diapermommie

This was the first site I ever joined. I chose my name because I'm mommie to my husband (he was my boyfriend back then) and because I'm ABDL too, so I'm a mommie in a diaper.

The man in the story, does have the mental capacity of a 2 year old, not a 26 year old man. I had to laugh at whoever said he sleeps like a 6 month old baby. My son is 6 months old. I can tell you his dad is not amused at his sleeping habits. Many babies teeth at this point and their sleeping schedules are less than ideal...lol

I'd be careful. Yes it's meant to be used ON genitals, not in them. I've used baby powder to give my hubby hand jobs, and once or twice it's gotten in and caused him a brief (lasted the evening) issue, similar to what I've experienced having Urinary Tract Infections. Having to pee every few minutes but nothing comes out, and it hurts. It's not enjoyable. We still use it, we're just more careful about keeping it away from important openings! I use it in my diapers, I've never had it cause me an issue. But I could definitely see it causing an issue if it got in an area it doesn't belong.

I just really don't even know how to respond to that. Sure sex is a healthy and important part of a relationship. But depending where she is in pregnancy, she might lose her drive again. It might not come back for months after the baby is born, depending on alot of factors. I get the "itch" several times a day! I certainly don't gauge how my husband feels about me with whether or not his itches match mine. For the record, he's 24 going on 25 so the same age. Regardless, I beg to differ on the "show a man you love him by having sex with him" statement. God I hope I'm never reduced to sex being the only way to explain that. My husband managed just fine when I wasn't in the mood or felt like crap the first few months, or couldn't do anything due to having a c section for 2 months. He didn't masturbate, and didn't feel the need to. We were too wrapped up in our new life. Sex doesn't really cross your mind so much when you have a newborn to take care of. Anyhow. There are plenty of ways I can let him know I love him that don't involve sex. Like, oh I don't know. Telling him? Hugging him, kissing him, snuggling with him, letting him know he's the cheese to my macaroni (to steal Juno's line) letting him know I need him, thanking him for being the best husband on earth. I'd feel horrible if I the only thing I could do to let my husband know I loved him was to get nekkid with him. Sheesh. And I do have to say, aside from waiting until after you were married to tell her, telling her while she's pregnant (I assume she still is, but maybe she isn't. I'm guessing she is as you did not mention any baby yet) is even worse. Women are so not stable and rational and normal during pregnancy, and it's not their fault. There's nothing they can do to suddenly be more logical/rational/normal. They hate it more than husbands do, I can promise you that. Trying to get her to process this during a time she is incredibly vulnerable and self conscious was a really bad decision. I hope you don't think you're diaper needs are going to get much consideration in the next many months and possibly years. Babies have a way of doing that. Babies coming into the world under very stable, solid circumstances challenge a relationship like you won't believe. Doing so after you've just unloaded this secret desire of yours onto her...big no no. I'd do what Sarah suggested, and drop it, fast. For possibly the next 6-12 months depending where she is in pregnancy. I'm sorry but your needs aren't very high on her list right now. Nor should they be on your list.

It's often not as simple as "she might be offended and thinks it's bad because it's unknown" That is true, of course. But she is married to him. When you marry someone, you know them, or at least believe you do, and you should know them, and them you, better than anyone else on the planet. She is likely feeling betrayed and wondering what else he might be keeping. My husband told me before we married. Before we ever thought of getting married. And I'm very glad he did, because had he waited until we were already married, I'd be pissed too. I would question who I married and why he didn't feel ok in telling me. Not to mention, it would have hurt me alot knowing the whole time we were married he'd been talking to other strangers online about something that was part of him but never told me. It would be a breach of trust in my mind and it would take some time and alot of discussion to get over that. I didn't have that issue because like I said, we were still dating and still getting to know each other. How would you feel if you'd been married, promised your life to someone and lived a life you thought was whole and then all of a sudden it's not what you thought? It's like having a secret life. I don't blame her at all for being upset and not accepting at this point. It's not like he told her "you know honey, I actually DO NOT like steak" This is a big deal. You might technically be the same person she married, it doesnt' change how you feel for her etc. But I think to say there are no differences is naive. Would you be immediately accepting and ok if your wife came to you one night and said something you would never ever expect her to say? I know alot of people think "I'd be ok, I'd be accepting" well sure you say that because you're looking at things from your point of view that you'd want acceptance. But what if it's something you really might not be ok with? What if you married someone you thought was Catholic and had been going to church with and one day she tells you she's actually a close atheist? When things change suddenly, when the man you woke up next to is not the same man you're now standing next to having this bizarre conversation with, I think it's horribly unrealistic to think she's just going to be ok with it. It troubles me that so many people took the "she needs to be more accepting!" stance on this. He should never have married her with this in his closet, it was deceptive. I know it's hard. But you know what, when you promise to live your entire life with someone, hiding things is not the way to start that off if you expect to actually be married forever.

