DrPill

I admit I made an inaccurate simplification when I divided this board's visitors into incontinent people and sexual fetishists. Still, my message was intended, as I stated, for sexual fetishists. And especially for those of them whose sexual preoccupation with diapers and infantile submission causes them trouble building a mature sexual relationship based on loving the partner as a whole person. I said what problems I think such fetishism causes and offered advice. Perhaps some of those who read this will find masturbatory reconditioning useful. Abdljoey, while masturbatory reconditioning is a behaviorist technique, it doesn't mean that behaviorism alone is applied in solving the fetishism problem. Using the technique is a voluntary action and one needs to do at least some introspection, an assessment of their condition and of their desired future in order to decide to find material they find suitable, start the technique and persevere. For those who have a problem getting sexually aroused by the body of another person or by sexual affection and dynamics in the context of a wholesome, truly caring relationship, cultivation of such arousal ability through masturbatory reconditioning would be an investment into a richer and better balanced life. And btw, I came here to send a message and not to create a favorable image of myself. And my nickname is just a jokingly modified name of a popular TV psychologist, Dr. Phil. I'm no doctor. Hey, Necare - you can choose what to recondition, which is quite a feat for an automaton.

Thanks for sharing the light, Jennifer. It's a great story. You experienced a lot of pain but now you have a person you deserve.

Hello. I'm interested in psychology and sexuality and now I found this site. I see this board is visited by people who need to wear diapers because of incontinence but also by those who use diapers for sexual purposes, as a fetish. I have a few words for the latter. The problem with dependence on diapers for sexual satisfaction is that much of your time is wasted in an isolated world of sexual fantasy, focusing excessively on sensations in the crotch/bottom area and on feelings of submission. This also diminishes one's ability to use sexuality for a more meaningful purpose - to love and care for another person as a whole, not just - or primarily - as someone who dominates you and stimulates your genitals. Don't deceive yourselves with the idea that this is who you are, that this is your true sexuality and that you must simply accept it. Self-acceptance is vital but it doesn't mean that you should indulge in thoughts and behaviors that do more harm than good. Also, no one is born as a diaper fetishist; it is a learned, conditioned and reinforced behavior, although you may not remember how it started. So, for those who would like to get rid of their dependence on diapers for sexual stimulation I suggest you try the technique known as "masturbatory reconditioning". It can redirect your sexual sensitivity. You can't just suppress the sexual energy by trying to avoid diapers or diaper fantasies. Sexual energy is natural and will sooner or later force you to express it, but it is important to express it in a beneficial way, to let it flow through a beneficial channel. Through masturbatory reconditioning one can gradually acquire the ability to become turned on by more beneficial fantasies and behaviors and become less interested in unwanted ones. You may find the following articles useful: http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=faq&refid=003 http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=activity&refid=017