littleJaina

We are here in San Antonio

Talk to your gyno about this. It's relatively normal, but if it's becoming burdensome, there are treatment options. I just use muscle training and awareness, but depending on how bad it is they may want to do surgery. I haven't heard good things about it though, so I'd never do that. Try a poise pad if you think you need more protection. Regular maxis aren't made for holding urine, but if you don't need the full absorbancy of a pull-up, they are awfully hot in the summer.

Did anyone notice, or were you just unconfortable?

I don't see them as chastised as much as just not considered incontinent in the same way. Asking someone without legs to actively support someone sense chopping then off is asking too much. No one is telling them they can't do it their just refusing to help. There's a difference.

I think your confusion lies in your definition of "community". People who are incontinent aren't a community they don't have a group identity or culture. It is not the same as something like being deaf. So there is not exactly a cohesive nature to it. People with incontinence experience a lack of control, against their will. The very act of attempting it makes you different. Even if you manage to achieve genuine loss of control, it was still your decision and completely different than the experience of someone who has no choice. Can you imagine what someone who is paraplegic would think of another person cut their legs off on purpose? Do you really think they would feel that person was in the same boat as themselves? Cutting your legs off is different than just rolling around in a wheel chair because it's fun. The AB/DL community is different. People can choose to belong or not. (This isn't the same as saying you get to choose the urges your body has, but you choose whether or not to join to community.). An incontinent person choosing to join is just doing the exact same thing as anyone else chooses to join the community. They don't have to come. Plenty of incontinent people don't. But some do choose to embrace it because they see it as a way of taking back some control over a situation they did not choose, by enjoying it.

If you are incontinent, how were you going to work before?

Lexapro is an antidepressant Abilify is a mood stabalizers, and can have all kinds of crazy side effects. I haven't heard of incontinence being one of them, but it's still relatively new and so unique to each person that, if the neurology was already prone to lack of control, its easy to believe it could act up again. Guanfacine is another kind of ADHD medication that is a non-stimulant and can help augment other ADHD meds. However, it's also a blood pressure medication, which means it can impact the fluid levels in your body.

When did you stop?

Have you ever been annoyed that they decided this without your input?

I can understand. I had to pee the other day, then the doctor told me they needed a urine sample and even though I had to go, it took over an hour because I couldn't pee in that little cup.

That sounds like it could be a prostate issue. If it happens again,definitely see a doctor right away¡

What kind of major fights?

Brian, let us assume the person is NOT doing this as a fettish, but in a desire to be an infant.

Why are you trying to regress?

Oh, there are plenty of complicating factors. Aren't there always? Lol. But no spouses, and nothing that will keep us apart!

There are lots of patterns online.

I also want to point out that you need to stay away from an attitude like your screen name in a relationship. Relationships are all about SHARING.

This has been something difficult for me in my relationship as well. I'm on the dominant side, but still incredibly soft hearted. Someone's it makes it difficult to "push", so to speak. The distance really is a factor. The only thing that really helps is being able to see and guage reactions so I know what kind of impact I'm having. On the other side, I'm still a woman. I DO want a man beside me to tell me things will be ok, to hold me in his arms, and to initiate sex himself so that I feel desirable. I have been incredibly lucky to find that perfect partner. And I'm even more lucky because our distant days are drawing to a close and we'll be able to spend much mute time in physical contact. It's going to be so much fun to be able to explore our different roles more easily!

Have you tried Diapermates? That's where I met my guy. But you also have to realize diapers aren't everything. To have a truly good relationship, you have to connect on many levels and that's just one of them. I will tell you from experience that if a guy is expecting too much diaper play and not enough other "just getting to know you" stuff, especially at the beginning, it's a turn off. It needs to be balanced. Absolutely explain your likes and dislikes, but don't go full scale little and expect her to play along until you've both agreed to it. I have my little boy, as I said. However, even during my search, I can tell you that messages that started off with, "Hi, I'm Jack from Terrytown. I'm looking for someone who would enjoy diapering and babying me because I really enjoy the getting of being little and using my diaper. I also like to pay football and just talk. Would you be interested in chasing and getting to know each other?" got responses from me. The guys who approached me with, "mommy, I made soakie in my pampers, waa!" almost never got a response. It was clear to me that those guys didn't care about ME at all. They just wanted a warm body to play a role in their fantasy. That's not a good basis for a relationship and do why would I waste my time with someone who really didn't give a hoot who I am. But, like I said, my boyfriend and I met on diapers. My "mommyish"/"mistressish" role is an important part of our relationship because we both enjoy that playtime. And part of why we enjoy it is because there are aspects of our deeper personalities drawn to those tours of feelings and emotions. So in a way, it formed the basis of our relationship, but it isn't the foundation. The foundation grew under it to a point where we love everything about each other. We'd both be sad if, for side inconceivable reason, the diapers disappeared, but because it isn't everything, we'd survive it because we are in love. And he "hooked me", as they say, by really talking to me. We explored not only our fetish interests, which line up almost impossibly well, but also what we wanted and needed from a partner in other ways. Be patient. Take your time and really look around. You might find your mommy/lover where you never expected.

At your age, once a day is not much at all. I'm a girl and I did it more than that!

Texas, born and raised!

I would steer clear of anything that focused on children specifically and try to do something a little more geared towards families so you won't look out of place (or worse, be questioned by police). I know some places won't even let you in without a kid. What about something like a pizza/game type place where he could play the little kid games? Or a playground at a park that doesn't get much traffic?

I never tried that site, but Diapermates worked for me!

That's usually a tough age to have issues. Is your incontinence recent, or have you been coping for a while?

I'm no stranger to the painful sex situation. And, she's right, many guys will try to keep forcing it. I suppose I was always just more... forceful with my boundaries. I was raped once, but aside from that, most of the time they either gave in to my boundaries or we just split. But with a patient partner, things can be different. For one thing, females have a variety of erogenous zones that can give pleasure even if it doesn't lead to orgasm. And, if you don't push her, steamy discover that she gets pleasure from pleasing you as well. I know I definitely feel very intimate with my partner when I'm playing with him, or stimulating his prostate, or a variety of other things that can be sexually pleasurable to him, even without a corresponding sexual release for myself. And, oddly, for me at least, him allowing that kind of intimacy without him trying to get between my legs, builds my trust in him. It sounds like you really love her, so I hope things work out. If she would ever like to talk to someone else with a, errrr, "non-traditional" sexual response, you can have her PM me, or reach out to me on Yahoo. It might help her relax if she realizes she's not a freak.