@Forced2wet. I did tell her sometime in our first year of marriage. Nothing much happened until I found the old Attends diapers. Back then they weren't too bad and she even participated off and on for many years. Fast forward to 2010, the year I retired, and all of a sudden I'm expected to give them up because we've been grandparents for a few years. She was still working and I wore a LOT during the day and night. Then she suggested I need to find balance in my wearing. I should say that we hadn't slept together since about 2003 because she snored and my working hours were 3:45am wake up. We still do not sleep together and that's alright with me. I know she wouldn't consider what I do now as balancing my wearing but I really don't care anymore. I put family first and if it interrupts my diaper wearing I just live with it. In 20/20 hindsight I should have told her before we were married but that ship has sailed. Take care.