and patience, and the most important thing TRUST! I agree with @Snugglebear_69 You are looking for a specific situation - However, you should try NOT to mix a professional relationship with a personal one - This can backfire on you, and can lead to disaster. a "Care Team" is a team that is trained to help you, and can train a significant other to help YOU, but a "Mommy" Type Person in a Relationship is Personal, and between YOU and the Mommy - It should NOT involve your Care Team, even though your disability requires 24/7 support form your Team. This is because if a PERSONAL relationship develops, you don't want the hassle and stigma associated with having everyone know of your "personal business" or relationships SnuggleBear_69 is correct that You are being VERY Specific, which could limit your possible partners. Just remember that they need support from YOU as well, so if you are looking for a specific type of relationship, that You make sure that your partner knows what you want, and is COMFORTABLE with it, and that YOU know what your partner wants: A relationship is a 2-way street, and a "Mommy/Baby" Relationship is a special dynamic requires special guidelines and commitments from BOTH Partners. This type of a relationship is a type that is NOT a professional level relationship, because of the fact that you want a Mommy to "baby" you - This is why the "pros" should do ONLY those things that they are doing now. Anything else other than that could jeopardize your team, and could cause problems for you and the team if the word got out that something is out of the ordinary. I think that you will find a match if you are open, honest and are able to articulate what you are looking for in a Mommy/Baby Relationship. However, you ALSO have to understand that the Mommy will most likely have expectations too, so be open and receptive to her needs as well. Good Luck! Brian

@Ames A Northshore Megamax Diaper is aa Plastic-Backed Diaper that they make - It is supposed to be the best they make, and they are available online through Amazon - These things are GREAT for long-term use. I have gone a whole DAY from 5AM to 9 or 10PM in the same diaper, and if you have the right fit, and you have a pear of Garywear Pants over the top, it should be OK, if you put the diaper ON, and then pull up the Pants over the top if the diaper, making sure that the pants cover the leg holes of the diaper. If you have to work 8-10 hour shifts a Megamax may be the best bet Brian

@Ames I have been incontinent on and off all throughout my life. Having a Disability, I have had to deal with the pitfalls of this, and my main problem is that I don't get much sleep at night, so last June, I decided to go with Diapers, as bouts of incontinence and bathroom visits were making sleeping harder, as I could only get a few (~3 hours) a night sleep - I wear Disposables: My main diaper is a Northshore Megamax, and I put a Garywear Plastic Pants over the top: They conceal the diaper well, in addition to making it so that you keep the mess inside the diaper and the cover. I also use a pad or two on my bed/chair, so I don't leak, but sometimes, that will happen. The Nothshores I use allow me to wet 5-6 times, and it lasts the night, and they do hold a lot, but you have to be careful, because they can leak if you are a side sleeper sometimes. Plastic Pants can be stiff, and in most cases that is what you need, because you don't want the diaper to be moving around when you are moving around. The best setup is tight enough to contain the diaper, at the legs and the plastic pants allow for the diaper to stay PUT, as well as for the diaper to stay hidden. You don't want to have them so tight that they show marks on the skin, so go a size bigger than the diaper size you use. Even if you wear the Plastic Pants, you STILL can get red marks.if you wear them for a while. Yes, they DO help! Take Care, and feel free to message me anytime Brian

@Bbuttons: You are welcome - Enjoy the weekend! Brian

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Hello @Bbuttons I too, had been lurking here until I'd Say August of 2019 - Been lurking for years, and I finally decided to become a full member of the community myself. Nice to hear from you - The people here are really nice, and they have been REALLY helpful and understanding - I live in the United States, and have been incontinent on and off all my life, but have been experiencing more frequent bouts of it on and off since June of 2019, when I decided to take action by wearing diapers. I hope that you have a great day, and if you have any questions, please feel free to ask Brian

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@Vernet: No problem: I hope that My Advice to you will help you make an informed decision: Just remember, that since you live at home, remember that the reaction you get may not be the one that you are or were expecting Brian

