After two and a half years of working from home, and potty-untraining myself, my workplace is going back-to-the-office.

[hlcl]

@DiaperedJoe How is your retraining going?  This is a crazy,  busy time of year.  I would encourage someone to keep up with their training/retraining as much as possible. 

 

 It's not much fun to have to change cloth training pants when away from home.  When away from home I would consider using disposable training pants and adding plastic pants for extra protection.  

If someone who is training/retraining is wearing a diaper I would encourage them to use the bathroom as much as possible and tell them that the diaper is "just in case."

[CodHero24]

Threaded Armor is the Adult version of SUPER UNDIES, for those of you who don't know.

They are AMAZINGLY comfortable Reusable "Pull-Up" Style Diapers,

PERFECT for Re-Training and NightTime Protection.

I have no intention of Re-Training,

But I have some of these for Night Protection when I stay at my friend's or Family's house.

They make Zero Noise, and are not bulky so nobody will notice.

You could put these one on while you're in Bed with the lights off, (totally stealth, Sarah Silverman style.)

https://threadedarmor.com/collections/supporting-items

[Little Cub Pants]

On 11/13/2022 at 9:54 AM, DiaperedJoe said:

Back in March 2020, when the pandemic was first getting big, our workplace (like many others) announced we'd be working from home for a while.  At first it was "two weeks", but that quickly spread to indefinite.

At first I thought it would be an awesome time to experiment with being diapered 24/7. . .as most public places were shut down.  What I was buying was either delivered to my doorstep, or I could get with curbside service (like grocery pickups).  

So, I went into diapers full time.  I came to really like it, to be honest.  There were adjustments to be made.  It took some time to figure out which diapers fit best, and what I really needed in terms of absorbency and size and such, but eventually I settled on what fit me well, and could hold up for hours of my usual wetting without a problem.  However, I was much happier in a diapered life.

After a few months I eventually got into diaper dependency training/potty untraining routines, including hypnosis files.  Somewhere along the way by late 2020, I was wetting and not even realizing it until my diaper was warm and soaked, and instead of waking up to wet and going back to sleep I was now waking up with a cold, soaked diaper and an empty bladder.  It had worked, I was now diaper dependent and had the potty training of an infant.

It has worked well for me, and I've happily been back in diapers for two years, eight months at this point, and been a diaper dependent bedwetter for about two years.  The idea that I've spent as much time in diapers during all this as most infants are before they're potty trained makes me happy.

My employer had said last year that there were no plans to bring us back into the office, and this was essentially permanent.

Well, new management has decided there's not going to be 100% remote work anymore.  All employees must be in the office at least 3 days a week.  Those that have been teleworking can keep working two days a week at most (with short-term exceptions in special cases).  Come January 1, we're supposed to be back in the office.

So, that leaves me to wonder what to do.

Do I try to potty train myself again and go back into grown up underwear?  Even if I do, I wonder if I can ever really have the control I had before.  Deep down, I don't want that control.  I crave diaper dependency, am happy being a bedwetter, and the idea of potty training just seems wrong now.  I probably can get enough control to work normally.  I work in an office job down the hall from a restroom, it's not like I need a powerful bladder for my job.

Or, do I embrace my diapered status and try to find an inconspicuous adult pullup that I can wear under my work clothes that can handle a work-day's wetting without being obvious (or at least a partial day and change sometime during the day)?.  Since I did deal with a mild bout of COVID at one point (tested positive, was definitely symptomatic, didn't need hospitalization), if anyone finds out/notices I'm tempted to claim it's a symptom of Long COVID that's given me urinary incontinence (it IS a documented symptom of "Long COVID"), but I'm not sure if I should do that.

I would just go all out and wear diapers to work, most people wouldn't care anyway and they would probably just associate it with some sort of medical condition. That's quite interesting story you had. Congratulations on inadvertently becoming diaper dependent!???????♥️??? I'm glad you're enjoying it!???? I would recommend a big, thick diaper. An diapee that would last you the whole day essentially, like megamax or BetterDry. Those are really comfy, and last a GOOD while! Big hugs!?♥️?♥️?

[Babygeebee]

1 hour ago, CodHero24 said:

Threaded Armor is the Adult version of SUPER UNDIES, for those of you who don't know.

They are AMAZINGLY comfortable Reusable "Pull-Up" Style Diapers,

PERFECT for Re-Training and NightTime Protection.

