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Are there any boards where my wife can go to get support from other wives about this? SDB

Unfortunately it probably is. It is a common term called an "Emotional Affair" Women have them more then men. It is when they have intimate feelings for another man beside their husband. If you are in a committed relationship and you go to someone else and they change you and you are emotionally satisfied, fulfilled, or comforted by them then you are having an emotional affair with them. And that is cheating. If you get your diaper changed by a nurse because you can't do it yourself you are getting medical care then that is different. But think of it, why would you want someone to change you? To fulfill an emotional need or want. If it is a "need" then your partner needs to do this for you because you will be unhappy in the relationship. If it is a want or a nice to have and your partner refuses then they need to realize that by them not sacrificing for you it can affect your relationship. You, of course, need to try to fulfill all of their emotional needs and wants as well. If there is conflict then you need to find some compromise that meets both of your standards, for instance, how bad would it be for her to change a clean diaper or just put one on you? Or maybe just treat you like a baby for a little bit. Or just call you her baby and hold you? Try to find things that can satisfy your desires that she can provide. Emotional affairs can easily lead to physical ones. If the lady changed your diaper, then maybe she will hug you too...Well, why not a kiss then... And so forth... SDB

http://www.macombdaily.com/stories/100607/...ecutor001.shtml At least in this story they actually talked to an AB.

Hmm, you could test the waters. Talk about a "friend" you have that came out to you about diapers and you were cool with it. See what he says. I know if someone said that specific stuff to me I'd have a hard time concealing it, especially if they said they were ok with it. You could just say what weird pictures you found surfing the net about people who wear diapers and how you thought it was brave....Or just go ahead and say things like "daily" and "diapers" and "picture" and "gallery" in the same sentence and see if they catch on. Or better yet declare a coded sentence you can post here on the boards like so: "The brown grasshopper jumps when it is touched in the butt" and his response would be "I am a brown grasshopper in diapers so I don't jump". Then you would know and wouldn't have to out yourself in the process ;-) SDB

Well, it looks like there are 2 more diapered perverts caught soliciting minors: http://www.macombdaily.com/stories/092007/...chison001.shtml http://www.heraldstandard.com/site/news.cf...80247&rfi=6 Come on people! I don't know what makes someone do that, but if anyone here has any inkling of getting in a chat room with minors please leave and please remove your diapers at the door. You are giving us a bad name. I wonder about those people. It seems to happen every now and then, and even more so now. I might venture to guess a combination of factors as to why: 1. they were abused as children in any way 2. they have sexual identity confusion 3. they have actual fantasies involving minors or something else, probably demons. It might even arise from someone who says "it is ok to look at kids in diapers cause I just look at the diapers" argument I have heard before in other threads. So I say, stop freakin doing it! Quit watching diaper commercials on youtube - yes we know they are posted by ABs. You are planting seeds in your life that will grow if given water. Every thing we do starts out as a thought and when dwelt upon has a big chance of becoming reality. The way out is to not plant seeds and run and hide from any and all perversion. Quit going to sites like [That site] that has "sightings" in it of children in diapers. Come on. That gets you to "be on the lookout" and eventually you will fantasize and maybe do something rash. It is like that for regular sexual addictions so it probably might be like that for peds. I don't believe for one second that people are born with that inclination. You are responsible for your actions and not your genes. If you do have even the slightest inclination towards anything minor related seek help first before getting in the newspapers for crimes. Please. SDB

I would like to point out the quote: "It appears he was just randomly dialing some numbers," Crate said. If he was randomly dialing numbers then his intent was not for a 16 year old girl, but any girl to change him. He then stalked her, but I do not know if he knew her age. Nevertheless he is still a stalker and will probably get the sex offender charge, but to play advocate a little, I don't think he knew her age. So discerning people cannot say he is a pedo without all of the facts. Aside from that quote we are led to believe otherwise by the writing of the article. Also as far as setting us back for blah blah, this article is not front page news and would probably only attract the people interested in "stories of the weird" I think we probably obsess a little too much about diapers and make it the center of our universe. Then we project what others think based upon our own skewed perceptions of social reality. But then again I don't know, for me diapers are just comfortable underwear. All I know is that everyone I have told, about 20 people, of family, friends and even acquaintances, have all said "whatever floats your boat." because they don't care if I wear diapers because it really does not affect them in the slightest. SDB

