AlliR

Not sure if your up to this but I have a recommendation that will combine diapers an anal plug and some real bondage. Look for an inflatable rubber anal plug. Next up is to create a real locking panty girdle. This requires some effort to alter a womens long leg panty girdle with a side zipper so that it can be locked on over the anal plug and diapers. I have a complete description of how to create such a locking girdle if you are really interested in that. And finally to lock the girdle on, there is a new product out which is a digital count down lock. This is used instead of a regular lock because there are no keys. Instead you set the hours and minutes and hit the start button. There is NO ESCAPE from this countdown lock until it reaches down to all zeros. Imagine if your locked into this girdle with the diaper and anal plug in place and you have set this countdown lock for 3 hours. No matter how dirty or wet you are, your still going to have to wait out all 3 hours before the lock will allow you release. Interested????? If yes, write me back and I will provide details, the cost of the products and where to buy them plus a written description on how to make a real locked on girdle.

Because I wear serious diapers 24/7 I am always looking for something that works better for me. So I have provided a review of what I now have found to be the best in a cloth diaper. DIAPER REVIEW: There are many types of diapers on the market for adults. The very best and most accurate reviews of adult diapers should be from those who actually use them because no one else could truly describe the pros and cons without wearing them and experiencing what happens. Because I am incontinent and have been for decades, wearing diapers for me is mandatory. I am a very heavy and frequent wetter so I have experienced every type of success and failure using them. To start with, there are no perfect diapers anywhere. So the purpose of this review is to help those in the manufacture and creation of perfecting an adult diaper where improvements are necessary.Basically there are cloth and disposable diapers available in a number of different variations. I will concentrate on heavy wetters because small amounts of wetting accidents are easy to control with a limited diaper. Disposables are handy, quick and are best used for standing or sitting. No need to launder them and they do have a treatment in them to reduce odors. The failure rate on disposables comes from bed usage especially those who are side of stomach sleepers. Disposables concentrate their absorption padding through the middle of the diaper leaving little to grab on either side. Cloth diapers tend to be bulkier and they do require laundering. There is no odor control on a cloth diaper either. But cloth has the added ability to do much better absorption for side leaks. A big plus for heavy wetters or bedwetters. So the trick is to find a diaper for the person who needs the specialty items to properly protect against leaking and also be comfortable. Amount of absorption and speed of absorption are major factors is selection. Ease of changes and wetness isolation barriers is another. While addressing these, bulk becomes a major factor since that factors into what shows when wearing street clothes. The latest purchase of a new cloth product is iDiaper. This is the closest item I have used that addresses the most needed features of my personal needs. There are times when a diaper change is not readily available. This diaper can contain up to three heavy wettings and still remain contained with the help of properly sized waterproof pants. That’s because of a special soaker insert that is mounted in a pocket within the shell of the diaper. The cloth shell facing the skin acts as a barrier to prevent the moisture to stay against the skin. The opposite side of the pocket shell is moisture resistant to help contain the wet insert as it absorbs several ounces of fluid. I do encourage the use of waterproof pants to insure proper containment especially after several launderings which can reduce the moisture barrier. Overall the iDiaper is very adjustable with large Velcro strips to provide both a proper waist security without sacrificing comfort because the cloth material of the basic diaper is soft and pliable. There is always room for improvements even on this product but that’s not to say that it would be easy. Side leaks for bedtime use still remains the biggest hurdle to overcome in the entire industry.

I've been off this site for years but finally decided to get active once more. The purpose then, as it is now is to enjoy sharing my A/B & Bondage interests with other members with similar interests. The first time, ,I found that the younger generation and I seem to be socially divided. Mostly the younger crowd prefers to be with members in their own age range so I am hoping that I can meet those who are in the 50 year and older range. Being able to meet with those who are local to the Bay Area in CA. would be a plus. AlliR

Welcome, Regardless whether your diapered for necessity or pleasure or perhaps both, you'll find like minded members here who share your experiences. In unity there is strength... and comfort. Hope you find this a nice place to visit and share. Allir

I am in full support of Rihanna on this one. No matter who you are, this board is supposed to be for "reasonable" communication. If the person writing is going to post something that looks like a blubbering fool, then maybe he/she should have their Mommie write it for them. Something wrong in applying something near the english language?