I have no intention of Re-Training,

But I have some of these for Night Protection when I stay at my friend's or Family's house.

They make Zero Noise, and are not bulky so nobody will notice.

You could put these one on while you're in Bed with the lights off, (totally stealth, Sarah Silverman style.)

https://threadedarmor.com/collections/supporting-items

These look great. Thanks for sharing. 

[DiaperedJoe]

On 12/4/2022 at 6:06 PM, hlcl said:

@DiaperedJoe How is your retraining going?  This is a crazy,  busy time of year.  I would encourage someone to keep up with their training/retraining as much as possible. 

 

 It's not much fun to have to change cloth training pants when away from home.  When away from home I would consider using disposable training pants and adding plastic pants for extra protection.  

If someone who is training/retraining is wearing a diaper I would encourage them to use the bathroom as much as possible and tell them that the diaper is "just in case."

Here's how it's going.

I am mostly potty trained for daytime control now.  Mostly.  It took a couple of weeks of accidents and embarrassing moments, but I generally have enough control now that I haven't had an actual daytime pants-wetting accident in a week and a half now.  I'm pretty sure my control is weaker than it originally was, but it seems fine enough for a desk job where I sit in my office, and can walk to a bathroom right down the hall if I really need to.

I've tried to get out and about more too, instead of being such a shut in.  Yeah, cloth training pants are a royal pain if you're wet and out and about.  I have enough control that I don't think I need the cloth now, since the whole point of those was to help me notice when I was wetting, which I can do again now.

I'll definitely have disposable pull up diapers on hand for daytime wear, especially if I expect to be away from my office or on a long drive or anything where I couldn't just stop everything to go to a toilet on short notice.

My Christmas Present to myself is buying myself normal adult underwear like any other grown-up person, that I can wear.  I'm going to try to switch to completely regular underwear at Christmas and see if I have any accidents in that week between Christmas and the New Year and before I'm due back in the office on January 2nd.  I'll probably keep some pullups stashed in my car, and maybe a couple discretely stored some place in my office just-in-case.

. . .nighttime control is still gone, but I'm happy with that.  Still in big disposables for nighttime wear, and I'm content with being a permanent bedwetter and have made zero attempt to regain that control.  I've slept so much better since bedwetter training that I'd never undo it.  I sleep, both literally and metaphorically "like a baby" now and want to keep it that way.

[Kawaharu]

3 hours ago, DiaperedJoe said:

Here's how it's going.

I am mostly potty trained for daytime control now.  Mostly.  It took a couple of weeks of accidents and embarrassing moments, but I generally have enough control now that I haven't had an actual daytime pants-wetting accident in a week and a half now.  I'm pretty sure my control is weaker than it originally was, but it seems fine enough for a desk job where I sit in my office, and can walk to a bathroom right down the hall if I really need to.

I've tried to get out and about more too, instead of being such a shut in.  Yeah, cloth training pants are a royal pain if you're wet and out and about.  I have enough control that I don't think I need the cloth now, since the whole point of those was to help me notice when I was wetting, which I can do again now.

I'll definitely have disposable pull up diapers on hand for daytime wear, especially if I expect to be away from my office or on a long drive or anything where I couldn't just stop everything to go to a toilet on short notice.

My Christmas Present to myself is buying myself normal adult underwear like any other grown-up person, that I can wear.  I'm going to try to switch to completely regular underwear at Christmas and see if I have any accidents in that week between Christmas and the New Year and before I'm due back in the office on January 2nd.  I'll probably keep some pullups stashed in my car, and maybe a couple discretely stored some place in my office just-in-case.

. . .nighttime control is still gone, but I'm happy with that.  Still in big disposables for nighttime wear, and I'm content with being a permanent bedwetter and have made zero attempt to regain that control.  I've slept so much better since bedwetter training that I'd never undo it.  I sleep, both literally and metaphorically "like a baby" now and want to keep it that way.

For me, I know I am never gona regain being potty trained and I am comfortable with being kept in diapers. It's why I am content with being permanently kept in diapers with zero ability to regain control.

[hlcl]

@DiaperedJoe Congratulations on retraining so quickly and so well.  You made a lot of progress in a short period of time.  You absolutely should treat yourself to adult underwear. You deserve it. Your confidence will increase as the length of time since your last accident increases. I would do kegel exercises and when you feel the need to pee delay the trip to the bathroom to help with being able to hold it for longer periods. 

