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In all fairness, the site doesn't keep track of members viewing profiles if they aren't signed in. Anyone could view my profile all they want without signing in and I would be none the wiser. I can also right-click user images (online or offline) to either download or search google for those images. I'd definitely keep identifying information on this site to a minimum.

Best of luck.

Early childhood head trauma for me. Even though I'm into AB/DL I generally try to understand it from multiple perspectives so I know who I can talk to about it and who is better off not knowing.

Does he do anything that makes you uncomfortable (groan, roll his eyes, comment, give you overall impression he's kind of dragging his feet through the experience)? If you just feel awkward about the whole scenario perhaps you should ease into it, as if this is the case you're probably not accustomed to exposing this side of yourself to someone else. Talk to him about it for sure, but maybe you can mix in one of your little activities with a nonsexual activity you do with him (like wearing a diaper and watching TV). That's all I can come up with. Does anyone else that you personally know know about your little side?

It sounds like he does not want to participate, but as far as asking him for it, a direct approach would probably be better than beating around the bush. It may be that he just can't get into it and you'll both have to decide how to proceed with your relationship from there.

I think at best she would have referred you to another professional if you had brought it up, assuming that she deemed it irrelevant to your sessions and depending on how in-depth you want to take that discussion. Don't expect licensed professionals to get too chatty about kinks and fetishes (unless that is directly related to why you seek their services). In my experience therapists are really only there to direct you to resources which they believe that you need, along with counseling, but there the list ends.

You could try getting friends and family members together for an intervention, as it's harder for them to blow it off at that point. Involve your parents at the very least so they can assist in enforcing rules, as it's clear that he does not respect you as an authority figure in his life. If you do try to go it alone then at the very least try not to be overly confrontational about it as he will only shrug it off and you'll get even more upset. There are multiple ways to accomplish this, but the key point to remember is you're trying to convince him that he needs to start pulling his own weight as opposed to venting to him about your personal problems which involve him. Tread carefully and good luck.

@Bettypooh I certainly get where you are coming from, having been diagnosed with major depression disorder, myself (which is fueled by other health, mental, and social problems). I also know the joys of constantly weighing the pros and cons of just ending it once and for all, but I eventually came to the conclusion that death is not what I cognitively want, rather better circumstances, which, as you pointed out, you have to create for yourself. You really have to get yourself out of your own head and figure out what your problems really are so you can figure out how to address them. I feel like that took me way too long to figure out, but I guess all of us eventually come to that conclusion whether it's the easy way or the hard way.

People tend to be a bit more insensitive when they have not had the particular experience themselves or had the exact opposite experience. As far as advice on this forum goes, since it is free and by no means the equivalent of professional psychiatric help, I'd say just take everything with a grain of salt. No one's personal opinion is going to change or fix a problem.

To me it's all about intent. When a responsible adult disciplines a child, they let them know that they did something wrong and need discipline. The discipline given is not done out of anger or malicious intent, but with the hopes that the child might learn from the experience. Spanking might not be the most effective punishment or necessarily work (since if a child has a mental illness they might not be able to learn from that form of discipline), but if used sparingly and effectively it gets the point across. I was rarely spanked myself, but when I was I knew that I deserved the punishment and I was not as likely to act out. In all honesty I feel that in a world filled with escapism where both children and adults alike continually seek entertainment that the ban on electronics was always the bigger punishment.

You could always try to focus on your breathing as you go to sleep. Every now and then I'll listen to a hypnosis video to get me relaxed as I'm trying to sleep and that usually helps.

It was kind of embarrassing to pick up diapers when I was first starting out, but the thing to remember is that the cashier is paid by the hour, typically doesn't care who buys what, and you don't have to specify that the diapers are for you. Another thing you can consider is ordering online, but that might depend on your availability to receive packages. Seeing your doctor would definitely help, but another thing to try is to limit your fluid intake before bed and to use the bathroom whenever possible (don't not use the bathroom just because you're wearing a diaper; get up and use the toilet so you retain functionality). As far as dating goes, you just have to meet people and mention that you have health problems that require use of incontinence products. Some people are understanding, but if they're not they will let you know that incontinence is a deal breaker and you can look for someone else.

