PPBear

Hello! Not exactly local, i live in victoria but grew up in vancouver & visit there often. There may be an aby munch about once a month but i usually attend the bdsm munches when i am in van. I would be up to meet other abies sometime when i'm in town though. btw: did you know babykins sells direct from the plant out by ikea? call 'em and make an apointment and you can shop in person, get to pick yer preference that way.

no chocolate bar but you will get a 'record' the RCMP are noy very nice about fetish folk as a rule. best to be very careful about volunteering info.

Being shy about it can be eased somewhat by being blindfolded , it helps by relieving you of having to respond. Another trick that helps reduce distress is to let her watch how you do diapering, you get to explain why you do it in a particular way and how it works for you. After that, she may not do it in the same way but at least she will know how you do it and why, her way may work better. Try a pacifier while you are being diapered so the temptation to make excuses or give instructions wont be as great, a plushie to cuddle is also good. For the first while, you may want to keep a pacifier in your face while in diapers, you dont have to explain it, just answer her questions honestly and only answer the questions she asks. The temptation is to try & explain / justify what you are into but that is more to jsutify it to you, she will make up her own mind. If she wants to hear from you, she can take out the soother. There is an emense amount of pent up verbiage around this and emotions can run high, try writing out a 'post mortem' after a session to tell her what worked and what caused you distress, writing is less stressful for most folks than talking. Hope this helps & good luck with it.

It's new... It's different & it needs your support to make it work so be a contributor and put up your profile.

The Nuk Pro-L seems to have minimal impact on a person's bite and fits an adult's face much better than a child's size, if it soothes him what is the issue with his use of it? Isn't it a symptom rather than a disorder in it's own right, one assumes he will eventually grow out of it or at least come to moderate his use of babyish toys... When he is more comfortable with himself, his needs for such simple comforts will decline... yes? In the interim, why take away or limit something that comforts him? as an aside: belinda sue, your insensativity to the plight of others leads you to make critical comments about things you have no knowledge of... you are far from clean in your own life to be calling others dirty.

It's a free board, you get what you pay for, anything more is a bonus... A chat is only as good as the folks that use it. sooo quitcher bitchin and do your part to make this a nice place to be and don't feed the trolls.

one thing i am sure of is that no matter what it is that you want or need, you are not alone in it... sometimes i need a rash, do you?

Wearing a diaper is an enabler, no diaper, dont want to wet/mess, if it happens, it is a real accident.

I be 24/7 since i retired, coming up 4 years and that little voice that cried 'i wanna wear diapers' has more or less shut up but i am still amazed at how often i notice what i am wearing and have that glow of contentment about it.

hehehehehe..... happy rash eh? do a really good job of covering yer parts with cream, like desitin and if you can shave those parts a couple of days ahead of time, would be good. It's not just stinkies that will rot yer rear, urine ferments and produces amonia which will give you a chemical burn. Know the risks and you can deal with it, sfely and save yourself a lot of real discomfort... btw: use a washcloth to scrub yer parts in the shower when yer done, it's important to get really cleaned up.

*Welcome* katie... There are lots of nice people here, the forms & chat are both good places to meet people. Hope to see you a busy aby soon

Well done alyssa... there is more than a little of you in it & that is good. *hugs*

old man in Victoria BC

http://www.shaveeverywhere.com btw: i *want* one...

Thank you daily di & Rosie for clearing the air of this place, it has been a loooong time coming and quite extrordinary, in all my years as a chat room guardian i have seldom met one as stuborn or as disruptive as cynda. Again, Thank You!

I dont believe in wasting diapers, unless there is a good reason to change it before it is 'full' i tend to stay in it. Good reasons to change are, being around others, needing to go somewhere & want to start fresh or going to bed.

ABDLjoey... well said, right on & thank you for the reality check.

I dont know that a diaper need is a reflection of abuse, an enabler for abuse or an invitation to abuse but it seems to be fairly common amongst the diapered people i've chatted with. Abuse is a bite that leaves a poison in the wound, it may scab over but it is still there, a blight on a person's life. Those that are abussed as small children, as i was, seem to attract a series of abussers, for some, it is the only 'affection' they know. Recognizing abuse in your past can be a challenge but there are clues to follow when you are ready to look at it. Stuff you do not want to see, dark places in your past you dont want to go, strange things you do that you have no idea why... all are clues there is something amiss. My experience is that it is a rough road to follow but when you do finally get to the end of it, there is some relief from a load you didn't even know you were carrying. The hardest thing for me to accept was that i *liked* my abusser, it was the only acceptance & affection i got in my poopy pants/diapers even though i was 4. All i got from my parents was beatings & more torture of spirit and emotional belittlement than a child could endure. Yes, i was bent, in some ways broken but i survived it and have prospered in spite of it.

For most diapered folks it seems hair in 'that' place would be nice if it went away & didn't come back, are you one of the people that work at that? My preference is permanently bare but until i manage to do that i use depilatory for a smoother finish, shaving for a quick fix, waxing scares me.

I thought i checked there before i started on my disapointed rant but i 'spose i went off half-cocked... *sigh* I appologise to Daily Di *sorry* for making an assumption that turned out to be in error... PPBear

Well... i posted a topic & set of questions and after about 200 views & 20 some replies it just went *poof* and frankly that makes me sad. What i would like to see is a 'pooper's corner' that only verified folks get into and clearly marked as 'icky' for the more sensetive amongst us, there is a need to be able to discuss this asspect of diaper use without the sort of nasty feedback we get so much of. I know it is daily di's board & what they want to do with it or *anything* posted on it is their business but it still bites.

Oh well... back into the closet i go, we now return you to our regularily scheduled programing of the bobby & cynda & curious circus... seem we can't even discuss this topic, even on a diaper board, an adult one at that. one pretty bummed out bear......

Even amongst nappy folk the topic of stinky pants is tainted with shame I know the topic is a bit sensitive but perhaps it is time to air it out, can we come out of the closet now?

Victoria BC Canada eh... a wet coast person that wanders around.

If you are looking for diaper pics etc. try abkingdom