I would think it is cool if diapers became accepted. Then when people who accept it openly talk about it you can say "yeah, I am an AB, thanks for your support" Unfortunately whenever a celebrity is found wearing diapers they are ridiculed in society. Take a look at Larry King, David Vitter and the Astronut. Now say someone were to publicly admit they wear diapers like maybe Suzanne Summers or Flea from Red Hot Chili Peppers. Hollywood types are all said to be weird so people expect it that when they openly do stuff they are just trying to get publicity and it is put in the gossip rags. The thing is, the press doesn't care when you "come out", it cares when you get caught. So if diapered fame is what you want then when you become a famous pop star have someone catch you and defend yourself well with stuff like,"if it is in the privacy of my home it is ok" and "yes I am proud to be an AB, but it is a private thing" Then people would know but it wouldn't be something you push on people. But people here are right, until it is cool to promote BSDM on Jay Leno then it'll be a while before diaper are promoted. Depends are an easy joke, something people laugh at because they are uncomfortable with their own futures and are proud of their potty training accomplishment when they were 2. Thinking Adult Diaper Wearers are weird is ingrained in all of societies subconscious, that is why it even hard for us to accept ourselves let alone expect others to get into the idea. SDB

Now I don't know if I am crazy but has Bambino's changed their diaper plastic? I remember my first batch were crinkly and I liked it like that. My last batch that I got on Friday was a softer plastic and less crinkly. Anyone else seen that? Same absorbancy, tapes and good lookingness, but just softer plastic... SDB

I just got married and have been wearing diapers and masturbating since I was 6. I thought, no way can I share this with a women and then I met a girl who aroused all of my senses. We did not have sex until marriage and I was worried about all of this as well(we chose to wait till marriage for many reasons). What happened was the desire for her for 18 months made my masturbating not as good as before because I was not getting what I desired, we made out every weekend without finishing while wearing clothes and when we did finally consumate it, it was amazing.... She is so much better than diapers. A women that loves you and cares about you will have sex with you with passion and desire and that is much better than unhappy sex and meaningless sex. We've only been together for 3 weeks and I can say she already knows my buttons and how to make it great... If you want true LTR fulfillment don't think of sex as a reason to decide marriage or just a reason for an orgasm, think of it as a benefit of a loving marriage and you won't be disappointed. Meaningless sex is just that, meaningless. And it can cause people to question their whole sexuality when it is not good in the first place because there is no true intimacy involved. Now if I would have stayed obsessed with diapers and would have masturbated to diaper fantasies during the engagement it probably wouldn't have been so good and I might've had that problem. I think what we basically did was a form of tantric sex where everything was held in. You'd be surprised what can turn you on when you continuously get aroused and not complete it. I started focusing my fantasies on her instead of diapers. She started making me aroused just visually thinking of her and I knew she would fulfill me in marriage. I put love first and I knew we had the right chemistry and it all pointed to marriage. I knew after the wedding night that my worries were unfounded and the sex was great. Matter of fact I am going upstairs right now, have sex, then put a diaper on to sleep ;-) SDB

When I was in Prague i went all around and found a place that sold Tenas. I didn't speak the language so I actually had to pull the diaper outside the side of my pants and she knew what I was talking about. She then put them in a bag and she was even nice enough to take a newspaper and surround them in the bag so that no one could see what they were. If you take public transportation I recommend taking a newspaper and wrapping them up in it to take it back. SDB

