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That's neat that you and your sister have the same "interests" for no other reason than it maked the world seem a lot smaller. How long have you guys known that the other one is into the same thing. Do you guys go to munches and parties together? Do you have any other sibs and do they know? Me, no one in family that I know is into diapers or ABDL stuff. However, I have one brother who is openly gay and another that is experimenting. I know it's not quite the same thing, but I doubt it's entirely a coincidence that multiple family members have interests outside the realm of normal. I do wonder what it would be like to have a kid who is an ABDL. Not that I want to take pleasure in that... I certainly would never impose my fetish. But I could save the kid a lot of heart ache by sharing my wisdom. On the other hand my wife is pretty vanilla an merely puts up with my fetish so I don't think she'd be too trilled

Hi all, I am a budding amateur photographer and a fan of looking at pics of people in diapers. So, I think it's high time to combine these two hobbies and create my own pics. So I thought I'd pick people's brains on what makes a good shot. I already have some ideas based on pet peeves....For starters I plan on having good white balance and a clean, uncluttered background with good lighting. It also helps to have a well fitting diaper that is not overly soaked. What about clothes? I think sometimes good photography leaves things up to the viewer' imagination. What about feet? Socks? Props? I'm leaning towards making it an action shot (versus simply posing) Also some limitations... I'm not unattractive but am not muscular either. Plus I have thick chest and leg hair and don't plan to shave. So another reason for clothes. Also I don't want my face in the picture which adds a whole dimension of difficulty. I plan to shoot it myself but have a decent camera with a tripod so that shouldn't be too big of a deal. I'll keep everyone posted! Jessm5

My first thought when reading the title was "ya good luck with that " but on thinking about it some more, I'm pretty sure my very first post some 15 years ago on DPF was the exact same thing. 15 years later I'm married....to a non-ABDL. Obviously if you can find a nice gal who enjoys diapers that's great. But just know that it's a bit more complicated than you would think at first.

I often wear nothing over my diaper at home. However I have a puppy and live in an apartment complex so I have to go out. I have no problem wearing diapers in public, and when I take my puppy out I will throw on a pair of athletic shorts. Although they cover up everything you can still clearly hear the crinkling. Sometimes I leave the shorts on, but the crinkling never lets me forget I'm padded.

Hi all, Just wanted to (re)introduce myself.... It's been a very long time since I last posted (I looked it up and it was 2010). I haven't been on this site in a while and I am really glad to see that it is doing as good as ever. Anyways, that's it for now! Best wishes, Jessm5

Hellloo fellow ABs And DLs! I guess it's been forever since I've been here. But I'm glad to see Daily Diapers is still kicking butt! Hope everyone is having fun! I see lots and lots of new folks have come on board. For the newbies, i have lots and lots of experience and love to share so please ask! Anyways I decided to come out of my cave because I am having a very good problem. See recently I got engaged. The bride2b is very lovely and smart and good looking. The only thing is that she is not into the diaper thing at all. Actually she is pretty vanilla all the way. No kinks as far as she knows. She doesn't get diapers and doesn't want to. Obviously I knee that when I proposed to her, but there's plenty of other qualities I adore in her. But here's the thing, although she is not into the diapers she is totally cool with me wearing as long as the diapers don't take over and she remains my first priority. I have worn tons of times around her and she doesn't mind. Heck she'll even give me l swats on my padded behind and play with the tapes. My problem is that even though I can wear openly i still feel a little awkward about wearing around her. She never stops me, but she will make comments like, "you're wearing again?" and when I say yes, she will just shrug. Also she never calls them diapers and she has diapered me in the past, but did it begrudgingly. I've told her flat out that diapers are a big part of me and that I'm worried she secretly doesn't want me wearing. She denies it says that she couldn't care less if I wear if it makes me happy. So should I be concerned and what do I do to make it less awkward? I think part of the issue is that i wear only on the weekends and random times throughout the week. I was thinking that if I wore much more frequently (like every night, which is what I used to do when I was single) I may make them feel more like part of the routine. But then again it may make things much worse if diapers are really a sore subject which is what I'm paranoid about. Any thoughts?