OH my hell no. We have 3 kids. 12, 6 and a baby. I would be horrified if any of them find out. Seriously, how many of you want to THINK about your parents having sex, much less their possible sexual quirks?? If it's a medical issue that's one thing. But. Yeah. So no, not acceptable in any terms other than medical which might require them knowing.

and after a long and hard fuck... and start this again and again during a month... the half of your face will be stoned and you will not have on orgasm but your penis is erected... very good your heart wants to explode and your burning red eyes can't see anything... but the girl under or above you is calling Jesus... nice... Since he's too chicken to post on his own, I just wanted to say thank god my husband can do that without using drugs.

My hubby finally poopied in his diaper last night Of course he's done it before, many times. But often I'll use a suppository or other laxative to make him poo. But last night, I fell asleep in the chair during a movie and when we got up to go to bed, when I was changing him, I opened up his diaper to find a surprise! That was a pleasant surprise, we got to have spontaneous sexy time on his messy diaper, which we haven't done in a long time. He can't really hide the fact that he's pooping in his diaper from me, this was only the second time I didn't know ahead of time that he'd done so. Anyhow, I say do what you wanna do. Once you have kids though cleaning poop becomes a non-issue. My husband has never had a messy diaper where the poo shot up his back and out both leg holes and all over his clothes. So anything he can put out will never match what I've had to deal with as a mom. lol For whatever reason, I enjoy it. I don't find the smell offensive, and pulling off his messy pants and seeing what's in there, for some reason, turns me on. So it works

My husband knows, a friend on a old skool BBS knows, kinda of, I think that's it. I just see no reason to tell anyone else!

Do whatever you want! That's what's great about having a willing partner, your only limit is your imagination. Some of the things we've done or would like to do Gone to the movie diapered (in our case we brought our paci's with but that might not apply to you guys) Go on a car ride and have a picnic and do diaper changes on the blankie Go out in public, do diaper changes in a family restroom Have pee races, see who can make their diaper leak faster What we refer to as rocket race, where you both use a suppository and see who can't hold it. (clearly not for everyone...my hubby hasn't gotten me to try this yet, but I doubt I'll be able to hold him off much longer lol) Video games in diapers, just for fun Too much to mention that you can do while diapered involving sex, depending what your tastes are. No sense in going into that, as you can take it any direction. Really, you can do anything. Myself, I love seeing my husband runnin around in a tshirt and his diaper, but I like to give him a sippie of chocolate milk and tuck him in at night too. But like I said, dunno what you're looking at. Don't all people who participate in this as a fetish/kink have at least some fantasies or at least vague ideas of what they might do with a diapered partner? Start with something easy, just watch a movie together diapered, and go from there. You might be surprised the tons of ideas that come flooding in

Do you KNOW she's not into it or are you assuming so? Have you shared your fantasies with her? Sometimes being part of a relationship (in my opinion) is doing some things to please the other person. Granted, there are boundaries to that. If it's something you want to do 3 or 4 days a week and she's only wanting to humor you once a month...you're going to have to discuss that with her and think realistically if that is ok with you, and with her. Giving up something really important to you is never worth in, on either end. I'm honestly horrible at asking for what I want, but I frequently taunt my husband for doing the same thing, when it comes to fantasies and such. Why, I don't know. It's just not as important to me, I've never had any fantasies that I've had for years and years and that I'm just WISHING would come true. For me, most of my fantasies are just day dreams, alot of them I wouldn't want to do in person, even if I had the chance. But it's fun to make his come true when I learn what they are. Both because I just plain enjoy it, and because it's something I can do for him because some of them he's thought about for a long time. It's nice to be in that type of control position Anyhow, you don't get anywhere without talking about it. You have to set your expectations out there, and so does she, then you go from there. Maybe she enjoys it more than you think, just not as often. Maybe she has her own fantasies that feel overshadowed by yours. You only find out by asking.

