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This happened to me one time at work as well. I was wearing light-colored pants and was standing there talking to my boss. Afterwords I looked down and saw a small wet patch in the front of my pants. It looked like I had just dribbled a bit after peeing. At that point I didn't know what would be more embarrassing, the wet spot up front or a diaper leak in the back.

I've flown plenty while wearing/carrying diapers. My bag has been searched and nothing was ever said and I couldn't detect any sort of facial recognition by the screener. One time, however, I was in a foreign country and had to pass through security with diapers in my bag. They pulled the bag aside and searched it and the woman asked me what they, the diapers, were. I don't know why I just didn't say they were diapers. Instead I told her that I was incontinent, which, she didn't understand (all of this in foreign language) to which I basically replied, completely flustered, "I go pee-pee" in the foreign language. I think by that time she realized what the diapers were and let me continue on my way. I think there is something about the shape of diapers viewed through the x-ray that peaks the interest of screeners because I seem to have my bag checked quite often.

Just a note on one detail - isn't that a lot of money to spend on Indian takeaway? I can't imagine spending $32 on takeaway, let alone 32 pounds...

I wear plastic pants over my disposable diaper every night to bed. I find that while this doesn't stop big leaks, it does catch the small leaks that won't necessarily ruin your mattress but are just kind of annoying. My problem with plastic pants are that they fall apart so quickly. Btw, I wash them by hand with a little bit of hand soap. I have ordered from fetware and adultclothdiaper.com. Fetware has been hit or miss. I have had pairs last for several months, some have started falling apart after the first week. My last order was from adultclothdiaper and they started unraveling right away. They still function but it's just annoying how quickly they start coming apart. Anyone have any better luck?

As for worrying about smells from your diaper, most high-quality diapers, like molicares, have something in them that helps to control odor. Otherwise, as someone else said, stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water - this will probably work the best. As for messy diapers, change as soon as you can and plastic pants over your diaper will cut down on the smell a great deal in the meantime. And, while it is very thoughtful and considerate for you to consider the comfort of others around you, as long as you do the best you can to stay clean and hygenic, you have to still remember that we are all human and no one is perfect - We all get bad breath, body-odor, smelly feet, etc. Good luck to you and know that you have a good support group here at DD.

Hi Luvsgurl and CBD; checked out both of your blogs and I definitely appreciate your perspective. I was wondering if it was possible to have an email link on either of your pages (I see they are both the same blogging site) to make it possible to contact you? Thanks, keep up the good work.

Good topic. My problem comes with traveling and wearing diapers. It would be so nice to not have to pack all the diapers you need but rather, be able to buy quality diapers at a store when you arrive to your destination. The closest I have found to good diapers is Walmart's Assurance brand, and, in the states, there is a Walmart just about everywhere. Now, the only problem I have run into recently is that they are always out of the size S/M. What's the deal?

In Dear Abby today (2/9/09) there is a question regarding a guy's girlfriend who likes to suck her thumb - http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/ Abby's advice is good, though, I bet if the problem was that the girlfriend wore diapers, she wouldn't be as understanding.

Aside from cloth-like outer layer diapers, I have found that Molicares are very quiet diapers and very comfortable as well as being one of the more absorbent diapers on the market. The new design of the Molicare Super, I believe, is THE most comfortable and quietest diaper available. I love the stretchy tapes! Good luck, keep your spirits up, and keep us updated on your progress.

Maybe Snuggletime has the right idea - maybe it's time to show our faces and be proud of who we are.

Interesting topic. I have read a bit about hypnotism and from what I understand the easiest way to explain it is along the lines of the story of 'the little engine that could'. Remember? "I think I can, I think I can...I know I can, I know I can". Basically if you tell yourself something often enough it will come true. The easier way, of course, as you guys have said, is to actually believe what is being told to you. I do believe that the brain is very powerful and can do amazing things once you are able to learn focus, concentration, and meditation. If anyone would like to discuss further, please PM me. For me it's a lot easier to go to the gym on a regular basis than to practice meditation. Maybe with a 'workout partner' I could be more disciplined? Keep this thread going.

Ever since I read the article about Heidilynn in the Phoenix several years ago I had wanted to contact her. Reading her posts I could tell she was very intelligent and well-spoken. I had so many questions for her about how to come to terms with being a diaper lover. I fantasized about meeting up with her and having a great discussion and coming away with not only a great deal of answers but with a friend as well. She seemed like she would be that type of person. Though I never did get to meet her she has taught me at least one very important thing with her passing - don't put off 'til tomorrow what can be done today. It suppose that that is how she lived her life after she 'came out'. I hope she knew of all the lives she touched of people whom she had never met. And finally, that she did make a difference.

I have to agree with Adrian at this point; There is no need to defend yourself to someone making general accusations using an alias. Myalterego, if you feel Adrian has betrayed you and/or others, you should probably confront her personally and tell her the exact problems you have with her, just as you would with a business whose services you are unhappy with. What you have done so far is unproductive and immature. I'm not saying your statements are false, but rather giving advice on how to better make your point and perhaps resolve an issue.