Sounds like lots of people are doing swell. Keep up the good work y'all! Does anyone know where I can find any AB/DL podcasts. I think it would make my daily exercise more entertaining.

Yikes! I didn't realize it was a link to a [That site] article! I clicked 'back' right away. IMO he's one of the people that doesn't give our community the bestest of reputations. Maybe he's changed his site since back in the day, but he used to have a diaper sighting section where people could post true stories of older children they saw wearing diapers. I found that kinda creepy so I avoid his page. All that aside, I've gotten to the point where I bedwet most nights when I'm wearing, and I never wet when I'm not wearing. And trust me, I didn't do any bodily harm, to accomplish it. The key is to get your subconscious mind to realize you're wearing a diaper, AND that it's normal to wet it. Actually, a lot of what I did was similar to what Riley described...which is funny because I never saw the video until just now. But basically I kicked things off by going a month with a modified 24/7 schedule (no number #2, no wearing at extreme socially inconvenient times). And like Riley mentioned, I made sure to go as soon as I felt the slightest urge, and at night if I woke up needing to go, I made sure to not change my position and to go right back to sleep. Drinking a glass of water or three right before bed also helped. But by and large the most important thing was that when I wear, I tell myself over and over again that there's no reason to hold it in. Hope that helps. Let us know your progress!

I guess I would be in the 'old member group' although I joined in 2006 which is the cutoff for 'old'.... and actually I was on a hiatus during 2007... So would that make me a newer-old member, or an older-new member? EDIT: Ohh wait! I guess I joined in '05. Has it really been that long??

I guess you know you're an AB/DL when you hear spring break, the first thing that comes to mind is, "quality time with diapers" and not going to beaches or traveling like most "normal" college kids do. Actually I have spring break next week and that's what I'm looking forward to as well! My only advice is to not over-indulge. That's happened to me a couple of times where during a break I'll wear 24/7 for like a week straight, but then kinda feel bored with diapers once the novelty has worn off. Just make sure you're not passing up on opportunities to hang out with friends or do some wacky stuff. Then again, there's nothing stopping you from hanging out with friends AND doing wacky stuff AND wearing diapers

I'm wondering, for all those who've told their therapist, did you know what were you hoping to accomplish by telling your therapist? Were you looking for reasons why you like to wear? Or was it causing stress in some part of your life (like relationships) or was it mainly that you were looking for a sympathetic listener? (If you don't want to share, it understandable). I don't have a therapist, but I've been thinking about going for a couple of issues. Among the issues is striking a balance between AB/DL side and the rest of my life. But the thing is that I'm not sure what I want the therapist to do for me. I mean, I'm not looking for approval or anything, I'm not looking for a psychological explanation, and I doubt he/she would have a solution to my relationship conundrums. But on the other hand, it would be nice to talk about it with an unbiased, non-judging bystander.

Perhaps... although that's more likely a reflection on how bad the other talk shows are.

Ok, that was one of the most awkward clips I have EVER seen! It was so uncomfortable that I ended up fast forwarding through parts of it. I felt so bad for the DL lady on stage. I mean Tyra was really giving her the third degree and asking her personal questions, like if her husband changes her. You know, ntrader, I'm glad it went so well for you, but that clip has me terrified to tell my significant other.

Haha... You know, where I *almost* run into problems is right after hanging out with my ab/dl friends. When we hang out we talk about diapers freely and opening like it ain't nothing, so it's easy to forget that it is something significant when I'm talking to my non-ab/dl friends right afterwards. Yup, lots and lots of close calls. It's to the point where I try to go straight home after ab/dl hangouts so I can 'reset' and re-acclimate to the real world.