[DiaperedJoe]

An update.

I was apparently a little overconfident in how well my re-training was going.  

I had an accident.  In public.

Well, it was at a party with my friends, but that's public enough.

I've got a social circle of friends I hang out with, and we've hung out together since college.  Even though we've somewhat gone our own ways, we still used to always get together a few times a year for parties and holidays.  That stopped when the COVID pandemic began.  A Christmas Party for our group was the first time we've got together since COVID happened.

So, on the 26th, about a dozen of us that have known each other since we were in college (late 90's/early-mid 2000's timeframe) got together at the home of one in our group and had a party.

I went in grown-up underwear.  No padding whatsoever.  I was feeling confident.  I had a few drinks (alcoholic) and was relaxed and happy.  

I'll spare the details, but I found myself having a bona-fide pants wetting accident in front of a group of friends I've known for over 20 years.  I darted for the bathroom when I realized what was happening and that I couldn't stop it, but my pants were completely soaked.

I was absolutely mortified, probably the most embarrassed and humiliated I've ever been in my life.  

I eventually HAD to tell someone, and eventually it got out to the whole group.  

They were very supportive.  I told them that I'd been having bladder problems for a couple of years, since around the time I had COVID.  I passed it off as a "long COVID" symptom and they accepted it, and were sympathetic.  A few even asked/suggested if I wear "protection" in case that happens.  I admitted that I had bought some, but I was embarrassed to wear them around my friends.  They said they didn't care.  

I got a ride back to my house (since I was pretty drunk) to change pants (and put on a pull-up underneath), and get back to the party.  The rest of the night went pretty well.

So, socially my friends think of me as incontinent now and know I wear diapers.  I guess that's one pressure off my mind.  My potty training was nowhere near as good as I thought it was.

I've got serious second thoughts about trying to go to work in grown-up underwear (thinking "what if this happens at work?"), and am seriously thinking of just giving up on potty training altogether and wearing a pullup during the daytime from now on and accepting I have no control over my #1 anymore and never really will.  The thought of wearing grown-up underwear almost makes me panic now, I am just so anxious about it, while being in a pullup feels safe and makes me know that if I have an accident I'm okay. . .so don't worry.

So, I'm back to wearing pullups in the day now (and of course my nighttime diapers), and debating on whether or not to keep up trying to potty train or not.  

[Little Cub Pants]

1 hour ago, DiaperedJoe said:

An update.

I was apparently a little overconfident in how well my re-training was going.  

I had an accident.  In public.

Well, it was at a party with my friends, but that's public enough.

I've got a social circle of friends I hang out with, and we've hung out together since college.  Even though we've somewhat gone our own ways, we still used to always get together a few times a year for parties and holidays.  That stopped when the COVID pandemic began.  A Christmas Party for our group was the first time we've got together since COVID happened.

So, on the 26th, about a dozen of us that have known each other since we were in college (late 90's/early-mid 2000's timeframe) got together at the home of one in our group and had a party.

I went in grown-up underwear.  No padding whatsoever.  I was feeling confident.  I had a few drinks (alcoholic) and was relaxed and happy.  

I'll spare the details, but I found myself having a bona-fide pants wetting accident in front of a group of friends I've known for over 20 years.  I darted for the bathroom when I realized what was happening and that I couldn't stop it, but my pants were completely soaked.

I was absolutely mortified, probably the most embarrassed and humiliated I've ever been in my life.  

I eventually HAD to tell someone, and eventually it got out to the whole group.  

They were very supportive.  I told them that I'd been having bladder problems for a couple of years, since around the time I had COVID.  I passed it off as a "long COVID" symptom and they accepted it, and were sympathetic.  A few even asked/suggested if I wear "protection" in case that happens.  I admitted that I had bought some, but I was embarrassed to wear them around my friends.  They said they didn't care.  

I got a ride back to my house (since I was pretty drunk) to change pants (and put on a pull-up underneath), and get back to the party.  The rest of the night went pretty well.

So, socially my friends think of me as incontinent now and know I wear diapers.  I guess that's one pressure off my mind.  My potty training was nowhere near as good as I thought it was.