Hmm, it seems they are giving a 20 year old an ultimatum. They are treating you like a child even though they don't want you to act like one. In reality giving ultimatums is very childish on their part. Now they might be saying this because of many or all factors: 1. They know ultimatums work with you 2. They don't understand how much of an adult you are 3. They still see you as someone to be controlled 4. They are treating you like a child by dictating the clothes you wear 5. They are doing this because they might know you would have nowhere to live or no money to make it on your own and it in their mind it is the last straw Offhand, even though I don't know the situation I would say that they love you and want you to change your behavior. Definitely a dialog is needed. But it needs to be in the confines of speaking rationally and not an argument. It is rather interesting how they feel they have room to control your behavior, being that you are over 18. It seems they are very reactionary and might not listen to reason. In an argument I would probably throw it back at them just because I do stuff like that and give them some kind of an ultimatum. Like you agree to leave, but you will never talk to them again. That is tough cause you probably love them, but that is almost equivalent to their ultimatum. If they really don't love you, which I doubt, then they would agree to the ultimatum and I guess you are out a place to stay so you have to be prepared for that. I would say somehow assert your power, which we all have, that we are all worthy of respect by our actions and not our clothes. I would say negotiate a deal where you wear diapers all you want in your room but you have to hide them and can't wear outside the room. Extend as many compromises as you can, like do extra work around the house for the privilege. If they continue to give the ultimatum then you have to choose. Now if your actions in all other areas of your life have been childish you might not have any room to stand on because they would throw - well you don't work or do anything or did this thing - stuff at you. Then life is tough because you are not acting like the adult that you are and they are treating you like a child. Being an Adult Baby means we have to grow up completely in our public lives as long as we can stay a baby in our private lives. You don't have to be dependent on your parents when you are 20 and they should not be involved in your private life. If you are completely childish then I would say agree to their demands and wait until you are grown up enough to be an Adult Baby, but tell them that when you are ready to leave you will go, wear diapers, and never speak to them again. Tell them that their solution will not solve anything but will make you more distant from them later in life. That is the truth. We may forgive, but we will never forget. SDB

I just heard Jay Leno make a couple of diaper jokes about Sen. Vitter. The first one was something like that he would have to compete with an 89 year old senator for diapers. The second one was just some info :Vitter has denied having a diaper fetish, but he did not deny having sex. I have a bad memory. But they were actually pretty tame jokes. This IMO is good. I think laughter makes people less nervous about things. SDB

I figure I'd update my reply too ;-0 As I am now married and have been since August 11th. It has been really amazing. My wife knew I would be wearing diapers to bed every other night and when I did, let's just say that was my first foray into having sex while wearing a diaper. All I had to do was pull it down a little. It was amazing. It does feel like you just want to say "be my mommy" and all this stuff but I am trying to contain myself. She is doing this only because she loves me and not diapers. I don't think she has actually touched them with her hand. Last night I figured I would wear plastic pants and as usual she didn't touch it but we still did it. I think she understands that it makes everything more pleasurable for me and I am super comfortable while wearing them. On our honeymoon during the day I would wear diapers occasionally when we would go to dinner. She did pat my bottom when I had a sunburn... Ah.. It is weird though. I turned from AB tendencies to DL tendencies years ago because I really need a partner to get me into the fantasy. Now that I have a partner I am getting those AB fantasies back and I am sure she wouldn't be into it. So there is a little frustration. I still don't communicate all of my wants because she is soo sweet and I don't want to upset her. I guess there is a balance in marriage that we will eventually get to. Any long time marrieds have any advice on balancing diapers and sex? I do want to meet her needs more than mine so we are off to a good start. Never leave them unsatisfied ;-) Super Diaper Baby

I'll throw some wood on the fire. Babies wear diapers. By inference adults who wear diapers are Adult Babies. We are ALL adult babies, whether you act like a baby or not. Since you dress up like a baby by wearing diapers you are an Adult Baby. Adults who love to wear diapers are diaper lovers. All adult babies like to wear diapers. Therefore all adult babies are diaper lovers. So the classification is really this : We are all Adult Baby Diaper Lovers - ABDL I think people just want to further break down the classification because they don't want to be associated with people whose tastes are a little bit different. Really they are all the same. In todays terms a DL is just a pacifier away from an AB and an AB is just one getting off in a diaper away from a DL. Too close to call. SDB

I told my girlfriend in an email. It was the best thing because I had all the time in the world to write it the way I wanted to say it. I told her to call me when she was ready to talk. I could never had told her face to face. That's not me. BTW, we are getting married in August, so she must accept it.... SDB

