Stroller

In the autumn of 2022 I was looking around for some different plastic pants. I wanted some that were comfortable for wearing full-time, and as leakproof as was practical. I ended up buying some of these from Llmedico. Polyurethane (not PUL), made by Gary. They were a bit noisy, but not too bad, very comfortable, and a good fit over my cloth nappies. And the elastic didn't wick. What I didn't expect was that I'd still be wearing the same pants 2 1/2 years later. I've worn the same 2 pairs of pants 24/7 since I bought them, alternating daily, and giving them a rinse out every morning. I dry them with a towel, then hang them in the bedroom to dry until the following morning. Occasionally I handwash them with soap. Well, yesterday I finally had to retire both pairs, and they're now in the bin. The structure of the pants was still as good as new, but the elastic had given up the ghost - rubber doesn't last for ever. Each pair had had 15 months of 24/7 use. Try that with PVC & see where it gets you! I've now switched to two more pairs, so the autumn of 2027 should see me posting a follow-up...

My wife knew I was an AB from the start, but once we had kids I went back in the closet for 20 years until the kids had gone away to university. It was my decision, and it wasn't easy. I just didn't want my wife worrying about it affecting the kids, or even her job if it became public in any way that I was in nappies. Of course I still managed to get into nappies occasionally, but generally only on the rare occasions I was alone in the house for a few days. I'm not saying this approach would fit everyone - of course it wouldn't - but it worked for us. Once the kids had gone, I went into nappies full-time, threw away all my big boy undies, and I've been in onesies, little boy jamas, shorts and dungarees ever since. My dummy is always either in my mouth or my pocket. I had already retired from work. I got through 20 years in the closet by knowing it wouldn't be for ever, and eventually I got to where I always longed to be. Good luck!

Got a couple of these now, plus a sleepsuit in the same fabric. I've not worn the onesies yet, but I've been in the sleepsuit the past couple of nights. The sleepsuit has a rear zip and a poppered flap at the top of the zip to stop wandering hands. I managed to get into it all right & fasten it up, but I had to ask Mummy to undo it again yesterday morning. I'm still in it now after the 2nd night, so I'll probably have to get Mummy to let me out of it again. Postage wasn't much, considering they're from the other side of the world, and the quality is pretty good. I'm a happy bunny.

Nothing most of the time, Sudocrem if I get chafing, anti-fungal if I get a rash or soreness that won't go away.

At some of the events I go to there are a few of these, and I'll always spend some time in one, often being pushed around the venue. I love it.

Disorganised chaos here. A cupboard under the bath, bags under the bed, but mostly in boxes and a car topbox in the garage. And a box of 80 Dotty Diapers vanilla disposables in the boot of the car, picked up at a Littles event on Sunday. Today's job is to make sense of it all, decide what can be thrown away or donated at the next event I go to, and fit everything somewhere. It's going to be a busy day...

Thanks Jonny - I'll go with the Large then.

I find adding an extra soaker pad makes leaks a bit less likely to happen, so you could try that. The most effective solution is to wear cloth nappies though - it takes a bit of experimentation to get cloth nappies to fit snugly enough so they don't leak, but once you've found a way they're pretty reliable.

I love those. What is the sizing like? I don't know whether to go for M or L.

Good luck with it oznl. Let us know as soon as you can how things are with you post-apocalypse.

Everywhere, all the time. For few years now and there's going to be no going back. It's part of who I am.

Me too, and it's been a long time since I had any nappy rash. I think I'm agreeing with oznl here. Good luck & keep slathering the cream on...

So, not a vast sinkhole or a meteorite then. The biggest crash landing we've had here was a sparrowhawk knocking itself senseless on the living-room window. Bird identification is a lot easier when the bird is unconscious and about a foot away from you.

Here in the UK there are regular ABDL events, with up to 200 attendees. There's about one every month or so. All to be found on Fetlife, & I'll be going to one in 3 weeks' time.

Well I suppose you need to make a decision on whether you want to (a) roll with any incontinence issues you have, and commit to using nappies to deal with it, or (b) seek medical help to do whatever can be done to reduce or prevent any incontinence. Either way you'll have to change the way you're handling things, as you know you're in a situation that can't last, and you're worrying about it. Sorry I can't be of more help. I chose the nappies route long ago.

I'm in washables virtually all the time. I switch to disposables only: 1. When I've got no access to a washing machine. 2. When I'm going for a medical examination (I don't think it's fair on the medical team to confront them with washables) 3. When I'm physically unable to wash the nappies or change myself (I've been recovering from surgery, and it's not fair on my wife to expect her to change and wash cloth nappies. She was OK with changing disposables though.) I've been back in cloth for the past 4 months. 4. For occasional social events with friends, when there's a risk they may realise I'm in nappies. Disposables are easier to conceal and need less frequent changes. I wear washables to do less damage to the planet. I like wearing disposables, but they are filling our planet with plastic rubbish.

