abdljoey

First of all, THANKS! Rhezz, this is a fun series. Have enjoyed reading all the questions and answers!! Appreciate you and your contributions here, both heartfelt ones and lighthearted ones!! Well, fallen asleep where I should not have? Ahhhh, I went to a gay bath house once and rented a "cubicle" with porno TV. After roaming about thge halls, showers, etc, I finally fell asleep in the litttle cubicle bed. Otherwise, I can't think of anything here. Have you ever worn shortalls that have snaps in the crotch like toddlers have, in public places (mall, restaurant, etc)?

If you want to refer a spouse to information about infantilism, one source might be: http://understanding.infantilism.org/ Obviously: check out any site before referring a spouse!

Erich Fromm said it best years ago- we live in an insane world. He also said the people in an insane asylum may be more sane than the people in the general public. Among other things, he suggested that starvation while there is abundance and other such horrors reflect an incipient insanity. So, I accept your statement Rhezz, but only if extended to the world at large. And then, in comparison, this group may be made up of people that are saner than most others!

Believe me I would LOVE to get together with you and play trains, even without the ABDL part, and the diapers just make it so much the better. It's not interest, but geography! BTW, Saturday, my good friend Diaperbear and myself rode the Verde Valley tourist train in upper Arizona. We were both diapered and I also wore my shortalls and toddler shirt. What fun on the choo-choo!

No, no, no. I disagree. And so would the Department of Social Services (not that I have much respect for same). However, no one should, in my opinion, be an AB mom to their son!!!!! Regardless of how "innocent" you may view it, no one else will and you, and your son, will pay the price. What you do for your husband is categorically different than for your son.

I do. It was fun reading. Since this isn't something Rhezz wants to share with his family, then situations like this ARE a bit hair-raising. And some of us identify with it and find it a good read.

Nice to see you back Rhezz.

I don't mind sarcasm and, as my own post indicated much earlier, I didn't much care for the original post here (DrPill's). But, sheesh... Who said Dr Ruth never got any? Dr. Spock raised two sons, Michael and John. And Benny Hinn-- I think he is a documented liar, but I don't know if he is o/c DrPill said in a folow up message (#19) in this thread that he is not a doctor. Again, I'm not defending him. Just wonder why the hyperbole.

Guess I should have filled out this response when it first appeared... Taught HS history / psychology for 17 years; managed a technical training department in high tech company; for last 10 years have traveled as a training consultant for high tech companies. Yep, another "teacher" type. Like many others, stress is relieved through relaxing as a "toddler."

He did say his diaper was "filled" didn't he?

Well, I have to say that I understand you a lot better now. That first post was really hard for me to follow, but it seems some others probably did. But your second post (preserved by a critic fortunately) and this 3rd post made things clearer. Sure, a rant is a rant. I've had a few too. But they WILL get replies when... ...they are generalizations ...they are emotionalized with vulgarity ...they are not clearly written Just out of curiosity, since you are not happy with a whole range of topics brought up by people of whose lifestyles you disapprove, what topics do you think should be brought up on this forum? Maybe one or two examples? Because maybe I'm missing it, but you have ruled out most of what appears here. And yet I assume you are not against being a DL and not aginst the existence of the forum as such cuz your'e still here.

Guess you're not happy here is my first thought. Followed by, What ARE you doing here? Truly, though I agree with SoCalGav: You respond... Is that supposed to be a defense of clarity? Perhaps all your words are typed correctly but the message you are sending is pretty clouded up. I think you misunderstood the comment. He is/I am saying that your writing IS confusing. The emotion of anger is NOT confusing. But what you are actually critiquing, and why, IS a bit unclear. Correction. You did not "make a topic" -- you expressed contempt. Your "topic" - if there is one - is largely hard to decipher. That --plus the venom-- is why so many other posts have blasted you.

