BedWetMark

I've said this before, but mine and my wife's discussions ebb and flow in terms of anger or unwilling acceptance. Monday I was doing something upstairs with my wife, tidying around and I'd left some plastic pants on the floor (I generally wear them at night and not during the day as I get too hot) which I'd forgotten about. I just got a "and you can put THOSE away, disgusting". Today she got home from work and went for a bath. I was still working downstairs and she called me up and said "I'm out, you can shower and change now". So I did, got undressed, un-popped my vest and we stood there talking about something for a few mins before I went and showered. So sometimes it feels as if that acceptance is real. This has been a decent week ... BUT ... it's a fine line and something will cause the what's-wrong-nothing-what's-wrong-nothing cycle soon, probably resulting in a rant about wearing nappies. On another note, last week was particularly cold and she had to be outside for something. I offered her one of my vests (as they ARE warm and comfy), she pulled a face and said "ugh, no, I'm not a baby" and walked off. End of conversation.

They used to, but not anymore

I've recently tried a few as my wife didn't bat an eyelid when she folded one up for me a few months ago (I left it out as a test to see her reaction). Tykables Snappies. They aren't cheap, but they are SO soft and comfortable, also, the snaps are slightly further forwards than other makes so it makes it easier to do them up yourself without having to perform yoga as some seem to want you to do.

I was going to ask the same. In a country where everything wants to kill you, no way I'd be going under a house! I'm terrified of my loft space with a few webs from completely non-venomous (well, to humans) house spiders!

I think you're spot on about the cessation of active complaints. In my experience they have lessened so far, but there is definitely an undertone that rumbles along. Still, I can't really complain, I do feel like I am lucky in many ways. As for the "Australian tax", I had never realised it was that much more expensive for you guys. It makes a mockery of the programme over here where families compare their UK lifestyle to one in Oz. Personally I still don't get why so many people make the move (my own friends included) when EVERYTHING can kill you and now you're telling me it is so much more expensive. I'll stay in Hampshire thank you

From time to time when I know I'll be on my own, I'll do it too. Both out of sheer laziness so I don't have to move and also because I fancy messing (excuse the pun) around. Clean up is a pain and the longer you sit in it, the worse the smell is. Sometimes it seems to hand around forever. My clean up routine is; 1. Shower number 1. Quick shower to wash down, with a high smelling shower gel. 2. Air dry. 3. Show number 2. A proper shower. 4. New nappy on, but with loads of baby talc in the seat of it which seems to make sure everything smells great again. I can't say I'd find any enjoyment in being incontinent in that respect, I just think it must be a massive pain, but occasionally it's 'fun'. Sometimes I wish I had a "normal" fetish ... haha!

I looked up Littles Downunder ... god, you have to pay through the nose for nappies don't you? I didn't realise the prices would be THAT much higher (given the current exchange rate to GBP), I was shocked. Also, looks like you're suffering from the same stock issues that I seem to be noticing here too, there is not a great deal in stock generally. I've had to order the old faithful Tena Slips again (Ultima though) as stocks of Tykables, Rearz and ABU seem to be getting lower month by month. Maybe there is a delayed knock on in the supply chain? Anyway, bigger step for me today. As I've said I've been wearing (nearly) 24/7 since March when lockdown happened, with the odd hour out of a nappy here and there. Today my wife asked if I'd walk round and pick our son up together as I'd given up with work early. I went and showered as is the usual end of day routine and then changed into a fresh ABU Simple with vest/bodysuit, shorts and t-shirt over the top, generally my standard wear for the past 8/9 months. She got up to go and I said I'd come, I put some trainers on and threw a coat on. She was sat on the stairs as I walked past and I felt a prod to by backside. "You're not wearing THAT are you?". "Yes, let's go". Lots of grumbling but I just got on with opening the door and we left together. A few months ago I'd have been moaned at until I changed or just been left at home. Feels like progress, I think ... I hope.

