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Well, they better be prepared for a RUDE awakening... I'm all for helping out, but only for people willing to help themselves

I appreciate everyone letting me vent about this and seeing that my points are actually valid. I'm kinda used to being told I'm "being dramatic and/or paranoid", tbh ? Unfortunately, the house is NOT owned by me, we are all renting Its just so... frustrating, you know? I have 2 jobs, I buy my own groceries, pay for what I need, etc. And if I need financial help, I pay people back. But just some of these behaviors are ridiculous! Like a couple of months ago, for example. One of my jobs at the moment is at Spirit Halloween. If you tell them you wanna "stick around for build and tear down", that means you're there for the initial building and take down of the store(s). You can earn up to $16/hr during build and tear down, so you know I was gonna be there ? So, needless to say, when we're setting up stores in Central Virginia in late July, it gets HOT? . One day, I come home from a typical 9-5 during a build day ( which is basically me and the guys carrying and putting up walls that can be as light as 25 lbs to as heavy as 80 lbs), so when I get home, I'm drenched in sweat, dirt and dust. All I wanna do is make my way to the kitchen, make a sandwich, and sit down for 5 minutes before getting a shower. I'm making my sandwich, when I use the last piece of bologna that I bought. So naturally, I go to the trash can to toss the packaging out, when I notice its full. I think to myself: "I'll just get it later, I'm too damn tired right now" When I hear my step brother from behind me say: " Yeah I noticed that the trash was full. Be nice if someone could take that out..." ... People... When I say it took every fiber of my being to not turn around and call him out... I literally just got home from carrying 80 lbs walls and building a fucking store for 7 hours (since we were given an hour lunch during build) in 95° heat... ... and he has been home ...ALL...DAMN... DAY... I had to take a deep breath and walk away. He has Autism. I try to respect that. He and my younger brother are on the spectrum. But here's the thing: He is sharp as a tack! He's HIGH FUNCTIONING! And I've seen him take out the trash before..... So what the flying fuck is getting in your way from doing it right now?! Unbelievable! I love my family... but Sweet Jesus, this entitled attitude gets to be a little much at times...?? And I completely agree. Unfortunately, when the sad day of my step mother's passing comes, these kids are... in big trouble ?????

Hey guys Just had to vent for a sec Life overall has gotten kinda hectic for the past year or so On October 8th, 2021 I walked into my uncle's (Craig) bedroom to find him curled up in a ball, with a belt wrapped around his arm, cold to the touch Needless to say, he overdosed I never really talked about it after it happened, because I figured my mother was the one who REALLY needed the support (seeing as how he was her little brother) A few days after that (October 12th) is when I had to put my anxiety aside and finally get my driver's license. I had had God awful anxiety over driving since I was 15, so I constantly put it off After my uncle's passing, I didn't really have a choice but to get my license, seeing as how he would have been the driver if my mother was too busy I managed to focus enough to pass my test and get my license However, after the test, I heard my mother and step-dad talking: "Well, Kat, you know that he had a bad heart... and he knew that once Chan (me) got her license, it was only a matter of time before he wouldn't have her car to drive anymore. He just didn't seem to see a way out." " I know, Bob. But it doesn't make it easier to deal with... You know, the day it happened, Craig walked up to me and hugged me from behind and said 'I love my sissy!'... I was so mad at him (I don't even remember why now) and I shoo'ed him off of me and said 'Yeah, I know you do' And that was the last thing I said to him..." I wanted to try and comfort my mother, but I've never been good with such things... I try not to think about how he must have felt, doing that one last hit... I called in to work, letting them know what happened I took the next few days off to help with everything And then I took my driving test and passed But I still felt... weird, about the whole thing I know thats not the best way to describe it... I guess it never really hit me that I lost a family member, you know? I never knew Craig before he was on drugs... So, about a month after it happened, I glanced at his Urn and I asked my mother: "I honestly never knew him before his addiction, Momma... What was he like?" We were watching Fresh Prince of Bel Air on TBS at the time She pointed to the TV and said: "Picture Will Smith as Fresh Prince, but White That was the only difference, Chan He LOVED music Could beat ANYONE in basketball Loved learning about and fixing cars Would give the shirt off his back to help others And could make anyone laugh or smile because he was the biggest goofball." And that's when I had to excuse myself because it finally hit me I started crying because thats when I finally realized just WHO had left us... Things were calming down for a few months. Then in March, my stepfather walks in one day and says: "Hey we're moving!" I went BALLISTIC. Where?! Why?! How?! Everyone else was ECSTATIC because they were moving to a river house. I, on the other hand, can go without seeing the water. So, that meant I had to up and leave a house I had known for the past 18 years And of course It wouldn't just go smoothly with us leaving a home we had all known for damn near 2 decades and having to give up a job I actually enjoyed while actually being friends with my coworkers... Because the Universe just had to ask "where's the fun in that?"... ? On April 15th, my grandma passed away And that hasn't been easy either, considering that my Nana and my Grandma were my REAL mother figures growing up Nana passed away when I was 12 And now Grandma was gone... It felt so surreal to me... it still kinda does The family was told that she was in the hospital, but no one seemed too concerned about it... I could only assume it was because she seemed to be on the mend for awhile (?) She apparently got a really bad infection, which was causing severe pain When she was lucid, she told her doctors that if the pain became too much, to just let her go So, that's what happened. I've felt terrible ever since We were given a phone number to call for her hospital room... but I just couldn't bring myself to call What if she was resting, and I was disturbing her? What if they were running tests, so I couldn't talk to her anyway? What if this was going to be the very last time I ever spoke to the last mother figure I had left? ... Dear God, I wished I picked up that damn phone I wish I told her that I missed her and that I loved her (even if we were never THAT emotional with eachother) I wish I could have let her know how much her guidance meant to me... But I didn't And now I'm here, in my Dad and stepmother's house Feeling teary eyed and nauseous from being too emotional all at once But I gotta try and get some sleep because Chan (Big me) has to go to work tomorrow Sorry that was such a long winded rant I just had to get it out somehow If you stuck around through all that built up drama, then thank you for putting up with all this emotional verbal vomit ?? I hope yall have a good night and stay safe! P.S. Always say "I love you" You'll never know when it'll be the last time ❤