Christmas Past I loved holidays as a kid. I loved decorating with my mom, going to church with the whole family on Xmas Eve and getting yelled at because my cousin Amy and I couldn't stop giggling. I always loved any present I got. I SO loved being a kid, and if I could, I would love to go back in time and just be a kid for a day. I had a happy childhood, and I thank my parents for that on a regular basis. We always spent XMas Eve at my paternal grandma's house (grandpa died when I was 5) and the entire family would come, aunts, uncles cousins, neighbors, friends. There were so many presents there wasn't any room to sit on the floor. We always sang carols before we could open presents. One year, us grandkids sang "Grandma got run over by a reindeer" Needless to say, grandma wasn't very amused Last year, I got a DS for my birthday (which is right before XMas) and a bunch of Curious George stuff for Xmas, it was fabulous! Christmas Present I'm not quite into the holidays yet, mostly because I hate winter, and nothing here is decorated (at home). But I am glad we don't have to travel this year. It'll be the first Christmas for my husband and I as a married couple, and also the first Christmas for our 10 week old baby. My 2 older kids will be with their dad's family for the holiday, so I'm glad I won't be alone! I'm looking forward to shopping for everyone now that I have my lists done. We always go look at the decorations, that's one thing we enjoy doing every year. Christmas Future I would like, one year, to travel with close family to a warm place, and do Christmas as a family vacation instead of present buying. Don't get me wrong, I like presents and I really like to buy them. But I always thought this would be a nice relaxing way to spend the holiday...instead of shopping and dealing with weather and traffic and parking, we could take a plane to somewhere warm and spend the holiday by the ocean. It would also be nice, one year, to get both sides of our families together, at least our parents and siblings. But our parents are 600 miles apart, with us in the middle, my sister is in Portland. Our apartment is far too small to host everyone, so maybe when we buy a house we can host Christmas

Beth you took what I meant completely wrong. The only point I had in making that statement was that had the same store been posted but it was a girl showing her diaper and wondering if anyone noticed, she would not have gotten the same reaction as this guy did.

How do you know that there aren't people every day, that you see, who are "showing off their kink to you" and you just don't know that cuz you don't automatically assume it's a kink? There are many women who get off on wearing slutty clothes because they know people notice, they like to show off. How is this any different?? I really have yet to see someone explain how it is ok for so many people in this fetish to discuss how to go out wearing their "kink" clothes, yet what this guy did was so horrible. And my point in bringing up things I saw in college, was because of someone who posted "You wouldn't want someone else doing this to your daughter!" It's not like he works at a school or daycare, college people are adults. Exposure to other things is part of college. It's hardly going to damage someone, it's not like he flashed them his penis or something. I've probably flashed people my buttcrack before, as far as I know none of them are psychologically damaged because of it. Anyhow, I'm not going to beat a dead horse anymore. But, for all the discussions I see on this board about what to wear in public and "I wore X outfit to the movies it was so grrreat!" and them getting so much support and then this guy being treated like he's borderline sex offender....I think it's awfully hypocritical. Then again, I see alot of hypocrisy on this board, so that shouldn't surprise me. Personally, I think what he did was retarded, but I don't think it was any really big deal. But I guess when I wear my pullups to work, with my overalls, and my pacifier in my pocket, that since I get some satisfaction out of it, i'm using my entire work place. Same as when I get extreme enjoyment out of dressing my husband in his diapers and onesie and having him use a pacifier sometimes at the movie. Guess I'm just a pervert using the entire city as victims of my sexual enjoyment. Muahahahaha

Would you all complain as much if it were a girl? seems girl in diapers with it peeking out of clothes is one of the top pic requests. How is what he did any different than girls wearing low cut shirts? They do it for the same kind of attention. We all do things to try to appear attractive towards the type of person we want in our lives. The intent was to get attention so it seems...how is that bad? He was at college, not Chucky Cheese. I saw a whole lot more questionable offensive things in college than that.

I find it a bit ridiculous that a group of people with widely varying hobbies is jumping all over a guy for showing part of his diaper. Some of you enjoy dressing in diapers and going to movies, someone might see them!!! Some of you enjoy being forced into sissy outfits and given suppositories so you don't know when you'll poop yourself in public. And, no offense intended but some of you dress like little girls when you are grown adult men. Personally I find that more offensive than a kid running around the way the OP was. Personally I'd give him a thumbs up for good taste in diapers. (note, I actually don't care if you wanna dress yourself as a baby girl, but if I were told to choose which were more offensive it would be that)

How is "on here" any different? I've read SO many posts about this, clearly saying it politely didn't get thru to anyone. It's the internet, we're adults. You admit to using profanity. Why does it matter if it's written or not.