"Nothing human disgusts me unless it's unkind or violent" -Tennessee Williams

Yikes, I'm glad the cat's out of the bag on this one! I was actually worried a while back that I turned my stuffed animal into an AB/DL!! You see Cooler (of the Pound Puppy fame - a small celebrity back in 80's) and I go back a long ways. Unfortunately a while back he lost his trademark blue jacket. Well I didn't think he should be forced to go around naked, so I let him borrow one of my baby diapers I kept around as stuffers. I didn't think anything of it at first, but then he kept the same diaper on for 3 years! I did feel guilty about it for a while, but he seemed just as content as ever so I let it go. He would've kept it on longer but I convinced him to take it off when I went to college, since he wasn't coming with me and I didn't want him to have to explain it to my parents. It was tough enough when I had to explain myself to my folks. Well that was 7 years ago and he hasn't worn since. So maybe it was a phase. Who knows?

Right on! I tend to subscribe to the notion that if there is a cause for wanting to wear diapers, it's much, much more biological than psychological. Don't get me wrong, I do believe in the bio-psycho-social model (google it if you don't know what I'm talking about), and I think there is some psychological need that diapers fill. But it's definitely a matter of brain circuitry. Personally, I think that at some point during our development, the circuitry of our brain went a little wacky and poof! diapers became the sexiest thing God put on this green Earth. Otherwise, how do you explain the fact that most of our siblings who grew up with the exact same parental influences don't get a kick out of being padded? Or consider this... one of the main theories for why so many people have foot fetishes is that the region of the brain that handles feet sensation is close to the sexual center of the brain. (For the neuro geeks, just look at the homunculus). So if it's possible that that wiring could be a little loose, couldn't the signaling between being diapered and pleasure get mixed up as well? And Sarah's absolutely right, knowing why won't change anything, but it is interesting nonetheless.

Before I clicked on the link, I was thinking, pah-leeze there's no freaken way you're going to get people to agree on an AB/DL logo, let alone adopt one. But then I saw your logo and I have to say it's pretty nice. Actually if you search the forums, waaay back you'll see that I created a thread suggesting that a safety pin be our identifying signal, so more power to you for incorperating it. Let us know if/when you decide to sell shirts. I'm not sure I'd wear it while I'm out and about, but it would be pretty sweet to show up to an AB/DL party with that shirt. So anyways, I'll be rooting for you and your design. That said, don't be discouraged if it's slow to be picked up by others... that's just how folks are. ~Jess

This is really a question for those people who got turned on to diapers later on life, like way after they became adults.... Just curious what did it for you? What, if anything, was the attraction? Is it that the desire was there the whole time and you never realized it? Or was there a particular reason? I suppose a story for why I ask is in order... Recently I went to an AB/DL party, and one of the people there was a guy in his 30's who basically came because he had a friend who was into diapers. The guy never had worn before and it sounds like he never really had any strong desire to either. He just came because he was open minded and didn't have much else going on that night. Long story short, I just got a message from him saying that for the first time he wore diapers to sleep... diapers which he purchased himself... and enjoyed it! Or at least he found them comfy. I guess I find it fascinating more than anything else... As someone who's been a DL for as long as I can remember, and actually sought out diapers, if someone asked me why I like 'em, my answer would be, "I dunno, I've always liked 'em." But it's tough to imagine suddenly getting turned on to them later on in life. I try to imagine myself suddenly getting turned on to wearing womens' underwear, or suddenly having a balloon fetish, or suddenly having a desire to do anything else kinky for that matter, and I just can't picture it. I mean, I wouldn't mind going to a party for something I wasn't into, but I just don't see myself getting into it, like this guy is getting into diapers. And before I get 20 messages saying that I'm being narrow minded for assuming that everyone else likes diapers for the same reason I do, let me just say that I realize people wear for lots of different reasons. Again, I realize that that, and I'm just curious to hear what those reasons are for people who discovered diapers later in life.

Dayton, Ohio here! Gem City USA!

Unless you work in a library where silence is golden, or are a lifeguard, no one is ever going to know as long as you don't go out of your way to expose your diapers. Just make sure you find a private restroom to change... and preferably one where you won't get caught by a dad who is trying to potty train his son (see the thread below this one). ... Actually when I was working, I stopped wearing because I was so busy working I couldn't enjoy the diaper and ended up wasting it. Now that I'm back in school, I come to classes padded a couple of times a week. Yeah there's no reason for it and no one is going see it, but I feel just slightly more charged on those days.

