I tend to mess my pants more than diapers, mostly because wearing diapers currently requires planning (I don’t really have the opportunity to wear diapers freely on an everyday basis), whereas messing my pants is something I can do on a whim whenever he urge hits me and I have some privacy. That said, I do prefer diapers because I can enjoy every mess much longer, and go about my day with a nice load without anyone really noticing.