I've got serious second thoughts about trying to go to work in grown-up underwear (thinking "what if this happens at work?"), and am seriously thinking of just giving up on potty training altogether and wearing a pullup during the daytime from now on and accepting I have no control over my #1 anymore and never really will.  The thought of wearing grown-up underwear almost makes me panic now, I am just so anxious about it, while being in a pullup feels safe and makes me know that if I have an accident I'm okay. . .so don't worry.

So, I'm back to wearing pullups in the day now (and of course my nighttime diapers), and debating on whether or not to keep up trying to potty train or not.  

I would just wear diapers. To HELL with potty training!?????????‍♂️

[zzyzx]

3 hours ago, DiaperedJoe said:

An update.

I was apparently a little overconfident in how well my re-training was going.  

I had an accident.  In public.

Well, it was at a party with my friends, but that's public enough.

I've got a social circle of friends I hang out with, and we've hung out together since college.  Even though we've somewhat gone our own ways, we still used to always get together a few times a year for parties and holidays.  That stopped when the COVID pandemic began.  A Christmas Party for our group was the first time we've got together since COVID happened.

So, on the 26th, about a dozen of us that have known each other since we were in college (late 90's/early-mid 2000's timeframe) got together at the home of one in our group and had a party.

I went in grown-up underwear.  No padding whatsoever.  I was feeling confident.  I had a few drinks (alcoholic) and was relaxed and happy.  

I'll spare the details, but I found myself having a bona-fide pants wetting accident in front of a group of friends I've known for over 20 years.  I darted for the bathroom when I realized what was happening and that I couldn't stop it, but my pants were completely soaked.

I was absolutely mortified, probably the most embarrassed and humiliated I've ever been in my life.  

I eventually HAD to tell someone, and eventually it got out to the whole group.  

They were very supportive.  I told them that I'd been having bladder problems for a couple of years, since around the time I had COVID.  I passed it off as a "long COVID" symptom and they accepted it, and were sympathetic.  A few even asked/suggested if I wear "protection" in case that happens.  I admitted that I had bought some, but I was embarrassed to wear them around my friends.  They said they didn't care.  

I got a ride back to my house (since I was pretty drunk) to change pants (and put on a pull-up underneath), and get back to the party.  The rest of the night went pretty well.

So, socially my friends think of me as incontinent now and know I wear diapers.  I guess that's one pressure off my mind.  My potty training was nowhere near as good as I thought it was.

I've got serious second thoughts about trying to go to work in grown-up underwear (thinking "what if this happens at work?"), and am seriously thinking of just giving up on potty training altogether and wearing a pullup during the daytime from now on and accepting I have no control over my #1 anymore and never really will.  The thought of wearing grown-up underwear almost makes me panic now, I am just so anxious about it, while being in a pullup feels safe and makes me know that if I have an accident I'm okay. . .so don't worry.

So, I'm back to wearing pullups in the day now (and of course my nighttime diapers), and debating on whether or not to keep up trying to potty train or not.  

@DiaperedJoe

While a piece of me wondered if you would make it, another piece of me says to not  let a failure like this to stop you from trying.  For now, I'd wear some sort of protection that still supports properly getting to the bathroom when you can and covers you if you don't make it....

Best wishes.

[rusty pins]

I say keep trying.  Don't let one accident when you were drinking stop you from retraining.  Not sure how you could do it at work but buy yourself a few pairs of the exact same color and brand of pants and bring a change with you to work just in case.  If you change into the exact same pants, who's going to know you had an accident unless you pee yourself in front of all of them in a meeting.  Hey, we all like to wear diapers but don't let people tell you to stop trying to regain your continence.

[hlcl]

@DiaperedJoe I'm sorry to hear about your accident.  Accidents are part of the learning process. You are not alone. Other guys have accidents.  Your friends sound like  great people because they were so understanding. I'm sure that the alcohol played a role in your accident. Also you were probably busy enjoying yourself and didn't notice your body's signs that you needed to pee. 

 I agree with @rusty pins to not let one accident stop you from retraining. 

@zzyzx has a great idea to wear something that will allow you to use the bathroom and protect you in case you don't make it.  A diaper can be too difficult to remove fast enough when you need to pee.  I would recommend pull ups or training pants. You can add plastic pants for extra protection. 

[DiaperedJoe]

3 hours ago, hlcl said:

@DiaperedJoe I'm sorry to hear about your accident.  Accidents are part of the learning process. You are not alone. Other guys have accidents.  Your friends sound like  great people because they were so understanding. I'm sure that the alcohol played a role in your accident. Also you were probably busy enjoying yourself and didn't notice your body's signs that you needed to pee. 

