To Tell, Or Not To Tell

[cgb4180]

I really want to wear a diaper (a goodnite to be exact), but the prob is I'm not sure if I should tell my parents, or wait till I get my DL soon. That or let them find me with a diaper I have hidden in my room.

I've also thought about fake wetting the bed long enough to get some goodnites. not what I want to do, but it's an option.

what should I do? I have a diaper that I found that is only big enough to fit in the front of my underwear. it will do, but I really want to start wearing a goodnite.

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unless they check your underwear when you sleep or search your room a lot, you could probebly wear without them knowing to bed. if you have a credit card, you can order from somewhere without them knowing. Just be carefull on how the place ships if you order from somewhere.

don't fake bedwet either. it will only lead to doctor visits, lots of tests, and some explaining to do.

[cgb4180]

What's to stop you buying your own?

My parents? they don't know.

unless they check your underwear when you sleep or search your room a lot, you could probebly wear without them knowing to bed. if you have a credit card, you can order from somewhere without them knowing. Just be carefull on how the place ships if you order from somewhere.

don't fake bedwet either. it will only lead to doctor visits, lots of tests, and some explaining to do.

Well, I share a bed with my brother, so I can only wear them during the day.

[Guest LOSTinDiapers]

What is with kids these days? When I lived with my parents, I took drastic steps to keep my parents from finding out. The last thing I wanted to happen was for my Mom and Dad to find out I liked to wear diapers. Now, we keep getting bombarded by people wanting to tell their parents. Do they think they will offer to change them and baby them? It will probably result in a huge fight and your Mom crying.

[Dill_Pickle]

What is with kids these days? When I lived with my parents, I took drastic steps to keep my parents from finding out. The last thing I wanted to happen was for my Mom and Dad to find out I liked to wear diapers. Now, we keep getting bombarded by people wanting to tell their parents. Do they think they will offer to change them and baby them? It will probably result in a huge fight and your Mom crying.

Ditto. You sex life is not something you share with your parents. Especially if they don't let you have a Driver's License, which indicates some kind of dysfunction in the relationship. Would your mother understand that you are "just playing"? It's a very awkward question to be asked.

Dill Pickle.

[Radioman]

This sounds like an under age poster to me....

[DL-CanesFan]

I am about to move into a new place and my parents are going to help. It is going to be a challenge for me to hide my stash from my folks. The last thing I want is for them to find out. I guess in a small way, I wish I could tell them so I wouldn't have to hide it, but at the same time it feels naughty and I like that feeling. I also kinda like the challenge of hiding it from them- keeps me on my toes.

[redneck diaper boy]

When in doubt, keep your mouth shut. As a parent and grandparent, I don't know how I would react.

I have often wondered how I would feel if one of my children turned out to be gay. I can only speculate. I think I would talk to him and say "son I lover you but please respect our home and keep the gay stuff out of sight. When you get your own place, you can do as you please".

I really want to wear a diaper (a goodnite to be exact), but the prob is I'm not sure if I should tell my parents, or wait till I get my DL soon. That or let them find me with a diaper I have hidden in my room.

I've also thought about fake wetting the bed long enough to get some goodnites. not what I want to do, but it's an option.

what should I do? I have a diaper that I found that is only big enough to fit in the front of my underwear. it will do, but I really want to start wearing a goodnite.

[dave_the_baby]

Ah, Radioman. Hardly- to me, it sounds like an American 18-year old.

As in, one who was over-protected and was suddenly bombarded with talk of Work and College.

I have more to worry about than my fetish at the moment- I've got issues with my parents, College, Job, and I have to somehow get the motivation to give a fuck.

It's not so much that I'm not motivated to get a job- it's just that when I'm pissed off, it's IMPOSSIBLE for me to present myself right.

Also, I have to walk to the stores most times, which takes about an hour.

And frankly, my only reason is "so I can move out." Some days that's just not enough- it takes FAR too long to get a job to motivate myself to go in regularly. I have no understanding on society as a whole because of 18 years of repression, etc.

Believe me, THIS DOESN'T SURPRISE ME.

[Aleia]

I'm in the same place you are--young, and living with parents who don't know. That is, they're not supposed to know, but my mom cleaned my room without asking once, before I'd had the chance to hide my stash. She hasn't said anything about it, though, so there's a chance she didn't find or notice anything.

You don't need to tell your parents--not only do the possible costs of telling them outweigh the possible benefits, but if you follow these pointers, you can have a guilt-free, unapprehended DL experience.