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Oh yes. I was on Oxycodone for 4 months last year, thanks to the cows. While I was in hospital I was on other stuff too, including ketamine. In the early days in hospital I had a button to press that would deliver morphine automatically, over and above my background dose. They discharged me with a bag of oxycodone pills plus a load of oxycodone gels for topping-up purposes. I never used the latter after I left hospital though. I was often off my head in hospital, with hallucinations brought on by the painkillers. By the time they discharged me, after 2 1/2 weeks, I was stable, and the pain wasn't as bad, as long as I took my meds. From memory I think I was on two 20mg oxycodone tabs a day, and I really wasn't interested in topping up with alcohol. As the pain reduced I cut down the oxycodone, and introduced alcohol in the evening instead - I needed that & still need it, as I start aching as I get tired in the evening, & alcohol (in moderation) helps a lot. I finally stopped the oxycodone at the end of November, & returned a bag of tablets to my doctor's surgery last month to make sure I wasn't tempted to start taking them again. To be honest I hated being on oxycodone. I just sat around all day. But my physical state meant I needed it - it made a big difference to the pain. I wasn't in a state to do anything but sit around all day anyway, but I still hated being mentally numbed like that. Getting off it was hard work, in stages. Each time I cut it down the pain came back to some extent, and there were withdrawal symptoms too. Skin crawling, feeling awful, but just for a few days. I'm even trying to avoid paracetamol and ibuprofen these days, which is really just a reaction to all those months on painkillers. Incidentally none of them seemed to have affected my continence, as far as I could tell. No wetting in my sleep through all that, excepting my time in hospital, when I was catheterised for all but the last couple of days.

I'm keeping my eyes out for him, but I haven't spotted him yet...

Yup. And use damp face flannels instead of wipes. Rinse out & reuse for each baby, then put them in the wash. Using washable natural fibres reduces the amount of plastic entering the environment.

I do a lot of long distance walking, or rather I did, until the cows trampled me. I'm working back up to it now. And "stroller" is the US term for what we call a pushchair over here, so it was a no-brainer really. I was sitting in one only 2 days ago at a littles' event in Birmingham. That's West Midlands, not Alabama...

We feel for you oznl. Good luck with it. We're currently washing our bedding every day, plus all my other half's clothes, trying to get rid of traces of MRSA so she can have planned surgery. And I've got to fit nappy washes in there as well. I don't think we could manage all this with both of us physically compromised as we are without working together to make it work. She needs support from me, and I need support from her, but my permanently nappied state is planned into all of this by both of us working together. I'm only too aware of how lucky I am.

Hi Tom. An adult sized dummy would probably help you a lot. In any event it's certainly worth a try. I used to bite my tongue and the inside of my cheeks periodically - due to reflex biting as I fell asleep. Using a dummy virtually stopped that happening, as my teeth close on the dummy instead. I don't know what's easily available in Australia, but the ABDL websites are the place to look. You should be able to find plain coloured dummies - I understand your reluctance, but it's probably your best bet. Good luck.

Yup. As far as plastic pants are concerned, I'm only aware of three different materials used: 1. PVC aka vinyl. Most plastic pants are made of this. It's relatively cheap, but hardens with exposure to UV, oils, Vaseline and time. 2. Polyurethane aka PU. See my earlier post on this thread for more info, but these are more expensive than vinyl, harder wearing and appear to be unaffected by exposure to everything that degrades PVC. 3. PUL, ie polyurethane laminate. This is a very thin layer of polyurethane bonded onto nylon fabric. In my experience this doesn't wear well, as the PU is so thin it soon wears through & the pants then leak. Maybe I've just been unlucky. I first bought these from the DPF back in pre-internet days, and I suspect they made them from lightweight tent flysheet material. These days I just wear polyurethane pants - for me they're cheapest overall. The Gary pants I bought from Llmedico appear determined to last forever.

Our CH boiler is out this morning, and it's been below freezing for a few days now. I'm pretty sure the ground round a section of the heating oil pipe has frozen, & there's a bit of water in the lowest section that has frozen & stopped the oil getting through. It's happened before. We'll just wait the freeze out. If I try to warm the earth up it'll only freeze again tonight & we'll be back to square 1. I'm heating the central part of the house with a couple of electric heaters. -5 Celcius here, so it's been lower during the night. UK infrastructure isn't really up to sustained cold. What we need is a heat pump... And, the pipes round the washing machine have frozen up, so no more nappy washing until it thaws...