While on this topic of comparing and rating vendors, wouldn't it be great if there was a database for this. So people don't have to ask the proverbial, "Has anyone had problems with...." They could check ahead to see the sites that have problems, eg DPF or Vinylwear. In addition, wouldn't it be great if there was a kind of comparison shopper tool that could really differentiate a specific product (like Abena X-Plus, Size L, by the carton, shipped to 55555 zip code) and would include all the online diaper providers. Kind of like www.DealTime.com BTW- that site has only drugstore.com and AmericaRX.com as providers... none of the usual sites we check out for disposables.

Hello back to you. That is, if you are still here. Dr Pill, you have made assumptions about the subject of diaper wearers and about the people on this board and indicate a general lack of understanding of those who are here. First, not all of us divide our group neatly into those who wear for incontinence and those who wear as a fetish. Many do not see voluntary diaper-wearing as a fetish. You further assume that if it is a fetish related behavior it is a dependence. I also have an interest in psychology. One of the things that interests me is that the subject of psychology can be approached from various "schools" of thought. It seems apparent that you view behavior through the eyes of the Behaviorist school (Skinner, et al). Unfortunately, in my view, whenever a single view is taken by some practitioners, researchers, and even lay people, there is a tendancy toward a ferver, almost a religious-like zeal, about that point of view. It is no surprise that many actual evangelical psychologists are also Behaviorists (although Skinner certainly was not!). And that, sir, is another assumption that you bring to this discussion: Behaviorism is the cure-all. I grant that conditioning is a real phenomena. It does explain a lot. But not everything. And the application of conditioning in therapy has in fact been studied by many. Sometimes the results are benign or even helpful. Sometimes disastrous. I have to say that "Masturbatory Reconditioning" strikes me as wonderfully foolish. Jerking off to pictures that contain no diapers... would lead to "dependence" on ... whatever else is in the picture right? [men=I'll have a guy/gay fetish; panties= ....God only knows what you mean by a "beneficial" fantasy and what you mean by an "unwanted" one!] Some would argue that the amount of musturbation required (as described) would also neatly fit your own slur: "time wasted in the isolated world of sexual fantasy, focusing on sensations in the crotch...." etc. I said that, in my view, you came here with assumptions. Personally I dislike it when posters here make grand assumptions about others (here). The subject is far too complex, and if you think it can be reduced to simple behaviorism, then you are the one deceived. I wonder, with your interest in psychology, whether you have given any thought to what goes through one's mind when reading posts here. I think many of us (at least I know that I do) think quite a bit about the person behind the message as much (if not more than) the message itself. So, I can't help but wonder what motivated you to look for this site and to post here as you did. Many possibilities run through my mind, but in the end I still am left with the presumptuousness with which you posted. Even the name you chose, DrPill. What's with the "Dr"? We already get the "Pill" part, as in a real pill. But either you are a doctor or you like the accompanying idea of talking down to others, that some doctors do, unfortunately. So you see, sir, a little humility goes a long way. For example, the tone of your letter. For example, the obvious fact that you have read through this forum so little, since you show so little knowledge of the real people that make up this site as opposed to the caricature of us that you imagine. One more assumption on my part. This response won't be read by DrPill because he is a post and run type of guy. Or if he lingers long enough, he may want to dispute some technicality. As for an apology for the incorrect assumptions, as for some questions on his part to engage and learn from us.... ? I don't think so. Joey

Thanks for the enlightening views on this. As someone with no BDSM background at all, I found it informative and helpful.

About 53. Of course it is a long story. For the last 5 + years I have read accounts of many people who have told about being in diapers (or wanting to be) since childhood or puberty. Very few have taken it up as I have later in life, from what I can determine. (Not talking about those who have done so because of later in life incontinence, either.) I keep planning to start a thread for those who have, like my self, started thinking about and then practicing as an ab or dl at midlife or later. Wonder how stories compare.

Medicine always has risks, whether small or large, and a laxative IS a medicine. Ixlax was suggested above, and that is a medicine too. If you are determined, then FOLLOW the label instructions. The idea of taking every five hours is a very bad idea. As for the suppository that was suggested. They also have risks. I tried this about two years ago and had blood in my poop for two days. Scared me. This, I am sure is not common, but just be aware of the phrase "side effects"! Eat natural laxatives - fruit! Try prunes. They work.

