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No there are no terms & the goal is pretty clear I think. Uncontrolled bowel movements of that is something you want. Some people do it occasionally & that’s not what this is about.

Both. Lost urinary control due to accident. 5 years later I wanted bowel control lost. Now I’m both & satisfied

I hope it’s what you want. It is for me. Over time you’ll not give it a second thought.

Might be gravity at work but the longer you keep it up it’ll happen more frequently except smaller amounts. I generally go 2-4 times in any given 24 hour period. It usually happens within a couple of hours of eating.

I generally don’t forget but rather not pay much attention knowing it’s there. It’ll be taken care of at my regular changing time.

Messing while you sleep can possibly be the same while awake. You’ll find that over time while never holding back you’ll mess several times in any given 24 hour period. For me it’s always within a short time after you eat. The same holds true just before or after you wake up. It’s just a matter of automatic body reflex. So you cannot have it both ways. Letting it happen on its own means just that and always. Any time you hold back just means you are still in control somewhat. Once you are there messing in your sleep might happen more often if your body determines it needs to.

I wished I did back then. I didn’t start until my mid fifties and haven’t gone a day of regretting it. Had I started as a youngster it could have been lifelong for me. That’s my regret.

No large loads for me anymore. Just multiple times in any 24 hour period. I like it that way personally.

You need to convince yourself that all that is done is done in the diaper. No exceptions.. ever. And that goes for BM’s as well. At first you think about letting go. Over time it just lets go.

Sounds like classic binge & purge Mark although the cycles are much longer for you. You seem, by your postings, that you very much enjoy wearing diapers but are conflicted when wearing them based on what your wife would want. At some point you need to do what’s best for you and you alone. I’m no Dr but you may want to consider putting yourself first and if wearing is who you are then follow that path. Others will need to understand or they will need to make a decision on what’s best for them. You’ve given your wife the best of both worlds. She has a man she can have sex with while you wait in the background. Is that healthy for the relationship? IS that a healthy relationship? You must decide. Being subservient is one thing but does a line get crossed and it becomes being taken advantage of? You must decide. Wearing diapers and using them seems to give you a wholeness. Again based on your posts. Why then purge? It may be who you are. (That I relate to) Do what is right for you and I’m not judging. I’m in no position to judge. Best of luck to you in the path you follow.

It took me a fair amount of time to prepare myself. In the beginning there was so much to learn. Clothing choices, diapers to use, diaper covering, internal deodorant etc. I would go sometimes in the toilet & sometimes in the diaper. I finally reconciled in my mind that what I wanted with urinary incontinence was bowel incontinence as well. It wasn’t for the fun of doing it either. It was a deep need/desire. That’s when I decided that everything will be done when nature calls and be done in my diaper. I never turned back. When the feeling struck, I went. No matter where. No matter when. Each time I learned something new in how to manage it. I worked on regularity, odor control and types of food to eat. I was serious about achieving my goal. Anyone walking down this road needs to be just as serious because it won’t happen unless you are.

For those wanting it the commitment level is high. It doesn’t happen fast but when it does happen you will have trained the mind to do it involuntary. No turning back at that point. These days I poop long before thinking about it.

Urinary due to a accident & bowel by choice. All bowel control now gone for about 6 years. Urinary control lost in 2008

The need/desire has to be greater than the cost. It just has to be. You will need to get the income to support this. Over time you will no longer have a choice and isn’t that what you really want?

I change 3 times per day sometimes 4. There certainly is a cost involved. Would cloth be better in your case?

Over the years I’ve had several people ask how I made myself bowel incontinent & they wished for the same thing for themselves. Well let’s start a thread here where we can start and support each other through the process. It is a journey to be sure and there are pitfalls along the way but I’m confident you can achieve it the same way I have. Here we discuss supplies needed, clothing needed and the mental preparation needed to get going. We can work through all aspects. And over time you will find yourself fully bowel incontinent for life and how complete you will feel afterwards. Are there any takers? I hope so because I’ve sure been asked enough about it. Let’s start the discussion now! I’ve thought about starting something like this for a long time now but didn’t want to commit to being on here so much. That is up until now.

I find that wearing overalls allows a good quality diaper to contain it pretty well because of the low hanging crotch. That allows the diaper to sag and it goes into the containment area at the bottom of the diaper so you can just proceed with your day until changing time. Dry 24/7 has tall standing cuffs to keep it all in place. Your day shouldn’t be interrupted because of a load in your diaper. Sitting always makes it more of a mess. I don’t change until my regular changing time and my mess shouldn’t hinder me from the things I need to get done during the day.

I cannot disagree more. I use a bloomer style of covering with the legs cuffed. The waist comes half way up my back and consistently should I leak the excess is caught in the bloomer. I also use a booster with a quality diaper. It’s not done to make me feel secure. It’s done to keep the bed dry.

How far down the rabbit hole am I? So deep there is no chance in turning back. Although there is nothing that would make me want to. Bowel loss is just a extension of my urinary loss that never can be changed. It was a natural progression. I can only control bowel loss for 18-24 hours by doing a partial to full enema. That’s a time consuming event all by itself. I manage it and manage it well. It’s a natural occurrence that happens multiple times in any 24 hour period. I can slow it for a short time by sitting but that’s it. I must maintain all that I do governed by the clock because it’s best from a management standpoint. Deviate from the norm and it throws off everything. Living with a load in there at almost all times is the norm so keeping odor down is a must. I don’t really ever think about it. It just is. Just like anything else that is constant. I’ve achieved what I set out to do many years ago and have never had a single regret. Over the years many members out here have contacted me to give them ideas as to how they can do this as well but generally within a short time they no longer seem to have the will to continue. That’s ok as they realize it wasn’t for them. But I’ve never been ridiculed by anyone out here which makes this a safe place and I appreciate it.

Always solid. I’m very careful with what I eat. I’m rarely sick but have had the runs in the past so I know what that is like.

3-4 times per awake hours and generally 1 time (or not at all) while sleeping

Yes I did. I did so because of urinary incontinence which I can’t repair. Over the years I wanted bowel incontinence as well. I cannot explain that. So after years of training I now have no control of either and with no regrets

Urinary incontinence was due to a accident in 2008. Bowel incontinence is due to years of training to become so. It’s not horrible at all. It’s very manageable

I wake up saturated every morning but rarely leak. A good diaper with a booster along with a high waist/bloomer style covering keeps the bed dry for me. Most every morning there is some kind of mess in the diaper as well.

My body clock is off a little today. I change at regular times rather than when just wet or messy. Today I changed & within a hour had a good sized load. I’m in it now for the next several hours until change time again. This is what makes incontinence interesting. Thank you Nullo! I will enjoy it as well