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Well I'm glad your boyfriend is comfortable enough with himself to tell you from the onset. It took my boyfriend about 6 months to tell me and it wasn't easy for him. It's been two years since then and I'm still trying really to get a good understanding on it, but it's truly more a feeling than something you can rationalize and explain. The only way to really understand is to experience it with him. But of course, that requires a LOT of trust and comfort. My main advice would be to talk about it with him. Ask him to try to explain to you why HE wants to (because every one is so different). It's going to be frustrating in your relationship as it progresses if you can't indulge him a little (in the same way he indulges you sexually) so i'd recommend it. As far as I've come to understand it (the way it is for my boyfriend might not be the way it is for yours) is wearing diapers/playing the baby is a beautiful and innocent thing. It's the intimacy between a nurturing care giving and a baby who feels complete trust for them. Society demands, from men especially, self reliance and toughness. So this intimate play can provide a release from those constant demands and a safe place to be the opposite. I think it's that acting out the dualism that makes it arousing (the same way that S&M acts out behaviors that are typically 'inappropriate'). But you've really got to ask him. I really recommend that you at least try participating once. Being a mommy to the man you love can really deepen the relationship to a whole new level of intimacy. Best of luck!

So I figured there's bound to be a bunch of us out there in the same boat; ppl who's lover/partner has this fetish while we don't. We love them so much and want to be make them happy (and ourselves too) but that's not always easy. And there's got to be plenty of AB/DL-ers who have lovers who don't share their fetish. And we could all use a place to meet, share stories, get advice (from each other and from AB/DL's), etc. Struggles, Success Stories, Questions, Concerns, Misunderstandings, Advice, Understanding, Fears. Share them all. Here's my situation (and I could definitely use some advice)::::::::::::: My boyfriend of two years is a DL and I'm not. He told me a while ago about his fetish and I couldn't be more okay with it. Sharing in his secret has brought us closer together. He's so sweet and understanding and let me go months before he even asked me to wear a diaper. And the look on his face when I was finally ready told me all I needed to know. I love that man and I want to do everything I can to make him happy! But things aren't picture perfect. It still doesn't turn me own- I don't know if it ever will- and plain sex doesn't do much for him. We're both virgins but there's nothing about sex that excites him. Nothing. And that sucks because it means a lot to me. We keep saying that we'll find our happy medium where we can both be happy and satisfied, but we just haven't yet. Has anyone found theirs?? He's still shy to tell me exactly what he wants and I'm so naive that I don't know what I want at all so neither of us are really happy. I wouldn't mind 'training' myself to become aroused by his fetish, I just don't know if it's that simple. There's got to be a happy medium...right?

so I'm in a rush to get going, but I saw your post and needed to say something- but i apologize if it's already been said. My boyfriend had to struggle to tell me about his fetish- that's why I'm here. But it has been the most amazing secret he's ever told me! The thing is...there's no magical way to tell her. You just have to realize that if she loves you- SHE WILL NOT REJECT YOU no matter what you enjoy! Perhaps let her know that you like things in bed that she doesn't and that you've been afraid for a long time to share. Warn her to keep an open mind and be prepared to answer questions. When I was told I didn't understand enough at all to ask questions, but eventually I got used to the idea and we started exploring. Best of luck! It can't be easy- But it will mean the world to her that you trust her like that.

I'm SO glad there's so many of you girls out there! I've been feeling alone for forever! My boyfriend told me a couple months ago about his fetish but he's still so shy about it. He enjoys diapers equally on either of us. I really can't offer much advise- I came here looking for some myself. But if you're guy isn't shy about it you are incredibly lucky and just be careful not to make him feel embarrassed. He must trust you SO much to have shared this with you and your understanding probably means more to him than you realize. As far as dealing with the demasculinization of your man...It's the most beautiful thing in the world! He's letting you see him very intimately- return the favor. It is weird at first but if you really love him, boy! does it become wonderful to know that you're the only one he lets see him this way. You know him in a way no one else does. Best of luck to you sweethearts!

Well...I'm not an AB or DL. Forgive my intrusion. But I could really use some advice- I don't have anyone else to talk to. My boyfriend of two years- whom I love deeply and sincerly- told me a while ago about his fetish. I couldn't be more okay with it- sharing in this secret has brought us closer than ever. But I know I just don't understand it and we haven't found our happy medium yet. Frankly, it doesn't turn me on and I'm not sure if it ever will. I adore how much he adores me in diapers and I'll prance around for him any day, but on some level I'm still embarrassed. I don't know. For one thing, he's still shy about it (probably on some level because he senses my embarrassment) so I really don't know what I'm doing. I can't get into the role play because I don't know what he wants. I've read some of these stories and spent hours on these sites but I still don't know how to act for him. I just want so much to make him happy. And I suppose the biggest oppostical is going to be his shyness, but if I wasn't so hesitant with it I'm sure that would help. I just don't get it. In theory maybe...but I want to understand deeper than that. I want to share in the pleasure of it....not just act. Is there anything I could do? The second difficulty is that I haven't come with him but (maybe?) once. A while ago. And it's not my biggest concern in the world- it's just frustrating, you know? It's hard to get turned on when what you're doing w/ your lover isn't linked to sex at all for you. And we're both virgins so I've been wanting to make love with him...but nothing about that excites him. Nothing. And that sucks. It means a lot to me and nothing to him. I feel like there's got to be a happy medium for us but I don't even know where to start! Has anyone else had to adjust to a non-fetisher? Any advice on how to both get aroused?? Please help.