 I agree with @rusty pins to not let one accident stop you from retraining. 

@zzyzx has a great idea to wear something that will allow you to use the bathroom and protect you in case you don't make it.  A diaper can be too difficult to remove fast enough when you need to pee.  I would recommend pull ups or training pants. You can add plastic pants for extra protection. 

Yeah, I'm sure alcohol made it worse.  

I've decided to not give up on potty training, I'm just recognizing I may be accident prone for quite a while and it may be a long time before I have "normal" adult daytime control again.

However, I'm giving up on adult underwear for now.  I'm wearing pullups full-time now (and regular diapers for my overnight needs).  I'm still trying to make it to the potty on time, but if I have an accident, I'm still in a diaper so there's nothing to be too worried about.

Yeah, my friends are great people.  A pretty understanding, generally great circle of friends.  At least if they notice me wearing diapers, they'll know why, and they all seem to accept that I need them.  That was part of my anxiety about all this, both potty training for work and social needs.

[Kawaharu]

On 12/27/2022 at 5:12 PM, DiaperedJoe said:

An update.

I was apparently a little overconfident in how well my re-training was going.  

I had an accident.  In public.

Well, it was at a party with my friends, but that's public enough.

I've got a social circle of friends I hang out with, and we've hung out together since college.  Even though we've somewhat gone our own ways, we still used to always get together a few times a year for parties and holidays.  That stopped when the COVID pandemic began.  A Christmas Party for our group was the first time we've got together since COVID happened.

So, on the 26th, about a dozen of us that have known each other since we were in college (late 90's/early-mid 2000's timeframe) got together at the home of one in our group and had a party.

I went in grown-up underwear.  No padding whatsoever.  I was feeling confident.  I had a few drinks (alcoholic) and was relaxed and happy.  

I'll spare the details, but I found myself having a bona-fide pants wetting accident in front of a group of friends I've known for over 20 years.  I darted for the bathroom when I realized what was happening and that I couldn't stop it, but my pants were completely soaked.

I was absolutely mortified, probably the most embarrassed and humiliated I've ever been in my life.  

I eventually HAD to tell someone, and eventually it got out to the whole group.  

They were very supportive.  I told them that I'd been having bladder problems for a couple of years, since around the time I had COVID.  I passed it off as a "long COVID" symptom and they accepted it, and were sympathetic.  A few even asked/suggested if I wear "protection" in case that happens.  I admitted that I had bought some, but I was embarrassed to wear them around my friends.  They said they didn't care.  

I got a ride back to my house (since I was pretty drunk) to change pants (and put on a pull-up underneath), and get back to the party.  The rest of the night went pretty well.

So, socially my friends think of me as incontinent now and know I wear diapers.  I guess that's one pressure off my mind.  My potty training was nowhere near as good as I thought it was.

I've got serious second thoughts about trying to go to work in grown-up underwear (thinking "what if this happens at work?"), and am seriously thinking of just giving up on potty training altogether and wearing a pullup during the daytime from now on and accepting I have no control over my #1 anymore and never really will.  The thought of wearing grown-up underwear almost makes me panic now, I am just so anxious about it, while being in a pullup feels safe and makes me know that if I have an accident I'm okay. . .so don't worry.

So, I'm back to wearing pullups in the day now (and of course my nighttime diapers), and debating on whether or not to keep up trying to potty train or not.  

And this is why I am kept in diapers and that's why I am no longer able to be potty trained. It's why once your thrown back into diapers, their is zero chance of ever being potty trained again. It's why being diapered is so much better than wearing pull ups. I don't even have to worry about using the potty or being potty trained ever gain. I just enjoy the diaper life.

[DiaperedJoe]

Well, I have an update, or three.

Three little stories to tell.

First, on New Year's Eve, I decided to call one of my old friends.  She was one of the ones who saw me wet myself at the party earlier and had suggested I should "wear protection".  I told her that I do have "protection", but I was nervous to wear it in public because I was afraid it would show under my pants, so I asked her to come over while I tried on different pants over different things, to see if I needed to be aware of anything.

So, she came over, and I tried on every pair of pants I owned over both my daytime pullups (Northshore GoSupreme's) and my overnight diapers (Abena M4's or MegaMax's).  

