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Nomadic, I hope all is well. It worries me that you were planning to post within the week and haven’t posted in two months. I love this story, but if it takes a year between posts to get it right, that’s ok. It’s not the interval that worries me, it’s that it seems unexpected.

Ermm…. Could you ask that another way? I don’t understand the question.

I am so dying to read another page, or preferably pages! … ? Erghhhh!!! /BitesFingernails

I find your ideas intriguing, and wish to subscribe to your news letter!

Happens to the best of us! Lol!

Is this a re-edit of the Nov 27 post? Great installment, regardless!

I’ve heard of a cliff hanger and all, but wow! Mid-sentence?! Lol! I’m loving this story, btw!

I realized I was still rocking the 2019 sticker, lol! You’re welcome. This place is home, so I’m glad to help

Just checked. They measure 34-35” long depending on how tight I pull them, and 28” wide at both the front and rear waistline. I’m 5’9” tall. Since switching to MegaMax, my weight has ranged from a high of 230 lb to a low of 200 lb, and waist from 34” to 40”. The the lowest end (200 lb, 34”) they’re pretty big on me. Around 38-40” they’re perfect. YRMV

Ermmmm... uh. Oh dear...!

“No more ban on kissy stuffs.” /blink OMG! *so* good! God I love this story!

Woohoo!!! So much woohoo! XD

“Butterflies” is SO the perfect title for this! And I love how it just kind of finds its way into all kinds of scenes, in all kinds of contexts. Masterful!

Really? I love Eliot!

If you *think* you want to commit to detraining, then I'm going to advise against it. The negatives are real, and huge. If you *need* to do it, then I support you, but you can't *think* it. Thinking you want it is a fantasy. It's fun as hell, and there's not a damned thing wrong with that! You should have fun with it, as a fantasy. When it ceases to be a fantasy, you'll know it. It will drive you. It won't be 'fun.' It will be necessary. Doing it won't be exciting, it will be freeing. Do you want it, or do you need it? Many here can help with either, but they're completely different. Which is it?

@Sophie ♥, I'm SO excited in anticipation of seeing the feedback here. I'm 100% in agreement that this is one of your and Pudding's best works (ya know, not that I'm at all biased, or anything!) Thank you for the thanks, but my part was in providing the barest seed of a concept. It's what you two did with that concept that's incredible! I hope it resonates with many others as strongly as it did with me.

8 years next month, IIRC

I'm sorry to hear that Suzie . It's much harder for some than others. I hope your son is doing well. It's not an easy pill to swallow for everyone.

I wet the bed constantly until early/mid teens, had absolutely zero issues after it finally stopped until I began having urge incontinence and regular nighttime accidents again in my forties. Sounds incredibly similar, except that my issues reappeared sooner than yours.

When I first went 24/7, I needed skin protectants constantly. I really don't anymore, but when I do it's Triple Paste. That stuff is awesome!

Don't know about anyone else, but I'm dying for another chapter! Please, please, please....

There are a couple of specific things in the 12 mo guide that I take issue with, and this is one of them... *Especially* if you want to retain bowel control. When I went 24/7 I had several setbacks in the 1st year. I eventually realized that, for me, I needed to put a lot more focus on the “learning to go in any situation” than the “stay relaxed.” Relaxing the muscles needed to lose bladder control also relaxes everything else down there. I had a couple of incidents of bowel control loss at night, and I also developed some ED issues... **IF** that’s what you’re looking for, go ahead and push the “stay relaxed” line of self training. It is faster. Just make sure you’re ok with the consequences. OTOH, if you want to retain bowel control and not have ED issues (for the guys), then the approach needs to be a bit different. Spend a LOT longer in the learn to go anywhere phase, and in this phase, don’t worry about thinking about it. Just learn to go. Learn to go sitting down. Learn to go walking. Learn to go driving. Learn to go laying down (face up, face down, and on your side). Learn, and then get good at it... in all positions. If you find a position, any position, that you’re not good at, focus on it. Get good at it. Don’t worry that you’re having to think about it. It’s ok right now. Once you’re genuinely good at being able to go in any position, then start the mental work. Now you’re trying to ignore it. When it hits your mind, don’t let it stick. It’s like a leaf floating by on the river. Pay it no attention. Just let it move along downstream. Start actively ignoring the need and your subconscious desire to fight it. Just let go and don’t think about it. Your goal is to let yourself do what you’ve already become good at doing without you needing to think about it. If you really do want to go the “stay relaxed” route, google “reverse kegels.” There’s lots out there. For me, I didn’t want the full effect of doing that, but it does work, and it does take less time (IMO).

Wow was this one emotional. I feel SO bad for Star I need a walk in the sun, but this was SUCH a good story. “Live today because tomorrow isn’t promised.”

I work out of my home, but spend about a 3rd of my time at our corp HQ (professional office environment) and spend about a 3rd of my time at customer locations (Fortune 100 companies). If anyone has ever suspected, I’ve never been made aware of it. I can usually get through a day without needing a change by hitting the restroom frequently. If I get stuck in long meetings, changing gets a lot more likely. I carry a spare in my laptop bag. At HQ, there’s a private bathroom I can sneak into for a change. So far (knock on wood) I haven’t had to change at a customer site, but I’ve Changed in public restrooms, so I don’t think it’d be a problem...

Uh... wait. What?! Oh dear... !!!