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Well done, Morv! Hope everything works out well for you!

I'm glad to see your Mommy/wife is taking such good care of you, bayb !

Christmas Party in the Cosy Corner! Bayb... cakes and cookies if you please! Everyone will be here soon! Lots of soft blankets and stuffies and a big sparkly tree to look at! While you work on the decorations I'll be over in the corner with a bottle of champagne ... er ... I mean apple juice ... yeah, apple juice ... sparkling apple juice ... that's why it has all those bubbles. Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night! No shaking presents!

Excellent point, tris. I think that as a society we've become so focused on the rights of the individual that we forget that we have to share this planet with billions of other people. And in order for societies to work we have to have respect for each other and understand that some of our "things" are not their things and vice versa. I'm certain there are all sorts of people out there doing all kinds of things that I'd find creepy or gross or obscene and that's just fine because they don't ram it down my throat in public. We might not find dressing as a baby in public creepy, but a hell of a lot of people would. I just read a post on another forum about a guy into bdsm who had to take a really big whip across town on a bus. He put it in a pvc tube that was wrapped with Christmas paper. No one knew what it was, or was offended or creeped out, and he got a kick out of knowing that he had a whip in there. And that's a bit like some of us wearing diapers under our jeans, or a guy in a suit wearing women's panties, or someone else walking around with a chastity belt under their clothes. You're still having fun but you're respecting the rights of others around you who are not into your brand of fun. And chances are they're respecting your rights but not doing something they're into in front of you.

Atheist.

First, let me thank you, on behalf of the ABDL community for being so open-minded and accepting of your girlfriend's interests. Normally I would tell you that communication is always the key. Sitting down and talking about what it means to her and what kind of scenarios she likes is really important because no one is a mind-reader and if we just try to guess what each other might like, the chances are we'll get it wrong and both people will be disappointed. And while I do think that is really important and you should definitely discuss it, you've asked how to let her know that you're ready and want to be her daddy, so I'll address that. While the simplest method would be to come out and tell her you're ready, the more exciting way for both of you would be a little surprise. Not a huge scenario, just enough to say you're ready and willing to explore with her. For instance, one evening when you're staying at home and not doing anything much you might go and just cuddle up with her. After a little while you could quietly say "why don't you let Daddy take care of you tonight?" That will make her ears prick up like little quivering antennae Then gently take her hand and lead her to the bedroom (or if you can scoop her up and carry her, all the better, but don't give yourself a hernia!). If she starts asking questions in an adult way like "what are you doing? what's all this?" just lay your finger against her lips and shush her. Lay out a changing pad or a soft blanket on the bed, then tell her Daddy is going to take her out of those big girl clothes. Undress her - make sure you do it gently and not in a sexual way (unless she's so turned on she can't get her hands off you, that is!) and then lay her down on the bed and massage baby powder and/or lotion onto her (make it smooth and slow) and tape (or pin) her into a diaper. When you're finished that pull her into your arms and say something along the lines of "Now Daddy wants to know what things would make his baby happy". By that point she should be totally into it and hopefully not too bashful to tell you the kind of things she'd like you to do. Just keep everything hushed and sensual and gentle. So beforehand, make sure you've stashed away something like a blanket or an actual change pad to put on the bed (you don't want any lotions getting on your linens), a disposable diaper (or cloth, but that could be more complicated for you to obtain), and some Johnson's baby powder and lotion. That's all you need to make a hell of an impression on her and give her the message that you're ready, willing and able to play daddy. The rest you can talk about together. Good luck to you! And now I'm going to go take a long cold shower!

Now I see! Dolly was playing hide n' seek and nobody found her stuffed in that Christmas box. Welcome home, Dolly ... did you bring cookies?

Well said, ranger.

The stories are good ideas, but if you're not so much of a storyteller, maybe just write a list of possible ideas that she can look at and choose one or two each play session from without telling you ahead of time. That way, you don't know what's coming and she feels less like she has to stop and say "what now, mouse?" I'm wondering too if she's not naturally a switch. It may be extremely difficult for her to be the authority figure as opposed to the helpless baby. I know that I'd personally have trouble taking on the parental role. I could do it, but it wouldn't be natural or even all that desirable to me. While I can be dominant in a different, non-abdl type scenario, with baby play it would be really hard for me. It could be she's not all that comfortable in the role of Mommy and feels badly because she wants to make you happy. I'm not saying that's the case, but it might be worth discussing with her.

Jenniebear! 4 years in a hot tub?! You must be shrivelled up like a prune! I just couldn't resist! Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! I hope you have many happy years together ... although not all of them in the hot tub as I fear your diaper will eventually explode from absorbing that much water! Now back to the original discussion ... sorry for that brief intrusion, awakeanddreaming.

Actually, people outside our little circle don't give it much thought. Most don't have a clue it even exists. They've got lots of their own worries and secret fetishes to think about. How often do you think about people who have a shoe fetish or like insects crawling on their genitals? Probably only when some strange media story pops up and shoves it in your face for a minute. Then you most likely think, "ooh, weird!" and go back to thinking about what you need to get at the grocery store. The only people who make distinctions between AB and DL are members of the AB/DL community. If it's shoved in the face of joe public they are not going to make a distinction about why you wear a diaper unless you happen to have a valid medical reason for doing so. Getting back to the original topic ... gay awareness and autism awareness are not even remotely similar to being AB/DL. For most of us, it's a fun little pastime that we indulge in now and again. There is no need to shove it in the faces of strangers. People are free to do whatever turns them on as long as it doesn't endanger anyone else. Not everyone wants to hear about what other people do in the privacy of their homes or what they might be wearing under their Levis.