I know that exact feeling! ? you can't tell anything to some people ? They blatantly refuse to believe they could ever be incorrect about anything! Its frustrating when you just want to help them, but in those cases I've learned that if they TRULY need/want the help, they'll follow your advice (even if they won't admit it ?)

You wanna know whats crazy? I'M the one that feels like I'm looking after toddlers! ME! ? I've got 7 siblings in total. 3 of them are in their twenties (just like me), but act like they're 2 (and not in a good way)! Ironically enough, their mother babies them to the point where I'M the only one acting like an adult! That's just... weird, you know? For obvious reasons...? ??? They don't wash their dishes, they don't flush half the time and they STEAL FOOD THAT I BUY! They don't ask to eat it, nor do they replace it... Sorry for the rant, but I had to get it out somehow Does anyone else feel this? Like they are looking after LITERAL toddlers? Anyway, sorry about that I swear, this website is starting to become my new journal, or something ?? Hope yall have a good day and stay safe!:3

Hey guys! Happy September (or as me and my friends call it, Halloween Eve ??) Just wanted to see what everyone was planning for Halloween this year?^^ My friends and I usually get together for a big bonfire in our Halloween costumes We'll listen to spooky music and chat the night away ?? But we also have candy out for the kids (and me ??) Then we'll go inside and watch Halloween movies and specials ^^ I also had an interesting idea, for us Littles that enjoy Halloween ^^ Wouldn't it be cool if we had our own ABDL theme Trunk or Treat? Or if there was a few collective people (or even a whole neighborhood!) That would let us Trick or Treat, just like when we were younger? We could go in a big group or even have a couple caregivers in charge and we could go out and get free candy, just like the good old days ??❤ Anyway, just thought that would be neat^^ Everybody have a good day and stay safe!

That's awesome! I'm glad you have someone by your side to share this side of you with ❤ I never really saw it from that perspective, tbh I suppose being a full grown adult at least allows us to be able to articulate what we want and need, which is extremely important in any relationship ^^ I hope I can be that lucky and find the right person for me too someday ^///^ Man, don't I know it! ? Between all the streaming services and the advances in both entertainment and medical technology, these kids HAVE IT MADE!!! ?

That's a good point too! Hope I can have a place like that someday^^

EXACTLY!!! I wanna be able to just walk around in a diaper and my Pikachu onesie all day ? I'm also jealous of the unconditional affection they get! Cuddles, snuggles, hugs, forehead kisses,etc. I didn't get much of that growing up, to the point where its kind of a struggle to normalize it now It honestly takes my mind a few minutes to be like "holy shit, they just hugged me" And by the time I realize it, its over!!! ???

Hey guys! I figured I'd just ask the community in general a question that's been in the back of my mind for awhile now. Am I the only one that gets jealous of little/younger kids and infants? Like today, for example I was just walking to my car, about to go home from work And I see a mother step out of her car with her child (couldn't have been older than 4 or 5) The little girl was crying her eyes out over being scared of something (I work at Spirit Halloween, so it could have been one of our animatronics ?‍♀️) I'm watching this mother hold her child so tenderly and shushing her and I don't know why but I started to feel teary eyed and my chest started to hurt I gripped my car door harder and clenched my teeth My stomach started to get upset too I got in my car and took some deep breaths before starting it up and heading home But I sat back and thought about it: This isn't the first time I've experienced this feeling I was hoping I wasn't the only one (?) Anyway, just kinda wanted to throw this out there. At least for the sake of getting it off my chest I hope everyone has a good day and stays safe!^^ ?

I can't wait to have my own place one of these days! That way, I can build my own Halloween/Spooky themed nursery ?? Thats an AWESOME IDEA!!^^ I kinda have a similar thing going on at the moment I've noticed that if I keep a small toy in my backpack (right now its a small Bart Simpson bendable figure) it really helps calm my nerves ^^

It's my DREAM to have a fully built nursery! Unfortunately, can't do that at the moment ? But I do have a box of toys I keep under my bed for those moments where it all seems a little much ☺️

Hey guys! I just wanted to see if anyone had any tips for Littles who don't have a caregiver (like me ^^) This is NOT a personal ad or anything, just wanted to see if there were any tips or tricks that y'all may have that could help someone get through the day Me personally, I have pretty bad anxiety So when I know I have to leave the house, I make sure I: 1)Start my day with cartoons (Handy Manny, Doc McStuffins,etc.) 2) Keep a paci in my pocket, just in case Who knows, maybe we can help each other out with tips and tricks that we may not have thought of before Have a good day and stay safe, girls, boys and joys!^^

Awesome choice! Bob's burgers is one of my favorites too!^^ Just saw the movie and it definitely didn't disappoint!

Hey guys! Been gone for awhile, decided to try and get back on here since it makes me feel happy ? Anyway, wanted to break the ice ^^ Any favorite cartoons? My more recent favorites are Gravity Falls, Craig of the Creek and Owl House ^^