1) HIDE THE STASH WELL. AT ALL TIMES. Never assume, as I did, that no one is ever going to come into your room. If possible, try to keep all the diapers in one place. Your parents are more likely to find your diapers if they're stashed in multiple hiding places. I keep mine in a giant trash bag topped off with seasonal clothes (if it looks like clothes you simply don't wear anymore, your parents might think it's okay to get rid of them). This bag goes deep in my closet among other bags and boxes.

2) Don't behave suspiciously. If you suddenly start disappearing into your room for long periods of time, withdrawing from the family, making a lot of noise at night, or neglecting responsibilities, your parents will probably notice and may start prying for answers.

3) Be careful how you dispose of used diapers. Do NOT hang onto them! I usually put mine into an opaque, deodorized garbage bag, and knot it closed before burying it under the contents of the bathroom trash can.

4) Consider using air freshener in your room. If someone walks in on you while you're diapered, you don't want them to smell what you're makin'.

5) Have some convincing alibis ready, just in case. If my parents ever approached me about finding diapers in my room, I'd tell them I was getting insufficient sleep from having to go to the bathroom a lot in the middle of the night (which is true), so I decided to experiment with using diapers so I wouldn't have to get out of bed. At first, I was too embarrassed to buy adult diapers, so I got baby diapers instead (I'd have to explain away the Pampers and Tushies somehow). Then I got the courage to buy adult diapers.

6) Set up your browser to automatically delete your browsing history. If your parents like to snoop, you don't want them finding sites like this. Or guard your computer with a password.

[Aleia]

Goodnites and pullups in general are pretty much undetectable, by the way. You don't need to worry about your brother noticing at night (unless you pee in them--then he might smell it, especially if he's in the same bed).

[Diaper666]

I'm in the same place you are--young, and living with parents who don't know. That is, they're not supposed to know, but my mom cleaned my room without asking once, before I'd had the chance to hide my stash. She hasn't said anything about it, though, so there's a chance she didn't find or notice anything.

You don't need to tell your parents--not only do the possible costs of telling them outweigh the possible benefits, but if you follow these pointers, you can have a guilt-free, unapprehended DL experience.

1) HIDE THE STASH WELL. AT ALL TIMES. Never assume, as I did, that no one is ever going to come into your room. If possible, try to keep all the diapers in one place. Your parents are more likely to find your diapers if they're stashed in multiple hiding places. I keep mine in a giant trash bag topped off with seasonal clothes (if it looks like clothes you simply don't wear anymore, your parents might think it's okay to get rid of them. This bag goes deep in my closet among other bags and boxes.

2) Don't behave suspiciously. If you suddenly start disappearing into your room for long periods of time, withdrawing from the family, making a lot of noise at night, or neglecting responsibilities, your parents will probably notice and may start prying for answers.

3) Be careful how you dispose of used diapers. Do NOT hang onto them! I usually put mine into an opaque, deodorized garbage bag, and knot it closed before burying it under the contents of the bathroom trash can.

4) Consider using air freshener in your room. If someone walks in on you while you're diapered, you don't want them to smell what you're makin'.

5) Have some convincing alibis ready, just in case. If my parents ever approached me about finding diapers in my room, I'd tell them I was getting insufficient sleep from having to go to the bathroom a lot in the middle of the night (which is true), so I decided to experiment with using diapers so I wouldn't have to get out of bed. At first, I was too embarrassed to buy adult diapers, so I got baby diapers instead (I'd have to explain away the Pampers and Tushies somehow). Then I got the courage to buy adult diapers.

6) Set up your browser to automatically delete your browsing history. If your parents like to snoop, you don't want them finding sites like this. Or guard your computer with a password.

This is the same situation im in or sort of i live with a room mate and his fiance and they don't know i wear and for as the Internet situation i use Firefox and have it set to delete my surfing history when i close it so if they come in the room and then no one is the wiser and as for as diapers are concerned he is living with his 85 year old mama living with us at times and she is incontinent and here is were the good part gets i just order mine and say there some movies or something i ordered online and nothing gets past that so the kicker is we wear the same brand of diapers me and my roommates mama so it kinda works out in the long run in having family that wears so if any one notices one in the bathroom trashcan they just think its hers or what ever but the bitch of it is though its gonna get tough here on out since she is going on some kind of extended living thing or what ever so ill have to find another way to get rid of mine with her not her..................................

