Is Anyone Else Still A Virgin?

[dlstl]

I'm working my way to 21, and I'm still carrying the V-Card.

I'm not a chastity pledger, and I'm not against sex before marriage. I'm not ugly either; Hot or Not had me at a bit more than an 8 average with 400 votes before I took the picture down. I haven't done anything else beside kissing, and I don't get to do that often either.

Maybe I'm too picky about the girls I like. They have to be intelligent and able to hold a conversation about a book, movie, work of art, etc. without just saying "That's Deep". They have to like quiet nights in or out most of the time, and not want to party every moment in their free time. And they have to be open-minded. (Hopefully enough that they could find something interesting, or at the very least not be repulsed by my kinks.) Is that too much to ask?

I guess I'm just looking for moral support and confirmation that nothing is the matter with me, which is what I'm starting to feel after so long without any romantic experience.

How old were you when you lost it? Is 21 old?

[diaprbayb]

Well, I lost mine on my 21st, and no I didn't pay for it

[Ford Freak]

21 isn't old. I still have mine. I have been one of those wait until I'm married people. It was the way I was raised. I wouldn't care if it happens before then though. I just haven't met the right person to do it yet.

[Valentine]

I am, but I am asexual and uninterested in sex. So it really isn't a valid question.

[t baby]

Don't know, am I? I ain't had it in so long I forgot which arm it's under

[beallucanb]

Don't worry when its time, and you meet the right one, It will happen, I was 26 when I got up the nerve, and then discovered I wasn't interested, Im not sure if it was the person, or the fact I was drunk, and couldn't preform....

[EQIIFreak]

20, and waiting for marrage. I know, one of those old fashioned types.

[BabyBuu]

still a virgin here, mostly because no time for a gf, at the moment university is a lot of work and money is tight(for gifts and dates). I bearly have time for diapers as is.

[dlstl]

Well, I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one then. That makes me feel better.

[wetvinyl]

Ok, I will come out and freely admit this: I didn't lose my V-card until I was 33!

For whatever reason.. a bad abusive childhood, resulting insecurity and self-confidence, all sorts of things... I never got around to it. Not that I didn't think about it! Oh hell yes! But it was my #2 Biggest Deepest Secret (you can guess what my #1 was ). I eventually just kind of gave up and accepted it.

But eventually I met a wonderful woman who accepted me for who I was, warts and all... and nature took it's course. We went out for almost 4 years, and to this day we're still good friends-- she's my roomate!

Do I wish I could have lost my V-card earlier? Sure! But I was who I was.. and it was more complicated than that. To this day I still can't imagine making love to somebody I don't care VERY deeply for, just some chick I've just met. I never have... and it's sooooo very nice

Vinyl.

[baby-dandan]

I raise my hand "Hi, my name is baby-dandan and I am a virgin." I really don't see the hurry. I don't want to have to worry about STDs or things like that. My cousin is sexual active and he has caught one or two infections from different women. I tend to stay away from women because of this fetish. I haven't had to much luck with finding a girl online. I fear bringing an "outsider" into this lifestyle because of the fear of rejection and her telling others of my fetish if it dosen't work out.

[scardykat]

I was 19 when I lost mine. I was visiting a friend of my from Russia while I was in Dubai. One thing led to another and we slept together. I geuss it was the right time and the right place. It wasn't planned or anything. I wasn't a "wait for Marriage" person, just a right time, right person..person. Its been a casual thing since then, never because i want to or need too, just cause it feels right. Do worry about it brother man, when it happens, it happens.

[diaperdanger]

I lost mine at 17. I'm currently engaged to that same person.

I would suggest that you not worry about your kinks to begin with. How would you feel if your mate got you in bed and then got a whip and some chains?? Pain during pleasure is something that doesn't work for me.

Just trying to help...

[Dill_Pickle]

Hmm.....

Before answering, you have to ask yourself how you define that virginity. I was 12 (?) when I first consciously made a sticky mess with help from Rosy Palm and her five sisters. That's been going on ever since. I was 15 or so when I first got my hands on adult diapers ("incontinence pants"). I was 18 or 19 when the thing that makes the sticky mess was inside someone else's body, and not able to make that sticky mess. (And I was very glad to have my equipment otherwise function -- but had that almost didn't happen, and I would then have first done that at 35). I was 33 when I left my ex from a hot place, and two years later my shrink called me an emotional virgin. I'll be 43 when I finally get married next year. And I've had plenty of "couldn't finish the job" experiences with the current GF....it has taken me a lot of practice to be relaxed enough and not to have bad thoughts. Ability to sustain an erection and climax with a girl is a very sensitive indicator of how your subconscious feels, don't feel bad if it doesn't work, just enjoy the rest of what happens.

But don't go around thinking you have to find an on-line person who likes diapers. I think most of the D/Ls and ABs in the world show up online for a few months, get bored, stop going to diaper sites, and get on with their lives privately, just like they did before, comfortable in the knowledge that they have kin somewhere.

I think most women will accept the fetish if the rest of the relationship is working for them, particularly if boundaries are kept around it -- such as it being a small part of her sex life. I wouldn't deny myself a relationship because of my peculiar "handicap" -- think of it as "in addition to" and not "instead of".