Diapers babies wear are far less absorbant than adult ones, obviously. But they are also changed more often because their skin is supersensitive and a baby with a blistered diaper rash is no fun. We have a baby, he uses 100% of his diaper frequently. As does his dad lol sometimes he leaks sometimes not, but he uses all of the diaper almost everytime.

This whole topic amuses me. Especially the "I'm not an AB. Except for this...." I recently had a thought about this. I see so many people who post here, and other similar forums, saying "I like to pretend I"m 3 years old" or "I'm more of a 5 year old" etc. Do people really have that much lack of understanding about child development. 3 year olds most of the time do not wear diapers. They don't use bottles, they don't use pacifiers, they certainly don't eat baby food. So why do people in this fetish identify with one age that isn't even close to realistic? (not that an adult acting the baby part is...I'm not saying I'm any different of course) I think most people I've read about fall more in the 8-12 month range than anything. Like to wear actual diapers (not pullups) drink from a bottle/breastfeed, use a pacifier, play with rattles, and the more extreme people, sleep in cribs etc. You realize most kids around age 2 are completely done with all of these things, right? I just think it's silly if you're 40 years old, or whatever random age, and saying "if you like to do this, you're an AB no matter what" when they probably have little understanding of what a baby really even is. When my husband told me about his fetish, he was only DL. He told me how he likes to wear diapers, and use them. Then after some thinking I realized there was a whole world of people who had pacifiers and other baby-ish things like I had always enjoyed. So I wanted to go shopping for those things, he came with and decided he had a little AB in him after all. But I don't think that's the case for everyone. You can't put your own limits on other people for something like that. There's alot more to being an AB that what kind of diaper you wear.

I'd describe myself as AB and DL, I separate them because sometimes I'm totally AB without diapers. Sometimes I wear diapers without AB influence at all. But my AB-ness waxes and wanes like mad, and it drives me nuts sometimes. For months while I was pregnant I hardly participated in my AB side at all. I still wore diapers on occasion though. It just felt weird to be in that space while carrying a baby. Now that he's born, my AB side is back with a vengeance. I sleep with my poodie (pacifier) and my light-up bear every night, I take a bottle back to bed with me after the baby gets up (he's usually up around 4am or so) I find myself snuggling up against my hubby and being totally in my 3 year old headspace. Which doesn't usually happen often at all but has been a nightly occurrence lately. Not that I don't enjoy it But sometimes it conflicts with my everything-is-under-control nature. Not to mention my hubby is an ABDL as well, tho heavier on the diaper usage than the AB side, while I'm the opposite. It doesn't cause any conflict between us, but sometimes within myself, as these days it's hard to be the mommy and the toddler at the same time. If that makes any sense. Anyhow, I'm just rambling. Anyone has have their AB side some and go?

A lifestyle isn't the same as sexual turn ons though. My sister is lesbian. That is her lifestyle. She brings her gf home when she visits (if she has one at the time) same way I bring my husband for visits. But that doesn't mean she talks about the sex toys she uses with her gfs. There is a big difference in being comfortable in being who you are in your lifestyle and sharing WAY too much personal information about your actual sex life. And you know, I doubt it would surprise my mom much if she knew about my AB side, at least parts of it. She used to buy the gerber fruit medley dessert for me as a special treat once in a while cuz she knew I liked it. She knows I'm a kid at heart. So it's not like she'd disown me if she happened to find out. She'd probably think it was a little odd, but she'd be ok with it. But it doesn't mean I just out and share it with her. It's something I do either alone, or most often around my husband. It's not my lifestyle. It's not something I HIDE about myself. It's just something that is private between me and my husband, just like alot of things that are private in that kind of relationship. Some things are just common sense. And I know some people might be more comfortable in talking to their parents about sex, that's fine. But there is still a line. Telling your eldery mother that you like to shit yourself in a diaper because it gets you off sexually is crossing the line, in my opinion, no matter how open either party is.