Is it so necessary to ATTACK the post? Why not just offer your "good advice" and let others do the same. You are making an amazing presumption here. There are many, many people who believe in fidelity and trust that do not have the belief system that you are assuming this writer has. When a post/thread begins asking for advice/input/views-of-others, then it is reasonable that a variety of views might be offered. The original poster (and others) can take it or leave it. You might even post a disagreement, but personally, I prefer a more civil tone. What you have done here is, not so much disagree with the content of the poster's advice, but questioned his motives while skewering his personhood.

Lots of nice memories for guys my age - and nothing to do with the incontinence plotline. Little things like going home for lunch, Woolworths, no jeans in school. Very nice detail. I'm late to join the readers, but not too late to thank you for your efforts.

Check this: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/england/tees/4153528.stm Don't know if he were prosecuted or not - can't find a follow-up

How I love this site! I joined another diaper board about six months ago, not because I liked the site, but because a well-known vendor said exclusive sales would only be announced to members of that board. So far that has not happened. Anyway, coincidentally just today we were told ... "I registered in the past but cannot log in anymore! The most likely reasons for this are: you entered an incorrect username or password (check the email you were sent when you first registered) or the administrator has deleted your account for some reason. If it is the latter case then perhaps you did not post anything? It is usual for boards to periodically remove users who have not posted anything so as to reduce the size of the database. Try registering again and get involved in discussions." This is just one in a continuing series of threats, instructions, corrections, warnings, and other notices this admin loves to send out. I haven't participated so I guess I'll get the boot.... Again. Anyway, 3 cheers to Daily Di.

Rosie, not so long ago you locked a thread with about a dozen posts when someone asked bout wearing diapers, and was it OK as a Christian-- or something to that effect. One guy was a real pain in the butt by trying to switch the topic to a debate about evolution. After only about 15 posts, you locked the thread. I didn't really understand the reason-- was it the topic that annoyed you or the sidetracking baiter that annoyed you, or what? I ask that in light of the endless postings on banning people, which I think started with Cynda's request. After a few posts of finger-pointing, blaming of drama queen and drama king, repeated assertions of anger and arrogance all around, ... well, isn't enough enough? I don't go to the chat room, don't know any of the posters, and have therefore never felt it was my business to post on those threads. I just think it is starting to take over the tone and civility of the message board. I guess if you hadn't locked the first thread (with no explanation) I wouldn't be asking this. But why not lock these pro and anti cynda threads and their various spinoffs threads? I am not a fan of locking threads, but just looking to understand. Joey

The idea of trying to be the lawyer that represents that company makes me laugh. Now, really, is there really a defense that you could make that would not make a judge/jury laugh you out of the courtroom?

vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&n=2&videoid=667544079&&Mytoken=1443B16D-F3CA-10E0-FBD5FC80849DD5B3536856 Very amusing

1) I will assume that you respect your parents and their home. Maybe you have already done this. But I'd suggest a plastic mattress sheet under your bed sheet, at least while they are gone. You are going to wear 24/7... What fun! But you will also be learning about what works and what doesn't and may find leaking in bed happens. So this suggestion is to protect the expensive mattress. Sheets can be so easily washed. Some don't like to leak and you may not - so you may want to double diaper at nite although that ups the price and reduces the time your arriving stash will last. Or, you may kinda like the leaking You naughty boy. Anyway, a cheap plastic mattress cover in white can be found in the Sears bedding department usually. I carry one with me on all my business trips, but mine is a baby print plastic sheet, somewhat more expensive. 2) Maybe this is a chance to meet others. Go to aby.com and join. It's free. After joining, check out the events forum. It seems to me like I have seen get togethers in socal quite frequently. Some are at a bar, but many are not. Read through and see what has happened in the past 6 - 9 months in your area. At the least you could post there and see if the regulars want to or are planning to meet. 3) Have fun!