[Romance]

Still a virgin.. A few oppurtunities have risen.. But I'd much rather wait until I find someone who I truly care for.. And someone who gives me nothing less.

[D_Rainger]

An interesting discussion. Our pop culture places way too much emphisis on sexuality. It is a schizophrenic dichotomy of prudishness on the one hand and wild abandon on the other. My dear old aunt was almost 100 when she died. She had never married. Was she unhappy? Was she unfulfilled? Are you kidding? She was unlike anyone I ever met. Sharp as a tack. She worked until she was in her 80's. She drove her car into her 90's. She read, she painted, she discussed politics, she traveled the world.

I have been married for 28 years. My wife and I have fallen into a sexless relationship. Do I lament the fact that we no longer have sex? No, we love each other. Sex is but a small part of a true relationship. Morals dictate abstinence until marriage, yet so many think that sex determines the relationship and ignore the wisdom of the ages. I lost my virginity early and am ashamed. I wish I could go back and apologize to each and every girl I had premarital sex with. Shame on me!

-D_Rainger

[Guest]

Virgin? Naw, I'm completely fucked in that category!

[Guest]

And I've had plenty of "couldn't finish the job" experiences with the current GF....it has taken me a lot of practice to be relaxed enough and not to have bad thoughts.

Whenever I'm with a new partner for the first time, I barely finish the job if at all. That completely sucks cause I have to convince them that it won't suck next time. Usually by the 3rd time, they've realized I was well worth a second chance.

[pctrasher]

Yea, I don't think 20 is an old age. It's probably something you'd want to experience before you die, but there's no rush to it. From experience, I'm 19 and lost ...err. traded my card not but a few months ago, and loved it and love her. She's my first and will be my last as we have plans, not official, but still they are plans none the less. Pressure does suck, but the pressure is from an external source, you only really want to because... a. you want to know what it feels like..etc. or b. people have convinced you that it's something you should do at an early age or you're just weird. But then again, aren't we all weird in comparison to today's society? So whether you do or not now or when you're 80 you're still weird because you like diapers... as are the rest of us, but we're proud of it... or well the better/luckier/happier portion of us are.

[Incomplete Dude]

20, and still fresh!

[WiiBaby]

18 and still a virgin, the only time it bugs me is when friends ask.

[restlessfox]

i lost mine when i was 17 but i was still widely known as a virgin because i didn't hide the fact that i was a virgin when i was, i don't lie and in that area where people expect you to lie it really screws you over if you actually tell people the truth.

[Mr. Big]

I lost mine at 22, so no biggie. I think it was worth the wait,, because, damn, what a first time.

[seppuku]

Sex is good, but mostly irrelevant. It's a pleasure activity, some people engage in it, some don't - there's less and less social pressure to have the sex these days. I can count the times i've had actual intercourse on my fingers, but i've fooled around quite a bit. The latter is usually more fun anyway.

[Morv]

I lost that card when I was sixteen. Had a girlfriend I ended up dating for about a year, and we were like rabbits. I have since come to the conclusion that sex and love are two completely seperate things, and they can be exclusive, though they do go well hand in hand. I also can say that I still have had more sex before I turned 18 than since.

Safe sex? Important. Waiting for the right person is the right thing to do for a lifelong commitment. Though there is always the possibility of pregnancy, if you are careful you can keep that very slim (let's see here... get her on birth control, and then still use a condom with spermacide... fairly effective), and therefore reduce the risk of potential unplanned lifelong commitment (i.e. pregnancy). I don't think there's anything wrong with waiting for the "right person," if you choose to do so, but I can only view the moral codes that give rise to the rules of ethical conduct that specify true monogamy as being outdated given today's societal structure and technological levels.

Choosing someone to get married to and someone to have children with, aye, you should be picky about that and certainly wait for the right one. Having sex? Well, there is that risk of developing emotional attachment... I suppose it depends on the individual.

But, bottom line, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. I know I'm saying that as someone who isn't one, but I'm also saying it as someone who hasn't been getting any for the past two years or so, and someone who hasn't gotten some on a regular basis for the past five. My life has me busy doing other things these days. There is a season.

As far as the not being able to finish the job... I've always worried about not being able to get it up... it seems with all the damn ads for viagra and shit that the pharmacutical industry's advertising campaign is actually intended to raise stress levels to the degree that men become impotent. But, when the time came, it never was a problem. Where I have had the problem was one girlfriend I had that always seemed to get in the mood after a few drinks, and she had a terrible problem of catching me at a point where I hadn't had enough to drink that I couldn't perform, but I couldn't manage to climax. I think it's almost worse to have gotten your partner off several times and not be able to reap any satisfaction yourself.

Like any other activity, if you're worried about your performance, all I can say is that, like anything else in life, practice make perfect. And I believe Vince Lombardi once said that practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect. So, there you go. A shining endorcement for whacking off until you're raw.

Anyway, I'll end by repeating an earlier statement: there's nothing wrong with beign a virgin. (Well, that is, unless you're a woman who is dating me... j/k)