A big part of depression is recognizing what triggers you and either knowing how to avoid or how to respond to your triggers so that you come out on top. Think about what upsets you and make a plan of action on how to stay positive when depression strikes. I can also confirm that alcohol and drugs do not help with depression (in fact, they make it worse). I say this to almost every depressed soul I meet, but if you try to take care of yourself (eat and sleep right, get enough exercise, challenge your mental capacity, and try to help others), it gets easier, and eventually manageable. Good luck, bud.

Dude, first of all, you're talking like a bot. Your posts seem a little random and as though you don't put much thought into them. Secondly, people are entitled to their opinions. You have to study people and see how accepting they are before you come out to them, otherwise their opinion of you will diminish. Diapers are a fetish for you and people don't go about ranting about their fetishes in polite society. You have to get to know people REALLY well before you should even think about mentioning this aspect of your life to them (unless for some reason they need to know). I personally dislike people who go pushing their personal beliefs onto me, but by the same token if I make them accept my fetish it's somewhat hypocritical for me to expect them to have an open mind. Finally, just do you. You don't need anyone's approval for how you live your life. Just make sure you don't do anything stupid to get yourself in trouble with the law, and ignore the naysayers. It would also help if you exercise, watch what you eat, and continually expand your horizons, but one day at a time is fine.

Adding to what I said earlier, just because there is not currently a law against something does not mean there might not be one in the future. Incidents provide grounds for new laws, so if something becomes a problem, you can bet legal action will be taken.

Swearing aside, as you pointed out, if one were to get his/her jollies from public exposure, they could expect to not walk away Scott free, which is just plain stupid at that point. Not really in the mood for a rant today, but don't be a creep. Wear clothes in public and should you feel possessed to wear diapers in public (hopefully under your clothes) then don't draw attention to yourself.

You don't want that kind of secret weighing down your relationship. If she can handle it, good. If not she might not be the one for you.

It might be helpful to find some fun hobbies to help get yourself out of your head.

If you want this long term then she needs to know what she's getting herself into, otherwise you can try quitting. If neither one works out there's always more girls in the world and it may take some time to find the right one, but no one likes the feeling of betrayal from years of secrets.

He's still breaking exposure laws whether he's wearing a diaper or normal boxers/briefs. If you leave the house, put some fucking pants on. For those of you who want to be able to go out in public just clad in a diaper like children do, you are freaking adults. Act like it. It's creepy and gives the rest of us a bad name when community members start acting like idiots and everyone else has to figure out the context, often drawing the wrong conclusion because as astonishing as it sounds, your average Joe doesn't have a degree in psychology.

There is also such a thing as autopedophilia. An autopedophile is attracted to themself at a younger age and will try to recreate that state of mind. They may be sexual or asexual, but this varies, although as mentioned before, autonepiophiles (one attracted to their infant state of mind) tend to be asexual because as an infant they did not comprehend sex and therefore do not have sexual desires associated with this persona. Whether you give Wikipedia credit or not, it's all there. You could also probably peruse medical journals if that's what floats your boat.

Assuming the guy is an autonepiophile (one who is asexual but gets arousal from diapers and objects related to babyhood, seriously, it's a thing, look it up), he would still have a difficult time convincing a judge of his nature. Sorry, I thought the aforementioned profile was implied, as I mentioned it in an earlier post.

Context please?

Give Job Corps a shot. Don't just throw in the towel before you try out all your options.

She's referring to the fact that an eighteen year old can be registered as a sex offender for having sexual relations with a seventeen year old (a newly minted adult having sex with a minor just one year younger than they are).