Wow! The conversation's getting better and better. This is one of the most debate fueled threads I've seen in a while. Kudos to Cloud! Actually, in some ways I do think it's kind of like the gay rights movement. Ok so we're not fighting for the right to bring home some one we care about regardless of their gender, and we're not fighting for equal protection under the law, but it is about the right to self-expression and the freedom to be the person you want to be. I don't think Cloud, or anyone for that matter is looking to flaunt diapers in public, just like gay people aren't looking to flaunt their homosexuality in public. They just want to not feel ashamed about it, and it's the same here. Think about it, how many of us here have felt ashamed for liking diapers at one point or another? I certainly have, and I despite being into the AB/DL scene for 11 years, I still feel ashamed about it at times. Yet, neither I or anyone else here has harmed anyone or been harmed by wearing a diaper (assuming it was voluntary... forced diapering is a whole 'nother topic). So why are we ashamed? Because it's a taboo in society, and we're discouraged from talking about it. That's the only reason! How irrational... And yet, I'm still not going to open up, or come out of the closet if you will until society permits me to. Does that make me a fair weather fan? A little. Am I going to continue to harbor feelings of angst over wearing diapers? Yes. But, that's society's rules, and I want to play the game so I follow the rules. Actually if we want things to change for us, and for us to feel less ashamed, we need people like Cloud to be open about it and pave the way for others. The screwy thing is that I have a brother who is gay and was in the closet all while growing up. I knew he was gay and he knew about my diapers. We both had dirt on each other so it was cool. Now, 11 years later, society has become so accepting that he's completely out of the closet and no one cares while I'm still wearing in secret. Go figure. Now I'm up to $0.04

Hmm... this is a good one!! It seems to me that if you're going to follow Cloud's advice it's got to be all or none. Either you have to be okay with everyone knowing, or you prefer that no one knows. Otherwise, if you're ok telling a handful of people, but not okay with another handful of people, you are just going to run into troubles. People are hypocrites. Even though everyone has secrets and everyone knows everyone else has secrets, people love to blab about juicy stuff like this. I'm not saying that if you take Cloud's advice you need to run out and tell all your friends / family / mechanic that you have a diaper fetish, but you have to be okay with them knowing too. That said, I've told just a few people. Personally, I feel that it would catastrophic for me if the whole world knew and I'm always concerned that one of them will tell someone else, etc etc etc. Luckily, as far as I know it hasn't happened yet but it still concerns me. On the other hand the people I've told have all been cool with it, I do feel closer to those people, and actually I've learned some interesting stuff about other folks in the process. Here's more fuel for to fire: I have an AB/DL friend I know in person who is pretty open about diapers. He doesn't go around flaunting it, but he doesn't go out of his way to hide them either. The crazy thing is that this guy has had numerous significant others who have changed him and been totally cool with him walking around in diapers. Meanwhile, many of us here (including myself) would kill to be in a relationship where the significant other knows and is cool with it. That's my $0.02. Take it or leave it.

I agree... well done! Actually, I find your story kinda inspiring. I wish I had the cojones to pull that off... It totally brings home the point that it's not what you say that matters, but how you say it. If you're confident and sure of yourself, people will fall in line. I also agree that people talk and it's very possible that others will find out... even if the guy is pretty trustworthy. If other people bring it up you're going to have to be just as confident with others as you were with your friend, otherwise you're dead in the water.

I had this great mental image of some snooty wine connoisseur... you know the type, with a fancy suit and a thin mustache... carefully taking in the aroma of a diaper and inspecting it carefully, and he's all like, "Ahh yes... Classic Pampers, their 1994 stock I believe... that was a good year for them, wasn't it? Almost as good as their '02 Baby-Drys" I know that was completely irreverent, but I thought I'd share.