Ferret

I'd have to agree with those who have said that it's really a matter between you and your SO. Cheating is a betrayal of someone's trust, usually done through sexual means, but can be done through other ways as well. So none of us can tell you if it's cheating. We can only give our own feelings on it. I would think it was cheating if my man went to someone else to be babied because it is a matter of trust between us and we are in a closed, monogamous relationship. If we were in an open relationship, we might include that possibility in our rules but we aren't so anything that did happen would be cheating, but that's just one point of view. You have to make your own decisions.

One of the things that I have realized reading the board is that I should be asking specific questions and not just vague ones. Learning which questions to ask has also been a challenge. Pax87, while it sucks that you went through something similar in middle school, it's also comforting to know that I'm not alone. I may not be into wearing diapers right now, I do like being babied. J and I were talking last night and we talked about different ways to baby someone; holding, bathing, dressing, etc. He's being very supportive and helping me learn. It's so nice to have someone who's just as supportive. And honestly, compared with all of my past boyfriends, I'd much rather deal with a man who wants to wear diapers than anything I've had before.

Thank you all for the welcome. I've not always been so open-minded but it's hard for me to judge someone when I myself am bisexual and polyamorous. That and it really really bugs me when people decide to judge me but that's neither here nor there. Nappyloon, I've not tried diapers myself. Part of that is because I've got some emotional trauma that I've been dealing with (gotta love middle schoolers) revolving around my monthly cycle. I was so not prepared for it and resented it and hated it because it meant I was a "woman" and I didn't want to be a woman and wearing pads was so uncomfortable, though I refused to use tampons because of bad associations with my frustrations/fears/insecurities and a desire to be nothing like my mom (I was 11 at the time; I've very much gotten over most of this). Since I was young, and I believe I was the first in my class who was "blessed", I felt so self-conscious about wearing something that everyone referred to as a diaper in a very derogatory manner. So there's some bad association there which is my own drama and I don't project it onto anyone else. There's also the fact that in the last 4 years, I've become a bit of a nudist, at least at home. I really just don't like wearing clothes which is odd because it was my little sister who was always running around naked, so who knows where that comes from. Am I against trying a diaper? Nope, not at all. I've just got to work out my mental/emotional issues before pushing myself into something out of curiousity. J and I have briefly talked about it. I made an off-handed remark about how he'd like to see me in one and he told me he'd like that very much. I have thought of surprising him by wearing one and seeing his reaction. I have been finding lots of useful and not necessarily useful information. It does boggle the mind a little as to how much there is out there. I keep learning new things which is good but I occasionally have to go and download my brain and process everything. I'm also being a little wordy as of late. Not that this is new....

Hi there. Just a short introduction since my brain doesn't seem to want to go to sleep yet. I'm a 26 year old female living in Minnesota who had heard of AB/DLs from a guy I was involved with a few years back. I had stumbled across his secret without realizing it. After an unexpected death, we were hanging out and looking at pictures of the professor who had passed away. I picked up a safety pin (turns out it was really a diaper pin but my mom used them for some of her sewing projects) and played with it. He was horrified but later that evening told me about it. I think he was expecting shock out of me but I've always been of the philosophy that as long as it's not hurting someone (unless they like it but that's neither here nor there), then I have no reason or desire to judge them for what they find to be comfortable. Three years later this turned out to be useful for me. I've been in a relationship for about 4 months now with a different AB/DL. The internet is a wonderful and horrible invention, as I was able to find out about him from it, though it was more a confirmation of suspicions that total outright discovery. One night we had a 4 hour conversation and sexual fetishes came up. I mentioned how I see nothing wrong with a person being comfortable. For me, that means being nude. I mentioned the guy I'd been with and how he enjoyed wearing diapers. J, my boyfriend, was really interested in why I was okay with that. He got very excited and waited for it to hit me about him but it never did because I already knew. The next night I explained to him that I'd known for about a month at that point and had simply been trying to find a way to bring it up because I remembered how sensitive my other friend had been about it. We talked about hypothetical situations and he finally decided to "test" me and see if I was true to my word. I sadly fell asleep before he changed but woke the next morning to him diapered next to me in bed. It might seem odd but I was flattered because it was something that he had kept very secret and guarded and he was willing to share it with me. Since then, he'll usually be comfortable when he's at my place, even teaching me how to change him, which got me flustered because I don't like not knowing something and I'd never been exposed to changing a diaper before. That has led me to lurking on this message board in hopes of learning more about the lifestyle and the community. Like pretty much anything I've discovered, there are basics that are the same but each individual is different. I'm not necessarily looking for "the answers" but a better understanding. This has kind of gotten rambley, which I apologize for. I guess the short version is there's this guy that I'm really into and he's really into not only me but diaper wearing and I've always been about supporting my partner in whatever way possible so I've come here to learn more. Ferret

Yeah. Okay. But WHERE in Missouri!?!? I hate to be a dick and I'm definitely not singling out anyone in particular, but that's the whole point of me posting that I was near St. Louis. Everybody's sitting here going "I'm in Missouri" or "I'm in Illinois" but won't say where. These are pretty big land-masses, people. If you're looking to hook up with some diapered friends, saying "I'm in Springfield" is a whole hell of a lot different than saying "I'm in Hannibal", and saying "I'm in Missouri" doesn't mean a damned thing. And now that I'm sure I've pissed everyone off for stating what should be fairly obvious, I'll just shut up.

What part of MO and IL is everybody in? I'm in South-Central IL a little north and east of St. Louis. 34, Male, Straight, Married, DL, Caucasian, martial artist, wetter but not a messer. Always looking for diapered friends to chill with and discuss diapers. Plus I got a small Jon boat and there's nothing like cruising the river in just your diapers and a life-jacket cuz nobody can see your pants if you don't stand up.