As others have posted, you are definitely not alone. I too have feelings of guilt, shame, etc., etc., and have thrown things out in a binge and purge cycle, though I haven't done the latter in many years. I do not know where these feelings come from or why I feel guilt and shame. I wish I did know. The only advice I could possibly offer is to find ways to make this fetish 'real' to you by opening up to others, as you are doing here, forming relationships with others on this website perhaps in the form of a PM to a member whose opinions and posts you respect, and then eventually sharing your secret with someone in your physical world whom you trust. I know that by being able to connect with someone on a more personal level can help you to feel less alone and in turn, feel less like what you are doing is something shameful. Good luck to you and don't be a stranger.

As strange as it might sound to us I don't think the idea of wearing diapers to events like this crosses most people's minds. I don't even think many people even think of planning their day around when and where they will have to go to the bathroom, they just cross that bridge when they come to it, so to speak. I have been in a conversation about the possibility of going to Times Square for New Year's Eve and no one even brought up the toilet situation. To the majority of the population's credit, however, most don't have to pee every 30-45 minutes either. Also, even if normal people did decide to go the diaper route, just imagine them going to a store and buying a pack of depends and then realizing, when it's too late, that they (depends) are not built to absorb a normal bladder's capacity. Just my opinion on how the rest of the country views this sort of thing. Now China, on the other hand...

You have a couple of options here - 1) Look around for businesses that provide shipping and receiving services. I've used these before. They will usually charge 1 or 2 bucks for the receiving service and they just give you a call when your package arrives. Often times these are regular shops selling a variety of things that just so happen to offer these services so you might have do a little searching online. 2) Your local post office might offer 'general delivery'. This means that you can just give the diaper company the post office's address and it will be shipped there. 3) Call FedEx and tell them that you're not usually home during delivery times and that you just want them to hold your package at their local office/facility. They will be happy to do this since I'm sure drivers get tired trying to deliver packages to people who aren't home. Just as there is no reason to go into a drugstore to buy diapers there is no reason to have to worry about roommates intercepting your diaper shipments.

I've worn diapers to concerts before as well. I didn't think it was that great until I went to a concert and DIDN'T wear a diaper - I missed a lot of great songs due to the long walk to the bathrooms. Lesson learned.

Okay, these responses have become completely irrelavant - I don't think this person is going to start worrying about whether they are erect or not when they are cuddling; I mean that can be as unpredictable as an incontinent person knowing when they are going to pee. My advice is if you partner wants skin-to-skin, let them know what might happen. If they insist and you are in their bed and you are comfortable, just do it. If not, do with what you are comfortable with (agreeing with Adrian, basically). If you are both comfortable with the possible consequences, I see no problem - perhaps your partner doesn't mind if you wet but instead finds it to be part of who you are that he loves. Remember, not all things were perceive to be as weaknesses or faults in ourselves are not so in the eyes of others.

I have been buying my plastic pants from fetware, I think they are the 'cloud' style. My last batch has lasted a lot longer than previous batches. However, I would NOT recommend buying from fetware at all. More than once they have delayed my order for several weeks without giving me any reason why. When I finally contacted them they wrote back saying that my order was on back order and did not offer any apologies for not letting me know. There are a lot of good diaper/plastic pant distributors and it's just my opinion that fetware is not one of them. I appreciate everyone else's opinion as I'm sure I'll need to place another order (with a different company) in the next couple of months.

Living in a foreign country is a great experience. I recommend it. I could live in China but it would have to be in the right place. I've been to Shanghai before and will be going to Beijing soon and I would not want to live in either of those places. The smog is so terrible that sometimes it is difficult to see across the street. I remember my eyes were just burning the whole time I was there. I will never take a blue sky for granted again. So, my recommendation is to go, but at least check out the air quality if that is something that would bother you.

My problem is always with the top tapes on the expensive diapers. If I am sitting down I can sometimes just feel them slip off a bit and then come undone completely. I think the reason the cheaper diapers tend to stick better is because the plastic backing is more, well, plastic-y. The expensive diapers have a softer, quieter plastic that I think just doesn't stick as well. On a side note, someone posted about a bad batch of abenas - in my last case it seemed that about one out of ten diapers had a hole somewhere near the crotch.

Thanks for the tip. I have been wondering lately why it seems that the more expensive the diaper is, the crappier the tapes are! I wear abenas and molicares and both have suspect tapes (however, secure plus works very well!). Recently I bought some assurance diapers from walmart and the tapes work excellent. Why is this?

I have to say it is amazing to see what babies can sleep through - I mean just imagine falling asleep in a car or subway, having someone pick you up, carry you around, put you to bed, and not wake up through the whole thing! I am a very light sleeper so I am very envious of those that can sleep so soundly. On another note, while we do associate the phrase 'sleep like a baby' to mean a sound, deep sleep, I have heard it said, 'sleep like a baby - wake up every two hours crying'.

Yes! Two of my favorite topics together at last! Actually, it is because of coffee that I wear diapers. When I drink a cup of coffee I have some form of OAB and urgently have to pee about every 15-20 minutes for a couple of hours. If I don't have any coffee my bladder functions normally and maybe I only pee 5 times during the day. It's amazing what a little bit of caffeine does to me! Anyway, back on topic - I haven't noticed any odor to my urine after coffee. In fact, my urine is usually completely clear on days that i drink coffee.

Hey, I loved that website! I think I posted somewhere here asking whether anyone had any information as to where they had gone. Her front page is still up for some reason. I would like to hear an update from her. She had so much great information that I could use now - like diaper training contracts, rules, etc. Great site, though. Probably the best I've ever come across.