I don't think there is anywhere in the UK that stocks Bambino anymore, am I wrong?

I used to only wear ABU, but their quality went downhill with side panels ripping and so on. Now I exclusively rear Tykables - they are brilliant. Consistent in quality and reliable at night.

Question for you, which term sounds more babyish, nappy or diaper? I associate nappies with baby nappies as that's what I grew up with and diapers with adult diapers as that's what I mostly see on the internet. Personally I prefer nappies, being English and all that, but it helps with the humiliation aspect that I love. ........ sometimes I wish I had normal cravings in life, haha .......

For me, yes. Lie down, powder, grab the lower right, then lower left, they'll be nice and tight, then stand up and tape the top two whilst breathing in ... At some point an hour or so later, I'll re-do the top two tighter again though.

Yes. I've found myself over the last couple of months ensuring that a meeting does not clash with a time when I think I should change. Based upon how well I know the nappy and my body, I can estimate that I will need to change at x o'clock and I have moved meetings to ensure I get a little time to do this. Although one meeting I was 10 mins late to as I "had a bathroom break", ahem. Basically I'd sprung a leak and leaks are annoying as it generally means clothes and seating will smell ... bad, so I act on this fast. To your original point, I have pushed back (for example) tradesmen coming to the house to quote, because I was at peak nappy usage and I have made every excuse under the sun to not do x, y or z because I was fairly clean and VERY comfortable. It is times like that when I wish I didn't love this so much, but then, it's time like now when I'm sat here ready for bed in a fresh Tykables and bodysuit/vest, that I do love this. I'm actually working late to get a document done, wife and child are long gone to bed, but this is my time. Yes.

Love this! It also backs up my own findings (completely unscientific) about days when I'm busy vs days when I'm working at a desk. Working at a desk days, I'll fill a Tykables (clean in the morning, change at 6pm) because of the amount of tea and coffee I drink as well as water. Days when I'm gardening or doing 'hard labour' in the house, barely anything comes out and it feels like a complete waste of a nappy, but I like to be fresh before bed. Salt is also an interesting data point as I find the day after a dominos, once I've had a few cups of tea and some water, the floodgates at some point will open.

They are "okay". They are extremely expensive and far less absorbent than say Tykables, Rearz or ABU. They look good, but like other nappies (i.e. Play Dayz), for me they are definitely in the "playing as an AB" bucket rather than the "rely on these to stop you leaking" bucket. I wouldn't trust them at night. Amazon stock them too.

Also ABU nappies are a bit quieter and they do decent cloth backed ones too. But honestly, as someone else said, YOU are more likely to hear the noise than anyone else. Most people don't wear nappies day to day, so it's not something people expect to see or hear, expect people like us, who are tuned in to it.

Unless you ditch plastic completely, the only thing that really works is tight fitting underwear over the top. So men's boxers (a size too small) or similar will dull the noise right down. I love my Tyables nappies, but they are SO VERY NOISY that they just don't work when people are around. The medical ones are sadly better for that, i.e. Tena, as the plastic is softer. But generally the way to go is very tight fitting (adult) underwear over the top.

Honest review. As I need for night, I put one on before I went to bed, woke up and it was a bit damp, but I kept it on. I've let go a few times during the day and it's now 2239 in the evening and I still have the same one on. Observations: Yes it holds bloody loads and yes it's secure at night (as are all Tykeables), BUT ........ I can smell ammonia. So that's the downside, I think 12 hours is the max for these nappies, absolute max ... no one wants to smell of ammonia or like a public toilet. I do love the design though.

Well I'm going to give these a go. Admittedly I am a Tykables fan, a huge one - they work best for me at night and as I've said, I experience far fewer leaks in Tykables than any other nappy. So they win all round, especially with the "mostly" 24/7 thing and using fewer of them. I'm generally on work calls from 9-6 every day and will get coffee and tea brought to me (and water) and my output is often considerable, so I thought I'd give these a go and see if they're even better, why not!