Some of the slimmer pants I have were a little noticeable under the thicker diapers, so I should be careful with those, but the pullups were fine under everything, and I have plenty of pants that can hide the thicker diapers.  

Also, she saw I was rather embarrassed about the whole thing (it did take a lot of courage to essentially call up one of my best friends and ask her for help concealing my diapers) and gave what was quite honestly a pretty inspiring speech about diapers.  Trying to remember it, when 

"So you wear diapers, so what?  Do you have any idea how many people out there every day wear diapers?  My mother's been wearing diapers for a decade because of her bladder problems.  I wore them my entire third trimester because it was the only way to not have to camp out by the bathroom when you've got kids playing bongo drum on your bladder.  I've got a nephew who is autistic and didn't get out of diapers until he was 13.  Both of my kids had to wear diapers to bed every night for bedwetting until they were around 10, and I'd rather throw away a wet diaper than wash wet sheets.  You probably deal with people every day who wear diapers.  Don't be ashamed of it.  If I needed them, I'd wear them without a problem."

It made me feel better.  

In the second story, one big reason, besides work, I was hoping to get my potty training back was to be able to hang out with my friends in our occasional social activities once the pandemic was over.  Well, they know I have bladder problems now, since I just wet my pants in front of them a little over a week ago.  However, I still wanted to be as discrete as possible, hence asking one friend for advice and help on concealing them under my clothes.

So, on New Year's Day, my friends (and me) went to the theater.  We saw the new Avatar movie.  I was fully padded, figuring it's nice to not have to get up from the seat to go to the bathroom during a movie, especially with those giant-size theater drinks.  So, with some loose pants on and a Megamax underneath, I enjoyed the movie, and didn't fight it when the urge hit.  It probably wasn't the best for my attempts at re-potty-training, but I really didn't care if I wet myself there.  I soaked my diaper, which of course held without a problem, and enjoyed the movie.

Either nobody could tell, or nobody said anything.  I wouldn't really expect my friends to say anything even if they could tell, to be honest.  In any case, movie theater toilets are for losers, being padded is the ONLY way to enjoy a movie!

Now the third story.  The big one.

My return to work.

On Monday I went back to my office for the first time in almost three years.  I hooked my computer back up at my desk, dusted in the office slightly, threw out a lot of stale or moldy stuff in my office fridge, and basically spent most of the day just getting back into the grind there.

I didn't have any major accidents in my pullup (one reason I go with the big ones from Northshore is they can easily handle a full on flooding accident with really no chance of leakage, and still have some room).  I did have a couple moments where I was just starting to pee and caught myself, so I went to the restroom down the hall and took a seat in a stall.   So far, so good with regards to a return-to-work and my dubious potty training.  Nobody saw anything, nobody said anything.

[rusty pins]

13 hours ago, DiaperedJoe said:

Some of the slimmer pants I have were a little noticeable under the thicker diapers, so I should be careful with those.

I didn't have any major accidents in my pullup (one reason I go with the big ones from Northshore is they can easily handle a full on flooding accident with really no chance of leakage, and still have some room).  I did have a couple moments where I was just starting to pee and caught myself, so I went to the restroom down the hall and took a seat in a stall.   So far, so good with regards to a return-to-work and my dubious potty training.  Nobody saw anything, nobody said anything.

First, I think any pants would be noticeable if worn under your diaper.  You're supposed to wear your pants over your diapers if you don't want the diapers to be noticed!  LOL

Second, sounds like your first day back at work went well and you are on the road to being able to recognize when you have to go to the bathroom and get there with only a little ending up in your pullup.  Fine if friends are aware you wear diapers for bladder issues, but if you want to be discreet at work, sounds like you have reestablished enough control to make it to the restroom without a full flooding in your pants or disposable underwear.  That's great and I hope you keep up with continence retraining!

[Stone]

Hi Joe. I’m sorry to hear about your mishap but glad that the experience has brought you some freedom around your friends. It sounds like you’ve worked out an arrangement that fits your lifestyle and needs. 

Good luck on the New Year and keep us updated!

[DiaperedJoe]

On 1/6/2023 at 3:09 PM, Stone said:

Good luck on the New Year and keep us updated!

Well, here's an update.

I've been back to work for a week and a half now.

