Being Babied In A Non Sexual Way Cheating?

[ohiobabygirl]

do u think being babied by someone else in a non sexual way is cheating on someone?

[Guest Sissy Lil Lucy]

Thats best answered by you and the other person you may or may not be cheating on...

[pctrasher]

Now that depends on your significant other as well as you. It's pretty close to cheating, but most of a relationship is not sexual. I'd be kind of ticked off if my G/F was babied by another guy, and I'm sure she'd be ticked off at me if I was babied by another woman. So for me and my G/F, it would be considered cheating. Try asking your significant other how they feel.

edit: LOL, Lucy beat me to the punch by less than a minute!

[Valentine]

do u think being babied by someone else in a non sexual way is cheating on someone?

If you are doing it without your partners knowledge, I would say most likely.

[ohiobabygirl]

my boyfriend doesn't seem to be into it thats why i was asking b/c i just found out that someone i know is curious about it

[Guest Sissy Lil Lucy]

unfortunatly if you went for it and he ever found out he'd think it was cheating almost deffinetly, (I'd think I know someone who would... long story)

[just_here]

I dunno, when in a relationship with a person the act of being babied is so intimate and loving that for it to be done by anyone but that partner seems a bit out of place. But I guess everyone's views on this are different. It really depends on your partner I guess. Everyone is free to do as they choose, but personally I save the spoiling and babying for my significant other. In my personal opinion it can be a bit of a fine line towards cheating.

Nevertheless, I can also see reason in the other viewpoint that it is not sexual and therefore should not be seen as something inappropriate. But, I counter this with the thought that you are making yourself vulnerable and in a way exposing a part of yourself to someone else that you may never see as a potential mate. I think some serious thought should be put into it.

[Radioman]

I would say that you haved to evaluate your relationship with your boy friend.

If you are looking at other people because your b/f isnt giving you the

attention you need, then maybe he isnt the right guy.

Your not married so is it really cheating? there is no ring on your finger that

says you have both made commitments to each other.

You shouldnt get yourself into a relationship that is exculsive unless there is

a commitment. You need to meet other people and have a basis to decide

if this is the right guy for you.

Have you ever heard the saying "why buy the cow, if the milk is free?"

Good luck...

[tris]

I'm gonna agree with the good 'ol northwest wisdom. No ring, no thing.

And if you've met someone who's curious and into what you're after, you really do need to evaluate what you want from a relationship. I mean, if this person has said they'd like to try this with you, then maybe they're interested in you as a person, not just what's under your diaper? How well do they understand ABDL?

Seriously, have a smoke and contemplate.

And if all else fails, you can 'cheat' on him and then tell it all on Springer/Steve Show, they love doing that!

[enfant]

I say it's cheating unless you've talked it out and agreed with each other in advance that it's okay.

If he knows that you're into diapers and want to be changed by someone else, then he should either do that for you or give you the latitude to get it from somewhere else. But you can't make that decision for him without him feeling betrayed when he finds out. You have to talk to him.

[diapermommie]

I would definitely be upset (to put it mildly) if my boyfriend went off and had some other woman to do him, the things that I do, regardless of whether it was sexual or not. And I'm pretty sure he wouldn't be happy about it either. We're not married, or engaged, and I beg to differ that you need a piece of jewelry to be committed to someone.

The person you should be asking is your boyfriend. You say he doesn't seem into it. Why do you think that? Have you talked to him about it and asked him for specific things and he says no, or are you hoping and dropping hints that he'll do certain things with/for you and he's not responding how you wish he would?

This may be completely untrue for you, it's a broad generalization and nothing more. But in my experience, people who ask questions such as "is this cheating?" is already thinking about pursuing something outside of their relationship that they have a good idea their significant other wouldn't approve of.

No one here can answer this for you except him. But for me, it would be easier to get over my bf screwing some random chick on a one night stand, than him having another woman over to diaper him and take care of him in that manner. That would be a serious breach of trust, and I would break up with him over it most likely. But people are different, the only way to know is to ask him.

[PampersPete]

These scenarios always crack me up. Bottom line-NO SEX,NOT CHEATING. "Cheating" by definition as women have twisted it is having sex outside a relation married or not. How is getting a diaper changed without sex cheating? My GF cheats on her hubby with me. If I go out and bang the next man or woman I meet in the bar after work,am I cheating? If you answer yes,you my friend are fucked in the head.

[superdiaperbaby]

do u think being babied by someone else in a non sexual way is cheating on someone?

Unfortunately it probably is. It is a common term called an "Emotional Affair" Women have them more then men. It is when they have intimate feelings for another man beside their husband. If you are in a committed relationship and you go to someone else and they change you and you are emotionally satisfied, fulfilled, or comforted by them then you are having an emotional affair with them. And that is cheating. If you get your diaper changed by a nurse because you can't do it yourself you are getting medical care then that is different.

But think of it, why would you want someone to change you? To fulfill an emotional need or want. If it is a "need" then your partner needs to do this for you because you will be unhappy in the relationship. If it is a want or a nice to have and your partner refuses then they need to realize that by them not sacrificing for you it can affect your relationship. You, of course, need to try to fulfill all of their emotional needs and wants as well. If there is conflict then you need to find some compromise that meets both of your standards, for instance, how bad would it be for her to change a clean diaper or just put one on you? Or maybe just treat you like a baby for a little bit. Or just call you her baby and hold you? Try to find things that can satisfy your desires that she can provide. Emotional affairs can easily lead to physical ones. If the lady changed your diaper, then maybe she will hug you too...Well, why not a kiss then... And so forth...