If your willing to do some sewing or can have it done for you, I have a diaper locking method that really works and not that expensive either. Go to a department store and get a woman's long leg panty girdle. The right one to buy does NOT have an open crotch. It should have a zipper opening on the side. You can buy just a pullup but the right size will make it difficult to pull over diapers because they are designed to "restrict". The zipper permits easy fit and then closed gives the same result. Now you must do some small modifications. These involve sewing. There will be three areas where a sleeve will be constructed to cirumvent both legs and the waist. Measure your thighs where the girdle legs are near the bottom. Use a tightish measurement. This length will become two nylon 1/4" ropes that will be inserted in the sleeves that are sewn in around each leg. Just before the sleeve is completely sealed by sewing, each rope will be joined at the ends (making a complete loop) and then the sleeve completed so that the rope is completely covered and sewn closed. For the waist, the sleeve will be sewn starting at one side of the zipper at the top waistband and be sewn in till it reaches the other side of the zipper area. That still leaves the zipper to open at the waist. A small chain is passed through the newly installed waist sleeve and the chain ends dangle from each end of the installed sleeve. You put on the girdle. Zip up the zipper to close the waist. Pull the two chain ends to snug around your waist and then add a padlock to prevent removing the girdle from around your waist. The ropes that were sewn in on each leg prevent you from stretching the legs to reach in to your diaper. They also prevent the girdle from sliding up. When your locked into this, you are truly locked in to your diaper. The girdle is made from very strong nylon and lycra so tearing it off it pretty impossible.

There is an alternative to getting the high chair affect at much lower cost and still accomplishing the main goals of restraint. I had grappled with the problem for quite a while before I went ahead with an idea I had. I own a hospital style geriatric chair which I purchased second hand for $ 25.00. If you do a google search on chairs like this you will find that they come with a tray which mechanically latches in place. It is a simple task to add chain and padlocks to prevent this tray from being removed. Usually there are foot rests which can be used to secure the ankles so that the legs are immoble. The backs on most of these chairs recline somewhat (if desired). (Helpful for baby bottle feedings). Additional leather straps or chain can be used around the waist and secured to the steel frame of the chair. The are many ways to secure the hands and arms if desired. Again the padded chair arms offer a way to strap the persons arms down. In my case, I added two "D" rings that are spaced apart in the center section of the tray. Hand cuffs are opened and each arm is then passed though a "D" ring and then the wrist is put into each cuff and locked. The puts the two hands positioned on the tray apart from each other and making me totally helpless until I am unlocked. Once the hands are locked in you are at the mercy of your dom. One more thing to note is that there is no way to use your body mass to flip this chair. It's wide enough and low enough to prevent any attempt. It's not as authentic as the total look of a baby high chair but it functions exactly the same. For perfect high chair bondage, this is hard to beat.

I would like to thank each and every one of the participants to this topic. Overall, it was a clear picture representing a very fair point of view from each and every one. If I was to have any regrets at all about starting this, it would be that there are so many members here, I was hoping for more participation from those who didn't share a comment. But that was their choice and that's what makes a democracy. I particularly found the comment of allowing those who speak publically to be able to do so without the editing that some producers provide which can produce sound bites that come out as inaccurate. Again to all the members on this post........ I appreciate your points of view and your efforts. Allir

Hi Fellow DD Members, I would like to say first that I appreciate all of your views and comments. Any item that comes into this website is bound to be controversial. My topic being no different in that regard. My background was completely stated when I posted this question. The only thing I want to add is that the topic "Pediophile" was broached early and often when I was a member of DPF way back in the late 80's. Long before there was anyone who was exposing this fetish in a public medium there had to be this subject that was used on one or more persons who were discovered as A/B's. I personally have never been accused of being one but at the same time, my fetish is a very closely guarded private affair with a very small group of people who know this side of me. I too intend to keep my A/B side a private matter and have for many decades but admittedly it is troubling to see any persons who bash our fetish for what we like and do. I don't expect their rubber stamp approval. I just would like them to leave the information on the table without all the nasty stuff that comes with their ignorance of the subject. Overall I started this topic because I felt that the most important thing about this website is to reciginize that we share this fetish as our common ground. As one fetish friend said to me (very accurately), there are many shades of gray on this subject. No doubt about that. But with even that in mind, if we cannot (at least) support each other on this (fetish) subject we are certainly doomed and condemned. Common courtesy and respect for our fellow members and fetish enthusiasts should be paramount when adding any information or content. AlliR