The good news is that it looks like nobody can tell I'm diapered at work.  No funny looks, no comments, no chance anyone has seen anything.  The fact my job has me sitting in a desk in my own office for about 90% of the workday helps.

I've been pretty good about making it to the potty on time.  I've been pretty good overall about being able to get to the men's room when I need it.

However, in the last week, I've had two accidents.  Times where if I wasn't padded my pants would be soaked.  It's a humbling reminder that I'm not entirely potty trained, and sometimes I wonder if I'll ever have full control again.

The first was on Monday.  I had a meeting at work.  Fortunately, my job conducts just about all their meetings now by videoconference. . .we sit in our own offices and talk via Zoom.

However, a two hour long meeting ran headlong into "I need to go" and my toddler-like bladder control.  I felt it coming, I felt it building, I felt the urgency as the videoconference went along.  I felt miserable, so I stopped fighting it and just let go and flooded my pullup.  It protected me and my pants stayed dry as I wet myself.  I was really embarrassed, but reminded myself that nobody can see, nobody knows, and that once this meeting is over I can change into a clean diaper.  When the meeting was over I made use of the handicapped stall in the men's room to slip on a new pullup and put my old diaper in a plastic bag and put it in the trash can (I keep changing supplies like that in a briefcase).  Nobody, to the best of my knowledge, saw anything.

The other was this afternoon.  This wasn't at work, this was on the commute home.  There was a wreck on the interstate and a traffic jam.  What is normally a 20 minute drive home became almost an hour.  The urge hit me again in traffic.  I knew I wasn't going anywhere, I knew how this was going to end, so I didn't fight it and I just wet my diaper.  It held up well, and I changed into a clean one when I got home.

Those incidents have convinced me I definitely need to stay padded for the indefinite future.  I may have much of my potty training back. . .but I'm definitely "accident prone" and basically have the level of bladder control of a toddler at this point.

[hlcl]

@DiaperedJoe It sounds like you are doing well with retraining. Accidents are part of the learning process.  As you progress in your retraining the number of accidents will decrease. Accidents can affect your confidence but the more times you make it to the potty your confidence will increase. 

 I would continue to wear pull ups and consider adding plastic pants at certain times like at work for extra protection. 

 You have made a lot of progress in a short period of time.  Keep up the good work. 

[DiaperedJoe]

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Hi there, I've been following your journey and find it very interesting. How has retraining been going? 

Well, here's an update.

I'm pretty used to my current situation, which is wearing a pullup during the day and trying to make it to the toilet to sit and pee when I feel the need.  I've built up some more control and bladder capacity over the last month or so.  

I've only had three accidents in the last month.  When you exclude me being in a situation where I knew I wouldn't be able to keep holding it and just let go and used my pullup, only one true accident.  I got really excited watching the Super Bowl and in my excitement I lost control and found myself wetting myself.  Well, as I tell myself, that's why I wear pullups during the day, because I'm not entirely potty trained.  I figure I have the bladder control of a preschooler at this point: mostly potty trained, some accidents may happen and it's probably best to keep wearing pullups "just in case".

I'm still a bedwetter, but remaining a bedwetter was one of my goals.  I actually had a mostly dry night once, I woke up in the night needing to pee!  That was the first time in over two years that happened.  I chided myself, reminding myself that I'm a bedwetter that wears diapers to bed, and relaxed and peed my diaper as I drifted off to sleep.  That only happened once.  Every other night I've woken up as I should: with a wet diaper, an empty bladder, and a dry bed, having slept quite literally like a baby. 

Seriously bedwetter training is great for being able to get a great night sleep, I've never slept so soundly as when I learned to wet the bed and not be awakened by needing to pee at night.  I guess building my continence back up was getting my body to start to hold it at night too, until I started to reenforce to myself that it's okay to let go and not hold it and not even try if I'm asleep.  For all I know, training myself for bedwetting but daytime bladder control may be slowing  down my potty training.

I've got grownup underwear I can switch to when I get more daytime control, but I'm in no rush to leave my daytime pullups behind.  To be honest, I rather like the convenience of my situation: I'm not so diaper dependent that I need regular changes during the daytime and all the inconvenience that brings, but at the same time I'm always padded and I never have to deal with the discomfort of really needing to potty and just plain not being able to find a toilet or make it to one in time.  Honestly, I'm so comfortable like this I sometimes wonder if I should just give up on further potty training and accept my childlike bladder and weak training, but part of me would like to be able to wear grownup underwear sometimes so I keep training. . .but I'll probably always stay so accustomed to wetting that I'll always just be able to easily relax and let go in a diaper.