Keep it as your thing. From experience (I'm on my second marriage, which has been over 10 years and very good, touch wood), less is more. By that I mean if you share ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING, you have no outlet of your own. Personally I post on a couple of football forums and I dip in here occasionally. My wife doesn't ask what sites I'm visiting and neither does she care - which for me is how it should be. If she were to pick up a laptop and look at browsing history, she'd see this and football forums in amongst work, news, shopping, whatever, but I don't see it as a "hey I'm posting on x, y, z forums, do you want to see" thing. I guess it depends on everyone's dynamics though, but for me, she doesn't need (or want!) to join me here, or on my football forums.

Something else I introduced recently is a vest, with the poppers on. Now I like them for a couple of reasons, 1) they keep everything in place at night and are comfortable and 2) If I'm brutally honest I like the babyish feeling. Yeah, shoot me. So I bought one and left it lying around in my "nappy area". Nothing was said. My wife and I have taken to separate rooms at the moment, not because we hate each other, on the contrary, but I snore, LOUDLY and also, I generally like to work after hours as it's my most productive time, so I crash in another room and let her sleep. So I pulled out the vest (it's a plain white Tykables popper vest, for info) and slept in it one night. I got up, took it off, threw it on the bed in a pile, put shorts and t-shirt on and carried on. No comment on the room. Same the next night. The 3rd morning, I'd done the same and my wife had decided I'd been slovenly and made that bed too. When I checked, the vest was laid out in full, both "ends" of poppers showing, under the duvet. So I presume this has been accepted? It would be so much easier just to talk about this stuff face to face, but I know a few of you on here get it.

I've tried them too and Playdayz are poor. They are a proper ABDL nappy, i.e. they are good for role play and messing around in, but if you're actually incontinent or want to use them to their fullest, they will not last.

Personal experience from wearing many types all day (so to minimise changes after waking up and working from home) ... ABUs are great, but every one I've tried will develop a leak, even a small one. Crinkles/Better Dry are great, but don't hold anywhere as much as ... Tykables. These things are ridiculous - yes they feel more mushy, I'll give you that, but unless you flood them to their limit, you will struggled to leak. There is an absolute limit of course and the only problem with these being SO good is that when you hit that limit, the leak is a flood. On balance, of all the brands I've tried, Tykables are my favourite for a few reasons.

My wife insists I "shower" several times a day. That's her code for "get out of that nappy and put normal pants on", but when her parents came over (and stopped in our garden, socially distancing), I had showered and changed ... She knew, I knew. I got the full rocket that day. It's just utterly unpredictable as some days will be fine. I find now that I often catch her gaze looking down at my underwear area almost as if to asses the state of play. Sometimes I'll get "I know you need THAT at night, but just shower in the morning, have some pride" ... sigh. Part of me feels bad, but I don't want to stop it. You washing comment made me chuckle. Generally I try to clean my things on the sly, but I threw a pair of plastic pants in the washing one morning as I was busy. I saw my wife carry the washing to the machine later and thought "oh good, they'll be clean for later". But upon having taken a trip upstairs to get something, I peered in the washing basket, the pants sat at the bottom on their own, purposefully discarded. "Did you do ALL the washing?" I asked. "Yes" was the curt reply. "What about my pants" I bravely added. "You shouldn't need them, deal with them yourself" was the reply. Ho hum. So I did.

As I use the normal Tykables (Unicorn or whatever) as my standard night nappy, I'll definitely be trying these out. As I have said before, it's not the xxxxml absorbency so much as I've found it more about leakage control. Currently I survive on 2 Tykables Unicorns a day, sometimes 3. That won't change with these new ones, but on the rare occasion I leak a night, these should minimise that further.

Absolutely I change before bed. I really can't guarantee how much I'll pee at night, so I'd rather spend the night started dry and empty. Otherwise you end up with the inevitable leaks and overflows ...