You know, I've only been on this site for little more than a year. And I'm already in a bad mood today, so if I get in trouble or banned for this, whatever. But how fucking stupid do you have to be to tell your parents something like that. Ever. There is absolutely NO reason for it. Can you even give a good reason why? Because I swear it's just said to upset them, or to piss them off so that you then have a reason to be mad at them in return. I'm 32, married and have 3 kids. My parents clearly know I have sex as I have kids to show for it. I don't even like knowing they know I have sex. Why in the bleeding christ would I ever say "oh, well you know dad, I like when my husband sticks a finger in my ass and gives me a little spank here in there while we screw our brains out. Oh, and did I mention that he might be laying on a used diaper at the same time?" "Oh, and mom, I forgot to mention that one of my hobbies is to take a bottle of chocolate milk to bed and sleep with a pacifier, it's just for comfort though. I do however enjoy when my husband pees in my diaper, that turns me on like you wouldn't believe!" WHAT THE FUCK. And it's almost always the same age group. Do you put all the details of your life and your sex life out there for your parents all the time? What about grandparents, aunts, uncles? Might as well tell everyone what yanks your crank I guess. Good lord. As far as getting her to talk to you, apologize for upsetting her. There are things about yourself no one except your partner needs to know about. Sure I talk about sex with a friend or to. But never in detail. Because some things are SUPPOSED to be private. Not secret...it's not lying or secretive to hold some things private. Ok I'm done.

Anyone wanna help me on a quest? I need to find a pullup adult (no goodnites etc) diaper. I don't expect it to be the absorbency of the bambinos etc. We have those kinds already. I want to dress my husband up in a diaper and his onesie for work. But he can fill up even the top notch diapers in 2 hours. So he needs something that'll still easily allow him to use the bathroom as needed but still wet himself as much as he dares. Suggestions? Like I said...just something that'll do the job.

I'm just confused on the intelligence part of the question. What does DL or AB have to do with intelligence?? Personally I started out as AB, DL stuff never entered the picture until I got the "I like to wear diapers and use them" speech from my then-boyfriend. I was a bedwetter as a kid. On certain occasions I had protection with me to keep me from embarrassing myself. However as I grew up in the 80s mostly, pullups and goodnites weren't really around. I don't know where my AB side came from. I remember being 3 when my sister was born and being mad that I was being told to grow up cuz now I was the big sister. I remember being a teenager and having a paci in my coat. I had to drive like an hour to go to a town no one knew me to get baby stuff. I don't know why, it was just a comfort thing. I didn't think much of it. At least not until my hubby told me his secret, and now I can sit in a diaper and jammies, drink from a bottle, use a paci at night, and life is good. I don't think about it or analyze it. I just do whatever feels good for that day. Some days all I wanna do is play the mommy to my husband. Some days I'm in a very "lil mode" and just wanna cuddle with my Bear, dry powdered diaper on, paci in my mouth and fall asleep next to him. Why people THINK so much about this, I don't know.

This might just be a personal preference on my part, but for me, it wouldn't have made a difference if it was introduced slowly. Wanting nurturing is hardly a shocking thing. It's not like you can just ease from one thing into "i like to wear diapers" eventually you have to saw those words, and it's not going to be any less of a shock to her just because she happens to like that you suck on her lactating boobs. There were hints dropped ALL over the place, and I"m talking big hints, we used to joke about pullups and all sorts of fetish related things before I knew my hubby was a DL. It didn't change the initial reaction. It was kind of funny in a "lol wow I shoulda picked up on that waaay before today!" way. And it wasn't any sort of big blow for me cuz I had my lil AB side, and due to knowing him it didn't surprise me that it turned out he was an abdl sort. There's nothing wrong with feeling a person out before you put forth such a huge admission. But are you REALLY doing it for her sake, to ease her into it etc or are you doing it because it's so hard to say regardless? Saying "I like to use and wear diapers" is not going to be any easier for you a week from now than it is today, because no matter what you try to cover in the mean time, that sentence is going to be like nothing else you've brought up previously. It's going to foreshadow everything and the ONLY thing in her mind at that second is going to be the thing you just said to her. Talking about it for a while afterwards, she might realize yeah there were signs and "OH so that's what he meant when he brought that up" etc. But the "my husband/boyfriend likes to wear diapers" is going to be the only thing for at least a short time. And you're going to have to deal with whatever reaction that brings. Waiting isn't going to change the reaction, I don't think. It'll just delay it.