I am an A/B and have been for over 50 years. When I discovered what I was, there were no computers and practically no means of getting any information about my fetish. As the years went by, more and more information surfaced about infantilism. Some from adult book stores but it really blossomed when the internet caught fire. Plain vanilla people call infantilists mentally ill and/or pedophiles. I am neither and resent being tagged as such in the strongest way I know. I remember how the gay movement struggled three and four decades ago as the general public resented their presence. It was only from consistent public exposure that the acceptance of the gay community has been able to move forward on being more accepted. In the five decades I have lived through as an A/B I can only recall a handful of brave pioneers willing to put their all on the line and go on a public television show to expose Infantilism. There was Tommy, Stanley and Brent. Their exposure was on The Jerry Springer Show, Taboo, My Crazy Obsession and Dr. Phil. Admittedly, there were areas where this exposure was harmful. But in every single case, our community was doing a heck of a lot of bashing of them for their efforts. Although they may not be the poster children of our fetish, the question is who is ready to take their place and put themselves out there in the public eye who could better represent us? If we cannot stand behind those few who make the attempt to try and get the general public to understand more about who we are and what we aren’t, then there will never be some measure of leaving us alone without branding us as the villains and threats that we obviously aren’t. So it gets down to whether you feel that Infantilism should be exposed to the general public or not at all. I say that if you can’t support those who are out there making the effort, at least don’t bad mouth them for it unless your willing to do what they have and you haven’t. There is much more strength in unity then alone. If we can’t draw from our own group, the strength to project the correct image of what we really are, what can you possibly expect from the general public who are almost completely ignorant of what real infantilism is?

There are many members who know about and watched National Geographic's Taboo: Fantasy Lives episode. Stanley Thornton had the courage to expose his A/B side publicly for that show. That's a hard thing to do for most of us. His significant other Sandra was also featured in this documentary. A few days ago Sandra passed away. It is always a bitter event when someone close to us dies. Because of the unique relationship that they had together with infantilism, it makes it that much tougher. I hope you will join me in offering up our collective condolences to him for his close personal loss. Alli

Here's my list.......... Bucket List - Karen Carpenter Story - Eddie Duchin Story - Gump - One Is A Lonely Number - Man Of A Thousand Faces - (ditto) The Notebook - Titanic - Charly - Somewhere In Time - Message In A Bottle Pass the towel

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Hi Ann, Of all the people we as humans know and meet in the world, I don't think anyone is as close to us as mom. We all have to face that awful day. It was no different when I lost mine. My best friend and confidant. No one replaces mom. I am sorry for your loss as so many here have already expressed their similar feelings as well. On DD you should find others who share your likes and hopes and dreams. I hope you can find this is a happy, warm and friendly place to visit often. Never forget her but try to remember all the good years you had the honor of knowing and sharing with her. She was special and she wants you to be happy. Alli

Bettypooh says it best. And I do recall agreeing with her on other posts as well. We seem to be on the same page often. In my opinion and observations over decades, this IS a fetish and it doesn't go away. To some degree you can control it so you don't do things you regret later but at the same time, if you think there is some magic switch somewhere, I think your kidding yourself. So many people who were worried to the point that they threw away all their fetish gear assumed that once it was gone, so was the problem. In every single case, they wound up buying all that stuff back all over again. That tells you how strong the urge (addiction) is. Most folks who are hooked up to sites like this have similar situations. The best advise I can give is to face it head on and not make believe it doesn't exist. That only makes it worse. If you think you can mind control it and make it go away, all the power to you but test those waters carefully and self analyze what your feelings are saying. Listen and pay attention to your desires. They are quite strong and motivating. As for relationships which include infantilism, they make it difficult. Sometimes impossible. Just another part of reality. Bottom Line: Wherever you come out on this, try to accept what and who you REALLY are. That makes living with yourself tolerable. Alli

Hi Rachel, A warm welcome to DD. Best place I know for pampering (and who doesn't want some of that?). Hope you make a bunch a great friends. Cheers! Ali

Bettypooh said it best. It is always better to test the waters first before jumping in with both feet. My own experiences in exposing a fetish is to do it in small doses. Because you know your SO, you should have some idea as to how you can open up a topic that hints of your fetish desires and see where it leads. If it's really bad news, you can back out quickly with little damage. If, on the other hand, he digests it pretty well, you can always add more info to the conversation. I've used this "small doses" method on some really vanilla people with mostly good results. Taking into account that he is already into his own form of BDSM, I would expect that your introduction of your own fetish information would be a bit easier. Remember what Carrie Nations says, "Everything in Moderation". Alli

