That's a real shame your husband wants nothing to do with it. You shouldn't have to hide something like that from him, especially when he knows about it .
To your question though I have something of a different problem. My girlfriend is incontinent and doesn't care about me wearing diapers. So I can wear them whenever I want. Unfortunately my body isnt as understanding. I have very sensitive skin and it can get very irritated from even wearing dry diapers for long periods of time. If its ever wet and I wear it too long it can screw up my skin for a week or more. It's not a rash either, it's more like if you wash your hands too much, although that also might be something that only happens to me.
So yeah, I get a similar thing but it's all the more frustrating because my stupid skin is the only thing in the way. I have tried all sorts of lotions and baby powder and nothing helps. I just have to try and not do it too much. Mostly I just wear them to bed.