[hlcl]

@DiaperedJoe You have made a lot of progress with potty training.  With continued training your capacity and control will increase. 

 Wearing regular underwear is a worthwhile goal.  Keep a picture of underwear you like to look at when you sre feeling discouraged. 

 Accidents during the Super Bowl or other times of high excitement are common.  I would consider having someone who is potty training or newly trained wear a diaper.  If they were hesitant I would explain that accidents are common during times like this and they can wear a pull up after the game.  The diaper takes the pressure off them to stay dry. The diaper allows them to enjoy the game without having to worry about making it to the potty 

[Kawaharu]

17 hours ago, hlcl said:

Accidents during the Super Bowl or other times of high excitement are common.  I would consider having someone who is potty training or newly trained wear a diaper.  If they were hesitant I would explain that accidents are common during times like this and they can wear a pull up after the game.  The diaper takes the pressure off them to stay dry. The diaper allows them to enjoy the game without having to worry about making it to the potty

And that's why I wear diapers because I know I can never make it to the potty and diapers let's me go to the potty anytime I want to. Which is why I know I am never gona be potty trained and I know potty training is next to impossible for me. It's why I am always gona be kept in diapers with no way out.

[IWANTHOTDOGS]

On 2/20/2023 at 12:33 PM, DiaperedJoe said:

Well, here's an update.

I'm pretty used to my current situation, which is wearing a pullup during the day and trying to make it to the toilet to sit and pee when I feel the need.  I've built up some more control and bladder capacity over the last month or so.  

I've only had three accidents in the last month.  When you exclude me being in a situation where I knew I wouldn't be able to keep holding it and just let go and used my pullup, only one true accident.  I got really excited watching the Super Bowl and in my excitement I lost control and found myself wetting myself.  Well, as I tell myself, that's why I wear pullups during the day, because I'm not entirely potty trained.  I figure I have the bladder control of a preschooler at this point: mostly potty trained, some accidents may happen and it's probably best to keep wearing pullups "just in case".

I'm still a bedwetter, but remaining a bedwetter was one of my goals.  I actually had a mostly dry night once, I woke up in the night needing to pee!  That was the first time in over two years that happened.  I chided myself, reminding myself that I'm a bedwetter that wears diapers to bed, and relaxed and peed my diaper as I drifted off to sleep.  That only happened once.  Every other night I've woken up as I should: with a wet diaper, an empty bladder, and a dry bed, having slept quite literally like a baby. 

Seriously bedwetter training is great for being able to get a great night sleep, I've never slept so soundly as when I learned to wet the bed and not be awakened by needing to pee at night.  I guess building my continence back up was getting my body to start to hold it at night too, until I started to reenforce to myself that it's okay to let go and not hold it and not even try if I'm asleep.  For all I know, training myself for bedwetting but daytime bladder control may be slowing  down my potty training.

I've got grownup underwear I can switch to when I get more daytime control, but I'm in no rush to leave my daytime pullups behind.  To be honest, I rather like the convenience of my situation: I'm not so diaper dependent that I need regular changes during the daytime and all the inconvenience that brings, but at the same time I'm always padded and I never have to deal with the discomfort of really needing to potty and just plain not being able to find a toilet or make it to one in time.  Honestly, I'm so comfortable like this I sometimes wonder if I should just give up on further potty training and accept my childlike bladder and weak training, but part of me would like to be able to wear grownup underwear sometimes so I keep training. . .but I'll probably always stay so accustomed to wetting that I'll always just be able to easily relax and let go in a diaper.

This is exactly what I want. Not fully diaper dependent, but the control of a toddler who isn't quite ready for potty training. I want to need to wear "just in case" diapers because my control would be shaky and unpredictable.

[Moochie]

I wet my diapers all the time at work, a professional setting. I am not incontinent so I enjoy the secret warm wetness spreading in my diaper, with the expanding diaper bulge as I wet throughout the day. No one knows, or if people know I am not treated differently. I use several drops of baby powder concentrated scented oil to keep me smelling fresh and pleasant. I don't mess at work, but I mess in the early morning solitude after I get up and before my wife gets up. For me having control over wetting and messing contributes to the naughty pleasure.