[babylin]

QUOTE (Aleia @ Jan 4 2009, 09:41 PM)

3) Be careful how you dispose of used diapers. Do NOT hang onto them! I usually put mine into an opaque, deodorized garbage bag, and knot it closed before burying it under the contents of the bathroom trash can.

Seriously, girl....WHO empties the bathroom trash? If you yourself are the ONLY one to ever empty the bathroom trash then it may be a convenient place to hide your dirty diapers, but not a good place.

When my daughter was home from college one time she wrapped a used condom in toilet paper and placed it in the bathroom trash. I never told her I found it when I emptied the trash.

Used diapers in the trash are found by those who empty the trash. ALWAYS put your used diapers in the bin yourself.

HAPPINESS IS WEARING COTTON DIAPERS

[Bettypooh]

If you want something you must first earn what it takes to get it. It's not just money I'm talking about either When you come to understand what I just said, then you will be ready to make your own choices, and not one moment sooner Beyond the youngest generation's unfounded expectations of entitlement, it has been lost that maturity doesn't occur at any specific age and that laying a claim of it means becoming responsible for your own upkeep, including paying for your own roof if you're unwilling to follow the rules under your parent's roof

Sensitive information is best released on a need to know basis only. If the possible results of telling something can go against you, then you have to decide if it's really worth taking that risk. You must also willingly accept the outcome of your actions, since the way you chose to handle the situation was the direct cause of their reactions. If you can avoid hurting those who love you then you should. Sometimes that means hiding things from them to protect their feelings, but sometimes it becomes unavoidable against your strongest desires and best judgement At times like that you simply do what you must. My Mom and family have accepted my being TG, but I make the effort to keep it at a minimum whenever I'm in their homes and their world. I won't willingly cause them grief over this but in my world I'll dam* well do as I please, so when they come to my world unannounced they need to expect to see me however I may appear at the moment. It is for that reason I decided that they needed to know(plus It was becoming impossible to hide the real me anymore, what with a feminine looking home, girl's clothes in every drawer and closet, and with the whole thing rapidly becoming obvoius in my world far beyond my ability to control it). Had they dumped me I'd have felt hurt as I said "Oh well!" and moved on with my life anyway. I was prepared to do just that if I had to before I decided to tell them. I'm glad it didn't have to be said

I'm not ready to take that risk with my diapers. It is something that I can hide from them easily so they do not really need to know about it. If that too gets beyond my power to control it, I will deal with it in the same manner, my "Oh well!" is ready to go even if I'm not

Nobody has the right to hurt those who love them unnecessarily. There is no way you can earn that right, it is something that they can bestow on you or refuse you as they see fit. You have no control over their decision and no expectation of their sympathy if they feel hurt because of you. If they give you that right, don't abuse it and remember it is priceless. If they don't, say "Oh well!" and move on in life anyway

Bettypooh

[curiositykilledthecat]

uhhh.. ummm... errr... why do you need to tell your parents? Do they follow you around 24 hours a day?

[diaperlovernv]

Do not tell your parents unless you are open to the response they may give you. I was caught when I was 19 and home from college for the summer. Needless to say it was not a good experience. I was yelled at for hours and told how wrong it was. I promised that I wouldn't do it anymore (I guess it was a lie ) Still to this day my parents think that it was just a phase and that I gave it up for good. Little do they know that I wear all the time now and even when I go visit them around the holidays (there is a community park with plenty of trashcans that I can discreetly dispose of my wet diapers) My advice is don't let them know and be careful that they don't find out.

[Snacks99]

I have often wondered how I would feel if one of my children turned out to be gay. I can only speculate. I think I would talk to him and say "son I lover you but please respect our home and keep the gay stuff out of sight. When you get your own place, you can do as you please".

Huh...it may just be me, but that sounded vaguely homophobic. What exactly is "gay stuff"? It's not like homosexuality comes with the trinkets and clothing that comes with AB/DL...

[PampersPete]

Huh...it may just be me, but that sounded vaguely homophobic. What exactly is "gay stuff"? It's not like homosexuality comes with the trinkets and clothing that comes with AB/DL...

I see where you're coming from Snacks. But I'll gladly defend Redeck's right to say what he wants. I knew what he meant and I'm bisexual.

[Snacks99]

I see where you're coming from Snacks. But I'll gladly defend Redeck's right to say what he wants. I knew what he meant and I'm bisexual.