I don't know if it is this board or another, but there is a long post somewhere about a guy who was able to convince a urologist to give him botox injections for his "bladder spasms" and it produced a temporary incontinence that lasted like 6 months. It makes sense so I guess it could be done. Also hearing stories of how others became incontinent - ie. a board to the spinal cord, car wrecks, brain damage, and many many other ways it shouldn't be hard to do this. But the question that always gets asked is : WHY? I mean I can see it in fantasy. I even went 24/7 for 4 months, but towards the end I loved being able to control when I peed my diapers so I could take the time to really enjoy it. As far as un-potty training by going 24/7 and hypnosis tapes - it works temporarily and you have to really want it. Then when you don't want it, the hypnosis tapes have an easy out and you won't be incontinent anymore. So aside from medical things I don't see it working. Why lose the choice? Isn't it better to be free than a slave? SDB

Great going! I remember when I a told one girlfriend and at first she accepted it and then when any problem came up she blamed diapers and we broke up. Then there is the one who I am going to marry. It took a while for it to sink in, but she said I was worth it. The key is to try to make her as happy as you can, so she will know that diapers won't affect your emotional relationship with her and that you care about her more than diapers. But if she asks you to prove it by quitting, leave her. There is a specific comfort need that we have that cannot be filled in any other way besides diapers. I have been teaching my fiance about this and we are both growing together in how to incorporate diapers in the relationship. Congrats! Advice - Take it slow. Be patient. Realize that it took you years to understand and it may take her years as well. Keep a dialog going about diapers. I struggle with this, but it is very important. If she is going to leave you because of diapers it is better to know before you get married than afterwords, so talk away... Good Luck! SDB

I think really it is not what we wore when we were toddlers that most of us like, I think it is what we envisioned ourselves wearing when we first became interested in wearing diapers again. I don't know if I wore cloth or disposable, but I do remember watching disposable diaper commercials and wanting to be like the kid in the commercial. So i think that is why I am now into disposables as opposed to cloth. sdb

It would allow that cavity to be filled... I just had to say that..

This is true. However you can change peoples minds through their own religion. So I would not say being an adult baby is right because dailydiapers say so, I would say being an adult baby is right because of Mathhew 18:4 or some other verse that talks about how we should be like children. There really are many verses in the Bible that can be used to actually prove to Christians and mormons that being an adult baby is not bad at all. You just have to meet her on her common ground. She believes she is right because of general moral precepts that are too general. Most people, when they learn a religion, do not get into the real meat of what it entails and how things are not always black and white. The idea would be to get her to question her beliefs through biblical education. Which means you need to study more and be better informed. That way, when you present your case she won't be able to use religion against you, unless she is close minded in which case you might as well give up. Good luck.. http://intodiapers.blogspot.com SDB

I had one dream in my mid 20s where I was standing in a warm pool of water near the ocean and I just let go and peed into the water. I awoke to find I had actually wet the bed... hadn't done that since I was 6...

back when I went 24/7 I noticed how girls were alot nicer to me... I assumed it was because of a change in personality.... ahh now I know. Thank you diaper bulge!

Also the following reeks of AB/DL "The solution to this problem is a diaper made by women, for women. Yes, many women solve their problems with pads, but there’s nothing made for the active woman who needs 24/7 protection. We need something with color, a low-rise fit, and leg gathers that you can trust. I hope to make this a forum for exchanging ideas on what your ideal diaper would be, and hopefully this knowledge will prove useful for diaper manufacturers." Is 24/7 an incontinent term? I am not sure as I am not incontinent. Also, does the color of "diapers" and "leg gathers" sound more like an adult baby speaking or an incontinent person speaking... Maybe both... My guess is this person is an AB, but could also be incontinent as well, so it may be truthful in a way. SDB

You figure hospitals have to put diapers somewhere. Hmm, when my stepdad died he was put into hospice. I noticed in the cabinet in his room there were stacks of adult diapers right next to the pads so there was a big difference in stack size. I so wanted to take one, but morality won out. I should have at least pulled one out to see if I could tell what brand. They were white and had a blue wetness indicator on it and it was thicker than depends. I am thinking attends but I'll never know for sure. SDB

I think I know.. From the movie Fatal Attraction? It's been so long, but wasn't there a scene where the psycho woman boiled the guys bunny in oil? SDB