lynniehyde

There is a place in Oregon where you can purchace Mary Janes, black patent, at a reasonable cost. They are: www.muffys.com/. I purchased two pair from them two years ago and have yet to put on the second pair. Very durable. A good value. They also sell saddle oxfords and have a wide variety. Cuddles, --heidilynn

When you gotta go, you gotta go. When you go 24/7 and stick to it, it's difficult to rationalize tearing off a perfectly good dry diaper because you have to pee. With cloth diapers, it's a bit easier because you can always re-pin them. But if total incontinence is what your looking for, my advice would be to go in your pants whenever and wherever you feel the urge. Eventually, your bladder and bowel muscles will weaken to the point where you will not be able to trust your body to control them and will be forced to wear diapers 24/7. Unless, you want to make a mess of your trousers, floor or workplace. Cuddles, --heidilynn

When I had a family (son and wife), we kept it hidden and when we (my wife and I) were into it, my son stayed at his grandparents house. This became increasingly difficult as he grew older. My son found out about this during a messy divorce, when his mother brought him to the house and said, "There's your daddy! There's your daddy!" He was 12 yrs. old. I was dressed in a little girl's frock with my diapers and rubber panties poking out underneath the hem of the dress. I don't know if this was "flaunting it", but he has handled it well. He is getting married in a few weeks and plans to visit me in Phoenix on their honeymoon. He assures me his bride to be knows about me and my lifestyle, seen my website and all and has no problem with it. We'll see. I have had relationships with friends who've had children and I've been exposed to them as a big baby girl at parties and so forth. The kids seem to love it. No problemos. I think it all depends on the adults around who can influence the kids positively or negatively. Acceptible? Depends. lol. (So, what's your problem?) Cuddles, --heidilynn

"Never no worry", as one of my taekwondo masters used to tell me. You will find friends, if you're willing to seek them out or let them find you. Lonely can be endured. But, it's not forever. As far as being a "sitting duck"? I doubt that's the case. You seem far too intelligent to let that happen. Trust is important in any relationship. But, don't let that scare you off from exploring. You'll never know what you might find. Cuddles, --heidilynn

It isn't the diapers holding you back. It's your own perception of how others feel about your desires. When you can feel comfortable about letting a select few know about your feelings, it will become easier and more freeing for you to be comfortable in your own skin. Depression is a hard thing to deal with. But if wearing diapers makes you happy, where's the harm? You may find that if you let others know about the way you are, you will build a whole new network of friends, who have no problem with it and even embrace you for being yourself. Been there, done that. Cuddles, --heidilynn

All I know is, I pegged that speedo and still had headroom. Awesome. I now drive a Buick Century. Not quite what I like, but it gets me where I want to go. Preacher's car, I call it. You've had a drive in it. With Tami at the wheel. We'll always have San Diego. Sleep tight. Cuddles, --heidilynn PS: Quaaaaacck!

318. Right you are. Boy, what a burner. All anybody saw from me were the tailights. Cuddles, --heidilynn

Hey Duckie! I know you're an automobile enthusiast. What's your opinion on a '72 Dodge Challenger? I had one once and it was the slickest, fastest car on the road. Stock, not modified. Only a 302 cui. (as I remember), but what a performer. I tore the New Jersey Turnpike up on my visits to Philly and back to NYC when visiting my girlfriend in PA. Cuddles, --heidilynn

Stripes actually, here in Maricopa County AZ. Oh, and pink undies. Cuddles, --heidilynn

I've been taken into custody, wearing only as much as a tee-shirt, pink rubber panties and diapers. Oh, and open toed, white sandals Sometimes, I was taken in wearing a baby doll dress. They could never get me through metal detection at induction however, without removing the pins. (I wear cloth diapers.) Removing the pins would cause my wet panties to sag toward my ankles. They couldn't have that now, could they? Police around here, now know me and are most tolerant and understanding here in Phoenix, AZ. My problem with going to jail was mainly outstanding traffic warrants. They'll getcha everytime. Cuddles, --heidilynn PS: I've never been arrested for showing my diapers in public.