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@dmhinds2 I don't know how I missed this response, but I will answer you now No: I never had to wear one of those, because my trunk/upper body control was not affected by my CP. However, I have seen something like that used on my disabled brother in his Wheelchair have to use one so he stays in a sitting position, because he lacked that control. I have also seen disabled individuals have to use a Baby/Toddler seat when going to school, because they cant sit up or lack upper body control. I had to look up what you were talking about before responding - They have so many of these special seats for the little kids nowadays Take Care, and Thanks for the welcome ? Brian

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@vernet: Having a need/feeling for diapers is not bad - I understand what you mean - The only thing I can say is if you are living with your parents, this may be harder for you to achieve. You don't say how old you are, so I can only advise you to use caution - They might find out your secret, and then you would have to tell them something. Hiding diapers would be hard at home if your parents do not know of your fetish/need. If you are "found out" you would have to "come clean" and let them know what is going on. They may react positively, or they may react negatively - You would have to be the one that has to decide how to handle this. If you live on your own, you could indulge more freely in your "experimentation." I like disposables, because of the ease of disposing of them, and the feeling that they give me - wearing them can be a little strange at first, and if you have the proper protection over your diaper, you should be OK, but you should be prepared for the ocasional accident or leakage if your plan on using the diapers. If you are just wearing them, and NOT using them, then you should wear them, then dispose as quickly as possible, to avoid bad smells in your residence or your room. Now, about wearing diapers and incontinence: Using or wearing diapers for longer periods DOES NOT cause incontinence. Think of a diaper as another form of "Underwear, You choose to wear/experiment with: You don't just lose all control because you have a diaper on: You MAY lose some control if you use for long periods, as your body may learn after a long while to just "let go" in the diaper when you feel the need to go: I don't think a diaper is a bad thing, and I have been disabled all my life, and have had problems with incontinence on and off. NO: prolonged use of diapers does NOT cause incontinence - I would consider 2 options: 1. ONLY tell people about what is going on if you feel the need to disclose it to them. Parents usually find stuff out very easily, so eventually you would have to tell them IF you are doing this and living at home. Use your judgement on this one, as you are the one that knows your parents and the way that they may react. You may be able to just tell them outright what is up, or you could talk to a friend and see what they think: I tell you this, because in some cases if you tell the wrong person, it can backfire, and cause you to have problems. For others, it is None of their business why you are wearing/using diapers and other products 2. If you want to wear diapers, there are ways to hide the diaper(s) and the sounds that they make: Encase the diaper in something like Garywear Vinal Pants (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00B8N95SQ/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o06_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) Once You put a pair of these on, you usually just make sure that you have them pulled all the way up and BAM, the diaper is unseen and unheard: Only those that KNOW you wear will know - and these look like underwear. Next, put a pair of pants on, and pull them up so that it covers the Garywear Pants, and if necessary, use a BELT to keep your pants up. If you have to USE the diaper, these things usually keep you dry as you use the diaper. The trick is to point your "assets" DOWN and make sure that the diaper is tight: Loose taping of diapers can cause them to open up. or for pee/poo to escape the diaper and wet the inside of your pants: usually, if they are wet after use, it it because of overflow. Remember: if you wear diapers, you should always make sure that if you are CLEAN EVERY TIME you change one, and that means wipe yourself down, keeping yourself shaved, and DRY, and make sure to use cornstarch based powders. DO NOT use talc, as that has been linked to cancer I believe. Have Powder, wipes, Diaper Rash Cream and Diapers with you if you are traveling, and if you USE a diaper, dispose of it ASAP, as the smell will give you away, and that would NOT be good if you want to keep it secret. Also, I recommend that you shower regularly, and this will help you with rashes - You have to keep yourself clean, or this may be something your parents will find out about. The BEST Diapers are those that work for you: I use NorthShore Megamax: They work well, but they are expensive. Let me know if there is anything else I can help you with, and Good Luck! Brian

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