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These are honestly a great store brand pull up minus the perfume. It's somewhat overpowering and while I appreciate the effort on the part of the manufacturer it would be nice to have an unscented version of the Always Discreet. I've never run across any that are missing the purple leak guards, since it sounds like they're slightly different on Amazon as compared to a store brand that is something to keep in mind for anyone using these regularly.

The terrifying thing is the amount of people not wearing a mask properly. Surgical masks have two directions, for a reason, and most people I see have them on backwards (unless they're all infected) which isn't helping them at all. It's a wonder to me how this hasn't been publicized more widely.

Welcime! Tabletop gaming is wildly underrated. What's your poison, as it were? I play W40K.

Thanks for the encouragement! I did get some samples for diapers that are on the way, which I will be trying out in the safety of home, which I think will help with being a little less self conscious. Thank you for the suggestion I am going to see about the goodnite bedmats because I have been using the Certainty disposable bed pads and when I do leak they go right through which seems to defeat the purpose. Just heats up the bed and doesn't actually help keep it dry. I have to wonder how they test these because the filling breaks up just from the light movement you have in your sleep by default. Thank you! General Update: I got some North Shore Go Supreme and wore one to bed last night and it's absolutely an adjustment from store brand because they swell but it did hold and I didn't need to change in the middle of the night which was great. It was the first good night of sleep since I've had to make the switch so I'm pretty darn excited.

Being incontinent, I honestly just store them in the lingerie chest right near the bed. This makes sudden needs to change go a lot faster. Though having your pullup in your lingerie chest is a little amusing in its own right.

I am wearing a Northshore Go Supreme which is my first really good pull up, and it feels so much better than a store brand. Not having to worry as much about the integrity of my pull up actually gave me the first decent night of sleep in two weeks.

Having wet the bed as a child and now progressively losing more of my continence I've found not much has changed: I still wake up with a little left in my bladder, it seems to depend a lot on the position I wake up in as to how much is there.

I have had issues with wetting the bed off and on for years but mostly because of drinking or staying up too late and finally just passing out exhausted but it was always something where I woke up in the process of my bladder releasing once I was an adult. I was a bedwetter until almost 13 with accidents at least once a week so this may have contributed to why I have been more prone to accidents as an adult. Now that my incontinence has been getting worse during the day I have started wetting the bed again. I've started wearing a pull up every night. I've found I always wake up wet - not soaked through (yet) - but because I'm a side sleeper I've had to start using a disposable pad under me at night.

Using a fresh razor and a very thin layer of baby oil helps a lot. I've been shaving for years, for other reasons, and it does help with the process of shaving naughty bits. I will also use Prince shaving cream from Lush, it's very gentle and leaves you feeling soothed. For ingrown hairs it is a good idea to make sure you're exfoliating. A soft washcloth will really help if you just gently rub against the growth direction of hairs. A loofah or those plastic poufs can be a little harsh and cause irritation. I don't know if those will help with biological male genitals / area... but I don't think it could hurt. For female genitals I can attest that regular shaving, gentle exfoliation, and something like baby oil will really help the process.

To anyone using pull up style, the Depends overnight are awful (Night Defense) for women and leak absolutely everywhere even if you are just a dribbler. I had a pack, put one on after evening shower (I have SI and issues with holding in general). I do not flood, at worst if I cough or sneeze there's a short burst but with diminished capacity it's really just an oz or so maximum. I ended up leaking everywhere in my sleep and woke up cold in a wet bed. The pull up barely looked used because without the leak guards and with the poor moisture wicking everything just seems to run out around the legs especially if you're a side sleeper.

Thank you all for the kind feedback. I think this is one of those things where I knew there has been a problem, but I didn't want to face it or deal with it and now it's started to force itself on me with the demand to be heard. I am really grateful for my husband, he hasn't made a big deal of anything and has just tried to be a calm and stabilizing force in my life during everything we have had to go through with my physical health over the past few years. I don't think I am ready for actual tape on diapers at this point, as opposed to a pull up and it may be just that - accepting that this is something that is just part of my life. I've honestly been self isolating so much due to embarrassment about having an increased issue that my husband is pushing me to get out of the house a little bit while I have energy for the day (my underlying health issues cause a lot of fatigue) and just use a pull up. Making someone with SI laugh is just rude (jk). ? Thank you though I needed that. I think I am stressing myself out as looking at this as something other than underwear - which granted it is - So sorry to hear about your health issues, it can be so draining to go through all the doctors appointments, the tests, the medications, and the general malaise that comes with being unwell especially if it's a chronic issue. Thank you this is really good advice. He doesn't seem to be terribly stressed about this so I probably shouldn't either. Easier said than done though! I took a look at NorthShore yesterday and may reach out to them for some feedback. I have had some minor issues with leaking but I think that's because I am a side sleeper. Not sure how to deal with this other than that we have some left over bed pads from one of the surgeries which we used last night on my side of the bed. I really appreciate everyone's reassurance, this has been such an isolating and confusing time (in general) and it means a lot to have people to talk to that are going through some of the same issues.