Moogle, it's always a good idea to go to the doctor to rule out that these aren't symptoms of something more serious. However, all three of the things you're describing are often associated with stress, anxiety and anger. The brain is a miraculous and devious organ and it's very skilled at distracting our attention from what we deem to be "unacceptable" emotions by giving us nasty physical symptoms. But get them checked out thoroughly by your GP just to make sure.

I think Radioman has a good point. If this was something that YOU really wanted for yourself because of your unhappiness with wearing diapers, then that would be different. But if you're perfectly comfortable with the current situation and the diapers are not a big deal in your life and your general health is not at risk in any way, then it would seem you'd be going through this purely for the doctor's benefit and not your own. If that's the case, I would suggest you talk to her and tell her that you're just fine with the situation the way it is. She probably thinks she's helping you and that you probably don't like having to wear diapers. If she continues on with this after you've explained things to her then maybe look for another urologist as Radioman suggests.

I was responding to BBoy's blanket statement about only being one or another. There was no "baby talk" or AB topics in my post other than to dispute his statement.

I disagree. I believe you can be a DL without being an AB, but almost all AB's are also DL's. AB's LOVE their diapers! Many of us also find them a sexual turn-on. Being an AB isn't entirely about sitting in the sandbox playing with plastic blocks. There are some ABs who want absolutely nothing sexual involved in their scenarios, but I think you'd find a lot more of us enjoy a much wider range of activities. We can't be so easily pigeon-holed. It's not black and white. There's a full range of grey in between.

Join the club! We had it here in Southwest BC, too! Gotta love the Pineapple Express, though - the temperature was delightfully comfortable, despite the deluge of rain.

I also started out as a DL - although, when I think about it, I was probably always an AB, but the concept was just too scary to admit to myself. Those of us who grew up before the internet became a mainstream part of life, had no idea that so many other people in the world had these desires too. I remember being seven years old, fashioning my own diapers in secret and rebeling against these "shameful" desires by forcing myself to be more mature and grown-up in my everyday life than I should've been at that age. There was always that "I shouldn't want these babyish things" thought swirling around in my head, so to make sure no one caught on to them, I went completely the other way. By the time I was grown up and I first started exploring the internet, I found the AB's frightening, almost creepy in fact. There was no way I could ever associate myself with them. I was convinced I was a DL only. But that wasn't really true. It was only after a fair bit of time and reading more and more and understanding more that I was able to allow myself to see that I was in fact an AB and had always been one. We are conditioned from a very young age to shun anything babyish. You're ridiculed if you act babyish. The worst thing your peers can taunt you with is "you're such a baby!" It's no wonder many of us have trouble reaching a point where we can allow ourselves to accept these desires. And no, not all DL's are AB's in hiding. But there are many who write about their pacifiers and stuffed bears and blankies while vehemently declaring "BUT I'M NOT AN AB!!!!" I would venture to say that a good portion of us fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum, a bit of this, a bit of that. Obviously there are always people at the very end points of the spectrum as well - totally DL or totally AB, but for many of us, we enjoy all the shades of grey in between. So in other words ... don't worry too much about it. Just enjoy all the new flavours on top of the ones you already like!

I would say that a changing pad is a must if you a - use your diapers for their intended purpose and/or b - use liberal amounts of powder or creams. But then, I'm rather anal-retentive about protecting my furniture and keeping things clean. I personally have a soft flannel, waterproof-backed, changing pad with bright coloured toys and blocks printed on it, from Gabby's.

I think the watercolour painting should be FINGER painting, Ricky! You know how babies love to put their hands in messy things and smear the mess all over the place.

While the one tape idea is interesting, I'm not sure it would be the best option for those of us who are girls. I'm thinking that it would be difficult to get the diaper snug all over because our hips are generally wider than our waists. One tape might cause the diaper to gape at the waist on girls. At least with the two (or even better - three) tapes, they can be cinched to hug our curves better. Not that I could test them anyway, given that they still don't have a distributor in Canada.

How can there be four Misses Dollys? Isn't there only one Misses Dolly? And if she's only seven, can she really be a Misses? And when did she become a miner? Come back Dolly before we get even more confused!!!

If that were the case, there would scarcely be a dry bed in all of the Pacific Northwest of North America or most of Britain!

If you look over to the Directory column on the left, you'll see an ad in green just below the directory. Bambinos is a favourite among many people here - good quality, babyish print. As long as you're somewhere in the US, you'll be able to order them.

Welcome, Pixie! I can't stress enough that communication is the key to everything going smoothly in a mommy/baby relationship. AB's are all different and what one likes, another one may hate. The best thing you can possibly do is sit him down somewhere comfortable (still in grown-up mode) and discuss what his fantasy of the ideal scenario is and what parts of that you feel comfortable with. There is always a little give and take required in any relationship and this is no different. He is extremely lucky to have a girlfriend who is open to indulging this particular side of him and so therefore he needs to help YOU understand his wants and needs and respect your comfort limits. He may enjoy a little discipline for bad behaviour, but then again he may not. And what his idea of discipline is may not jive with what you think it is. Talking it out is the most important thing you can do, so there are no disappointments or nasty surprises when it's time to play. Hope you enjoy your time with us.

You don't say what country you're in babyjess, but if you're in North America, you might want to contact Cutest One of All about having those sleepers custom-made for you.