Welcome to DD. This is most likely the best website to share your love of diapers and shed your fear of sharing your secrets. So many members have gone through exactly what you are going through now, I'm sure that if you ask questions relating to help and guidance on this subject you'll find a wealth of information. Hope you find DD a valuable asset for your fetish. Alli

To seriously be pacifier trained, the jaw has to be kept in a closed position. Hence the reason why the pacifier doesn't stay in when asleep. There is a special CPAP mask holder that is sold on the web. This is a head harness sort of multi elastic strap unit with velcro strap ends to adjust for the proper head size etc. The pacifier is attached to one of these elastic straps which pass through the large plastic hinged handle. This positions the pacifier in the proper height position for the mouth and exerts some inward pressure in to the mouth cavity . The other straps of the head harness are then adjusted to snug across and behind the head plus an additional strap which loops from the top of the head around the bottom of the chin. With all snug and in place, the pacifier will remain in the mouth during sleep even if the mouth opens for air. When properly adjusted it will do the job and if used regularly will retrain the mouth to accept the pacifier on a regular basis. The head harness I believe runs about $ 20-25.00 plus shipping. It can be found by doing a google search under CPAP accessories. Any more questions? Write me. Alli

Hi Luvsgurl, Although my response is a bit late based on when you first posted your question, I would hope that you'll get a chance to read my answer. Same as most, it's the Abena pull-ons that are best. I've tried so many. Like your experiences, most leaked, didn't fit well or in one form or another poor quality. Abeana Flex solved those for me. I am a very heavy and multipule wetter. Like yourself, I have only a few moments to get to a bathroom before an accident takes place. Once it is underway, it's like the dam breaking. Because it is a fast and large flood, the diaper MUST be capable of two things at the same time. Obviously it has to have the capacity to handle large amounts of liquid but at the same time it must be capable of handling a very fast absorbancy rate. These pull-ups do both those jobs and yet, because accidents occur so often with me, I also use a Tena overnight pad fitted into them as well. These two in combination will handle at least three very large discharges. As insurance, I also wear Tuffy plastic pants by Babykins just in case the pants were to oversaturate. This is the best combination I have been able to find that is successful and I have been working on the problem for many years. If you get to read this suggestion and decide to try it out, I would love to hear your input as to the results you experienced. Alli

Having a significant other who understands and participates in your infantilism is a very large and genuine gift. The are so many seeking so few for just that sort of love and attention. Anyone who has had or is having the experience should know how rare it is and how lucky you are. Alli

It is probably accurate to say that Tommy (the DPF creator) was one of the founding fathers to attempt to get Infantilism out of the closet. It's no secret that he appeared on at least two TV shows as part of that exposure but if you were a DPF member, as I was, you also know that the talk shows were only a small portion of his work on exposing the fetish as something that was non-threateneing. I watched and listened to him in action when the subject came up out in public or as part of a question during one of his events. Some of the questions and ridicule would have made most anyone really angry but Tommy always held together and carefully explained why it was more fear of the unknown then the bad rap people projected as in their own minds. Pediphile was one of the topics which surfaced often. To listen to him patiently describe how wrong minded that was, was really a treat. Yes, Tommy is gone but well remembered and appreciated for all the effort he made on behalf of all of us. Alli

Hi Mike - Welcome to DD. You should find that joining here is nothing that should make you uneasy. There are a lot of members and with many different desires all loosely related to diapers or other related infantilist topics. No guarantee that you'll meet someone as a personal contact here or not but if you don't try you'll never have an opportunity. Good luck with your wants and needs. ( I think Mountain View is a wonderful place to live) Alli

Like they say in the army...... Keep your mouth shut and your bowels open. When did the folks in the army get so smart?

Having a real adult crib is a decision that you make because you are serious about using it. Regardless of whether you opt for a wood version which has the appearance of a baby authentic model or a steel commercial version known as a Hospital Adult crib, the fact remains that it does take up a bed sized space. If the urge is that strong to actually go ahead and commit to the size and the costs, most would have the drive to use their crib often. Unless you put it behind locked doors, sooner or later someone is bound to discover it. If nosey folks ask a bunch of questions, the answers you give are within your range to control. Speaking from experience, I have given out anywhere from “None of your business