Like you, I too tried to contact DPF when I heard Tommy was in failing health. I got no response from Markie. I would guess that the trouble, time and expense proved too much of a burden and that's the reason for DPFs departure from the scene. Cuddles, --heidilynn

Excellent advice, Beffy. Cuddles, --heidilynn

Ahemm... They smell. You stink . Comes with the territory. Cuddles, --heidilynn

Mmmmmm. Chocochip? Cuddles, --heidilynn

If you're fearful about others reactions to your actions; all I can say is I feel sorry for you. Unless you're commiting some major crime, the wearing of diapers, even in public, is no crime. It's as just as though you're wearing swimming trunks. (At least here in Arizona.) I don't know why there are so many members of this community, who are so vehement in their rejection of their own acceptance. Have fun. Others will too. Cuddles, --heidilynn

[quote name='Diapers4Me' date='Nov 25 2008, 10:26 PM' post='16494 I'm sorry, but what Heidilynn does is selfish.

Agree. A generational thang. But, they'll get over it. (I'm one to talk. But, I do know.) Cuddles, --heidilynn PS: It's not exactly like you're stockpiling small arms, anyway. Is it?

Lead me on, MM. It is every ABs desire to find someone who is as much into this (or more), as they are. And, you seem to know what buttons to push. What planet or solar system do you come from? Cuddles, --heidilynn

It's not at all uncommon for a "normal", hetero, macho male to be into this. Some of us need relief from the pressures of day to day responsibilities with that image. I have many big guys I count as friends into this who have had important military jobs, uber religious convictions. Families and business to support. And, all of them are like you. It's nothing to worry about. It's the Jungian/Daoist theory. Duality of Man. Yin and Yang. Hard and soft. Sun and Moon. Human nature. UBU, big guy. Find your balance. Cuddles, --heidilynn

"Soak 'em till they drop.", is my motto. I use cloth diapers and laundry is such a hassle. I go through 3-4 changes a day. It tends to pile up. I do use the night style diapers, so absorbancy is much better that way. If I wore day diapers, I would be changing 6-7 times a day. Now poop is another thing. Accidents happen. No way to avoid them when you wear 24/7. What I've found is if I can "hold it" till morning (when I need a change anyway), get myself on the potty before I change fresh, I can usually avoid the mess. I stress, USUALLY. I have had incidents between changes where I have pooped or peed on the floor. And, for some strange reason, "Big Macs" from McDonald's cause me to poop uncontrolably for several days after consumption. If I'm not within 2 seconds of a potty, it's in my panties. Oooooopsth! Poooooooopsth! Guess I better keep my diapers on, huh? Cuddles, --heidilynn

I am having Thanksgiving dinner with my mom Thursday at 6:30 PM. Once she got used to me dressing as a big baby girl, she has had no problem with the lifestyle. You have to be dedicated. You have to be firm. You have to show people who and what you are. Don't let the bastards grind you down. "Illigitimi non carborundum". My life is not fantasy. It's the real deal. Believe it. Cuddles, --heidilynn

QUOTE (Jimmy B @ Nov 22 2008, 12:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}> You have got to be kidding?!! You are going to be sitting at the dinner table at Thanksgiving dressed as a baby girl? Ya, right! sounds a bit too much like a dreamed up fantasy. Unless of course you are part of the Jerry Springer Family Thanksgiving. The coming out thing about your diapers or your baby side or whatever is a huge mistake.I did that same stupid thing many years ago and although it may have seemed like a good idea at the time, I paid the price. I ruined a very close relationship with my younger brother. We didn't speak or get together for over three years. I lost friends as well. If you re thinking this will all turn out just find, you are a moron. You may feel a big weight off of your shoulders for a bit coming out to someone, but believe me, once this is out in the open, you are screwed. Take everyone's advise here and come out to the people here on this site. Share your life style with fellow ab/dl's and not ever, Never share this with the vanilla public, no matter how open minded you may think that they are. I beg to differ. Honesty about the way you are is always the best policy. Most people will be humored, tolerant, if not supportive. Even your own family. Give them time. Cuddles, --heidilynn

One of my fave websites was funraiser.com/. Now, when I try to access it, it comes up "Service not available". Been that way for about a week now. Does anyone know what happened? I hope nothing bad. Maybe bandwidth problems. Maybe financial. Hope it's something that simple and nothing dire. I loved his site. Cuddles, --heidilynn

Kathi Stringer first turned me onto this game. I wonder if she had any influence on this variation. It wouldn't surprise me. She absolutely loves warcraft. Cuddles, --heidilynn

Ahhhhh! Good times, m'fren. Good times. Cuddles, --heidilynn PS: If that was your first time, I hope I was gentle.