But what exactly would "gay stuff" be? I mean, unless your son/daughter was leaving homoerotic toys around the house or constantly talking about their same-sex sex encounters, it doesn't seem that having a gay child would be such a big deal.

Even if the child was straight, a parent wouldn't want to see their sex toys or hear about their sexual encounters. Your children do have sexualities, they have heterosexual sex.....if they just happened to suddenly become homosexual, how would that completely change your outlook into telling them to "keep the gay stuff down"? What would "keeping the straight stuff down" entail, then?

I'm not offended, nor am I gay, but I just thought it was a weird comment.

[PampersPete]

But what exactly would "gay stuff" be? I mean, unless your son/daughter was leaving homoerotic toys around the house or constantly talking about their same-sex sex encounters, it doesn't seem that having a gay child would be such a big deal.

Even if the child was straight, a parent wouldn't want to see their sex toys or hear about their sexual encounters. Your children do have sexualities, they have heterosexual sex.....if they just happened to suddenly become homosexual, how would that completely change your outlook into telling them to "keep the gay stuff down"? What would "keeping the straight stuff down" entail, then?

I'm not offended, nor am I gay, but I just thought it was a weird comment.

Not speaking for Redneck but I think he meant things like talking about anal sex,surfing his computer for gay porn. Things like that. My GF's husband knows I'm bisexual(actually,he thinks I'm gay) and he's said things like" You being gay is cool with me as long as you don't wear my wife's dresses"..

[Diaper666]

me my self am bisexual when it comes to having sex but for as my family and room mates are concerned im straight since i have a girlfriend and i leave it as that as for as me wearing diapers they dont know i wear or dont care that i wear and leave it at that as long as i dispose of my diapers in a clean and discrete way so no worries there all i gotta say is WHY IN THE FUCK DO YOU WANT TO TELL YOUR PARENTS IN THE FIRST PLACE.... THIS COULD ONLY LEAD TO TROUBLE WITH THEM ......... excuse my language on this but i have to tell it like it is man sorry

[Snacks99]

...I think he meant things like talking about anal sex,surfing his computer for gay porn.

Like I said, that's not usually standard "gay behavior". If a child openly talks to their parents about having gay sex, then they have a lot more issues than just being gay...

Never mind. Drop the subject.

[CBD]

Well, I think everyone agrees that flat out telling you parents you have a diaper fetish isn't really a good idea. But, as someone who actually had weak bladder as a kid and suffered from daytime wetting accidents, I can totally relate to your thoughts about whether or not wetting the bed on purpose would be worth the diapers you would get from it.

Revealing to your parents that you have a "wetting problem," whether is real or not, would have the same embarrassing results: you would certainly be allowed to wear some kind of protection, but you would have to live with everyone in your family knowing about it. There are a lot of times I regret not telling my parents about my wetting, because I could have not only saved myself a lot of worry and stress by having a diaper on, but also gotten to enjoy wearing one as a DL. For me at least, the trade off of the initial embarrassment would probably have been worth it, since I was going to wet my pants anyway, with or without diapers. As someone who is fully continent, you have a choice.

Then again, anyone here will tell you that being a DL is not something they chose for themselves. Just like I had to hide my accidental wetting, you will have to hide your purposeful wetting if you decide to keep the diapered part of your life a total secret. There is also the possibility that you will get caught ... and in that case you will have a lot more humiliation and drama on your hands than dealing with a little incontinence.

Doctors appointments and all that aren't really anything to worry about; a good portion of bed wetting is caused by stress or other unknown factors that can't readily identified. The fact is, if you start wetting the bed, you will get diapers, and your family will get used to the fact that you need them at night. I'm guessing that your brother is younger; are you prepared to let him know that his big brother needs to wear diapers to bed?

If so, all you have to do is start wetting. There is nothing stopping you. You just have to figure out what you would rather live with: embarassment out in the open, or embarassment you have to hide.

[curiositykilledthecat]

Something being 'gay' doesn't necessarily have anything to do with homosexuality. Relax man, don't be so defensive.

I wish I discovered the fetish when i was on my own, could have been much more fun. That being said, currently with the folks and do not want them to ever find out. I hide it well.

[cgb4180]

Sorry I have not been able to reply.... been busy.

I don't plan to tell after thinking about what might happen.

It looks like I'm finally getting my parents to start getting on with me getting My DL. So it may not be long till I can get my goodnites.