There are many things that you can do to experiment where the "happy medium" is at. My wife isn't into DL thing, but she does try. You can diaper him and use baby lotion all over his diaper area, I'm sure that will get him excited. You could try some light bondage and get him excited that way :-) It's almost like you need to "reprogram" him. Let's face it, somehow he was conditioned to like diapers, so you can recondition him in other ways. Keep us posted on how your progress is.