First post and feeling really nervous. I feel like I need to give a little bit of background, and if this is in the wrong place please move this post. I have had issues with having a dribbling / dripping of very small amounts of urine when I am reclining in bed or walking for about five years but ignored it or used feminine pads because it wasn't really that much volume. It never bothered me that after I thought I was done going to the bathroom I would still pee on myself a little, or pee into my panties / pad. I just accepted this and moved on or spent more time on the toilet. I spent a lot of time learning to clench really hard if I sneezed, coughed, or was laughing so that I wouldn't feel myself urinate into my underwear and I wouldn't end up with a wet spot while I was out and about. Over the past year and a half I have had three major surgeries and found that I have had more serious issues with stress incontinence to the point where if I cough I start to urinate on myself, same with sneezing, no matter how hard I try to clench. In fact clenching has started to become painful after the surgeries. Nothing like a stabbing pain but just honestly sore and it only stops a little bit of the urine because I've already peed all over myself or the second I stop consciously clenching I just start dripping again. Approximately a month ago to cut down on laundry I just stopped wearing bottoms other than my panties and a pad because I am on work from home. I had to start sitting on a towel because even though the bathroom is close (about 40 feet) if I felt myself dribbling more than a little by the time I got up if anything happened I would start to pee down my legs and had several instances where if I coughed and clenched I would still pee onto the bed (overflowing my pad and panties) which is mortifying and I have been doing a ton of laundry. I also noticed I was spending hours in the bathroom because I didn't trust that I was done and had a few accidents where I was "done" and then would wet on my way back to whatever I was doing. My doctor and the surgeons understand that I am having issues with stress incontinence and have talked about the fact that I feel like I am constantly peeing a little bit on myself and that the pads have confirmed this. They advised this means I may have an issue with my bladder properly emptying when I do go to the bathroom. They have done multiple tests in advance of my next surgery, and finally my primary care and my surgeon advised that if the feminine pads aren't holding up anymore I should move to a stronger protection and that once I have fully recovered from surgeries we then look at alternative potential surgical methods to deal with my incontinence. After I uncontrollably urinated during intercourse and made a mess on our bed I finally broke down and asked my husband for help because I couldn't bring myself to go to the store and was in near tears. I started wearing them last week and felt much more secure during the day while working from home. As I have been really careful about trying to go to the bathroom and still clenching I have been able to go through the day with one pull up and then wash really well and put on a fresh one at night. I woke up this morning soaked, and had a near panic attack because I haven't wet the bed since I was a child around 8-10 years old. My entire pull up that I had put on fresh the night before was completely full. I remember waking up a little and using the bathroom for a BM but not having to urinate and going back to bed around 2am, by 5am when I get up for work I was soaked but luckily the bed was still dry. I started crying this morning when I got up to go to the bathroom and realized I had to kind of waddle because the pull up was so full. By the time I made it to the bathroom I didn't have to urinate anymore but tried to use the bathroom, did my other morning business, showered, and put on a new pull up for the day. This leads to my questions: Is wearing pull ups increasing my incontinence? Should I stop wearing and just try rushing to the bathroom? I've found that I have to make sure I try to urinate every hour but that I am still having issues with noticeable urine output when I cough / sneeze / whatever currently triggered my SI. I feel like my pull up isn't secure but I'm terrified to move to diapers. Is there a really good pull up that I could also use at night as a woman and hopefully have less concern? I'm just terrified this is going to affect my marriage, my sex life, and my ability to do things in public. My husband was very sweet about it and hasn't said anything mean, he has given me a lot of hugs and comfort. He has sweetly joked that he needs to go get me more of my sexy pull ups and is genuinely trying to not be a jerk about this so maybe all the crying and upset is my own?