SDB

[Guest pupsmommy]

I would difinatly call it cheating and if I found some other girl taking care of my man I would leave him.

He feels the same way ...he would never allow another man to baby me . He would call it cheating.

If your man doesn't give you what you want and need then you have to talk to him or let him go.

You will never be happy until you can be honest with him and yourself.

I love my man and I trust him as he does me.

[OneSickPuppy]

that would be Baby, mommy

[Guest pupsmommy]

that would be Baby, mommy

No Puppy dear

you are still my MAN!!!!

Baby but still a Man

[diapermommie]

On the emotional affair thing, exactly right. There are certain levels of intimacy and trust that exist only in a "romantic" relationship for lack of better terms. For my boyfriend, he knew he could trust me, and it still took a while before he was able to tell me about his diaper fetish. For him to have that level of trust in someone else for non-medical reasons, would be a breach of trust on my part. There are things I do with him, and things I can tell him, that I can't tell anyone else. And that's how it should be. For me to gain enough trust and emotional connection with another man and share those things with him, would be cheating.

Every couple has their boundaries. Some people consider online flirting or netsex cheating, some don't. Some people consider porn cheating even. Whether other people agree doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is that the 2 people in the relationship are on the same page. If you don't know what those limits are, the only person that can help you set them, is your SO. Period. And if you don't agree, you have to come to an agreement. If you don't consider getting diapered and babied by another man cheating, and your man does...well he's going to feel betrayed regardless of what your argument is.

[babylin]

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do u think being babied by someone else in a non sexual way is cheating on someone?

[Guest John_Q_Sample]

For me, having my diaper changed gives me a total sexual thrill (I find it humiliating and really get off on being dominated). So I'd have to say 100%, it is cheating... I'm always amazed at how people can simplify situations so that they can deny any wrong doing... as far as non-sexual, I couldn't say, like I stated before- it's a turn on for me, therefore it's cheating. Maybe if it was just a comfort thing or medically nessecary, my opinion would be different but I don't think I will ever reach a point where I can slap on a diaper and not become aroused... yes, I'm a baaad boy.

[Ferret]

I'd have to agree with those who have said that it's really a matter between you and your SO. Cheating is a betrayal of someone's trust, usually done through sexual means, but can be done through other ways as well. So none of us can tell you if it's cheating. We can only give our own feelings on it. I would think it was cheating if my man went to someone else to be babied because it is a matter of trust between us and we are in a closed, monogamous relationship. If we were in an open relationship, we might include that possibility in our rules but we aren't so anything that did happen would be cheating, but that's just one point of view. You have to make your own decisions.

[messyman]

It does not matter what you think. It's what your partner thinks.

[Diaperminn]

i def think it is cheating but I know what you being babied entails....

TJ

[Baby Bethany]

I was with my wife 12 years before I told her I liked this (we were together 9 years before we got married) and during that time I considered visiting a AB nanny for a weekend or something. This is not a real sexual thing for me, more a way of relaxing, so I didn't require any form of sexual service. The one thing that stopped me was I considered it cheating and knew that if my partner found out she would too.

I would technically be spending a weekend with another woman. No, she wouldn't be having sex with me, but she would be undressing me and rubbing cream into my private parts. The woman also did breastfeeding, so no doubt we would have done that too. I would be lying about all of this to my partner by saying I'm going fishing or something.

To the guys here that have said "If it's not sexual, it's not cheating" I would say this: If I worked with your wife or long term gf and I invited her out for a meal. Then I took her back to my place and gave her a full body massage, including her boobs and private parts, but, didn't actually have sex with her. Would you consider that she hadn't cheated on you?

If you tell me that she hadn't cheated, then you are more open in your relationships than I am, and if you tell me she had cheated, then why do you think you can have your private parts massaged, but not her........ call it non sexual all you like, but this is what happens during a diaper change!

One last thing. Some of you mentioned that if there is no ring on your finger there is no commitment. We were together 9 years before we got married and there was commitment for all that time, without it we probably wouldn't be married now.

Also, many couples are very happy together all their lives without ever getting married. The only difference between these guys and me is that I have a piece of paper to make my relationship official, the commitment required is no different.

Sorry, but if you really feel there doesn't have to be any commitment until you get a ring on your finger, I'm surprised you can hold down a long term relationship at all.

Just my view of things.

Beth

[Codymoogle]

1. Would the ressurector of this post PLEASE learn to read topic dates? This post died a long while ago.

2. As to the original question:

Short answer:

Yes, I would definately consider it cheating.

Long answer:

It's a matter to be determined by each individual couple. Cheating is a varied thing, nothing is set in stone. It's a fluid concept, if you know what I mean...What would be considered cheating to one person may not for another, and vice versa. In my opinion as far as this particular situation, being babied must tie into feelings (doesn't it for us all?)...These feelings don't need to be sexual in nature at all, but with a parent/baby situation (AB situations included) there is a certian bonding going on. This particular type of bond should, in my opinion, be cherished, and also exclusive unless both members of the couple agree to have a third party involved.

- Moogle

[anondl]

I see two issues here, intimancy and sex. For myself these issues are tightly bound. ABs are not necessarily persuing sex, but they are after an intimancy that should be reserved for the Significant Other. DLs may be persuing sex and that should be with the SO. Indulging in either with someone who is not your SO I would have to say is cheating.

I'm am only expressing how I feel about relationships. I have a stricter code about relationships because I am insecure, have a weak sense of self worth, etc. I am not interested in starting a flame war. I am just stating who I am.

Anondl

PS Want to challenge my relationship code? Ask me to reconcile masturbation I can't