the diapered dyke

i find that a little problematic, kvetinka. srs is in essence body modification. i don't see it as "healing" your body, but simply a means to be more comfortable in your own skin and with other people. i'm very against the idea that to "really be trans", one needs to have bottom surgery. for one, there are tons of folks out there who don't have the means (physically, financially, etc) to physically transition. and the biggest, some people just don't WANT it, plain and simple. this isn't a birth defect, it's exactly who i am. i think i've said it in this thread already, but i'll say it again: women come in all different shapes and sizes. i'm no exception.

scum

retail drama? try service industry drama. i've been waiting tables in the same place for a year and a half now, and i could write a damn novel about everything that's gone down.

tranquility has a line of really nice doublers, with wings & everything. i can't recall what they're called, but i had a few packages of those and they worked wonders. lately i just get a package of baby diapers and spend an hour or so modifying all of them (cutting out elastic & tabs & etc), then cutting slits in them whenever i need one. it makes a diaper go a long way.

WAIT I DIDN'T SEE A DIAPER AT ALL DID I MISS IT OR WHAT TELL ME WHEN IT HAPPENS IN THE VIDEO SO I CAN LOOK OVER AND OVER JUST TO MAKE SURE OKAY THANKS.

i kind of abhor the childish winnie the pooh/etc pj's, i'd rather just sleep in a tank top and shorts. i always feel like my clothes are choking me if i wear too much to bed.

well we've established there is at least two in michigan: baby sophie's mommy and myself. but it seems "mommy" is taken and i'm nine tenths lesbian. so yeah, it seems yr all out of luck. but then again, so am i. level playing field, right?

i prefer to be rung up by a female cashier. i feel more sympathy or indifference from women (depending on her age and whether or not they think it's for me or if i'm a caretaker, etc), while with a lot of men i feel eyes boring in to my skull or something along those lines. though like it's been said, 90 percent of the time the cashier will barely notice or care what you're purchasing. and: i'd love some footie pj's, but i get so hot and antsy when i'm sleeping that i don't think i could possibly survive a full night wearing them. still, they're cute and i've oogled them at target quite a few times.

the way i've gone at it is making an effort on both fronts, and seeing what comes up. a vanilla date is better than no abdl date, right? meet people. keep your options open. try to be happy, however you can.

o man. i love seeing craftiness in the community! i'll have to try this some day soon when i need to feel a picker-upper.

^ i got a package of them (classic, i guess?) in the mail once. they're nice, but they're... novel. to even think of wearing them outside as a practical diaper seems preposterous to me. < listening to the rain and waiting for my sleeping pill to kick in V what's the last book that you read? was it better or worse than the book that came before it?

i live in detroit, smack in the middle of the city.

slat

plan

i'm really big on wearing a dresses with jeans, and i've found it works out great when trying to be discreet - your butt may look a little bit bigger, but that's about it. regarding noise: try wearing heels, the kind that click really loudly and it covers up crinkling when you walk fairly well - as long as you stay off of the carpet.

i think that sums up most of this community perfectly.

so my daddy has been talking to me about using castor oil on me as a punishment/laxative, but i'm a little scared of the stuff. online research has just left red flashing signs all in my head with phrases like "violent purgation," "use only as a last resort," etc. now, the point is for it to be uncomfortable & humiliating & all that good stuff, but i don't want to get in over my head and feel sick for days and i DEFINITELY don't want to vomit here (i have a phobia of vomiting, so an instance in which there's even a possibility of vomiting is terrifying). can anyone give some advice as to good dosages, what to expect, or maybe just HOW extreme of an experience it is? as a 115lb jittery girl, should i even be trying this? any and all comments/advice are welcome, and thanks in advance. regardless, i'm pretty excited about the experience and daddy can't wait to see me diapered, squirming and messing uncontrollably - i'm just a little scared. if yr nice, i'll keep you updated on the experience if/when it happens. -mm.

toil

anarchist. no, not the mohawk/spiky vest/bad music kind.

^ has no head.

queer 101: i'm not making a problem out of anything, i'm asking if there's any queer-identified folk in the community here, and nothing more. being a "radical queer" is kind of an umbrella identity for folk who don't buy in to the sexist, patriarchal hetero-normative paradigm we grew up with and are exposed to all the time. "radical" because it's about fighting to undermine the paradigm, "queer" because to say heterosexual homosexual or bisexual buys into a flawed gender binary. it's a more progressive form of sexuality/gender politics incorporated into a way of living.

just testing the waters: any radical queers out there? it's hard enough to build queer community in the city, let alone in a kink as specific as this. it seems almost antithetical to be involved in both the queer & ab/dl communities, but i've met a few folk and was wondering if there were some other folk i've missed. -madison

teat(!)

...what?

i'll stray away from the theory on what makes a trans identity, etc etc etc, to save you all from incessant spouting of transfeminist rhetoric. i'll just say two things, i think: "transgender" isn't a noun, it's an adjective. and: transsexuality is so punk rock. in the superimposed patriarchy we function in, there's nothing more radical than subverting the rock-solid gender binary.